Capricorns and jealousy

I went out with some friends last night, and it seems like my Cap is giving me the silent treatment even though we are supposed to meet tonight.

Sigh, should I reach out to him or let him come to me?

So you are not allowed to go out? Smh

I say let him come to you.

Thanks for your responses.

Lucciferi, you're right, here are some details (trying to keep it brief)🙂

We're in an open FWB relationship, although he wants more. He's been working a lot ("no life hours").

He texted me really sweet messages the night before we were supposed to meet up, and I didn't respond for a few hours because I was out with my friend checking out an act at a club (my hobby is music). I didn't have my phone.

My Cap's texts turned suspicious and jealous after I didn't respond "you must be out with so and so..." "good for you dummy". When I got home, I saw the texts and messaged him back explaining what happened. I told him my friend brought his fwb/gf, and how they were together, and I was the third wheel. He was unresponsive, and insisted that my friend likes me. I told him I don't think so.

He seems to think every guy I know likes me or is trying to get in my pants.

I reached out to him yesterday, and we saw each other. It was good 🙂

I DON'T WANT TO HURT HIM.

He has Scorpio Rising, and Aqua Moon*

He also has Mars in Aries.

Why wasn't the cap invited to go with you?

Back to the question, though.
Basically, you need to decide what you want from this cap. You say its open FWB. However, you know he wants more. Either decide to have more or end it. Otherwise, you are stringing him along and hurting him.

You've read all the posts on here about women caught up in a FWB that develop feelings and how much it hurts them. You're doing this to him.

So, decide what you want. Obviously you feel something for him or you wouldn't be caring that he is withdrawing from you. True FWB doesn't care what the other person feels, thinks, or does - it's just a warm body and a stiff d*** when convenient.

Posted by SunMoonStars
He seems to think every guy I know likes me or is trying to get in my pants.

Can't you see why he thinks this? You did FWB with him. In his opinion he thinks you're the type of girl that would do it that easily with other guys too.

I'm sorry, I don't mean to be harsh, and I'm not putting you down, but a lot of guys think this way.

Truecap, thanks and you're not being harsh, I appreciate it.

Never had a FWB arrangement, and he knows this. I don't think he thinks I'm easy...but I'll ask him next time. I'll also ask him if he wants me to leave him alone until I figure out if/when I want a relationship with him, basically if it's all or nothing. Blunt like a Sagittarius!

More details:

Didn't invite him because he was working, and it was last minute. I invited him to go to a party, vip, free tix worth over $ 100 each yada yada, organized by my friend (the one he thinks likes me) but he didn't seem interested.

You're right, I do care about him. I think I understand him very well, so that makes me able to be a positive in his life. That's important to me.

For example, he said this weekend "you make me want to be a better person for us, and it's good for me too". This is a VERY important part of why I still see him because since I've met him, he's quit smoking, thinking about drinking less, and says he believes that miracles can happen. If I can continue to do that, that will be a benefit for him long term.

Question is, is he good for me? He has traits that won't work for me, and to be honest I think 5 months is way too early to think about marriage and stuff like that. When I think about it, what do I really know about him? I know there's a lot I don't know. He isn't the kind of guy that talks about his flaws. While I'm the type who just says everything, good and bad about myself 🙂

I need to learn how to censor myself haha.

Well, if he took an opportunity to get to know the friend, then maybe he would be able to see that they're just friends and it will ease his mind. Cap's got to put out some effort, too.

Lucciferi, yeah I can see that p.o.v.

Well..we must continue to live and have our friends/goals (not the treetrunking part).

I'm not going to lie about my life, but now that I know he gets jealous, I'll just talk about other things with my Cap like work, school, family etc. He's taken to asking me where I've been though and if people have been hitting on me 😢

Next time I see him, I'll assure him I'm not treetrunking my friend, and will not be as I'm NOT attracted to him.

Posted by SunMoonStars
Lucciferi, yeah I can see that p.o.v.

Well..we must continue to live and have our friends/goals (not the treetrunking part).

I'm not going to lie about my life, but now that I know he gets jealous, I'll just talk about other things with my Cap like work, school, family etc. He's taken to asking me where I've been though and if people have been hitting on me 😢

Next time I see him, I'll assure him I'm not treetrunking my friend, and will not be as I'm NOT attracted to him.

Cap reaction:

Tell him to come along and look for himself and otherwise to stop whining/fuck off.
Put in too much effort and it gets suspicious too.

But you are making the classic mistake of thinking that if you are not interested in a male friend that he isn't either. If the guy didn't think you were fuckable he wouldn't be hanging out with you so much.
That is what the Cap is picking up.

For the rest I agree with other people on here. You should figure out what you want with him.
He is getting different messages here. That you are unable to commit. This makes him jealous.

Thank you for all the replies.

cheekyfaerie, yes, I am trying to get to know him better before I make any commitments.

Work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun?....please understand the dilema of a cap LOL 😛

Well...Valentines Day is coming, and my Cap tested me last week to see if I had any plans. I said no, and he waited until tonight (2 days before V Day) to ask me to spend it with him.

He told me he already had the night off since last week, but was debating whether or not to tell me. He said he had to work twice as much to have it free. I asked him why he was wrestling with asking me, and he said because it is not his place.

How did he know I would not have plans already and be free to wait for him?

It's this kind of Cap confidence that drives me nuts and makes me want to hug him at the same time 🙂

Posted by SunMoonStars
Well...Valentines Day is coming, and my Cap tested me last week to see if I had any plans. I said no, and he waited until tonight (2 days before V Day) to ask me to spend it with him.

He told me he already had the night off since last week, but was debating whether or not to tell me. He said he had to work twice as much to have it free. I asked him why he was wrestling with asking me, and he said because it is not his place.

How did he know I would not have plans already and be free to wait for him?

It's this kind of Cap confidence that drives me nuts and makes me want to hug him at the same time 🙂

aww so cuteee! and him "working twice as hard to have it with you" that is SO cap, cap men are sexay !! 😛

Posted by KittenLaRouge
Work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun?....please understand the dilema of a cap LOL 😛

Don't see how this is a dilemma. You are not in your right mind if you don't pick sex over work. Come on people.

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Posted by KittenLaRouge
Work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun?....please understand the dilema of a cap LOL 😛

Don't see how this is a dilemma. You are not in your right mind if you don't pick sex over work. Come on people.

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Haha, sex after work 😉 Can't see why we can't have both!

oooh silent treatment. bring the etcha sketch along in case

Lol, how DO Caps feel about sex at work?

Posted by 2N3R

Posted by KittenLaRouge
Work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun? work or sex and fun?....please understand the dilema of a cap LOL 😛

Don't see how this is a dilemma. You are not in your right mind if you don't pick sex over work. Come on people.

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LOL!

Posted by SunMoonStars
Lol, how DO Caps feel about sex at work?

LMAO!, sure.... sex all over the CEO's woodgrain desk, throwing everything off of it passionately MEOW lol Xd 😛

wait... that sounds so WRONG lol 😛