Who has more power in a relationship

Cap m or f

Posted by Shadowcat
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In a relationship with two caps together?

Cap female

Posted by crazysioux
Cap males. Hands down. We get a lot of fucking shade about how we're control freaks and shit. But the truth is we only become control freaks in response to you having failed our most crucial test: how to use and wield power and control responsibly. This test is so subtle that very few people realize it until it's too late, and they've done failed the test, squandered the opportunity, and left us walking away shaking our heads muttering "Fuck! Dammit!" (sometimes with tears in when we have a private moment to ourselves) ...

Inwardly, we were rooting for you, swore up and down you had this test aced. We were your biggest fan, shipper, and champion ... and the worst thing for a Cap in the romantic realm is the feeling of being let down. We take your failures in our tests as a personal failure on our own part, and our greatest fear is failure. And having to sit with ourselves by ourselves thinking your failure of this innocent and logical test is a defacto failure on our part. It's not something we can get over very quickly ...

I understand I relate to my cap moon more than my aries sun

If i let my emotions get to me than my ego comes out

Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

Non. I'm too lazy to take control or even bother to go out and have a relationship.

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

I don't agree with cap woman being traditional. Yeah, she would want a strong ambitious man, but not the "I am the man" type, but an equal partner, someone with whom to build and rule an empire (aka a life together).

Most cap men are too trapped into this "I am a real man" idea; sadly that's where their insecurities lies, they don't know the order; first you have to be a strong human in order to become a strong man.

My cap used to say that my ex (gemini) wasn't a real man and he was somehow right; my ex wasn't a "real man" but he was real, unlike the cap who's just a man too scared to be real.

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

I don't agree with cap woman being traditional. Yeah, she would want a strong ambitious man, but not the "I am the man" type, but an equal partner, someone with whom to build and rule an empire (aka a life together).

Most cap men are too trapped into this "I am a real man" idea; sadly that's where their insecurities lies, they don't know the order; first you have to be a strong human in order to become a strong man.

My cap used to say that my ex (gemini) wasn't a real man and he was somehow right; my ex wasn't a "real man" but he was real, unlike the cap who's just a man too scared to be real.

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That's not what I meant. You're thinking of Aries ('I'm the man because I said so') . I meant more that a Cap man is capable and able to lead not that he disrespects his woman by relegating her to secondary staus. That's something to be valued rather than something that sparks a power struggle. You're a cap, you should know there's no proclamation without the actions to back it up. That should be a given. Most of the caps I know are self-made and have had to fend for themselves to make connections with others, make things happen in their lives, while not compromising their character. That's more real than the parlour tricks your cap was accusing your ex of.

Posted by crazysioux
Cap males. Hands down. We get a lot of fucking shade about how we're control freaks and shit. But the truth is we only become control freaks in response to you having failed our most crucial test: how to use and wield power and control responsibly. This test is so subtle that very few people realize it until it's too late, and they've done failed the test, squandered the opportunity, and left us walking away shaking our heads muttering "Fuck! Dammit!" (sometimes with tears in when we have a private moment to ourselves) ...

Inwardly, we were rooting for you, swore up and down you had this test aced. We were your biggest fan, shipper, and champion ... and the worst thing for a Cap in the romantic realm is the feeling of being let down. We take your failures in our tests as a personal failure on our own part, and our greatest fear is failure. And having to sit with ourselves by ourselves thinking your failure of this innocent and logical test is a defacto failure on our part. It's not something we can get over very quickly ...

Please help me understand this test you speak of better. Can you expand on your idea of power dynamic. As a Taurus I'm persistant and forge, but laid back. Genuinely interested as I'm currently involved with a cap.

I think it’s a bit more nuanced than that.

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Posted by crazysioux
Cap males. Hands down. We get a lot of fucking shade about how we're control freaks and shit. But the truth is we only become control freaks in response to you having failed our most crucial test: how to use and wield power and control responsibly. This test is so subtle that very few people realize it until it's too late, and they've done failed the test, squandered the opportunity, and left us walking away shaking our heads muttering "Fuck! Dammit!" (sometimes with tears in when we have a private moment to ourselves) ...

Inwardly, we were rooting for you, swore up and down you had this test aced. We were your biggest fan, shipper, and champion ... and the worst thing for a Cap in the romantic realm is the feeling of being let down. We take your failures in our tests as a personal failure on our own part, and our greatest fear is failure. And having to sit with ourselves by ourselves thinking your failure of this innocent and logical test is a defacto failure on our part. It's not something we can get over very quickly ...

Please help me understand this test you speak of better. Can you expand on your idea of power dynamic. As a Taurus I'm persistant and forge, but laid back. Genuinely interested as I'm currently involved with a cap.

You've already passed the test. Can't get to the "involvement" stage with Caps without passing this test. When Caps become vulnerable and confess our feelings, we're pretty much doing the unthinkable: giving you sweeping, unchecked, total power to wipe us clean the fuck out. Destroy us utterly. For years. Possibly for freakin' decades.

Gonna pop us for sexual harassment? Damned if we know.

Laugh and humiliate us? Ditto.

Beat around the bush? Dunno there, either.

Were ya just bread-crumbing us up to this very vulnerable moment only so that you can gaslight us by detaching and not reciprocating our affection so that it infuses us with insecurity while granting you power, mystery, control, and a freshly insecure mark to mind-fuck through hot-and-cold narcissistic power games?!?

The responsible answer is an emphatic, "No!" and the responsible thing to do with this power is to not use it to hurt us or to simply give it back. Otherwise, you're gonna find out first hand why Capricorns are often called devil incarnate just before they lock themselves away in solitude to lick their wounds ...

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That’s really disturbing.

Why are women your dating accusing you of sexual harassment?

That’s not a Capricorn trait. That’s a selfish asshole trait.

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Posted by crazysioux
Cap males. Hands down. We get a lot of fucking shade about how we're control freaks and shit. But the truth is we only become control freaks in response to you having failed our most crucial test: how to use and wield power and control responsibly. This test is so subtle that very few people realize it until it's too late, and they've done failed the test, squandered the opportunity, and left us walking away shaking our heads muttering "Fuck! Dammit!" (sometimes with tears in when we have a private moment to ourselves) ...

Inwardly, we were rooting for you, swore up and down you had this test aced. We were your biggest fan, shipper, and champion ... and the worst thing for a Cap in the romantic realm is the feeling of being let down. We take your failures in our tests as a personal failure on our own part, and our greatest fear is failure. And having to sit with ourselves by ourselves thinking your failure of this innocent and logical test is a defacto failure on our part. It's not something we can get over very quickly ...

Please help me understand this test you speak of better. Can you expand on your idea of power dynamic. As a Taurus I'm persistant and forge, but laid back. Genuinely interested as I'm currently involved with a cap.

You've already passed the test. Can't get to the "involvement" stage with Caps without passing this test. When Caps become vulnerable and confess our feelings, we're pretty much doing the unthinkable: giving you sweeping, unchecked, total power to wipe us clean the fuck out. Destroy us utterly. For years. Possibly for freakin' decades.

Gonna pop us for sexual harassment? Damned if we know.

Laugh and humiliate us? Ditto.

Beat around the bush? Dunno there, either.

Were ya just bread-crumbing us up to this very vulnerable moment only so that you can gaslight us by detaching and not reciprocating our affection so that it infuses us with insecurity while granting you power, mystery, control, and a freshly insecure mark to mind-fuck through hot-and-cold narcissistic power games?!?

The responsible answer is an emphatic, "No!" and the responsible thing to do with this power is to not use it to hurt us or to simply give it back. Otherwise, you're gonna find out first hand why Capricorns are often called devil incarnate just before they lock themselves away in solitude to lick their wounds ...

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Unfortunately, its only your wishful thinking. You also have to take responsibility, and face your own crap narcissistic nature time to time. Therefore, upon your bs, you get what you cooked. It's up to your partner what she /he does with your vulnerability, and you can do nothing about it. That's how you "strong, the best etc," capricorn learn that, what goes around can comes around... Capricorns are can be very mature regarding general life matter, however relationship wise extremely immature like a 5 years old. Secondly. If you re haven't been put in your place time to time, your partner loose their respect, so therefore you either will be respectful by default, or you will be forced to respect your partner. I could say, fuck your test, you have exactly not more than zero superiority

Posted by Nightcap-
Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

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Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

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3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

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Non. I'm too lazy to take control or even bother to go out and have a relationship.

Nobody asked why you're single.

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That's easy. Your mother's head game really started to suck

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

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Make sure always start with 1,and 2.you may not stay single forever then.

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

Make sure always start with 1,and 2.you may not stay single forever then.

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I haven’t been single for 3yrs. Don’t worry about me.

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

Make sure always start with 1,and 2.you may not stay single forever then.

I haven’t been single for 3yrs. Don’t worry about me.

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I don't

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

Make sure always start with 1,and 2.you may not stay single forever then.

I haven’t been single for 3yrs. Don’t worry about me.

I don't

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Good.

You’ve been very bitter towards Cap women of late. Take it things didn’t work out with your lady friend?

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

Make sure always start with 1,and 2.you may not stay single forever then.

I haven’t been single for 3yrs. Don’t worry about me.

I don't

Good.

You’ve been very bitter towards Cap women of late. Take it things didn’t work out with your lady friend?

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I might be too direct, or come off too direct sometimes but in generally but it is just me try to be honest and real, including my own criticism. We can't put everyone in the basket and to make opinion of certain signs etc without taking on account the person life experiences, circumstances etc.

Things work out with mine thanks. She have traits which makes her extremely difficult to handle, and others failed shortly. she changing positively gradually, just as do I. We do reflect on each other where to improve and that sometimes is a hard recognition. She is amazing woman, worth all the effort and patience.I love her to pieces and planning to marry her this year.

Sometimes my comments may comes off offensive but these are not directed to individual but the context rather meant to be general. If someone can relate or associates with it, understand anyway where I am coming from.

Are you living together 3 years or dating still? You see there is big difference. I see many here doesn't commit easily, or try to keep some level of independence and operate from that basis. However it's much different to effectively living together which gives much more experience and knowledge to map out personalities.

Thanks for asking 🙂

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

Make sure always start with 1,and 2.you may not stay single forever then.

I haven’t been single for 3yrs. Don’t worry about me.

I don't

Good.

You’ve been very bitter towards Cap women of late. Take it things didn’t work out with your lady friend?

I might be too direct, or come off too direct sometimes but in generally but it is just me try to be honest and real, including my own criticism. We can't put everyone in the basket and to make opinion of certain signs etc without taking on account the person life experiences, circumstances etc.

Things work out with mine thanks. She have traits which makes her extremely difficult to handle, and others failed shortly. she changing positively gradually, just as do I. We do reflect on each other where to improve and that sometimes is a hard recognition. She is amazing woman, worth all the effort and patience.I love her to pieces and planning to marry her this year.
Sometimes my comments may comes off offensive but these are not directed to individual but the context rather meant to be general. If someone can relate or associates with it, understand anyway where I am coming from.
Are you living together 3 years or dating still? You see there is big difference. I see many here doesn't commit easily, or try to keep some level of independence and operate from that basis. However it's much different to effectively living together which gives much more experience and knowledge to map out personalities.
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It comes off like you get angry at her for stuff and then take that frustration out on here.

For reasons I don’t care to go into, we do not live together. I don’t see us cohabiting until we either marry or all of my kids are out of the house. Don’t mistake our living arrangement as a lack of commitment.

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Cap M. It isn't that cap f isn't capable. She is. It's more that she's likely to be traditional and wants the man to be a man..so doesn't mind acquiescing if there's leadership qualities and character present.

There’s truth in this. I’ll follow you into the dark if I trust you know where tf you’re taking us. Let me down enough and I’m taking the wheel, losing respect for you in the process.

Problem usually occur with this situation, you may expect others do the way you would do, 1 therefore you appear egoistic, and self centered, 2 yourself fails or unable to pull it off what you expect from others.

3. This is what dating is for. I just found out our future is incompatible. 4. Bye.

Make sure always start with 1,and 2.you may not stay single forever then.

I haven’t been single for 3yrs. Don’t worry about me.

I don't

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You’ve been very bitter towards Cap women of late. Take it things didn’t work out with your lady friend?

I might be too direct, or come off too direct sometimes but in generally but it is just me try to be honest and real, including my own criticism. We can't put everyone in the basket and to make opinion of certain signs etc without taking on account the person life experiences, circumstances etc.



Things work out with mine thanks. She have traits which makes her extremely difficult to handle, and others failed shortly. she changing positively gradually, just as do I. We do reflect on each other where to improve and that sometimes is a hard recognition. She is amazing woman, worth all the effort and patience.I love her to pieces and planning to marry her this year.

Sometimes my comments may comes off offensive but these are not directed to individual but the context rather meant to be general. If someone can relate or associates with it, understand anyway where I am coming from.

Are you living together 3 years or dating still? You see there is big difference. I see many here doesn't commit easily, or try to keep some level of independence and operate from that basis. However it's much different to effectively living together which gives much more experience and knowledge to map out personalities.

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It comes off like you get angry at her for stuff and then take that frustration out on here.

For reasons I don’t care to go into, we do not live together. I don’t see us cohabiting until we either marry or all of my kids are out of the house. Don’t mistake our living arrangement as a lack of commitment. click to expand

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Caps can commit just as rams do I definitely not mistaken that.

Not frustrated at all, obviously we all have positive and less positive traits and I try to put both always, if you had chance to read by any occasion.

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I think my two cap male colleagues are afraid of my female cap colleague. She is bat shit crazy sometimes.

Lol. Yes, that's just about fits. Sometimes 🙂)

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Cap males. Hands down. We get a lot of treetrunking shade about how we're control freaks and butter. But the truth is we only become control freaks in response to you having failed our most crucial test: how to use and wield power and control responsibly. This test is so subtle that very few people realize it until it's too late, and they've done failed the test, squandered the opportunity, and left us walking away shaking our heads muttering "treetrunk! Dammit!" (sometimes with tears in when we have a private moment to ourselves) ...

Inwardly, we were rooting for you, swore up and down you had this test aced. We were your biggest fan, shipper, and champion ... and the worst thing for a Cap in the romantic realm is the feeling of being let down. We take your failures in our tests as a personal failure on our own part, and our greatest fear is failure. And having to sit with ourselves by ourselves thinking your failure of this innocent and logical test is a defacto failure on our part. It's not something we can get over very quickly ...

Please help me understand this test you speak of better. Can you expand on your idea of power dynamic. As a Taurus I'm persistant and forge, but laid back. Genuinely interested as I'm currently involved with a cap.

You've already passed the test. Can't get to the "involvement" stage with Caps without passing this test. When Caps become vulnerable and confess our feelings, we're pretty much doing the unthinkable: giving you sweeping, unchecked, total power to wipe us clean the treetrunk out. Destroy us utterly. For years. Possibly for freakin' decades.

Gonna pop us for sexual harassment? Damned if we know.

Laugh and humiliate us? Ditto.

Beat around the bush? Dunno there, either.

Were ya just bread-crumbing us up to this very vulnerable moment only so that you can gaslight us by detaching and not reciprocating our affection so that it infuses us with insecurity while granting you power, mystery, control, and a freshly insecure mark to mind-treetrunk through hot-and-cold narcissistic power games?!?

The responsible answer is an emphatic, "No!" and the responsible thing to do with this power is to not use it to hurt us or to simply give it back. Otherwise, you're gonna find out first hand why Capricorns are often called devil incarnate just before they lock themselves away in solitude to lick their wounds ... click to expand

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First of all I want to say thank you for responding and apologize for taking so long to reciprocate. Life is crazy at times and I like to take my time (and get my bearings) to do things as best I can. However, I have wanted to get back to you since as I wish I had your certainty.

While we've only been "involved" for three months and as it's long distance, haven't seen each other (outside of video chatting) since the start of March. We do talk daily, have amazing chemistry, lots in common (work, spirituality..NOT politics, which he is passionate about) so I have seen what a sincerely kind-hearted and open guy he is. He video chatted me for my birthday, which was last week, and dedicated a song "to a special lady" at karaoke. After going out of my norm, on a few outings he picked a heated fight over our views of hospitality. He's a Latino, as am I, and he is also Jewish, but his parents were always working and he believes in saving money. He distanced himself and spoke of breaking up. We've since made up, text daily, but for the past several days he's been quite distant. He said his never seen me that "ghetto", and it was like I could get up and leave him with a simple "not working, no hard feelings", which couldn't be further from the truth. Just wanted to finish my sentence. He'll say I can tell when I say I miss you and to my "good night, baby" he responded last night with a "night (thumps up)". As a Taurus, it hurts becuase I would never breed uncertainty into a relationship in any way, even if I was questioning it, before making up my mind months later that it just wasn't working. I've read a ton on Caps taking a while to warm up, but not as much on a very warm cap doing that a few months down the line after opening up. I'm waiting it out and thinking of talking to him about it, apologizing. Hello eggshells. Anyways, Crazysioux for listening..