the dumping garden (Page 44)

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Posted by lnana04
Yesterday a kid on the school bus called my 5yr old niece the "B" word. Wow is all I can say.

Of course my sister tried to go on the bus this morning. She wasnt allowed, so she spoke to the kids from the sidewalk. She told them to leave my niece alone and if anything else happened she will be knocking on their doors and speaking to their parents. This is the 3rd incident shes had to confront. Really the 4rth since my niece said the gym teacher kissed her on the forehead. I forgot, she also had to tell the boys on the bus to stop writing and giving my niece things.

So much you have to deal with as a parent it seems. I wonder if i had my own would i be as confrontational or tell my child to just ignore it all. Seems like too much.

Sometimes kids need to learn to solve their own problems. Granted the girl is young, but your sister shouldn't step in every single time. The girl needs to learn how to speak up for herself. Maybe give her some words to use next time and if that doesn't work, then teach her to kick people in the shins?

Your sister's a virgo, right? I know a lot of virgo moms always running up to the school to "address" issues on behalf of their kids. Seems like they make it a whole lot more dramatic than it has to be.

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My cappy daughter was meek and mild, wouldn't step up, then she learned how to punch people in the face. Okay, not the best way to handle it, BUT, after she punched one kid (sweet libra moon couldn't stand seeing someone else get bullied), no one else messed with her. Ever. I think even the boys were afraid of her.

Posted by truecap

Posted by lnana04
Yesterday a kid on the school bus called my 5yr old niece the "B" word. Wow is all I can say.

Of course my sister tried to go on the bus this morning. She wasnt allowed, so she spoke to the kids from the sidewalk. She told them to leave my niece alone and if anything else happened she will be knocking on their doors and speaking to their parents. This is the 3rd incident shes had to confront. Really the 4rth since my niece said the gym teacher kissed her on the forehead. I forgot, she also had to tell the boys on the bus to stop writing and giving my niece things.

So much you have to deal with as a parent it seems. I wonder if i had my own would i be as confrontational or tell my child to just ignore it all. Seems like too much.

Sometimes kids need to learn to solve their own problems. Granted the girl is young, but your sister shouldn't step in every single time. The girl needs to learn how to speak up for herself. Maybe give her some words to use next time and if that doesn't work, then teach her to kick people in the shins?

Your sister's a virgo, right? I know a lot of virgo moms always running up to the school to "address" issues on behalf of their kids. Seems like they make it a whole lot more dramatic than it has to be.

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That's an interesting way to look at it.

Thing is, I think now my niece wants my sister to say something when things happen. I asked my sis yesterday what my niece said, and my sis said she kept reminding her and asking her if she was going to talk to the kids.

I think we now see though, its going to be never ending. Just yesterday my niece came home saying a boy on the bus hit her and they started fighting. She didn't seem upset about it or anything, but I guess these situations will have to work themselves out because it looks like it'll always be something.

Posted by truecap


Sometimes kids need to learn to solve their own problems. Granted the girl is young, but your sister shouldn't step in every single time. The girl needs to learn how to speak up for herself. Maybe give her some words to use next time and if that doesn't work, then teach her to kick people in the shins?

Agreed. Though she's still young, kids still laugh at those who have their parents intervene. 'You can't handle it yourself so you have your parents help you?' In the end, the mother talking to the kids directly is going to make the situation worse. If she's going to talk to anyone, she needs to go straight to the parents. The kids who are bullying the other child have a better chance of respecting the authority of their parents than another random adult. Although, I agree, the child needs to learn to fend for herself.

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Posted by truecap


Sometimes kids need to learn to solve their own problems. Granted the girl is young, but your sister shouldn't step in every single time. The girl needs to learn how to speak up for herself. Maybe give her some words to use next time and if that doesn't work, then teach her to kick people in the shins?

Agreed. Though she's still young, kids still laugh at those who have their parents intervene. 'You can't handle it yourself so you have your parents help you?' In the end, the mother talking to the kids directly is going to make the situation worse. If she's going to talk to anyone, she needs to go straight to the parents. The kids who are bullying the other child have a better chance of respecting the authority of their parents than another random adult. Although, I agree, the child needs to learn to fend for herself.

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Agree!

And, fighting her battles for her doesn't teach her anything and it will be a disservice to her when she's an adult. Plus, she's getting attention from it right now.

Think about it this way. Junior high is BRUTAL and girls are VISCIOUS with each other. Kids come home crying every day because someone was mean to them and the next day they're best friends again. If she learns social problem solving skills now, then junior high will be easier for her.

I know my Cap friend is not knocking at my door. He is a retard if he think I'm answering. I don't do pop ups and he KNOW that.

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Posted by truecap


Sometimes kids need to learn to solve their own problems. Granted the girl is young, but your sister shouldn't step in every single time. The girl needs to learn how to speak up for herself. Maybe give her some words to use next time and if that doesn't work, then teach her to kick people in the shins?

Agreed. Though she's still young, kids still laugh at those who have their parents intervene. 'You can't handle it yourself so you have your parents help you?' In the end, the mother talking to the kids directly is going to make the situation worse. If she's going to talk to anyone, she needs to go straight to the parents. The kids who are bullying the other child have a better chance of respecting the authority of their parents than another random adult. Although, I agree, the child needs to learn to fend for herself.

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Well with the boy that hit her yesterday, my sister talked to his mom before. He was the same boy who hit her a few months ago. I guess that talk didn't work smh.

Just wanted to say I've had the most fun in ages with the cap...! Blissfully happy, he's finally coming around to doing things my way yay!! He loves me to bits. He's had a really tough year n I've been patient and now I'm getting to reap the benefits of being with a cap guy.

I'm in such a good mood I cooked today!!

Rainbow trout, steamed veg and prawn cocktail salad yummy!!

Tonight I'm making stuffed cabbage parcels with mince, rice n lots of spices!

Mmmmmmh yh...

My sister asked me to make her cream of mushroom soup from scratch - all done sooo tired

Aqua took me 4-Wheeling this weekend at the ATV park! I couldn't have been happier. Had mud strown out all over me! AWESOME!!!!!

I just LOVE redneck ativities! Yeehaw!

Can't resist - if yall ain't done this, then you ain't lived!!!

my bf kills me??_ absolutely kills me??_ he's one of the most beautiful human beings i've ever known. up there with my grandfather.

Posted by M

It won't let me watch it... What's it about?

Wohooo planning my return trip to see my bro, sil n the kids yay yay

The vast majority of those whom would benefit most from sage advice have no interest in it. What's that saying? The wise have no need of advice and fools won't take it.

😘 😄 😛 😉 🙂 😐 😕 🥱 😢 🤢amp; >😢 😈

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artichokes leave a sweet and fresh after taste in my mouth.

Is one of those holding a hot dog?

LOLOLOLOLOL

Posted by Chance15
^*ponders whether to turn that into a dirty joke*

🙂

i like how you put the smilies in zodiacal order..umm..did you give us the sick one?

Hahahahahahahaha??_ ayayaye??_ i'm terrible at setting up the first taker for a dirty joke. and by terrible, i mean inadvertently good. and by first taker, i mean the nearest gutter mind.

oh you. 😛

i was merely pointing out which emoticon best represented the way i was feeling last night. 😄

i couldn't figure out all the diff ones!

Posted by StoicGoat
Is one of those holding a hot dog?

i like this interpretation. lets go with it lol

Posted by Chance15

Posted by StoicGoat
Is one of those holding a hot dog?

either that or he didn't like the results from his home std test

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so he's showing it off haha!

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry

Posted by SanchoElMejor
😏

thank you!

here's one for you....

🍹

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nice

there used to be one for beer??_. — anyone know it?

So I don't even know how my mothers Cap ex knows where I live, but he just finished BANGING on my door about 30min ago. So hard that my sis and I were afraid to answer it. Once I finally decided to answer he walked to his car and drove off. WEIRD.

He turned the knob to open the door and everything, and just two days ago I could have sworn I heard the front door knob turn..

My mother called him, and he said it was him...that he was trying to scare us since he was in the area. Just all weird.

I remember when they dated, sometimes he'd be at our house in a closet or something hiding. How he'd get in? who know. He's always been kind of weird like that.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
😭

anyone know the sunglasses one?

😏

Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by StoicGoat
Is one of those holding a hot dog?

i like this interpretation. lets go with it lol

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I thought it was a thermometer.

Posted by lnana04

I remember when they dated, sometimes he'd be at our house in a closet or something hiding. How he'd get in? who know. He's always been kind of weird like that.

What the fuck? I'd probably be a bit concerned. What was he going to do when/if he got into your house is the question I'd be asking.

Posted by Scenic

Posted by lnana04

I remember when they dated, sometimes he'd be at our house in a closet or something hiding. How he'd get in? who know. He's always been kind of weird like that.

What the fuck? I'd probably be a bit concerned. What was he going to do when/if he got into your house is the question I'd be asking.

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My mom said that he apologized...saying he didn't mean to scare us like that. He works for the Dept of Juvenile Justice, and has that authoritarian voice and presence. I guess he was going to pretend he was law enforcement or something like that...who knows. My sis can usually joke with him, but even she was like "Im not going to that door."

we see a lot of new relationship threads around here??_ but very rarely, if ever, do we have threads dealing with matured relationships. interesting.

i'm making dinner out of corona, bagels and lox??_ gawddamn delicious too. with capers and red onions. happy st. patty's day.

it's amazingly windy outside. there's something very romantic about extreme weather.

I LOVE thunderstorms!!!

Glad you got home safe, Chance.

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Posted by CreepyPants
since when did it become spring?

In your heart or outside? :p

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:p meant to saaayyyy??_ here in vegas, it's starting to get into the 80s. not staying there yet, but getting there.

and yes??_ its been spring in my heart since December 🙂 all the animals are twitterpated.

i'm not sure if funny is the word??_ odd? interesting? crazy? strange? profound—

strange that whenever i think of my ex, i feel a gaping void of "never was" ??_my fishy moon has me swimming away from those thoughts so fast, and every fiber of my being has me directed straight into the arms of my sweetheart. he deserves the world, and i'll be damned if i'm not the woman to give it to him.

Posted by M
It's frustrating when someone won't communicate with you. On top of anything said or done being dismissed simply because it came from you.

Such behavior tells you a great deal about the other party.

My head hurts >_

Wonder what would happen if we started giving advice the OP is wanting to hear.

OP: "My bf never calls me, only wants to come over, we do our thing, then he leaves, he doesn't want to go out in public. Do you think he loves me?"
Caps: Oh, honey, rejoice, he loves you! Start picking out your wedding dress!

Posted by truecap
Wonder what would happen if we started giving advice the OP is wanting to hear.

OP: "My bf never calls me, only wants to come over, we do our thing, then he leaves, he doesn't want to go out in public. Do you think he loves me?"
Caps: Oh, honey, rejoice, he loves you! Start picking out your wedding dress!

we'd all be girlfriends.

As much of an animal lover I am, I do not feel as much love for Opossums...

It was a monster. HUGE! As big as a medium size dog. Probably weighed in at 35-40 lbs. Ok, maybe it was only about 20-25lbs. IT WAS BIG THOUGH AND HAD NASTY TEETH, IT SNARLED, SPIT AND HISSED AT ME!!!

BTW, if your pet has potential exposure to rabies, even if vaccinated (which they should be), they still need another booster! With our exposure there is treatment, if contracted by our pets it's 100% fatal... (I can't stop thinking of Old Yeller 😢)

My baby girl has face scratches, nose & chin abrasions and mouth lacerations, plus she is on 45 day house arrest now 😭

Looking back I see that most of my posts on here have been kind of grumpy. Am I turning into Capinc?

Lol! Noooo....I don't see you as grumpy.

Wow, gotta love the go-getter attitude in Aries. All things are coming together right now in my family because of the Aries, who is out making things happen. You appreciate the fire in people during times like this.

Im laying here in bed, darn near wide awake, puzzled as to why Im not sleep yet. This is by far the latest Ive stayed up on a work night, which btw my alarm to get up will ring in four more hours.

On Fridays I avoid coffee, knowing itll keep me up late. Didnt have any today, so what is going on here I wondered?

About ten minutes ago it dawned on me that maybe Im still up because right about now it'll mark a week since I got the horrible news about my uncle passing. That phone call woke me up out of my sleep last Sat. Thats the only thing it could be.

If so, its crazy how the psyche or the subconcious mind work.
Or maybe its just my subconcious mind and my sensitivity. My sis is out with her boyfriend, my mom who told me the news is sleep, and Im up looking at the exact time she callled smh.

Heres to hoping I get some sleep. Im the type of person that NEED 9+ hrs.

I have to wonder how I'm going to survive in life if deadlines and work stress me out so much. It is torture. Maybe my cap midheaven will decide to make an appearance one day.


@lnana, I know how you feel. It's sad but my body needs 11 hours to be fully functioning. Anything less or more is not ideal. Unfortunately, I usually only get about 5 hours of sleep during the week. Good luck - I hope you can relax and get some sleep.

What a night, what a day...wth is going on? Is it something in the stars I wonder?

Like the ocean, who refuses to stop kissing the shoreline, no matter how many times it's sent away.

My Cap is a huge sweetheart 🙂 ♥

M are you dating either of these? The Aries? The Virgo??

You sound like one of my buddies.. He's single but is surrounded by more woman than any attention-loving Leo I know LOL

^^^ should mention this very good friend of mine, bestie status, is also a Cappy..