Why does my male coworker act like he hates me? :(

We are coworkers/friends , however, he treats me very differently than our other coworkers/friends.

When we first met he was really nice but something changed, now he has this aggression/tense reaction towards me.

I get along great with all of my other coworkers and I like for my work environment to be enjoyable but I don't understand where this tension is coming from.

Because he acts this way, it has caused me to be a bit passive aggressive with him, it's just a mess.

I'm into astrology so I've done charts with all of my friends, most seem light, fun and airy. But does ours seem a bit tense?

I'm the inner circle

He is the outer circle

Kindly mention the signs too this chart can only be used to check aspects not signs

What is your sun moon mer venus mars sign what are his signs?

Posted by Pari23

Kindly mention the signs too this chart can only be used to check aspects not signs

What is your sun moon mer venus mars sign what are his signs?

Me:

sun Aquarius

moon cancer

mercury Aquarius

venus arises

Mars cancer

His:

sun Gemini

moon libra

mercury Gemini

venus Taurus

mars virgo

Posted by PVAFDeux

The house placements aren't accurate unless you know his time of birth.

I've asked him casually and he told me 3pm.

So these should be the accurate house placements

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Posted by summertoms

Posted by PVAFDeux

The house placements aren't accurate unless you know his time of birth.

I've asked him casually and he told me 3pm.

So these should be the accurate house placements

I clicked on your profile by accident trying to reply. If that's you then wow, you're beautiful. Maybe he actually likes you and doesn't know how to show it without coming off like an asshole. Maybe he is annoyed you haven't reciprocated his attraction.

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That's not me lol

Posted by summertoms

Posted by PVAFDeux

The house placements aren't accurate unless you know his time of birth.

I've asked him casually and he told me 3pm.

So these should be the accurate house placements

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He can’t hate you THAT much if he felt comfortable telling you his time of birth.

Maybe cut out the passive aggressive shit and see if there’s a shift in his behavior

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Posted by PVAFDeux

The house placements aren't accurate unless you know his time of birth.

I've asked him casually and he told me 3pm.

So these should be the accurate house placements

I clicked on your profile by accident trying to reply. If that's you then wow, you're beautiful. Maybe he actually likes you and doesn't know how to show it without coming off like an asshole. Maybe he is annoyed you haven't reciprocated his attraction.

That's not me lol

LOL. It's probably some celebrity I never heard of on your profile. As you were.

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She a Japanese model actress if you're interested. Rena Takeda. Very cute.

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Posted by PVAFDeux

The house placements aren't accurate unless you know his time of birth.

I've asked him casually and he told me 3pm.

So these should be the accurate house placements

He can’t hate you THAT much if he felt comfortable telling you his time of birth.

Maybe cut out the passive aggressive shit and see if there’s a shift in his behavior

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I was casually asking everyone at a table lol And I'm only passive aggressive because of how he treats me. I try to switch it up and be nice, but he goes out of his way to treat me a certain way. He recently told my friend that he liked him and thought he was cool, when I jokingly asked him "what about me" he just stared at me and stayed silent.

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

You have a lot of tight aspects to everything, both harmonious and acrimonious. He probably isn't quite sure how he feels about you, but maybe is annoyed that you make him feel stuff in general. It's possible there is sexual tension.

Thank you. I guess that would explain why in the beginning he was so nice and now not so much. Our friendship dynamic is very strange.

Maybe the right aspects are causing confusion? He is kind and acts like a real friend to our other friends.

Do you see anything specific that would be alarming?

Why not just ASK? You said he was your friend, correct?

Posted by sweetpea2977

Why not just ASK? You said he was your friend, correct?

It's not that simple. He is a gaslighting type. That's why I wanted a chart interpretation.

Posted by summertoms

We are coworkers/friends , however, he treats me very differently than our other coworkers/friends.

When we first met he was really nice but something changed, now he has this aggression/tense reaction towards me.

I get along great with all of my other coworkers and I like for my work environment to be enjoyable but I don't understand where this tension is coming from.

Because he acts this way, it has caused me to be a bit passive aggressive with him, it's just a mess.

I'm into astrology so I've done charts with all of my friends, most seem light, fun and airy. But does ours seem a bit tense?

I'm the inner circle

He is the outer circle

Look at the squares, particularly the MC squares. The squares are significant. MC represents the career life and aspirations. The Midheaven, MC, is one of the most important angles in the birth chart.

The Moon square Moon is quite an impact as well, then Ascendant square Moon and Ascendant square Mars.

A quick google will give the details of these aspects.

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Posted by summertoms

We are coworkers/friends , however, he treats me very differently than our other coworkers/friends.

When we first met he was really nice but something changed, now he has this aggression/tense reaction towards me.

I get along great with all of my other coworkers and I like for my work environment to be enjoyable but I don't understand where this tension is coming from.

Because he acts this way, it has caused me to be a bit passive aggressive with him, it's just a mess.

I'm into astrology so I've done charts with all of my friends, most seem light, fun and airy. But does ours seem a bit tense?

I'm the inner circle

He is the outer circle

Look at the squares, particularly the MC squares. The squares are significant. MC represents the career life and aspirations. The Midheaven, MC, is one of the most important angles in the birth chart.

The Moon square Moon is quite an impact as well, then Ascendant square Moon and Ascendant square Mars.

A quick google will give the details of these aspects.

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Thanks will look into those aspects!

Yeah moon square moon can be pretty bad. It says our emotions are just not aligned.

Posted by bumboklatt

You said it. He acts like he hates you

Men usually dont hate women. Unless theyre really effeminate. Otherwise they wanna bang but dont know where to start so sexual tension is born aka manbish

Hm interesting, never thought of that. I don't know which aspects would show sexual tension. Apparently a lot of Mars contacts are supposed to show that but I didnt think we had any Mars contacts or sexual aspects. Thanks!

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Posted by bumboklatt

You said it. He acts like he hates you

Men usually dont hate women. Unless theyre really effeminate. Otherwise they wanna bang but dont know where to start so sexual tension is born aka manbish

Hm interesting, never thought of that. I don't know which aspects would show sexual tension. Apparently a lot of Mars contacts are supposed to show that but I didnt think we had any Mars contacts or sexual aspects. Thanks!

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Venus opposition Pluto

Lilith square Venus

he probably likes you but isn't telling you. My Gemini acted like he didn't like me at first too. Once I said fiune, I don't care, he changed up and was all over me.

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Posted by bumboklatt

You said it. He acts like he hates you

Men usually dont hate women. Unless theyre really effeminate. Otherwise they wanna bang but dont know where to start so sexual tension is born aka manbish

Hm interesting, never thought of that. I don't know which aspects would show sexual tension. Apparently a lot of Mars contacts are supposed to show that but I didnt think we had any Mars contacts or sexual aspects. Thanks!

Venus opposition Pluto

Lilith square Venus

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I looked into both. That venus opposites Pluto seems pretty scary and intense. I also looked over the aspects again and saw Pluto trine venus. So that would be two venus/Pluto aspects which may possibly explain why he acts like he hates me. Apparently it's a breeding ground for love hate relationships.

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Posted by bumboklatt

You said it. He acts like he hates you

Men usually dont hate women. Unless theyre really effeminate. Otherwise they wanna bang but dont know where to start so sexual tension is born aka manbish

Hm interesting, never thought of that. I don't know which aspects would show sexual tension. Apparently a lot of Mars contacts are supposed to show that but I didnt think we had any Mars contacts or sexual aspects. Thanks!

Well your mars are trine. Thats a good aspect. Theres lots of good aspects the only thing i see challenging is your venus to his mars.

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It's strange that even with a lot of good aspects, when I'm in the same space as him, the energy and tension is just way too thick. We can't even really have a simple conversation most times. It's like pulling teeth to get him and I to even acknowledge each other and when we do, an argument will happen unless we cut things short lol I have never gone through this with a man.

Thanks!

Posted by saggurl88

he probably likes you but isn't telling you. My Gemini acted like he didn't like me at first too. Once I said fiune, I don't care, he changed up and was all over me.

Was your Gemini nonchalant or an actual A-hole to you?

My coworker would be a damn good actor if this was the case. I've always thought that when a man likes a woman, he'll show that with his actions.

I remember when he was attracted to a past employee, he would offer her rides, ask her out and be really sweet. He has never done this with me, ever. So Its hard for me to believe that him liking me is the case since I've seen him in action when he likes a woman.

There are a few cases I've seen him act weird like seeming nervous and leaving a location early as soon as I got there, one time glaring at me when I was talking to a certain male coworker, replying to other people when I ask him a question as if they asked him instead of me, and avoiding eye contact.

If he liked me this would be the meanest way I have ever seen a man go about it, especially when he's normally sweeter to other girls. It makes me want to punch him just thinking about it. lol

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Posted by saggurl88

he probably likes you but isn't telling you. My Gemini acted like he didn't like me at first too. Once I said fiune, I don't care, he changed up and was all over me.

Was your Gemini nonchalant or an actual A-hole to you?

My coworker would be a damn good actor if this was the case. I've always thought that when a man likes a woman, he'll show that with his actions.

I remember when he was attracted to a past employee, he would offer her rides, ask her out and be really sweet. He has never done this with me, ever. So Its hard for me to believe that him liking me is the case since I've seen him in action when he likes a woman.

There are a few cases I've seen him act weird like seeming nervous and leaving a location early as soon as I got there, one time glaring at me when I was talking to a certain male coworker, replying to other people when I ask him a question as if they asked him instead of me, and avoiding eye contact.

If he liked me this would be the meanest way I have ever seen a man go about it, especially when he's normally sweeter to other girls. It makes me want to punch him just thinking about it. lol

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It’s hard to say. My Gemini was mean to me in the beginning and then I just started being mean back and he started pursuing me.

But this is a work situation.

There really isn’t a need to dislike you, unless you guys are in competing positions.

Gemini’s usually like everyone unless your a Debbie downer and always act negatively.

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Posted by saggurl88

he probably likes you but isn't telling you. My Gemini acted like he didn't like me at first too. Once I said fiune, I don't care, he changed up and was all over me.

Was your Gemini nonchalant or an actual A-hole to you?

My coworker would be a damn good actor if this was the case. I've always thought that when a man likes a woman, he'll show that with his actions.

I remember when he was attracted to a past employee, he would offer her rides, ask her out and be really sweet. He has never done this with me, ever. So Its hard for me to believe that him liking me is the case since I've seen him in action when he likes a woman.

There are a few cases I've seen him act weird like seeming nervous and leaving a location early as soon as I got there, one time glaring at me when I was talking to a certain male coworker, replying to other people when I ask him a question as if they asked him instead of me, and avoiding eye contact.

If he liked me this would be the meanest way I have ever seen a man go about it, especially when he's normally sweeter to other girls. It makes me want to punch him just thinking about it. lol

It’s hard to say. My Gemini was mean to me in the beginning and then I just started being mean back and he started pursuing me.

But this is a work situation.

There really isn’t a need to dislike you, unless you guys are in competing positions.

Gemini’s usually like everyone unless your a Debbie downer and always act negatively.

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This happens with me too until I stick up for myself

I'm wtf is ya problem

My work actions always speak louder

So in the end they respect me



Haaaaa, this is why I work with animals lol

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Posted by saggurl88

he probably likes you but isn't telling you. My Gemini acted like he didn't like me at first too. Once I said fiune, I don't care, he changed up and was all over me.

Was your Gemini nonchalant or an actual A-hole to you?

My coworker would be a damn good actor if this was the case. I've always thought that when a man likes a woman, he'll show that with his actions.

I remember when he was attracted to a past employee, he would offer her rides, ask her out and be really sweet. He has never done this with me, ever. So Its hard for me to believe that him liking me is the case since I've seen him in action when he likes a woman.

There are a few cases I've seen him act weird like seeming nervous and leaving a location early as soon as I got there, one time glaring at me when I was talking to a certain male coworker, replying to other people when I ask him a question as if they asked him instead of me, and avoiding eye contact.

If he liked me this would be the meanest way I have ever seen a man go about it, especially when he's normally sweeter to other girls. It makes me want to punch him just thinking about it. lol

It’s hard to say. My Gemini was mean to me in the beginning and then I just started being mean back and he started pursuing me.

But this is a work situation.

There really isn’t a need to dislike you, unless you guys are in competing positions.

Gemini’s usually like everyone unless your a Debbie downer and always act negatively.

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My mother and father are both Gemini, I've also dated a Gemini and a lot of my friends are Gemini. I've seen them dislike people for all kinds of various reasons.

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he probably likes you but isn't telling you. My Gemini acted like he didn't like me at first too. Once I said fiune, I don't care, he changed up and was all over me.

Was your Gemini nonchalant or an actual A-hole to you?

My coworker would be a damn good actor if this was the case. I've always thought that when a man likes a woman, he'll show that with his actions.

I remember when he was attracted to a past employee, he would offer her rides, ask her out and be really sweet. He has never done this with me, ever. So Its hard for me to believe that him liking me is the case since I've seen him in action when he likes a woman.

There are a few cases I've seen him act weird like seeming nervous and leaving a location early as soon as I got there, one time glaring at me when I was talking to a certain male coworker, replying to other people when I ask him a question as if they asked him instead of me, and avoiding eye contact.

If he liked me this would be the meanest way I have ever seen a man go about it, especially when he's normally sweeter to other girls. It makes me want to punch him just thinking about it. lol

It’s hard to say. My Gemini was mean to me in the beginning and then I just started being mean back and he started pursuing me.

But this is a work situation.

There really isn’t a need to dislike you, unless you guys are in competing positions.

Gemini’s usually like everyone unless your a Debbie downer and always act negatively.

My mother and father are both Gemini, I've also dated a Gemini and a lot of my friends are Gemini. I've seen them dislike people for all kinds of various reasons.

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It was a thought in passing, not necessarily a fact about a whole sun sign. 🙂 Of course people dislike people for different reasons. I was just saying more that there is no reason for him to dislike you for no reason.