Online dating vs dating in person

Yesterday Dazed published that couples met online are less happy than those ones who met in person.

https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/68440/1/couples-who-meet-on-dating-apps-are-doomed-science-says

What was your experience?

I have noticed that. Especially with the speed dating ones (apps)

But usually the people that rely on those apps are boring themselves (no offense)

Romance is fueled by creativity and if you got none, well.

I find for myself, it's the same either way. Either you click or you don't.

Either you want to build with somebody or you don't. It doesn't take me long to figure out who's worth it and who isn't.

Also, roughly about 60% of us in the dating pool? Fucking delusional. 💯

Posted by TarvosTrigaranos
Just give me an 8 with a diet coke.. thats code for a fairly attractive person with eating disorder and an 8 ball. Give it time, someone will create that app.

There (were, probably still are) a few dark web exchange platforms like this except it was moreso slave auctioning than consensual dating

Or you could try manilacourtesans.com

In addition to the things people already mentioned, a big thing is people misrepresent themselves. Not only who they are but photos are so doctored, it doesn't even look like them in person. I see people using photos from ten years ago that are enhanced. Often it is the person, but there's a certain level of catfishing to it. Better to get a real sense of them in person initially before you get attached online and get stuck in something you end up regretting.

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Posted by TarvosTrigaranos
Just give me an 8 with a diet coke.. thats code for a fairly attractive person with eating disorder and an 8 ball. Give it time, someone will create that app.

There (were, probably still are) a few dark web exchange platforms like this except it was moreso slave auctioning than consensual dating

Or you could try manilacourtesans.com

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That sounds romantic as fuck! *sarcasm*


The people auctioning themselves as slaves? Or did the Dutch West India Trading Company create an online store?

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I imagine the manila courtesans have go-sees of sorts, except maybe in some cases

The darkweb sites, I'm thinking of archetyp marketplace for the 8ball × Hurt2thecore for drug-addicted Filipina/australian sex slaves with EDs. I learned from the excellent movie Sinful Dwarf that heroin was the choice drug sex traffickers used to control slaves, imagine a twacked out sex slave. No bueno

In person is faster

There are more introverts online aka

Basement dwellers

They want to pretend they have options online

Some are just attention whores

Posted by Nightcap-
In addition to the things people already mentioned, a big thing is people misrepresent themselves. Not only who they are but photos are so doctored, it doesn't even look like them in person. I see people using photos from ten years ago that are enhanced. Often it is the person, but there's a certain level of catfishing to it. Better to get a real sense of them in person initially before you get attached online and get stuck in something you end up regretting.

Angles can be deceiving too

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In addition to the things people already mentioned, a big thing is people misrepresent themselves. Not only who they are but photos are so doctored, it doesn't even look like them in person. I see people using photos from ten years ago that are enhanced. Often it is the person, but there's a certain level of catfishing to it. Better to get a real sense of them in person initially before you get attached online and get stuck in something you end up regretting.

Angles can be deceiving too

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Yeah but now they have videos and you can take multiple angles. There's no excuse nowadays to getting catfished by looks. Unless it's someone else lol. Like my friend who got semi-catfished. The angles were good but the pictures were grainy 😂

Fake News judging by the link description, haven't read the article to confirm if the sentiments are thr same.

If it's the same Dazed who used to show up here before November 2020, with Patrick from SpongeBob as his/her avatar, then its's not surprising.

Lol reminds me of someone from here who wouldnt want to facetime me, not sure why and could be anything but it makes you wonder

The only attention I get is from women I dated like a decade ago. In person, and not through a dating app. I tried dating apps many, many times and know I could have found more women though them. Even now at 35 I could message 100 women from 25 to 40 and would easily get dozens. I'm just too lazy, and never was that thirsty. I truly love the attention, but if you think im going to take time out of my me time to meet some random chick from the internet you're crazy. I dont even want to meet random people is see irl anymore tbh. I have enough thirsty desperate women I dated in the past who hate their current relationship, and think I'll be their savior. That or a good fuck when their lover stops passionately touching them. Fuck that. They only want me as a means of escape, but never because they truly love the real me. You think I really want to actually add another to the roster at this point?

2012 was my last in person date with a Taurus banker

Titanic rose voice : it’s been 85 years…

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2012 was my last in person date with a Taurus banker

Titanic rose voice : it’s been 85 years…

Finally! How is it going there, Ands?

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I got Covid so my date was side tracked 😅

Gemini with Taurus Moon looks like sadako but at least thigh gap 😆

It really depends.

In person is easier because usually the people I date are already vouched for. Internet dating for me takes a whole lot more vetting. A lot of crazies on there, but I like that I don't need to go out and find someone to talk to just from my comfy bed or sofa.

I've only been on a handful of dates from online dating and the longest that lasted was 6 months, so YMMV...

I agree that you’ll mostly find introverts in online dating where people are seeking a long term relationship vs using it for hookups.

Implying introverts are boring and not as romantic is sadly kind of accurate. I think the “problem” is many of them can easily live in their heads. Meeting someone online further feeds the imagination until meeting in real life pops some of the delusions.

I had briefly done some social experiments when it came to online dating. I think it’s a great way to build confidence and push yourself to put yourself out there when you’re not a social butterfly.

There are definitely more hidden gems of people in the real world that don’t partake in online dating. But you really have to be physically putting yourself out there which can be exhausting to an introvert.

I’m trying to evaluate all the long term couples I’ve come across and their quality of relationships… I think there’s often a lot more external community (friends and family) connected to someone when you meet in person vs online.

I had a friend who would push the things she wanted in a long term relationship onto her boyfriends regardless of if she met them in person or online… ultimately it led to her wanting to divorce her husband that she met on Bumble. For the record, she’s a huge extrovert. But then there’s this acquaintance of hers who has a huge social media presence (400,000+ followers on instagram) who’s also an architect that met her doctor husband online. They luxury travel and have this picture perfect life. There are studies that say posting excessively about one’s life is correlated to whether they’re actually happy in real life or not. There’s been a wave of so many influencers suddenly divorcing. The psychology of it all is fascinating to me and obviously to an outsider only time can tell.

I've actually never sustained a relationship or a romance with anyone I've met online. Despite dating lots of people from dating apps over the years, I had two relationships with people who I met as friends of friends/ from the same friend circle. People I meet online never seem to have the same set of values and general interests as me.

I would say that is accurate. When meeting online, you do not know each other. It’s an unnatural way of meeting someone. I was not happy with my ex and we met online. I know of other people who are equally as unhappy after meeting online. It’s preferable to really get to know people.