Professional difficulties - how to relax?

My Cap boyfriend has been having a hard time recently, especially on the professional front - things taking longer than he wants/ not going exactly as planned. It's nothing disastrous. I'm sure it's a case of time more than anything else. It is, however, affecting him pretty badly.

He has said he wants to get X next step (which will take a few years) out of the way so things are more stable and then we can focus on our relationship and he will be sure he's going to be able to provide for our family if we end up having one. He also seems very concerned about things going in the right order, i.e. he wants to have this out of the way before we start planning more together. He also has started asking if I really want to be with him, doubting whether I will want to stay with him. He said he's concerned I'll be more successful than him and will get bored with him (this is obviously not the case!). I haven't done or said anything to make him think this, on the contrary.

As far as I'm able to, I've been taking care of more household things and encouraging him to relax (massage, bath, sport). Physical intimacy isn't lacking at all either. I feel like I have to encourage him to relax because he believes he doesn't 'deserve' to relax. My attempts so far have helped and just cuddling or listening seems to make him happier too.

Please help. I want to help my Cap relax and get his self-confidence back. What else can I do? Or just keep on doing what I'm doing?

I would keep doing what I'm doing. Everyone hits a rough patch at some point in life.

I wouldn't talk it out with him, it might make him feel even worse..I'd just be there, silent and determined in his corner.

Yep, you're doing the right things.

Posted by Damnata
I would keep doing what I'm doing. Everyone hits a rough patch at some point in life.

I wouldn't talk it out with him, it might make him feel even worse..I'd just be there, silent and determined in his corner.

+ 1

Well said.

BeoWulf..I know that user name.

You're one of the olders 😄

^lol @ the pompousness of that

elders* grrr