Apologizing to a cap

I sent a mean text to my cap almost 3 weeks ago, the second day he sent me a text saying that this time I really made him feel like a shitty person.

The question is : should I apologize even though I don't wanna see him ever again (no bad feelings here) ?

I feel bad because that was an impulsive text filled with my frustrations and anger, and I am not like that.

If you don't wanna ever see him again why do u care whether or not he forgives you?😒

NO APOLOGIES as a wise Eminem once said

The problem here is more between me and myself, I can't have peace knowing that I hurt or offend someone (even if they deserve it).

I can't be the only one, right?

Save your breath cap men could care less about an apology. Apologize to yourself

Posted by miriyahhh
Save your breath cap men could care less about an apology. Apologize to yourself

Ah how many times have i tried apologizing to my cap? Lol he never takes it in fact it makes him more mad that you would bring it back up. Idk just learn from your mistakes if you want them around. Since you don’t just let him know you’re sorry and no hard feelings but you would rather stay friends.

I don’t see the conversation going in your favor though, because if you do end up walking away from him he’s going to look at you like “then what’s the point in you apologizing?” Then he’s going to discredit your whole apology! Lol and that my friends is the merry go around with a caps

No apology then 🙂

Apology is not for the other person but for you.

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by miriyahhh
Save your breath cap men could care less about an apology. Apologize to yourself

Ah how many times have i tried apologizing to my cap? Lol he never takes it in fact it makes him more mad that you would bring it back up. Idk just learn from your mistakes if you want them around. Since you don’t just let him know you’re sorry and no hard feelings but you would rather stay friends.

I don’t see the conversation going in your favor though, because if you do end up walking away from him he’s going to look at you like “then what’s the point in you apologizing?” Then he’s going to discredit your whole apology! Lol and that my friends is the merry go around with a caps

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The only apology worth anything to cap male or female is in gift form. Even then that may only get u very far.

Caps love languages are Gifts

Posted by Capricorn91
Apology is not for the other person but for you.

That's what I want, I don't really care what he will think if I apologize, it's more about cleaning my conscience.

Posted by justlikeheaven

Posted by Capricorn91
Apology is not for the other person but for you.

That's what I want, I don't really care what he will think if I apologize, it's more about cleaning my conscience.

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Then just do it. He might like it.

Posted by miriyahhh

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by miriyahhh
Save your breath cap men could care less about an apology. Apologize to yourself

Ah how many times have i tried apologizing to my cap? Lol he never takes it in fact it makes him more mad that you would bring it back up. Idk just learn from your mistakes if you want them around. Since you don’t just let him know you’re sorry and no hard feelings but you would rather stay friends.

I don’t see the conversation going in your favor though, because if you do end up walking away from him he’s going to look at you like “then what’s the point in you apologizing?” Then he’s going to discredit your whole apology! Lol and that my friends is the merry go around with a caps

The only apology worth anything to cap male or female is in gift form. Even then that may only get u very far.

Caps love languages are Gifts

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Lol that’s what they want you to think but it’s always going to be held over you. Your mistakes are permanent with a cap

Posted by justlikeheaven
The problem here is more between me and myself, I can't have peace knowing that I hurt or offend someone (even if they deserve it).

I can't be the only one, right?

Send it. You never know if and how your paths will cross again!

Posted by UnicornSag
learn to forgive yourself without asking for forgiveness from other people. No one knows better what's in your head than you do so if you don't want to have anything to do with him again and it doesn't matter if he forgives or not then just do it for yourself, completely regardless on him

Yeah, that's what I'll do. I know who I am so I shouldn't try to prove my integrity to him.

In the end what I said in that text was nothing but the truth, so why should I say sorry for being hurt (by him)..?

I guess it's time to learn to walk away without looking back, knowing that I tried my best.

Thanks everyone for your opinions! It did helped me taking a final decision. 🙂

when i'm in a situation like that i say exactly how i feel:

I'm sorry that I said those mean things but it's the truth. I don't want to make you feel bad but at the same time I needed you to know what was on my mind. I hope you make the best of it and don't take it to heart.

Posted by stillstillwater
when i'm in a situation like that i say exactly how i feel:

I'm sorry that I said those mean things but it's the truth. I don't want to make you feel bad but at the same time I needed you to know what was on my mind. I hope you make the best of it and don't take it to heart.

Yes, this is what I do too, like in 99% of the situations, but this is the exception.

Even though I've aggressively exposed all my frustrations in a bad time (midnight text) and out of nowhere, that's who I was at that moment.

Throwing a tantrum seems immature (even more for a cap), I'm so rational and calculated all the time that when I finally do talk about my feelings I end up being ashamed and feeling sorry.

Well, I shouldn't.

An apology would be like "sorry for saying the truth in a bad manner, I was a bitch, also I am guilty for everything that ever happened between us and I take responsibility for all that went wrong, you are not a shitty person, not at all, you're just a victim of the circumstances; only God knows how you end up in this mess. Now go and take good care of your poor fragile ego and give a boost to that low self-esteem."

Actually this is funny 😂 that's how I should apologize 😊 , but of course, I won't 🙂.

Posted by justlikeheaven

Posted by stillstillwater
when i'm in a situation like that i say exactly how i feel:

I'm sorry that I said those mean things but it's the truth. I don't want to make you feel bad but at the same time I needed you to know what was on my mind. I hope you make the best of it and don't take it to heart.

Yes, this is what I do too, like in 99% of the situations, but this is the exception.

Even though I've aggressively exposed all my frustrations in a bad time (midnight text) and out of nowhere, that's who I was at that moment.

Throwing a tantrum seems immature (even more for a cap), I'm so rational and calculated all the time that when I finally do talk about my feelings I end up being ashamed and feeling sorry.

Well, I shouldn't.

An apology would be like "sorry for saying the truth in a bad manner, I was a bitch, also I am guilty for everything that ever happened between us and I take responsibility for all that went wrong, you are not a shitty person, not at all, you're just a victim of the circumstances; only God knows how you end up in this mess. Now go and take good care of your poor fragile ego and give a boost to that low self-esteem."

Actually this is funny 😂 that's how I should apologize 😊 , but of course, I won't 🙂.

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Dont apologize.... if your paths ever cross again, you can do it in person

if you now apologize, in any manner, he would rightfully think you want to maintain contact

if you felt that way, he probably deserved it, so its a good thing you finally told him off and get it from your chest

it may actually help him

if you apologize, he will never learn from his mistakes

instead of an apology, take it as a lesson for the future: do not send emotional midnight texts 🙂

I heard someone saying this to a cap once and hope it helps you guys since you're all about "honesty" even if its ugly...

"honesty without tact is cruelty"

I used to work with a cap girl, she would try to get me in trouble all the time, this was in high school, and my boss at the time saw her doing this to alot of our co-workers and had to have a talk with her and thats what i heard her say to her. She also sees nothing wrong with her honesty but you guys, theres a better way to handle it grow up.

It's useless apologizing to a Cap lol. Just move on.