Impatience is Killing Me!!!

Getting impatient waiting around on aqua. Lol!!!

How should I proceed?
Lay it all out on the line and just take the initiative and ask him how he feels? Or just keep being patient?
Here are our charts. What do yall think I should do? (Oh, 9 months now).

His:
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Aquarius 19.04 Ascendant Scorpio 18.32
Moon Virgo 26.08 II Sagittarius 18.28
Mercury Aquarius 20.42 III Capricorn 22.24
Venus Capricorn 29.24 R IV Aquarius 27.54
Mars Pisces 7.06 V Aries 0.04
Jupiter Gemini 21.20 R VI Aries 26.40
Saturn Pisces 16.12 VII Taurus 18.32
Uranus Virgo 18.45 R VIII Gemini 18.28
Neptune Scorpio 22.08 IX Cancer 22.24
Pluto Virgo 17.53 R Midheaven Leo 27.54
Lilith Aquarius 24.09 XI Libra 0.04
Asc node Gemini 1.16 XII Libra 26.40

Aspects
Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Conjunction Mercury 1.38 422
Sun Trine Jupiter 2.16 53
Sun Square Neptune 3.04 -41
Sun Square Ascendant 0.32 -64
Sun Opposition Midheaven 8.50 -3
Moon Trine Venus 3.17 94
Moon Square Jupiter 4.48 -20
Moon Conjunction Uranus 7.22 126
Moon Sextile Neptune 3.60 0
Moon Conjunction Pluto 8.14 70
Mercury Trine Jupiter 0.38 84
Mercury Square Neptune 1.26 -76
Mercury Square Ascendant 2.10 -51
Mercury Opposition Midheaven 7.12 -32
Mars Conjunction Saturn 9.06 11
Jupiter Square Saturn 5.08 -9
Jupiter Square Uranus 2.35 -32
Jupiter Square Pluto 3.27 -18
Saturn Opposition Uranus 2.34 -100
Saturn Trine Neptune 5.56 15
Saturn Opposition Pluto 1.41 -81
Saturn Trine Ascendant 2.20 28
Uranus Sextile Neptune 3.23 16
Uranus Conjunction Pluto 0.52 146
Uranus Sextile Ascendant 0.13 57
Neptune Conjunction Ascendant 3.36 51
Neptune Square Midheaven 5.46 -1
Pluto Sextile Ascendant 0.39 17
1190 -528 662

Asteroids & Chiron

Chiron Pisces 19.49
Ceres Aries 8.20
Pallas Pisces 3.33
Juno Pisces 17.29
Vesta Cancer 0.01 R
Fortune Aries 0.00
South node Aries 0.00

I know yall can't really tell me what to do or how it will turn out, just seeking opinions.

Here's mine:

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Capricorn 9.59 Ascendant Scorpio 5.13
Moon Capricorn 25.57 II Sagittarius 4.10
Mercury Capricorn 11.59 III Capricorn 5.43
Venus Scorpio 29.18 IV Aquarius 9.02
Mars Aquarius 23.44 V Pisces 11.34
Jupiter Virgo 5.41 R VI Aries 10.34
Saturn Aries 6.07 VII Taurus 5.13
Uranus Virgo 29.13 VIII Gemini 4.10
Neptune Scorpio 25.40 IX Cancer 5.43
Pluto Virgo 22.52 R Midheaven Leo 9.02
Lilith Taurus 11.15 XI Virgo 11.34
Asc node Aries 24.41 XII Libra 10.34


Aspects
Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Conjunction Mercury 1.60 576
Sun Trine Jupiter 4.19 48
Sun Square Saturn 3.52 -25
Moon Sextile Venus 3.21 25
Moon Trine Uranus 3.16 50
Moon Sextile Neptune 0.17 143
Moon Trine Pluto 3.05 43
Mercury Trine Jupiter 6.18 19
Mercury Square Saturn 5.52 -1
Venus Square Mars 5.35 -6
Venus Trine Saturn 6.49 6
Venus Sextile Uranus 0.05 137
Venus Conjunction Neptune 3.38 160
Mars Square Neptune 1.56 -54
Jupiter Sextile Ascendant 0.28 62
Saturn Opposition Uranus 6.55 -16
Saturn Trine Midheaven 2.55 13
Uranus Sextile Neptune 3.33 11
Uranus Conjunction Pluto 6.21 59
Neptune Sextile Pluto 2.47 18
1370 -102 1268

Asteroids & Chiron
Chiron Pisces 25.17
Ceres Libra 25.04
Pallas Virgo 29.52
Juno Scorpio 5.13
Vesta Aquarius 0.50
Fortune Aries 0.00
South node Aries 0.00

LOL hi ("\(^.^)

Why do you think he is being "aloof"? I mean did anything happen...or you don't know.... has he done this before!? Ehh what do I know I'm really not a very typical Aquarius... at least I don't think so... you would seriously have to never EVER EVER EVER EVER leave me alone and then some... for me to be "aloof". I would think that anyone would start being a little aloof if every waking hour someone was up they bunkyhole.

I mean When I was IN love this once one time... of my life I never was really aloof until she started trying to tell me how to do EVERYTHING and wanting me to like make big decisions about stuff I was unsure of. Sad thing was it was really her I was unsure of.... It was with me and school. To many stresses come from all directions I decided to ignore it for a while like it wasn't happening. Truthfully was kinda immature I dunno how this guy is or why he's doing what he's doing you would have a better Idea I would think ^.

What's the rush?

Seraph is commenting on my other post. lol!

I just want to know how he feels, where he is, what he's thinking about our relationship. So, no rush to move things to a next level. But, if he's not thinking long term, I don't want to waste time either.

I will say, his actions say a lot! I've got some posts on the aqua board if you want to research it.

Posted by seraph
Be aloof.

You're great at that, apparently.










😉

Smart ass!! lol

It's not like I want to lock him down. Or worse yet own him. I just want to know where he's at here. I do understand. I think I post this stuff so people will remind me to go against that instinct. Like an intervention!!

Thank you Aqua86, that is a good perspective. I'm going to sit and ponder on that.

I dont think Cap females are that patient when they like someone, or maybe its Cap females with venus in scorpio?

I think its a nerve wrecking feeling not knowing if someone is on the same page, as Ill assume this is what this post is about. A guy could give the moon and stars(Sadelol) but if he's not verbally expressing that, or you cant tap into his emotions, when you want, its a problem. Cap/venus in scorp want everything. At some point it starts to feel like time is being wasted, or you cant get with his pace. An anxious feeling. Its almost like screw the journey, I want the destination already.

Just my opinion, or take on not being patient.

On the flip side of that, just yesterday morning I was thinking about the potential I have to screw things over being impatient. What made me think about this? My Cap friend. He's pushing me trying to test the strength of our friendship, and in my mind Im thinking *I enjoy you and the way things are, but in two seconds this friendship will be nonexisistent if Im not left alone* Its true, Ill back out of any situation before Im pushed, and its also true that I enjoy my friend when he's not going "there." I mean, I pick up every call he makes. That should say a lot.

Anyway, it made me think about how people probably really enjoy me, or us as Caps or us as people, until we start making things uncomfortable.

I know in a relastionship Id ignore all signals if they are not saying what I want them to, BUT thats because of that desire for someone to be sure about me/us.

Its all tricky.

ohh you have a mars aquarius so it's going to move a bit "faster"?

He's got Mars in Pisces, so he's going to be needed to have some kind of "push" but be "inspirational".
men dont like pushy. they like to be inspired.

Pisces placements need INSPIRATION & imagination for some reason. but his cap venus and moon virgo are a bit slowpokey.
Unless he's got a ton of fire, he's going to move very slow.
My ex Pisces with the Mars in Pisces was very FAST. lol (stellium aries will do that trick)

had to go look for this special vid:

(lol do not take it literally because imagination and inspiration goes BEYOND the boundaries....and it is about the message not the literal message)

Its the venus in scorp, truecap that needs constant reassurance. Im sure even if he were to tell u right now how gorgeous, a love of his life etc, the venus in scorp would be ok...FOR NOW and start up again later looking for more of the same. Scorp energy is very insecure in love, i have 4 scorp planets so i know. It is not about what the other person says or does, but YOU and your constant need for some kinda emotional display = scorpio energy. If u want happiness in you heart affairs, when insecurities arize dont point fingers, fix the cause on your own or at least recognize it as your own problem instead of shoving it on somebody else. He is not slow, you are fast, but "why"...that should be the question u ask yourself. Where are u off to so fast, truecap?

I have scorp energy, but i cant stand people with out of control scorp energy...its super duper annoying and off putting. The "do you love me, do you love me" makes me hate them. If an aqua is there with u then its a done deal, no need to act like a retarded Romeo..you should GET IT, its that simple. Control your venus and you'll see his "slowness" in a new light. Btw i just broke up recently with a scorp venus, the amount of attention he needed was nauseating "im here so what more do u want, a permanent residency in your arse? Please!". Have you noticed the amount of unhappiness in relationships scorp venus people have? Its THEM who are the cause of their own misery, their "waah-waah-waah" is irritating.

LoL@Watercup.

Both my friend and I have venus in scorpio.

When it comes to relationships though people want what they want and need what they need. Its nothing to chalk it up as simply not being compatible, which is okay.

Im a firm believer in finding the perfect most comfortable fit. Its nothing to have chemistry with someone. I personally have chemistry with most guys. I see potential in everyone. Its everything to find someone you feel is fit for you imho.

I believe in being aware of some things. I dont necessarily believe in changing.

lots of people with scorpio venus have wonderful relationships with people. It's really who you are as a person.
Famous celebs that have great romantic relationships: Steven Spielberg, Bill Gates, Matt Damon.
For example, I read somewhere that Katie Holme's Leo moon was in a constellation that was called the "demon constellation" while Tom Cruise's Leo moon is in an "angel" constellation. I thought that was interesting, and goes beyond degrees and placements.

Lisa, u dont know them personally, just what u red. Tom's ex wives accused him of being unbearably insecure and controlling..especially his aqua ex. Maybe those celebs have "wonderful" relationships bcause they learned how to control pluto insecurities or they are with people who are like indian actors...break into song and dance (of devoted love) every few minutes for their lovers. I have scorp as i mentioned so i know how it is, a part of me wants a guy who will shout at the rooftops his love for me or break down a door to claim me etc, but im aware enough to know thats not gonna happen bcause it is MY FANTASY/MY WISH and nobody needs to make it come true. I still continue to wish and feel that way regardless, but i no longer think a guy who doesnt do that is not really into me. I have taken control of wanting to see that in reality

And look all over the internet, people with scorp venus hate it as much as those who dare to date them...that venus at its worst is VERY unlikeable. Its horrible!

^^ uh his aqua ex wife wanted more "sex" lol
she was highly sexual. and he wanted to become a "monk"

guess he didnt want to have sex with her as much 😛 Lost the desire to be with her. that's all.
lost the "touch"
besides in Saturn in Scorpio,
people cannot "control" who they want to love.

And he loved Katie, but Katie wanted to just be more of a "celebrity" and less of a homebody.
Cancer men need security and love even if they are famous. If she can't deal with that, she can't deal. Some people just cannot deal with certain people. Like you cannot deal with scorpio venus. That's fine. No problemo.

katie holmes has venus in scorpio but her moon is in leo, Moon Square Venus.

Posted by lnana04
I dont think Cap females are that patient when they like someone, or maybe its Cap females with venus in scorpio?

I think its a nerve wrecking feeling not knowing if someone is on the same page, as Ill assume this is what this post is about. A guy could give the moon and stars(Sadelol) but if he's not verbally expressing that, or you cant tap into his emotions, when you want, its a problem. Cap/venus in scorp want everything. At some point it starts to feel like time is being wasted, or you cant get with his pace. An anxious feeling. Its almost like screw the journey, I want the destination already.

Just my opinion, or take on not being patient.

Exactly!! I couldn't put it in the right words. Thanks Inana

Did he lose the touch with nicole and katie too? Dont think so! Nicole mentioned how jealous he was of everything and everyone including her height! Who gets jealous of somebody's height? Did he think his short stature was contagious or something? And Katie, he wanted her to pop up more kids...form of control or a trap, AGAIN..insecurity screams here. Why didnt he become a monk then? I know the answer, she was highly sexed so instead of saying "i cant keep it up or cant satisfy u" he made up some bogus monk story to hide his inserurities about his lame sexual performance with her. I have zero problems with certain scorp placements, what i hate is a blame shifting found in the venus and the lack of emotional control in some individuals with that venus. Its YOUR emotions, deal with them, dont blame others for not returning love how you want or make a clone of your emotional self and date it instead!

Posted by aqua86
truecap, how long have you been dating aqua again?

9 months.

Whats this about saturn in scorp, again? I have that placement and i have vice-grip tight control about who i love. I may feel the love feeling but doesnt mean im gonna loooove you just because i feel love...u need to earn the love or i'll love you from a faraway planet...a wide distance away.

Katie is the one with VinS, not Tom I dont think.

Again, there is somebody for everybody. It might be craziness, possessiveness, insecurity to you, but normal to the next person.

Your welcome Truecap! Hope things get better.

Thanks for everyone for their comments. I'll get that venus under control! lol!

I need to realize his actions tell me what I want to know. But, then again, it's nice to hear something verbal as reassurance. I need to know if we're on the same page. He spends time with me, goes places with me, went to my family reunion, invited my for Thanksgiving with his family (but he was called into work), contacts me every day, no disappearing acts, talks about future plans such as going here and there, etc. We also have teenage boys who need to be conidered, too and their welfare and frame of mind are of importance. They need our undivided attention, too. We're both divorced, so the guys need to feel important and loved. Then his job - works two weeks away, two weeks home - is tough (sort of a half time ldr).

I felt a little silly for posting, but I was feeling some fustration and impatience. After reading what yall have to say, I am understanding that, reassured its okay to feel the way I feel, but I need to just chill out and appreciate him for who he is and what we have.

I will say that studying astrology is a big help in that you can think "oh my venus is acting up" and realize that and understand whats going on with you and why you're feeling the way you feel. Then its easier to get a handle on it. Honestly, I hate it. Venus is scorp is very passionate, but wants to be all consuming.

Once caps decide to love someone, it's all in! Then venus scorp wants an all consuming relationship that needs to be kept in check. The cap moon wants to control things and gets impatient. Oh, my! I'm a mess.

Thanks again. I really do appreciate the comments.

Posted by lisabethur8
ohh you have a mars aquarius so it's going to move a bit "faster"?

He's got Mars in Pisces, so he's going to be needed to have some kind of "push" but be "inspirational".
men dont like pushy. they like to be inspired.

Pisces placements need INSPIRATION & imagination for some reason. but his cap venus and moon virgo are a bit slowpokey.
Unless he's got a ton of fire, he's going to move very slow.
My ex Pisces with the Mars in Pisces was very FAST. lol (stellium aries will do that trick)

So how do you do an inspirational push?

I read the pisces mars just sits back and lets things fall into their laps. That is not an action oriented placement unless they go into rescue mode.

Couldnt watch the video. Said "blocked in my country".

Truecap, we sound a lot alike. Reading what you posted, to me, its clear that hes pretty serious about you. I still understand that all consuming part though and still wanting a little more *sigh.* Ill agree with keeping the venus in check for now. I guess it all boils down to wanting everything our way.

I asked him one time if he needed more space because the last thing I wanted to do was smother him. He said "i'm breathing aren't I?" Such an aqua thing to say! lol!

Inana - I think the cap moon wants everything my way! lol!

Inana, look i have the scorp craziness too, i get it..i really want a guy like Romeo, but at the same time the thought repulses me...sun square moon, lol..i hate what i love and love what i hate. Throu it all i still wont growl at a person for not having the split personality that i seek to balance myself out. Nope

Truecap, please dont think im attacking you, lol...just your venus at its crazy worst. The man with that venus almost drove me to see a speech therapist, i thought i have developed a stutter due to all the repetitions i did while with him. I got tired of listening to myself say "for the upteenth time, yes i like u VERY much". Yeesh! I still love you, truecap

Aww Truecap, thats what I love about some Caps. Being self aware of certain tendancies and considerate enough to let the person know that its okay for them to let you know if its too much for them. Love that. Loved his response too.

Watercup, no offense taken. Lesson learned! Love you too!

I am having fun reading these post from Iana, TruCap and Watercup!!

But honestly, I have to agree with Trucap. For one I am a Cap and I do want that reassurance as well.
I am not saying that he HAVE to tell me every time we talk that he likes me. But it is good to hear something like that every two weeks at least.
And I am saying this because, we don't live together, we r in separate cities, and he is busy ( owns a business in business management).

When I saw him, he always compliments like he will come out. And say I'm sexy, he really likes me, etc. etc.

He says it on the phone but it is always a WITTY way of saying he likes me. For example, I told him one day out of his busy day to pencil me in so we can talk later.
He says, Well I will pen you in".

It was cute! I got it and that was that. This little phrases get me through to the next time I talk to him!

It's about patience, yes, and UNDERSTANDING him and how HIS creative, unique mind operate. But as a CAPRICORN, I like to just KNOW where I'm headed.

HoneyJ and Truecap since you guys are with my aqua brothers i'll do the honours on their behalf..Ladies, you are both beautiful souls from one of the most sane signs of the zodiac and im sure they love you for your sanity too, so dont start going insane now, lol. The calls you get from them = love, even if they are not about love itself. Aquas hate calling people (im sure other aquas will agree on this), calls are made to ONLY V.I.Ps...you are very important if you do get that call. Just enjoy and go with the flow, Uranus is full of surprizes and every aqua is born carrying a bag full of "yippies"...just be patient. Whats more enjoyable, an exciting unpredictable lover or the boring one who says the same old thing over and over again (the same way too)? Bleh @ #2! Theres more to come if you just wait. And truecap, that venus of yours is never satisfied and i think what it needs is a surprize or two to shut its mouth up and who gives those better than an aqua? Quoting Keith Sweat "NOBODY, BABY!"

WaterCup,
Seriously?? Aquas hate calling? Lololol! Ohhhhh boy you learn something new everyday.

Do they get offended if we don't call them for a day?

He will call once a day. Usually in b/w meetinfs or when he's finished for the day. And I never knowwhat time he will call.
So a while ago, he will tell me to call him more often during the day. I guess I could probable catch him but I don't do it because I know he's busy and is not going to answer. I do try to call him once a day though as well. I mean, I am a busy person too.

I remember when he would call me at least twice s day. And for one of his Calls i would not answer due to me being busy. Or did not get to my phone in time.
So he would make comments about why I should always answer the phone when he calls. But I think he was being funny.

Now I only get one call a day from him. We will talk twice a day if I call him. Every now and then he will call me all day. I guess when his schedule has been freed up.
But I mean I am happy he does that!

Posted by truecap

Posted by lisabethur8
ohh you have a mars aquarius so it's going to move a bit "faster"?

He's got Mars in Pisces, so he's going to be needed to have some kind of "push" but be "inspirational".
men dont like pushy. they like to be inspired.
Pisces placements need INSPIRATION & imagination for some reason. but his cap venus and moon virgo are a bit slowpokey.
Unless he's got a ton of fire, he's going to move very slow.
My ex Pisces with the Mars in Pisces was very FAST. lol (stellium aries will do that trick)

So how do you do an inspirational push?
I read the pisces mars just sits back and lets things fall into their laps. That is not an action oriented placement unless they go into rescue mode.
Couldnt watch the video. Said "blocked in my country".

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My ex had an Aries Venus. So, the Mars in Pisces kind of offset that. And his Leo moon. So you can imagine.
I dont know about the "rescue" mode. I guess when their "venus" kicks in, they just want to "rescue.


Watercup, it's allright. 🙂

Don't worry about Tom's ex's. They're all happy now. Gemini Nicole is happily cozying up with Scorpio Keith Urban and not to worry, he has a Virgo Venus. 😛
And Aqua Mimi Rogers is married to a Pisces man. They are all cozily happy so no worries.

Well, he's coming over today. I may approach the subject carefully, feel it out. If the timing is right, I may just ask him where he's at. Timing is everything. Of course, I'm likely to chicken out too.

I really, really appreciate the comments and help!! You guys have made me feel better.

Posted by truecap
Well, he's coming over today. I may approach the subject carefully, feel it out. If the timing is right, I may just ask him where he's at. Timing is everything. Of course, I'm likely to chicken out too.

I really, really appreciate the comments and help!! You guys have made me feel better.

good luck, truecap.

Well, I didn't come right out and ask him about it. Timing was not there because I said something unplanned. He apologized for something minor, I won't get into, but I said, "that's okay, baby, I love ya anyway". Soooo, it's out there in a light hearted, no pressure way. We'll see what happens next. I don't think it quite dawned on him the meaning of it, but I'll let him process it on his own.

I think I'm okay with him not saying it. I see the actions and those speak loudly and clearly. Would rather have that than empty words. I think I was just wanting to say how I felt and get that out there. Whatever he decides to do with it is okay. If he runs, then we're not on the same page. If he stays, then its all good.

(I can't believe I'm putting all this out there, but it's nice to get it off my chest!).

My friends tell me to do and say things that are against my nature. I can't be as emotional as the Cancer and I can't be as forward as the Sag, or as open as the Libra. Thanks again for all the input.