Sex with Capricorn

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Marnie101
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I'm a Gemini, and I have zero interest in making this into a relationship. So no judgement please. I'm a confident woman who is not really looking for anything serious right now. Looking for action. Met this Cap who was so sexy and fun and he was all over me. Made a date but he canceled because he had to work (I understand). We ended up talking all day and the next morning (not going to lie a lot of it was sexual), but he was leaving to go to Vegas for work. For the next two days, he was texting and showering me with complements. Begging me to come to Vegas and he would pay for everything, ect. I resisted as first but I found him sexy so I dropped the BS and let him in just a tad. Work started for him on Monday and we talked still, he called on Tuesday, then he got super busy and I found myself texting him all the time which is unlike me and pissed me off that I was acting like that. Thursday I was busy and he sent me little funny videos and stuff.

However, I'm going through some crazy life changes right now. I've figured it out but last Thursday I didn't know if I was going to have a job or a place to live and it was the end of the month. I took it out on him and called him "manipulative" and acted pissy he didn't call me when he said he would. He got home from work at 3am! and then might have TMIed him with a sentence or two about how hard the power imbalance is for me bc I'm independent. I was honest about how I was seeing others and he said he loved a little competition. However I'm a Gemini and I did tell him I was going on dates (I was) and I sent him a photo of a BMX biker who was sexing me up. I know these were all huge mistakes, and he warned me not to play games. I did my normal thing. I didn't listen. I fucked up bad.

Anyway he got pissed (understandably) made a sarcastic comment and said "this is bc I didn't call you? I was working, guess I gotta go manipulate people now, I have shit to do" I freaked out bc i knew he was right, he has been nothing but nice and I took it out on him. I apologized but he shut down. Completely. I told him to call me when he can/if he wants to. He said "we'll see" (I mean really). I waited two day and then i put in one last ditch effort last night. I said:

"I'm sorry I don't think you are a manipulator, you have bee nothing but sweet, sexy and funny. I've been under so much stress not knowing were I was going to work/live and things escalated way to quickly. We have mad chemistry and would have a blast
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n bed. That is all I am looking for despite my behavior. I'm sorry for playing stupid games. I will be in Vegas this weekend with some friends for final four. After all of this, I think it's worth having a drink or something."

over 24 hours ago and I saw he read it. Nothing. he is a producer and I know his show was in shambles and he has been crazy. I know I can move on but I want to sleep with THIS ONE. I mean he could not stop telling me how hot I was (and went even further than that), that he couldn't stop thinking about me, ect.

I ruined it right? I mean I'm going to move on but I really wanted this one. Do you think he will come back bc I hear caps do this shit all the time. At least hopefully he will get drunk in Vegas and cave and call me bc, you know I'm hot and hes a drunk guy.

Don't judge me please, I often treat sex like a guy. I'm actually quite conservative when I think a relationship would go somewhere.

Please be blunt. tell it to me!!!
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Marnie101
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Ah the forums. I should have known. Judgement at it's best.

I make a lot of money, lost my job last week and start a new one on April 1st. My lease was ending and if my landlord found someone else for a year lease he would have not let me for the month and I didn't have my act together for a move. Moving to a nicer place next month. Have time and money to celebrate before the new job so theres that.

I'm actually very good at casual sex.I'm kind of a free spirit and I like both sexes. There is a guy I have known for 25 years and whenever we are both single we get it on. I am not interested in him romantically. I know some people don't believe this is possible, but I guess I don't care.

Cap invited me to Vegas and then when I mentioned it to my friend she said she happened to be going this weekend. Vegas is fun, so what. However, I would go there to sleep with someone if I was intrigued enough. Why not?

The reason I'm upset is that this cap is making me crazy and not myself. I do NOT like to be controlled. And texting all the time (he was responding btw, I was just the one to do it first). I'm so turned on by him bc he infuriates me. I hear they make incredible lovers and I want this one. I'm used to being able to manipulative men so this is crazy.

I'm just asking if this is normal behavior or if I totally blew it. I hear they can pull away. I have left him alone for a couple of days now and I'm not reaching out again. But he blue balled me!!!!


ps- I have had under 20 partners so there.
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It's not sad and I have self respect. I've been in many loving relationships. I'm just career driven and not ready to settle down. I'm bored easily. Women can love sex, no? I know exactly what I want.

And yes, it would be nice to have an F buddy when he is back, OK?

I'm really really um- sexual right now, and I would rather have reliable guy I can go to. I'm safe and all and as long as they treat me with respect, they can do whatever they want when I'm not around.

I'm asking is- I was under tremendous pressure and cracked. and I'm horrified at how I acted. I so regret it and it is not a reflection of me.

I asking knowing how a cap pulls away when overwhelmed and if I should just let to go. When I want something I want it.

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Oh some nice people thank you!!!

I'm going through this sexual thing right now. You know those years in your 30's where you suddenly can't get enough an become a monster. I would rather NOT sleep all over town. It's crazy.

And he knows exactly what this is and he was VERY into it. Before I messed up and acted like an idiot for a day. I can't believe I did that. Can someone turn off totally when they are obsessed with you the day before? I mean I guess I could but it doesn't just completely disappear.

There is nothing more I can do now. I sent the last next yesterday morning. and that was it, I'm not THAT desperate to contact him again.

You saw how I remedied with my final text? Was that decent?

UGH why do I care? Because I let some guy get the best of me and I can't let it go. (and I'm messed up bc I think its hot as hell). I'm not used to be rejected after this much praise.

And yes, women can get blue balled too. All this anticipation and no release and no doing it yourself is not the same. Warm body needed.
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yay! I say yes to. And I learned my lesson I will let him control and dominate me- Gemini sees it as a fun game but obviously there is no way in hell this would last. I will crack. I don't even like guys calling me "sweetie" UGH.

However I can see us being friends, maybe drinking together. Hes 32 and acts like a 27 year old. I mean this guy is not coming home to your parents.

GeminiCandle: YES it came in from like what seemed like no where. I can't stop thinking about sex its scary I feel like a teenage boy. I'm single so what the hell am I supposed to do right now. You feel my struggle!!! I guess it's normal. I told my mom and she is so funny she goes "Enjoy it now honey, because it's all downhill from here" LOL love her.
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HAHA,

Other signs hate our flightiness and think we are unorganized, lazy, and without direction.

I can explain it like this but this is just me: I literally have so many ideas and thoughts and dreams and hopes it feels like I can't keep them all in my head. I want to do everything, learn everything, experience everything. And there isn't enough time in life for it all. It's the eagerness to experience more that makes us move from thing to thing constantly. I will try anything once. I love that life gives us this opportunity, and don't want to waste it by going down some standard path and not looking outside myself/world. Its hard for me to understand that is enough for some people, but I don't judge.

We play games bc we are bored. But the right guy needs to be confident, engaging and fun. Keeps me on my toes. I usually fall for Libras. I've been in love a few times.

I will find someone. I don't want kids, so no rush for me!
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Ha. We almost in the same boat, my cap has backed off too,BUT not because I yelled at him or anything. I rarely yell at anybody, because I hate to regret it later. Anyway, a lot of people including the caps on this board are almost certain he will re-appear. Maybe yours will too, and when he does??_do yourself a favor and CHILL! Like for real, Like ICE babygirl chill, because you are going to scare him off again.lol.
Not every man falls for this new ages macho woman type mess, some men still like a reserved sexy woman with a certain innocence about her, a lady whom is confident about her sexually, but not raunchy with it. I??ve read that cap men love to wear the pants, and the girl of his choice can either get down or step down, either way he won't have someone trying to stick their leg in the pants department.

Let him lead. I noticed with my cap that I was texting a lot first too, but he was responding so at first I didn't notice, when I did I stopped but I didn't get mad or offended. Eventually he picked up and texted me first. Personally this is where I think people mess up though; trying to keep count on who texting who first and how much. As long as the other person responds with a cheerful attitude and stuff, then you have nothing to worry about. If you feel like you doing too much then just chill, and let them come to you, BUT don't have a cow if they don't, and then curse them out and wonder why they don't wanna jump your bones.lol. So like I said, with a Cap you gonna have to take off the boxing gloves, and let him be the man. He wont have it any other way. If he wants sex let him pursue you, in the meantime go play with your other toys.
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Ha. We almost in the same boat, my cap has backed off too,BUT not because I yelled at him or anything. I rarely yell at anybody, because I hate to regret it later. Anyway, a lot of people including the caps on this board are almost certain he will re-appear. Maybe yours will too, and when he does??_do yourself a favor and CHILL! Like for real, Like ICE babygirl chill, because you are going to scare him off again.lol.
Not every man falls for this new ages macho woman type mess, some men still like a reserved sexy woman with a certain innocence about her, a lady whom is confident about her sexually, but not raunchy with it. I??ve read that cap men love to wear the pants, and the girl of his choice can either get down or step down, either way he won't have someone trying to stick their leg in the pants department.

Let him lead. I noticed with my cap that I was texting a lot first too, but he was responding so at first I didn't notice, when I did I stopped but I didn't get mad or offended. Eventually he picked up and texted me first. Personally this is where I think people mess up though; trying to keep count on who texting who first and how much. As long as the other person responds with a cheerful attitude and stuff, then you have nothing to worry about. If you feel like you doing too much then just chill, and let them come to you, BUT don't have a cow if they don't, and then curse them out and wonder why they don't wanna jump your bones.lol. So like I said, with a Cap you gonna have to take off the boxing gloves, and let him be the man. He wont have it any other way. If he wants sex let him pursue you, in the meantime go play with your other toys.



lol@ MACHO FEMALE. What is this craze going around about Alphas and such.

Yall need Buddha and some Zen in your life; worrying about these petty things too much. What are you trying to do? Put Virgos out of a job.
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LOL. I would never do that, i'm half virgo.
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oh, I haven't done a thing since that final text and I won't. There were no caps and it was a text. He still was pissed and it happened while he was swamped. I don't blame him!I think it's hot to be controlled. This is a cap that is kind of the life of the party, not shy or awkward at all. I know he will be good in bed.

As of thurs he was sending me some dirty videos (I send pics but never ever nudes and I cut my head out of the photos just in case.) and telling me how gorgeous I am. So i'm acting pretty crazy. I mean what guy wouldn't want... really.

I usually go for the type that just doesn't compliment me. It keeps emotions at a distance. So I'm a bit of a sucker.

He's just in work mode. He will call.

Meanwhile I have a date with a lady tonight. Apparently its 1965 in my head.
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It's ok to not want kids. People react the wrong way to this. I mean why would I become a mother just to do it. Thats horrible and not fair to the child. LIke I said, right now I want to experience everything, and I see a kid as tying me down. If a nanny spends more time with them then you do, its a problem. I love to death my friends children and if I didn't have my sister as my best friend (who plans to have as many as possible) then maybe maybe I would feel like something is missing in my life.

Never played with dolls and barbies. I love my dog to death,but I just not maternal.

If I change my mind later in life I will just adopt.
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Posted by Marnie101
It's ok to not want kids. People react the wrong way to this. I mean why would I become a mother just to do it. Thats horrible and not fair to the child. LIke I said, right now I want to experience everything, and I see a kid as tying me down. If a nanny spends more time with them then you do, its a problem. I love to death my friends children and if I didn't have my sister as my best friend (who plans to have as many as possible) then maybe maybe I would feel like something is missing in my life.

Never played with dolls and barbies. I love my dog to death,but I just not maternal.

If I change my mind later in life I will just adopt.



I have the same exact views as you do on this and there is nothing wrong with being selfish and being all about you. There are mothers out there who are like this and ALREADY have kids lol

Alot of people say its because I haven't found the right man but honestly I dont see the need to create more children.
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I think it's better you did not end up sleeping with him. I mean look at you...acting this crazy BEFORE you even slept with him??! Imagine AFTER the fact he fucked you and fucked you good. Jesus Christ, woman!

No, just no.

You can't handle it. Stay busy and find another fuck buddy. Save your little dignity and self-esteem you have left.



^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This.
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Guys, I'm such a brat. I want what I can't have. I want to stop my feet and scream. Social media is the worst, I see that he is out partying.

I just want him to want me, sue me. He will be quickly replaced soon, but until then I will agonize over this like a child.

Talking another cap right now- I mean what the hell. Next time I ask upfront and then run the other way. He blew off seeing me but is blowing up my phone. not responding like I normally would.

what is up with this sign!!!! I have never dealt with them before. I hate them!/Love how crazy they make me!


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Posted by Marnie101
Guys, I'm such a brat. I want what I can't have. I want to stop my feet and scream. Social media is the worst, I see that he is out partying.

I just want him to want me, sue me. He will be quickly replaced soon, but until then I will agonize over this like a child.

Talking another cap right now- I mean what the hell. Next time I ask upfront and then run the other way. He blew off seeing me but is blowing up my phone. not responding like I normally would.

what is up with this sign!!!! I have never dealt with them before. I hate them!/Love how crazy they make me!




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I pissed the new cap off too by being playful AKA playing games.I joked that I deleted his number but I couldn't stop thinking about him so i put him back in my phone.Why? bc in my twisted head I thought that was a NICE thing to say? I have zero filter! He lost it. and went off which in a way was enough to freak me out and glad I saw it this early.

"Thats fucked up thats fucked up. You should have left it deleted. I make an amazing lover/fuck buddy and I'm a very attentive lover. If you can't wait to get it from me, you should go back on tinder. I have to go- have a good one"

Thats out to inflict pain. Nasty.

Never EVER EVER EVER Capricorn again! I came here bc I had never experienced something like this before. I just thought to check his sign and it was like a lightbulb in my head.

Gemini/Cap is just too much.
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Oh thats what started me in this forum. I moved on from him to the next already, and he was a cap too. Just sharing.

It's actually really hard to find a good FWB. I don't sleep around so this is my best option. moved to LA about 6months ago and driving to AZ to see my old FWB is a pain in the ass plus he is older and can't keep up anymore. My Chicago boy moved to Miami.

I wish I could put that along with all my rules (no sleepovers, be safe, respect me when I around, do what you want when I'm not ect) on my profile.

But think about how that would look!!!


I thought Mike the first guy was a good candidate. He did finally text me but I'm waiting based on all of the cap advice I've seen around here.
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Update. guy #1 blew me off in vegas and acted uninterested but is now stalking me that I'm home (what the hell)

guy #2 I pissed of and all the sudden has re-appeared saying how he is all into me but he works to much to see me.

I told guy #1 i wanted to just be friends and he isn't happy but hasn't disappeared yet. guy #2 still can't nail down a time to see me but again "can't stop thinking about me.

I got some action in vegas from who the hell knows what sign but what are these guys problems, why dragging your feet- it's just sex.

guy #2 I walk on thin ice with. He is very sensitive and needs his ego stroked. They both do. Exhausting.

Common thread: They both keep telling me hour hilarious ad amazing they are. tie some rocks to your ankles boys. Jeez!

Not stalking either right now