keeping the peace with a cap man

long story short, 2.5yrs together, broke up... led me on for about 3 months after the break up.. busted him talking to another girl.. i was hoping to speak to him again but i re-read all the messages between him and the other girl so im raging. I have his stuff here and i want it gone....his mother knows what has happened but has not said a word to him as he speaks and treats his mother like utter rubbish....she offered to come to my place to pick up his things and for us to talk as she loves me and my children. Even though he has blocked me from everything because i busted him, I really want to keep the peace as his temper and anger is quite scary... as a cap would he completely lose it if i gave his stuff to his mother?.... i have tried to get rid of his stuff in the last 3 months when he would get angry if i asked where i stood with him but he would always say, leave my stuff there, dont throw it out...which is stupid as he has quite abit of money and his stuff is mostly socks undies and pyjama shirts. Most guys would say "do whatever u want chuck them out" etc. maybe its hurt kicking in full throttle but i kind of want a watch back that i gave him as a present when he was playing around. Cost me a fortune! gave him that watch as a "Heyy i love you and here is something to show you that i appreciate you" Argh im so angry and feel like a fool! im so humiliated! I need his stuff gone, i would throw it in the bin but i know he will think 'yeah typical standard rage behaviour" returning his stuff in a plastic bag would be the more mature thing and its something he knows i wouldnt do.

Gah!!! i hate him!

put his stuff in a box, put it by the road and tell him to come get it. you want to stay connected to him and so forth so you can cause drama and hurt him. this is not about stuff. he did not value you enough to not talk to other women. as i stated, leave his stuff in a box on the road and be done with it, why give someone so much energy who cares nothing for you.

end it now and keep it moving.

The watch was his, a gift. He gets to keep it.

Either give the stuff to his mom or put it by the curb and tell him to come get it. I wouldn't care if he got angry or not.

Or drop the stuff off on his front porch when he's not home

Yep!! Done!! thanks!!! im such a broken record with all this, cant talk to anyone about this as i have to give the impression that All is good and im ok. im Just imploding at the moment! Right at this very moment, i would love to spit on him! nasty but true! thanks again!

I'd let him keep the watch as a token of what he'll never have again. It's a gift, let him keep it amd take the high road.

Drop his stuff off at a relative or his place, shows you're not waiting around for him. You're taking matters into your own hands.

Posted by Greentea
I'd let him keep the watch as a token of what he'll never have again. It's a gift, let him keep it amd take the high road.

Drop his stuff off at a relative or his place, shows you're not waiting around for him. You're taking matters into your own hands.

yes you are right....the old me would take a bat to his wrist but i like the thought of "hey whats the time? oh its cema o'clock!" ha.

hes lucky you don't burn his stuff. he should be thankful

Posted by KittenLaRouge
hes lucky you don't burn his stuff. he should be thankful

My words....

I don't see why burning his shit isn't an option... Hahaha
But seriously, truecap is right- box that crap up and dump it, why negotiate/talk with his mother or anyone else for that matter. Leave it at a charity drop off bin, text him your stuff is at corner of such and such street you want it go get it.

wagtail, id probably enjoy the burning then go for his beloved car!!! but yeh his temper is scary!! typical cap and his croatian! bad mix!...and he has my housekey! dont want to cause a war, he messaged my children today and they are not even his kids!! "i miss you both lots" blah blahh! ah well my rage will fade i hope :/

Yeah, you gave him the watch so its his. I think that's really silly to go and try to take what's given to a person back. Should he collect his money that he paid for the bills back?

There's never a guarantee in a relationship of it working out. YOu just take a chance. Give his stuff to his mother and leave it be imo.

If it is just clothing. I would torch it or donate it to a thrift store or a homeless bum.

Posted by cema
wagtail, id probably enjoy the burning then go for his beloved car!!! but yeh his temper is scary!! typical cap and his croatian! bad mix!...and he has my housekey! dont want to cause a war, he messaged my children today and they are not even his kids!! "i miss you both lots" blah blahh! ah well my rage will fade i hope :/

Change the locks.

Torching his stuff is tacky and unwarranted regardless of what he's done. It shows a huge lack of class.