Money Hungry Women

Can any female cappys honestly admit when they were younger, perhaps early to mid 20s, were you, or did you feel money hungry?

Was money your one all be all?

My reason for asking is because my cap partner and I have had argument before concerning money. She is 23 yrs old (will be 24 in Jan), doesn't work. Hasn't had a job in the 2 years we've been together (quit just before we met) and since we've been together hasn't worked and hasn't bothered to look for work and has repeatedly admitted to me she "doesn't want to work" because she "cant be bothered". Now I am doing well at work, have always been independent and financially stable (moved out when I was 19) and I've done pretty well for myself. I've not forced her to get a job but now i've been nagging her about it because I am sick of financially supporting US and EVERYTHING we do/use and the household.

So point to this thread is that I find her money hungry to an extent. She just got herself on a government benefit for unemployed people 'looking for work'. She gets $ 550 fortnightly from them. She usually has people to pay back once she gets paid so ends up with no money because she spends her money on stupid things and then has to borrow from people to have money to go out with (no sense of priority). Anyway, despite the fact that I have been supporting her financially for the past 2 years (since we met and got together basically) she always finds something that I owe her money from even from the past despite the fact that I support her financially she STILL tries to get money off me one way or another.

Whenever she has been paid and spent money on us like taking us to a nice dinner for example, she'll realise she spent more than she expected and has literally cried about having no money left. She clings onto money and it seems like thats all she is interested in.

She has and tries to get money off her parents and her grandmother anyway possible but yet wont get a job. How does that work? This morning I was leaving for work and she currently owes me $ 370 and she said she was going to take out of that money $ 50 I owe her from a stupid bet we made about a friend's car 1 year ago. Her reason was that she has been waiting on this money this whole time and I wont pay up so she'll just deduct it off what she owes me. I told her no, I need the money exactly how she borrowed it and i'll pay her her stupid $ 50 when I can and she started going off, throwing things around in the room, acting lik

like a crazy person and said that if she couldn't deduct the $ 50 out of the money she owes me then she wasn't going to pay me back until I gave her the $ 50 one way or another. Note that she got paid from her government benefit today and once she pays everyone she owes money to, she'll be left with $ 100 for the next fortnight.

Are you cappy women THAT interested in money? Specially in your younger years? She is definitely not mature. Mentally she is extremely immature. Has no hope/goals/ambition for the future or for anything.

Note that I earn alright money. ENough to support us and live "well".

She has admitted to me also in the past that she got 'too comfortable' with me and didn't bother to look for a job because she knew I would support us both.

I get immature, lazy, manipulative....not necessarily money hungry. If she was money hungry she'd never be broke.

Why have you been dealing with this for so long?

Dude lol
That is just wow... I hope she's fucking HAWT cause she sounds like she would bore people to tears if they talked to her.

Posted by LovesickCancer
The only cap friend I had was a golddigger like a real one, so this is funny to me.

hmmm....was she a good golddigger?

Situations like this, I look at it as that person "getting over." You have to have money to have a golddigger.

Posted by LovesickCancer

Posted by lnana04

Posted by LovesickCancer
The only cap friend I had was a golddigger like a real one, so this is funny to me.

hmmm....was she a good golddigger?

Situations like this, I look at it as that person "getting over." You have to have money to have a golddigger.

Her boyfriends a billionaire and she's fallen for him and she has clothes and jewellery and a car but he wouldn't put the car in her name, so I guess she's not that good. Plus he has plenty of girls that she always gets upset over but she kinda knew the situation. She basically says she wouldn't go out with someone who didn't have heaps of money, ex boyfriends been American football
player, gym owner, and soccer manager, even though a normal working person with like ??30k year job would take better care of her financially.

I think if you're contributing to the pot if only a little, goes a long way because you can't help it if your partner makes significally more than you.

$ 500 a fortnight is more than enough to live on, especially if you live in your means.

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See, ive said before that dating a billionaire is the only way id be a golddigger. Shes not doing too bad lol.

do you know his sign?

Does she have a drug addiction?

Never dated a guy with money, can't say 😛

When I was young I fantasized that I would end up with a man with money but only know it after I fell in love and married him... so much for fantasies!

Id say yes to the drug addiction. I guess I am an addict as well. We both smoke weed everyday and I have been smoking since I was 19 (when I moved out). Thing is I pay for the weed since she never has money. When she DOES get paid, she always as well wants to go halves on things. Im like wtf. Or theres been heaps of times like I said she's spent her money on US and then has a cry about not having money left and I am like 'babe, I never throw money in your face. I never cry about how broke i am thanks to US I never whinge about it'. Which is true. I've never thrown it in her face that I've been broke thanks to having spent it on US yet she does.

But in difference to her and our weed addiction, I still get up every single morning and make it to work, work my bum off to make money to support us so that we can live well and be able to enjoy things in life and do the things/activities we want to do etc but I get no support from her what so ever. She is a pretty girl. When we met she was amazingly hot and had an amazing body/figure. Ofcourse two years of being together (we're both bi as well) we've both put on a little weight and dont have the bodies we used to have when we met!

Me being with her isnt because of looks. Its because of how I love her and care about her. When I met her she had nothing and was going no where. Was partying Monday to Monday and had an alcohol addiction. She would get her friends to shout her nights out or would scab money off her grandmother or parents. I got her out of all that sh*t and partying and made her open her eyes and realise that there is more to life than being wasted all day everyday. Everyone (her friends and family) have thanked me for turning her into a person you can have a bloody conversation with because when we met, she was drunk or stonned ALL THE TIME. You couldnt hold a conversation for her but I fell for her. Stupid venus and cancer in mars and stupid libra moon!!!!!!!

Exactly what I tell her. You dont have money, you want to have money, GET A JOB. Her excuse ontop of everything else is that she has a fear of rejection and would feel like a failure and unworthy if she didnt get the job so she'd rather not try.

Who the hell says that? I get you cappys FEAR rejection like a mo'fker BUT aren't you all supposed to be ambitious and hard workers. What happened here?

Her other excuse is that she doesnt have 'the gift of the gab' and can't talk to people. I say to her there are people who cant even speak english and have jobs, how the hell would they not employ her. She isnt dumb either. She is a very smart girl and it kills me that she doesnt put her brain to good use.

Is there a house in the natal chart that defines work ethic and money gain?

She is:

Sun - Cap
Moon - Aries
Merc - Cap
Venus - Aqua
Mars - Sag

Her addiction has caused her to lose sight. Some people who are addicts can still manage and be productive, while others cannot. Unfortunately, she is in a clouded state of mind and due to you enabling her (because you both participate in smoking) is only going to continue to make it worse.

Her attitude about money and working is deeper than you think. I'd say not support her, so she can wake up to reality...this life style can only last for so long.

Been there, done that.

Good luck

I told her to move out two weeks ago because we needed the space and because I thought without me being around and her living at home, it would push her to better herself, her life and get a job.

Did she do that? No.

This morning i've broken up with her. She lied to me yesterday about going to a job interview. First she said yesterday she had an interview with the government benefit place, then she said last night she lied and it wasnt actually an interview with them, she actually had gone for a job interview. She made up the name and the place and the time of the interview. She had our dog and I asked what she did with him (we dont leave him at home because he barks, we live in a unit so we drop him off at her mum's house when we're going somewhere we cant take him). She said she took the dog wiht her to the interview. I asked her in what bag? She said in his dog bag. I knew she was lying soon as she said what bag it was because I used that bag for something on Friday night and recall EXACTLY how I left it. I asked her if she had taken a copy of her resume (I knew she hadn't because she doesnt have any printed off) but she said she went to the government agency place and used their printer and printed it off. I questioned her about it, she started going OFF yelling and screaming how nothing she does it ever good enough for me, how at least she TRIED by actually landing an interview and turning up and that im not satisfied with anything etc etc and saying I made her feel like a piece of sh*t because I couldnt even acknowledge that she was trying etc etc. I didnt believe it and it made me feel bad.

This morning, I looked up the job ad on the website she said she found it on and no results appeared. I looked up the website directly for the cafe that she said she had the interview for, they arent taking interviews. I got their number, called up and asked to speak to the manager. Made up a story about how my friend told me about jobs going there and wanted to know if they had interviews yesterday because I may have missed out. Manager clearly said they havent held interviews at all and nothing yesterday. He said if i was really interested I could go in for the job. I booked a time at 2pm today and gave him her name.

I called her up straight after and asked why "where did you really go yesterday" she didnt say anything then i said because you didnt go to a job interview. She was like wtf? I was like yeah,I just got off the phone to the manager a

manager at such and such, she started laughing but it was like an "oh fk got caught out" kind of laugh. We argued, she started crying and begging for me not to leave her etc etc. Now she has just flipped the switch and is like im glad we're over etc etc like wat the fk?

I am soooo glad i've broken up with her. Now I just need to be STRONG!!!!

Yeah girl, she is taking advantage of you in a major way. Its good you are taking steps towards letting this one go because you have to. She needs a reality check and being in comfort wont help her.

Stay strong.

That's crazy!! Yes I was money hungry in my 20's but I was career hungry also. I worked very hard (still do) and could not imagine not working or not making any money. With money comes independence and I am a bit shocked that she is so comfortable with letting you take care of everything. I have to be able to bring my 50% to the table in a relationship.

OMG, I sorry...I just read the last response you gave. MAN...you better run like you're in a marathon! LOL. She needs to go home to her parents. She is clearly not ready to be on her own let alone be in a relationship with you or anyone else. Let me tell you, these are signs of drama. Not only is she taking advantage of you but she's lying too; then she'll cry because she knows that you will accept her back. She's playing emotional games with you.

Boot her out!!!!!

She's a user and she will only bring you down in the long term.

A capricorn with no job ambitions.....
*picks self up off floor*