Incapable of loving after death of father ... ?

Hello! I am a typical pisces. Total romantic and passionate dreamer.

There is this guy (a capricorn/sagittarius cusp who strongly displays capricorn characteristics) I started liking talking to 4 months ago. We live in different states and didn't get to physically be together for the first two months (although we have mutual friends and had been around one another before). The first time we locked eyes it was total magic for me. He just melted my heart. We have a connection that brings out our real selves and I understand him incredibly well. Honestly, it is a mystery to me how I "get him" as well as I do, haha. It sounds silly but I feel signs everywhere that I am suppose to be in his life and that he "needs" me.

I visited him for a week; it went well and we became exclusive. After a month we decided to add an official label to it. He seemed excited saying things like "gaah! this is perfect." Which as a cappy it was really big for him say that. Four days later he randomly called me saying that he was too scared of things not working and didn't want to ruin our friendship by letting things get rough - so we cut it off. Typical cappy.

I believe his uncomfortableness stems partially from emotional detachment issues since his father died (which as a cappy he has totally repressed his grieving and struggles to understand his emotions regarding it even 5 years later). He likes me and thinks we'd be good together, but it is just too hard for him to build a deep emotionally connection. I've been super respectful of this given him alot of space. He made a big deal out of still wanting to be friends and we have been. We still text, talk on the phone, and skype regularly (less regularly though as he needs space). He opened up to me about his father and said that I was the only person he had ever been able to talk about his father's death with and he will "always cherish that in our friendship." I've continued to stick by his side and let him know that I'll always be around for support when he needs me.

The connection we have seems amazing. Right now he is just focusing on his own life, but I hope that he will figure out his incomplete mourning issues and eventually be more emotionally available. It's been a month since our "break up" and I'm going to stay with him for the first time since in another month. Starting this fall we will begin seeing each other more frequently.

I realize part of the issue is the distance, but I feel like that's somet

If he's this torn up about his father's death, he's certainly not incapable of loving. I get the impression that you're not really up to being patient with someone dealing with delayed grief unless it's over soon, but correct me if I'm wrong. A few months is nothing, to be honest, and if you don't think you can handle this side of him for much longer, you should probably end it. Don't stick around and try to "save" him if you're not fully committed. You'll just end up doing more damage in the long run.

I'll definitely always be there to support him and he knows that. We both see alot of value in our relationship even if just as friends. He's even said that he'll never throw away our friendship.

I just don't know if this is typical capricorn actions and I should continue to help him and build our friendship with hopeful romantic intentions in the future.