update on the FWB situation with cappy dude

Hey everyone,

okay so a little update on my FWB situation..

WELL to be honest, my love hormone kicked in and i have developed a little bit of feeling (DOH!) but I 100% know that we would never ever work, for a few reasons.. but the main one being that i'm leaving for overseas for quite some time. About 3-4 weeks ago, i admitted to liking him a little bit but also advised him that i know we would never work etc and dont expect anything out of it. He then told me that he doesnt like to get too close with people cause he always "fucks up" or something.. and that it takes him ages to get close. I understood and we agreed to continue being FWB which is fine and what i want because i accept it will never be anything more. 🙂

ANYWAY.. we used to talk every single day all day, and were catching up about once a week to watch a movie and have sex.. but, then it all started fading, we didnt talk for 2 weeks straight.. but i wasnt being annoying by messaging him etc, i just left it and even forgot about it for a while. But then on the weekend that just passed, i was out and drunk and messaged him and he was out aswell and was really wasted too. this is our text messages from the night, (p.s: dont judge me, i was so drunk! hahaha)

me: Hello thereee
him: hey where are u gorgeous?
me: im at XX where are you?
him: im at OO 🙂

(those two night clubs are walking distance from eachother)

me: come here. i thought u hated me lol
him: i will! xx No wayyy
me: Promise? ive been like this: 😢
him: dont be sad miss!!!
me: hahaha nah im always happy 🙂
him: its not you, trust me !!!!! your amazing!

and then we ended up meeting up, having a really random fun night with his friends and went back to his friends house, we ended up having amazing sex on drugs and alcohol and i know it was probably just the drugs talking but he wouldnt let me go, he cuddled me infront of his friends all night at his friends house, he kept telling me im cute and gorgeous etc and giving me a million cute kisses all over my face and my hands. and it was nice, but yeah, his brain was frying.

Since then we havent spoken that much, which is fine. but my gemini rising and gemini mars cant help but be extremely curious about every detail in life in general. sooo, what are peopels opinions on this? do you think he likes me but doesnt want to get too close cause hes thinking logically and knows im leaving?.. i keep thinking he just is over the situation and me which doesnt feel v

i keep thinking he just is over the situation and me which doesnt feel very nice 😢 but that might just be me over thinking it. so whats peoples opionions? please be nice! im vulnerable hahahaha

Posted by Lucciferi
I'm pretty sure I told you this last time (feelings).
Just. Move. On.
Take it for whatever unknown thing it is and let it ride.

i will move on i promise, but the curiousity is killing me hahah

Posted by Lucciferi
Or ask him, but you might come of as something unintended depending on what your general relationship is.

Ask him what? i sortof already have, he keeps dodging it, so i dont want to pester him into having a deep and meaningful conversation if he clearly doesnt want to.

ALSO.. when we were on drugs/drunk we were laying down on our sides looking at eachother and kissing and then i said " i have a crush on you" and he said "i have one on you too" and then i laughed and said "no you dont" and he said "i do"

but i cant figure out if thats real, or if it was because his brain was frying and in la la happy land

to be honest, it sounds like its just sex...or fwb.

if you've developed feelings as you say, I really think you should move on. your feelings will get hurt here.

I love deep emotions, feelings and intensity. i cant help it haha! i leave in just over a month.. i guess i just want a quick little fling before i leave. bit selfish of me really but whatevz least im honest!

Posted by CluelessCancer
Dude stop with these fwb. Youre not built for them.

dont tell me how to live my life.

just kidding, but seriously, this is the first official one ive ever had.. probably wont do it again though haha but my god, they are soooo fun!

This reminds me of that song selfie~~

Someone please post it up 😛

"It was the drugs, but I'm still going to ask if he likes me because deep down I want him to like me back. It'll make my lady bits tingle!"

I get that you're curious, but you're just trying to feed an issue that you've admitted to having already.

Short answer- it was the drugs. Take it or leave it. Besides, him settling with you being a fwb and admitting to "fucking up" are also key indicators that much isn't there. Even if it is, it's not worth pondering over. I used to have a Cap fwb, and there was a lot of strange behavior on his part, but it boiled down to possessiveness and him being emotionally retarded.

Moving on is your best bet here.

y'all sound jealous of the party girl

pppfffft

Posted by tiziani

He's feeding your ego since he knows it's the one thing keeping you around.

agreed. he's playing. he's not serious about it and you're enabling it. fun as it might be at times for you, ask yourself what you really really want and nobody else deserves brutal honesty more than you from you.

because i'm willing to bet that most of us saw this...

Posted by scorpio24

WELL to be honest, my love hormone kicked in and i have developed a little bit of feeling (DOH!)

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??_from the last thread when this situation was first brought up ??_coming at us from miles away.

Posted by cookiem0nster
y'all sound jealous of the party girl

What is this, kindergarten? Any difference of opinion = jealousy? Gtfo of here with that elementary type of thinking.

Posted by caliber
i have nothing to add, except..

what's most obnoxious about this thread is the OP's blatant airhead persona. 'hehe' and 'haha' only gets you so far. attempting to look overly good-natured is coming off really fake.

She's 23. It explains that bs.

I miss my Capricorn exes (there were 2). A LOT. Although I was the one breaking up with them. Because of my stupid pride.

Anyway, life is too short. Why don't you show him how passionate you feel about him ? Caps can be kind of dumb anyway, so make the most out of it. Seriously though, all the scorpionic emotions I have held back until now might soon give me cancer. Seduce him. Tell him you want to be his gf (not too serious) until you leave.

Show.him.your.passion. So that he can remember you when he is 90. And remember what a crazy lover you were.

But only if you do feel crazy about him (like I did for my cap exes).

I'm not kidding. I encourage her to express the intensity of her feelings and see what happens.

Posted by beggarsblanket
I'm not kidding. I encourage her to express the intensity of her feelings and see what happens.

You should be.

If you aren't, please stop giving advice. kthx.

apologies for not coming on here earlier, i had a busy week! Firstly, i am 100% not acting fake, its just my personality both behind a keyboard and in person. Also, i wouldnt say i had self esteem issues.. im generally pretty confident, although I would probably benefit from a bit more self-love, but hey im only human! 🙂

Small update: so we've basically not spoken at all since that big weekend, we have a little bit here and there, but i've also noticed that when he's really loose he will contact me. the weekend just passed i woke up to a message from 4:30am saying "oiiiiii" but i was asleep so didnt get it until the morning. when he's sober i feel like he purposely is very distant, he's still a nice guy but its not like it used to, my instinct tells me he's trying not to get too close. i should probably just get over this situation to be honest, but I love getting things my way and dont give up until i do.. which is an unfortunate trait to have at times

Posted by beggarsblanket
I'm not kidding. I encourage her to express the intensity of her feelings and see what happens.

To be honest, this would probably make him more distant, he already knows where he stands in my eyes,this would just make him run i think

Posted by StillWater
"him: its not you, trust me !!!!! your amazing!"

anytime a man (or even a friend) says this, you know you have to run. pack up your shit and say good bye. It's true, it's not you. It's them, and that is why you have to leave because you can't change someone especially when they have accepted it and so desperately need you to understand that.

I think people don't usually want to hurt others but are also selfish so they try to let others know "like hey i'm bad news but i still hope you stick around so I don't have to be alone" but really they don't want you to stick around because it's a constant reminder that they will end up hurting you.

My faith in humanity is sickening.

BOOM

I think secretly she is harboring some kind of emotions towards him but since they have agreed to be FWB she tries to convince herfself that that is indeed all she wants...

Scorps are too passionate to not want a person MIND, body, and SOUL....

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Posted by scorpio24
when he's sober i feel like he purposely is very distant, he's still a nice guy but its not like it used to, my instinct tells me he's trying not to get too close.

Are you secretly hoping that he has feelings for you, even though you know it's never going to work out between the both of the you?

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to be honest, yeah kindof haha. i think i can be selfish like that at times :/

i think i'm just going to try get over it to be honest, he's probably talking to other girls. I'm about to go on a trip of a life time, in one month none of this will matter 🙂

Posted by Peanutbutter
Scorps are too passionate to not want a person MIND, body, and SOUL....

Very true.

This was my first ever FWB set up. and probably the last for my own good haha, but its so fun!

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Posted by Peanutbutter
Scorps are too passionate to not want a person MIND, body, and SOUL....

Very true.

This was my first ever FWB set up. and probably the last for my own good haha, but its so fun!

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Haha I don't blame you. The idea of it is so appealing and you get so caught up in the flame and forget to incorporate reality... we've all been there lol