LDR with Capricorn

Thank you @busyeye88. I have only been in one relationship that lasted 27 years. I am in my late 40"s and he Is in his early 40's. I am very cautious and will keep you all posted on our meet up.

He's shown you through his actions that he's a loyal person that cares. He has made the effort to keep up the relationship - meeting, calling, video, etc. So in a LDR that's been going on for years, yes it's understandable that if it doesn't/can't develop to live closer or together then the people need to step back for self-preservation. Another person would have called it quits after such time, but yet he didn't ... So he is continously proving himself.

-----------------> "Everyone I know think he is just a guy who keeps women friends until he is tired of them. He plays games and drops one knowing he has another one waiting in the wings. "

This is just bullshit. No man in their right mind would keep up a relationship, friends or love, whatever with a man long distance just to play mind games .... If he wanted someone for sex or to play games with, he could find someone closer with less effort. And especially Capricorn don't play games. He's serious minded with you. And his actions have proven that. Just ride it out ... see what happens. If you two are enjoying each other's company ... why not just enjoy it! If it's true love, it'll happen no distance or not. And if it's just friendship, things seem to be fine from what you wrote.

Well said @Cappedoff! I'm currently in a long-distance relationship with a Pisces guy. My friends have also said I needed to find a guy locally to date, but I don't want to.

Thank you @Cappedoff. I realize I have to ignore my friends and let things play out.

As a capricorn, I don't see the feasibility of a long distance relationship. I personally wouldn't take them seriously until I actually knew the person. Plus, we'd have to have either a history or a plan to move closer for me to take it seriously.

What worries me is that there is a possiblity that each of you have built up a "fantasy" of each other in your heads. I mean, you can know someone long distance, but you can't see them in action, don't know their annoying habits, don't have real live nuances to read, can't see their character traits in real time. So, you know each other, but you really don't "know" each other.

All that said, I think you should meet him and find out if you have chemistry when you're together. See how it goes and take it from there. I think you've built a real friendship, just don't get caught up in a fantasy. Hope this all makes sense.

Update: This weekend I spent time with my family and it seems that my Capricorn called me, but I didn't answer my phone. My phone was turned off because I decided not to answer phone calls while visiting with my family and grown kids.

This morning I did not receive a response from him to our normal Good Morning text before work. Around 9am, he text me saying he wasn't feeling good over the weekend and he called, but I didn't call him back. Today he is at work, but still not feeling well. He felt I was busy with something else. Then he stopped responding to my response texts.

This is the first time he acted like this. I always given him his space and I needed mine. I texted him twice this morning explaining , but no response.

It's funny, On Friday, we were talking about when we meet. I said I hope he is happy with me when we meet. He said, Are You For Real?.You are Beautiful. He said any man would love to have you. Told him thanks.

Then I said he is so handsome and I am very nervous. He said "you do remember I'm shorter than you". I told him OH Yes, I remember. He asked if that's a problem. Told him why? I knew his height since we first started talking.

I'm 5'10" and he is 5'9". REALLLLLY? Why is this an issue all of a sudden?

Honesty, this is ridiculous and and I have no patience for this childish behavior. We are about to meet in person finally and I'm confused by his behavior. I do not intend on contacting him again until he gets himself together.

Why is he acting like this? He has always been busy and I (A Cancer) never acted weird, needed or clingy. He had his space. We even agreed on a set time to call, text and video chat. Sometimes we were spontaneous and surprised each other.

His behavior seem childish. Isn't it? Is he more nervous than me?

@truecap, I do agree regarding the fantasy issue. Because I was married for 27 years, I am not seeing anything that Is not there. Honestly, I controlled the friendship since the beginning. I run a business and so does he. He knew how busy I was and so was he. I take things very slow and don't like to be pressured. He respected that and that is how our friendship started.

You are correct. We don't know our habits (annoying or not). I wanted to meet him to see he is real. Video chat is great, but it's not real thing.

Now I'm not feeling good about his recent behavior and maybe he feelings have become stronger than mine. Is this a bad omen?

@Caplove. You have me thinking. I never thought he would be nervous. He acts like nothing bothers him. So calm, cool and collect all the time. It's been this way since 2012. So now he is about to meet me, he shows stress. OMG. LOL.

He has been my rock at times when I'm stressed. I am finally seeing an opening in his armor. I will give him his space as usual. He knows how much I care for him. The ball is in his court now.

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Update: This weekend I spent time with my family and it seems that my Capricorn called me, but I didn't answer my phone. My phone was turned off because I decided not to answer phone calls while visiting with my family and grown kids.

This morning I did not receive a response from him to our normal Good Morning text before work. Around 9am, he text me saying he wasn't feeling good over the weekend and he called, but I didn't call him back. Today he is at work, but still not feeling well. He felt I was busy with something else. Then he stopped responding to my response texts.

This is the first time he acted like this. I always given him his space and I needed mine. I texted him twice this morning explaining , but no response.

It's funny, On Friday, we were talking about when we meet. I said I hope he is happy with me when we meet. He said, Are You For Real?.You are Beautiful. He said any man would love to have you. Told him thanks.

Then I said he is so handsome and I am very nervous. He said "you do remember I'm shorter than you". I told him OH Yes, I remember. He asked if that's a problem. Told him why? I knew his height since we first started talking.

I'm 5'10" and he is 5'9". REALLLLLY? Why is this an issue all of a sudden?

Honesty, this is ridiculous and and I have no patience for this childish behavior. We are about to meet in person finally and I'm confused by his behavior. I do not intend on contacting him again until he gets himself together.

Why is he acting like this? He has always been busy and I (A Cancer) never acted weird, needed or clingy. He had his space. We even agreed on a set time to call, text and video chat. Sometimes we were spontaneous and surprised each other.

His behavior seem childish. Isn't it? Is he more nervous than me?

What exactly is childish about his behaviour? Firstly, men can be very sensitive about height and secondly, maybe he was indeed ill. You can't just assume that he wasn't, imo. Or he's nervous/is probably nervous. I think you are overreacting as to his behaviour. Just meet the guy and see how it feels - I'm sure it will go splendidly. 🙂

@HappyCapper. I appreciate your Insight.
I don't think him being ill is ridiculous. He is VERY important to me. I am very concerned about him and texted him letting him know and called him also. He did not respond to my texts or answered my calls.

What I thought was ridiculous is that he seem to be doing a tit for tat because I didn't answer his call. The height thing isn't a problem for me and I told him so. I am surprised by his reaction though.

I may have overreacted to what happened, but I'm not angry. This relationship has gone from friendship to more. My comfort zone is no more. He is displaying emotions he
never showed before.

This is a big deal. I've taken vacation time and so has he. So we are both serious about meeting. He arrives on Wednesday.

He texted me earlier and said he is sorry for breaking our promise (Don't stop contact without thinking of how the other feels). He asked me to call him when I'm free.

Thank you to everyone who responded to my question. I'm learning about a Capricorn man. Men in general can be complicated. ....was married to a Scorpio who loved emotional blackmail. I am calm again and look forward to meeting him.

I'm sure you don't have a problem with his height, but as I said, it's a sensitive topic for many men and he may care and/or think that you care but is just trying to be nice.

I never thought you would think his being ill is ridiculous - absolutely not. It just seemed to me that you thought that it was a game on his part(which at least I strongly disapprove of). He may have been hurt and wanted unconsiously to punish you a litte, but you don't know that and in either case, it's all passed, and I think you can be sure he's nervous.

This is so exciting! I hope you have a great time! Best of luck! 🙂

Deep down, caps can be insecure. I agree with caplove that he's probably nervous and worried that you'll be disappointed in him. It's natural.