What is the best way to break up with a cappy guy? (Page 2)

My guess, this other guy was Plan B.

Again, it's a good thing she didn't meet his daughter.

Posted by Capricorn1988
Just break up. If he asks why, tell him the reasons. He will respect your decision and wish you good luck.

+1

But she can't be wishy washy if she takes this route.

Caps need to see strength before they will commit. She isn't showing him much to convince him she's worth the investment. jmho.

(The OP is getting a ton of good advice here... and for this thread to be so long makes one think she's doesn't want to break up with him, but more like manipulate him -- which is weak.)

-- call a thing a thing.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by LadyNeptune
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If you've read her other posts/threads she is considering breaking up with him through text/phone because she's afraid that if she does it face to face he'll be able to convince her otherwise.

By telling him there is someone else in the picture she removes herself from being available in his eyes....

This is the WORST method. He will congratulate himself for not taking it further. No love lost.

If she is still persistent, there wouldn't even be a ground zero for her to start with.

He will 'ice' her out entirely.

If she wants out, the best approach is a more dignified approach...ending things amicably.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
He's a single father, which would make perfect sense for the hesitation.

The issue here isn't the fact that the Cap is moving slow.

He is moving like a man who is in love...and in a relationship...but still being mindful and cautious of his children.

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@TaurusBull1977

+1 Maturity all over your comments, lady. Love "he is moving like a MAN". Regardless of anything else, the MAN thing is the total turn on... oh yeah.

*PF licks her chops*

And THAT is WHY the virgo wants the "title". Period. This man's level of maturity and commitment is making her cream.

@Reincarnation posted a comment on some thread somewhere that said "a mature scorpio man" or something like that. This isn't a scorp situation, but he had it right regardless of sign. #canigittuhamen

I'm not sure why this has to be an either/or situation: you're saying that he can either show action like a "real man" OR give her verbal reassurance like a "little boy" :eye roll:

If he wants her, sees a future with her AND IS SURE of her, he shouldn't feel any pressure to do both.

Her woman's intuition is telling her something is not right and rightfully so.

Posted by WateryVirgo
Her woman's intuition is telling her something is not right and rightfully so.

...Or he may have had some reservations about her for a long term relationship.

When a potential prospect of a relationship is prolonged, people show you who they really are.

This 'new' man of hers was ALWAYS in the photo, patiently waiting.

See, nine months was a long time for this 'new' man as well.

Personally, I think she's mindf% cking the both of them.

Waiting to see if the Cappie is going to jump through loopholes for her, while this new victim watches through the bleachers.

Yes, he could be feeling his own intuition about someone else waiting in the wings. It's unfair to juggle these guys. However, I understand her not wanting to put all of her eggs in one basket, holding out for a "sure thing", especially when this guy refuses to do something as simple as giving verbal reassurance in regards to their relationship status. A lot of men do this all of the time. They have an option a, option b, option c, etc to increase their chances of success. Especially when option a doesn't feel right. The men don't seem to get dogged out for exercising their options as much as women do. She is in the process of dating with the hopes that one of these men will step up and graduate the relationship from more than just friends, cuddle buddies, dinner companion, emotional supportive punching bag, etc. Women should go for what they want and what they feel they deserve. Settling breeds bitterness, resentment and regret. Woman sell themselves short by not going after what they need. She could end up spending the NEXT 9 months of her life, flapping in the wind, not knowing where she stands. Time is a precious thing and every moment should be savored and filled with joy and assurance, not confusion.

I don't understand how expressing how you feel/want verbally is jumping through hoops? lol

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by WateryVirgo
Her woman's intuition is telling her something is not right and rightfully so.

...Or he may have had some reservations about her for a long term relationship.

When a potential prospect of a relationship is prolonged, people show you who they really are.

This 'new' man of hers was ALWAYS in the photo, patiently waiting.

See, nine months was a long time for this 'new' man as well.

Personally, I think she's mindf% cking the both of them.

Waiting to see if the Cappie is going to jump through loopholes for her, while this new victim watches through the bleachers.

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I think you are reading a diiferent thread... There is no other man involved..I am not talking to anyone or seeing anybody..

Call me whatever but I guess my cappy guy sees something in me that is why, he wants to come back.

Maybe the virgo traits in me that some of you guys don't like .He knew me more than all of you people.

Capricorn people will always have a soft spot in my heart.

Thank you all guys for all the comments.. Bad and good , it helps.

Posted by Foreverloveme
The truth. Tell him it isn't working for whatever the reason is & stop all communication

Noted. 🙂

Posted by Foreverloveme
How's life Virgiene?

Thanks for askiing ... Life is good and great..the feeling s are still there, miss him a "LOTTLE", it's like a little but a lot..??..

How about you?

Awww.. Sucks eh? Everyone has a different story and wants a happy ending but what can we do?

Posted by Foreverloveme
How's life Virgiene?

Thanks for askiing ... Life is good and great..the feeling s are still there, miss him a "LOTTLE", it's like a little but a lot..??..

How about you?

I think you just tell cappie the flat un sugar coated truth...this one sign you don't have to coddle or tip toe around