The Last Chapter (Hopefully)

Well I think most of you know by now I ended my relationship with a Capricorn fellow. I will refer to him as CapricornX.

I don't live in a very big town and it's not unusual to walk into somewhere or other and see people you know. I ran into him over the weekend whilst out having dinner with a female friend. He was very drunk and so was the woman/hooker he was with. I didn't acknowledge him and my friend and I decided to leave immediately. CapricornX followed us out into the street and announced he had only just met the woman, and that they had never had sex. I was too horrified to reply, and before I could think of anything to say, the woman he was with had also come outside, asking me if I wanted a fight. Then told CapricornX he would get a slap in a minute if he didn't return inside immediately.

Complete and utter horror.

The next day CapricornX texted me to say the woman had not spent the night at his house.

He then texted to say he was going to be away on business for 3 days as he needed to get away to think.

He then rang and left a message on my answering machine because I don't answer his calls, saying once again that he had not had sex with this woman, that he felt hurt and rejected by me and that he cared about me way too much most of the time. (The night before must not have been one of those times!)

This man had obviously been cheating with this woman for quite awhile was my take on events. When exposed he tried to go into damage control.

So :

He's not going to be stupid enough to come back from his thinking time, and ask me to marry him, is he!?

She's going to get terribly disillusioned when he has no further use for her, isn't she?!

I am going to win a world cruise, aren't I?

Aaargh :-)

Amethyst, I find his 'need' to be seen as the man he claimed to be and not as the man he actually is, quite terrifying.

I find it very alarming he isn't acknowledging the fact our relationship is over. Particularly after the events at the restaurant that night.

M, this type reminds me of a drowning man, vainly crying out to God to save him, before going down under the water, for the third and last time.

Hopefully he won't spoil my cruise by drowning himself and trying to bring it all back to being about HIM :-)

Oops, forgot to put the Danger, Man Bashing Ahead sign up.

Wtf?. He sounds like he is hilarious, you obviously are. Y'all must have been a silly couple

Hahahahaha Elle.

She'll probably be on here with me in a few weeks asking for advice :-)

QS, I just figured it wouldn't be long until she was bashing him :-)

He turned up at my house before he left on his "trip" asking me if I had enough money and pulled out a couple of hundred dollars, stated he would be back in a few days, shoved the money in my mailbox and left before I regained my power of speech.

I think I have to insert hysterical laughter here.

And maybe ask him for enough money to add a reinforced steel safe room to my house.

QS, yes they are!

My Cancerian paranoia has gone into overdrive about what his real motivation is in not letting go. It's a mixture of he wants to prove to himself he can win me back and then dump ME, now he has another woman on the scene to turn to - to he wants to be a part of my life in some way, shape or form to keep an eye on me in case I dare meet someone else, to he just likes me, to he is just an obsessive control freak!

:-)

Quiet, I think there's a better chance of knowing what a piece of concrete was really thinking, than a Capricorn.

Laughing.

I'm at the stage now where it doesn't matter what HE is thinking or trying to achieve :-)

Although it took a few weeks to get to that stage!

Posted by MissBizarre
QS, yes they are!

My Cancerian paranoia has gone into overdrive about what his real motivation is in not letting go. It's a mixture of he wants to prove to himself he can win me back and then dump ME, now he has another woman on the scene to turn to - to he wants to be a part of my life in some way, shape or form to keep an eye on me in case I dare meet someone else, to he just likes me, to he is just an obsessive control freak!

:-)

I wonder how intuitive cancers are in comparison to Scorpios(as far as being able to see thru some capricorn's crap)... because if this guy is anything like my capricorn ex, I'd say definitely go with your instincts, I didn't realize how crazy he was until I had to move as far as away from him as possible...then everything was crystal clear.

Beautiful, once I weighed up all the possibilities of why he was still hanging around, one thing became apparent for each possibility. And that was whatever his reasons are, they would be nothing to do with what was best for me. That he was operating to get me back, only to meet his own selfish needs and requirements.

I think with this particular breed of Capricorn you just cannot show any mercy. I learnt that the hard way.

Give them an inch and they will take your life.

How competitive was he when you guys were in a relationship?

My ex was fiercely competitive, like competitive when there was no reason to be competitive.

Having a random convo about high school..and friends from his past.

Me: oh hey, this is my high school yearbook, check it out...
Ex: Oh, that's cute, MY high school yearbook was SO much better...that's just looks pretty lame.
Me: Um, okay. *puts yearbook away while silently groaning at ANOTHER story about how his high school was soooo much better*

Having a random convo on choice of movie...

Me: I love stephen king's movies, I feel like i've seen almost all of them...
Ex: Have you seen *insert obscure movie that no one has ever heard of that King prolly made in film school* ?
Me: Uh, no.
Ex: Guess you DIDN'T see ALL of his Movies, as a matter of fact, I can say that I HAVE, so therefore I'm a bigger fan than you!
Me: Right...good for you?

Me telling a story about my family...

Me: So my brother has a strained relationship with my dad, and he's been hanging with the wrong crowd, I'm worried about him getting arrested.
Ex: Oh yeah!?!! That's nothing! My dad married my mom while he was in the middle of divorcing his wife and my Older HAlf-sister Has Two CHildren and is ALSO a crack head!!! Beat THAT!!!
Me: ....

No he wasn't competitive in any way like the above scenarios with your ex.

He did this thing during phone conversations that I always found a bit freaky, though.

If I began a sentence on the phone and got distracted and didn't finish it, then turned to another topic, no matter how long the rest of the conversation lasted, be it five minutes or an hour - he would always take me by surprise and ask "what were you going to say, when you started to say something - and he would quote back to me what I had started to say, and want me to tell him the rest.

I always found that unusual.

Posted by MissBizarre
No he wasn't competitive in any way like the above scenarios with your ex.

He did this thing during phone conversations that I always found a bit freaky, though.

If I began a sentence on the phone and got distracted and didn't finish it, then turned to another topic, no matter how long the rest of the conversation lasted, be it five minutes or an hour - he would always take me by surprise and ask "what were you going to say, when you started to say something - and he would quote back to me what I had started to say, and want me to tell him the rest.

I always found that unusual.

Sorry but between you and me, that's pretty hot. I wish that my ex would be able to follow along my conversation, I could talk about three things in succession then come ask him to come back to the first p oint and he'd be lost. And then when he spit what he thought I'd said back to me, it woudl be an obvious fail. That means he's listening..ugh not trying to enable you again, but that's a pretty good quality.

What was his mercury? pisces?

@TBS, I have a tendency to do comparisons of my life when someone is sharing about theirs, and although I'm not trying to be competitive, I've been told I come across as trying to outdo the other person. But, it's not the "in your face kinda way" that you're describing (at least I don't think it is).

@QS, I think the Gem influence creates a tendency to turn the topic to oneself (kinda like I did here 😛)

Well the reason why I asked how competitive her ex is, is becasuse my Ex also had a Leo Moon which made me think that it could be a leo moon thing.

To me, the idea behind it is that he could only work through his lens, could not see outside his perspective. Absolute lack of empathy on his part, it all went back to ..me, me, me. My friends wasn't as cool as his friends, my taste of music couldn't compare to his taste of music, my interests weren't as good as his interests, my friends who drunk alot couldn't compare to his friends that did drugs( I kid you not.) It's like, man, can't you see that I'm not 'lesser' than you, I'm different...not everything is on a measurable scale. It really seemed to boil down to "You need to do what I say at all times, because you don't matter. I matter." It seemed to boil down that all he wanted in a partner is a cheerleader..and while I could do that, that shit needs to be mutual. That also seems like the role could be filled by anyone.

So back to the OP, you have a much higher resolve than me, because with your X's placements I don't think Id have been able to cope. (esp. with that last saturn in capricorn placement) That one Ex of mine tried my sanity.

Beautiful, I'm not sure, but I know now it wasn't anything to do with his star sign being Capricorn. He's a narcissistic sociopath, doing the same thing over and over again in every relationship he has.

Being afraid of real intimacy and love. How mind-blowingly boring.

Posted by MissBizarre
No he wasn't competitive in any way like the above scenarios with your ex.

He did this thing during phone conversations that I always found a bit freaky, though.

If I began a sentence on the phone and got distracted and didn't finish it, then turned to another topic, no matter how long the rest of the conversation lasted, be it five minutes or an hour - he would always take me by surprise and ask "what were you going to say, when you started to say something - and he would quote back to me what I had started to say, and want me to tell him the rest.

I always found that unusual.

This isn't weird to me only because i do the same exact thing..everytime someone starts to tell me something and then abruptly starts to somethin else it irks me..its not finishing what you started and leaving me hanging on your words..its a peeve

Amethyst, this Capricorn also had his Father up and leave when he was a kid.

I emailed him some information about Narcissist's and what they do. It was an exact carbon copy of all the things he had done during our time together. Right down to what he was attempting to do now by remaining in my life.

He has not contacted me since. He knew he had been exposed and that I would not be of any further use to him. This may change further down the road. It really all depends how long his new 'relationship' lasts.

Hanging up the phone, not answering my door and contacting the police, is my chosen plan of action should he attempt to do so.