Will i ever find the One?

Man am i hurt. All my past relationships were hurtful. Been lied to and left by two exes who i have been nothing but good to. Hurt deeply by all three. I'm giving up on love. My heart is at its breaking point. Am i the problem? why don't i deserve to be treated with love? I dress appropriately, i love with my all and i'm successful. I'm not mean so why do i always get my heart broken? how can i stop it?

"Nothing but good to them"

So perhaps you were too good to them?

Don't give up on love. You're a good catch for the person who's right for you. You just haven't found him yet. Stop searching and he will fall into your lap.

*hugs*

Girl, you don't involve your heart lol.

Really, successfully married Cap women seem to be with guys that were/are waayyyy more into them. I don't think we have luck with guys we are more into, but that's just my opinion.

You need to de-personalize other people's dysfunction. Realize that the other's inability to treat you with care, respect, kindness, and fairness is their problem. Learn to avoid these problematic people like the plague anf stop personalizing their issues. In other words, know your value and worth. Stop expecting others to provide a treatment level that makes you feel like you're worth something.

You're worth it simply because you're living. End of story. Stop allowing people to scribble pages of crap as an add on. It's not necessary.

Have you seen a person over do it in their appearance? You can tell where they should have stopped or pulled back. Our individual worth is like a classic simple white dress with a classy statement neck piece and small earrings with a simple pair of shoes. It just works.

You're worth it simply because you're living. END OF STORY.

Explain to me exactly what i'm doing wrong here. I don't act desperate, i'm always loyal i don't show off or act as if i'm better than anybody. Never tried to change anybody. I've been through pain after pain after pain. I've took time out to date i don't just jump from relationship to relationship. I've been hurting for years. I've literally cried during praying, cried before sleeping. I want to understand why they broke my heart so badly? I'm afraid to even go into any relationship, i'm angry all the time not because i want to but because everytime i think of it hurts terribly. Nothing hurt more than an ex who met my family pretending to care and love me and then i find out he was just a lie. He was still with his so claimed Ex. I'm buried in pain. suffocated with heartaches. The exs lied about being with my friends one married my friend and all they said was sorry but sorry didn't take the pain away. I'm trying not to hate men but it seems as if they are all the same.

I dont know, maybe Im just that self centered, but if those things happened to me I'd automatically go into self-reflection mode.

Imo it would mean there's a crack somewhere in the foundation, maybe you haven't completely healed from something in your past, maybe you don't feel good or secure within yourself, maybe you are looking for love to feel complete. Idk, but you attract no-good guys/people that see the
opening to abuse or mistreat you. You attract mistreatment and its up to you to figure out why.

Your post is very surface initially. "I dont show off, I dont try to change anyone, Im loyal." But then you get into the fact that you havent really healed from whats been done to you in the past. That "buried" pain is visible to hounds who hunt for internally broken people just like you. The Universe is telling you If you cant move on, then you literally cannot move on.