@Classicdust9
1 Year
Rejected by crush :((
Understanding Rejection and Moving Forward in Love
Rejection can be hurtful but it is a natural part of love. It is important to accept his response and focus on self-care. Recognize that attraction is mutual and not everyone will feel the same. Use this experience to learn and grow, and stay open to new connections in the future.
Posted by Classicdust9
Hi everyone. Hope u r all fine.So in my co-working office space we have multiple companies and work around each other in open space. Recently, while I was working my friend told me that there is this guy who keeps looking at me. Initially i never noticed but after my friend told me i started observing. He is quite charming and good looking. And yes he keeps staring at me. In the last 1.5 months we have looked at each other more than anything else. Gradually, I think i developed a crush on him. We kept sharing intense looks and maybe smiled once or twice. I was 100% that we both might have a crush on each other.
I somehow had to go on a work tour for long time and internally i was thinking that i would miss his presence around and all that jazz. So i gathered some guts and left a little note at his desk with my email id.
It was nothing crazy, i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
His reply was - who is this. And so i replied - i think u know who it is. And to that he replied - not sure, plz let me know who is this. So i shared my picture. To that he replied -- oohh its you, now i know
So i again politely asked him that im curious to know the reason behind him looking at me etc etc.
And he replied -- naah, you think i was looking.
Like i don't understand men for almost 5-6 weeks he kept looking at me, while working eyeing me and roaming around me. And when I asked him he blatantly denied and that i was delusional. (
Its just so difficult to work around him anymore and so awkward. Its not that im not attractive, infact i am but i was only interested in that man and idk wtf (
Sorry for venting out but im hurt and feeling stupid and embarrassed. Im not sad that he rejected or whatever but because he lied that he wasn't looking.
He may very well just be charismatic by default and things were inferred by your friend, moving you on that line of thought. Which at it's core you were enjoying the atrention. Afterall, you never noticed before.
🤔 any chance you can turn back the clock and enjoy the silent attention and person musings again? 🙃
P.S. have you never fantasied about someone before?
This 💯 ^^^
Posted by slug
Oh I'd be so pissed. Come in hot as fuck from now on and completely fuckin blank him. If he ever attempts to speak to you again say "Sorry who are you?"... Like how dare you 😂😂
Ohhh yeaahhh!!! Im definitely in this mode right now.
maybe you should find more pleasant topics than "why you're looking at me like that".
anybody would back off after that
first of all you’re so brave for making a move on him like that. you should be proud of your courage lol👏
i personally don’t think i would talk to anyone just cuz i thought they were looking at me. i always feel like if someone is looking in my direction, they’re just looking at something behind me or near me or something. 😅
i’m not sure what the guy’s real intentions were but he definitely sounds rude. you mentioned he’s charming but i feel like a charming guy wouldn’t embarrass a woman like that (by calling her delusional) :/
i would just ignore him and mind my own business until he chooses to be nicer and comes correct lol
Forget about what he says, concern yourself with what he does.
Even in 2024, women can't handle rejection. 🤭
Posted by slug
Oh I'd be so pissed. Come in hot as fuck from now on and completely fuckin blank him. If he ever attempts to speak to you again say "Sorry who are you?"... Like how dare you 😂😂
Don't do what this woman sugguested, that is toxic modern women behavior.
Posted by slug
Oh I'd be so pissed. Come in hot as fuck from now on and completely fuckin blank him. If he ever attempts to speak to you again say "Sorry who are you?"... Like how dare you 😂😂Don't do what this woman sugguested, that is toxic modern women behavior.
Yeah instead you should be kind, sweet, polite and gentle at all times and never have a sense of humour 🙂🙂🙂
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😆 😆 😆 you got to understand that guy is a libra. Libras take literally almost everything serious as if they have no sense of humor. That was Mr.Balance previously.
Just own it 🙂
You were brave flirty and cheeky enough to leave that note so that means you actually have the balls to not give a f even if he doesn't flirt back.
Just talk about hot guys to your coworkers, ask do I look good and say you are going on a date, or share how much fun you are having being single on social media in case he stalks. Or send yourself flowers and act like your new boyfriend sent them lol
Posted by slug
Oh I'd be so pissed. Come in hot as fuck from now on and completely fuckin blank him. If he ever attempts to speak to you again say "Sorry who are you?"... Like how dare you 😂😂Don't do what this woman sugguested, that is toxic modern women behavior.
click to expandYeah instead you should be kind, sweet, polite and gentle at all times and never have a sense of humour 🙂🙂🙂
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And don’t forget she should curtsy to him, call him “sir” with a sweet smile on her face
🥴
Posted by slug
Oh I'd be so pissed. Come in hot as fuck from now on and completely fuckin blank him. If he ever attempts to speak to you again say "Sorry who are you?"... Like how dare you 😂😂Don't do what this woman sugguested, that is toxic modern women behavior.
Yeah instead you should be kind, sweet, polite and gentle at all times and never have a sense of humour 🙂🙂🙂
click to expandyou got to understand that guy is a libra. Libras take literally almost everything serious as if they have no sense of humor. That was Mr.Balance previously.
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The guy that used two user names?
Posted by slug
Oh I'd be so pissed. Come in hot as fuck from now on and completely fuckin blank him. If he ever attempts to speak to you again say "Sorry who are you?"... Like how dare you 😂😂Don't do what this woman sugguested, that is toxic modern women behavior.
Yeah instead you should be kind, sweet, polite and gentle at all times and never have a sense of humour 🙂🙂🙂
click to expandyou got to understand that guy is a libra. Libras take literally almost everything serious as if they have no sense of humor. That was Mr.Balance previously.
The guy that used two user names?
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Yeah but I forgot what his other user name was. Sometimes I do laugh at some of his posts other times not so much. Libra humor (if they even have any) is far far far from Virgo humor on the humor monitor.
Love all your responses. I agree to all of it. I am also Libra Sun btw. Aries moon and Sag ascending. Maybe thats why I was bold enough to do this.
Btw update, today he smiled at me again hahahaha. Such a weirdo. But funnily his friend is trying to talk and infact trying to be friends with me. We went for a smoke break together.
Tbh, it feels free after rejection. No expectations and I can walk around free and probably checkout other men.
I am taking this positively though. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.
I agree with whoever said this guy's reaction was rude and vulgar though, he's probably not worth it
Posted by Classicdust9
Love all your responses. I agree to all of it. I am also Libra Sun btw. Aries moon and Sag ascending. Maybe thats why I was bold enough to do this.Btw update, today he smiled at me again hahahaha. Such a weirdo. But funnily his friend is trying to talk and infact trying to be friends with me. We went for a smoke break together.
Tbh, it feels free after rejection. No expectations and I can walk around free and probably checkout other men.
I am taking this positively though. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.
Pay attention to what he does, not what he says. His body language will tell you exactly what he's feeling.
These younger generations don't know how to talk or act properly to people in general.
Posted by Classicdust9
Love all your responses. I agree to all of it. I am also Libra Sun btw. Aries moon and Sag ascending. Maybe thats why I was bold enough to do this.
Btw update, today he smiled at me again hahahaha. Such a weirdo. But funnily his friend is trying to talk and infact trying to be friends with me. We went for a smoke break together.
Tbh, it feels free after rejection. No expectations and I can walk around free and probably checkout other men.
I am taking this positively though. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.Pay attention to what he does, not what he says. His body language will tell you exactly what he's feeling.
These younger generations don't know how to talk or act properly to people in general.
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His body language is confusing tbh. He waits for me to give him attention and then he opens up. If im not reactive or looking at him then he won't act too. I guess he is quite young.
Posted by Classicdust9
Love all your responses. I agree to all of it. I am also Libra Sun btw. Aries moon and Sag ascending. Maybe thats why I was bold enough to do this.
Btw update, today he smiled at me again hahahaha. Such a weirdo. But funnily his friend is trying to talk and infact trying to be friends with me. We went for a smoke break together.
Tbh, it feels free after rejection. No expectations and I can walk around free and probably checkout other men.
I am taking this positively though. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.Pay attention to what he does, not what he says. His body language will tell you exactly what he's feeling.
These younger generations don't know how to talk or act properly to people in general.
click to expandHis body language is confusing tbh. He waits for me to give him attention and then he opens up. If im not reactive or looking at him then he won't act too. I guess he is quite young.
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You don't want a person like that around you. Yes they might be young, but more importantly, they don't know how to act or behave around a woman like yourself and others.
For whatever reason, this is only going to work if you put more energy into it than he does. If you don't feel like doing that, just don't entertain it.
They don't understand how they come across and it's not your job to teach them.
What did you expect him to say? I’m looking at you during my working hours because I like the look of you?
What if you were a nutter ready to complain to the HR for “sexual harassment” afterwards?
Maybe wasn't the best way to show someone interest by asking why they're looking at you. It could come across as you think he's a creep that's staring at you. And he's denying it because he doesn't want to be that creep. 😅
Posted by Timone
Maybe wasn't the best way to show someone interest by asking why they're looking at you. It could come across as you think he's a creep that's staring at you. And he's denying it because he doesn't want to be that creep. 😅
Too late, he's already the creep to the OP and other women at work. That's his fault for not knowing how they come across to other people.
How she responded could have been more gentle but she's not wrong for asking.
Posted by Timone
Maybe wasn't the best way to show someone interest by asking why they're looking at you. It could come across as you think he's a creep that's staring at you. And he's denying it because he doesn't want to be that creep. 😅Too late, he's already the creep to the OP and other women at work. That's his fault for not knowing how they come across to other people.
How she responded could have been more gentle but she's not wrong for asking.
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I don't think OP thinks he's a creep? Or maybe I missed where she said that. I think she's brave for making the first move but I also think maybe the staring comment didn't serve her agenda.
He could also be in a relationship already. Not sure if OP mentioned if she knew if he was or not.
Posted by Timone
Maybe wasn't the best way to show someone interest by asking why they're looking at you. It could come across as you think he's a creep that's staring at you. And he's denying it because he doesn't want to be that creep. 😅Too late, he's already the creep to the OP and other women at work. That's his fault for not knowing how they come across to other people.
How she responded could have been more gentle but she's not wrong for asking.
click to expandI don't think OP thinks he's a creep? Or maybe I missed where she said that. I think she's brave for making the first move but I also think maybe the staring comment didn't serve her agenda.
He could also be in a relationship already. Not sure if OP mentioned if she knew if he was or not.
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Perception is everything. You only have one chance to make an impression, neither one of them did a good job. 🤷🏻♂️
Posted by Timone
Maybe wasn't the best way to show someone interest by asking why they're looking at you. It could come across as you think he's a creep that's staring at you. And he's denying it because he doesn't want to be that creep. 😅Too late, he's already the creep to the OP and other women at work. That's his fault for not knowing how they come across to other people.
How she responded could have been more gentle but she's not wrong for asking.
click to expandI don't think OP thinks he's a creep? Or maybe I missed where she said that. I think she's brave for making the first move but I also think maybe the staring comment didn't serve her agenda.
He could also be in a relationship already. Not sure if OP mentioned if she knew if he was or not.click to expand
Perception is everything. You only have one chance to make an impression, neither one of them did a good job. 🤷🏻♂️
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Yeh I agree. Maybe he was trying to tease and be cocky and it backfired lol. So now he can go back to his staring. 😳😳😳😂
Posted by Timone
Maybe wasn't the best way to show someone interest by asking why they're looking at you. It could come across as you think he's a creep that's staring at you. And he's denying it because he doesn't want to be that creep. 😅Too late, he's already the creep to the OP and other women at work. That's his fault for not knowing how they come across to other people.
How she responded could have been more gentle but she's not wrong for asking.
click to expandI don't think OP thinks he's a creep? Or maybe I missed where she said that. I think she's brave for making the first move but I also think maybe the staring comment didn't serve her agenda.
He could also be in a relationship already. Not sure if OP mentioned if she knew if he was or not.click to expand
Perception is everything. You only have one chance to make an impression, neither one of them did a good job. 🤷🏻♂️
click to expandYeh I agree. Maybe he was trying to tease and be cocky and it backfired lol. So now he can go back to his staring. 😳😳😳😂
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It's possible they both might learn something from this encounter, but probably not. Both people come across immature.
Posted by Classicdust9
Love all your responses. I agree to all of it. I am also Libra Sun btw. Aries moon and Sag ascending. Maybe thats why I was bold enough to do this.Btw update, today he smiled at me again hahahaha. Such a weirdo. But funnily his friend is trying to talk and infact trying to be friends with me. We went for a smoke break together.
Tbh, it feels free after rejection. No expectations and I can walk around free and probably checkout other men.
I am taking this positively though. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.
Aries moon and Sag rising
Woooooooooooooshhhhh 🥳😁
Something similar happened to me years ago at a job. Thought the guy had a crush on me as he would always walk in, look at me, smile and greet me. He would even make it a point to have small talk with me. I was definitely crushing on him and my coworkers were sure he liked me. They begged me daily to allow them to talk to him, tell him I liked him and to find out if he would be interested in going on a date with me….getting to know each other better. I know it’s a bit high schoolish, but I was too afraid to make a move myself so one day I finally agreed. After they talked to him they came back and told me he said he wasn’t interested.🤦♀️ Ohhhh the embarrassment I felt. It was hard facing him after that. I will never again take part in a potential workplace romance. It’s just too complicated….especially if things don’t work out. Luckily I got another job not too long after so I didn’t have to face him with embarrassment anymore. lol
Posted by slug
Oh I'd be so pissed. Come in hot as fuck from now on and completely fuckin blank him. If he ever attempts to speak to you again say "Sorry who are you?"... Like how dare you 😂😂Don't do what this woman sugguested, that is toxic modern women behavior.
click to expandYeah instead you should be kind, sweet, polite and gentle at all times and never have a sense of humour 🙂🙂🙂
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If she's trolling then OK, but some people will take it as a sugguestion or advice. Gotta be careful...
The best thing about making a move, you got your answer and have freed yourself from the “what if” cycle.
Now you don’t have to live with any regret.
Now he’s the one stuck wondering what if 😂
Posted by xyzabc
Something similar happened to me years ago at a job. Thought the guy had a crush on me as he would always walk in, look at me, smile and greet me. He would even make it a point to have small talk with me. I was definitely crushing on him and my coworkers were sure he liked me. They begged me daily to allow them to talk to him, tell him I liked him and to find out if he would be interested in going on a date with me….getting to know each other better. I know it’s a bit high schoolish, but I was too afraid to make a move myself so one day I finally agreed. After they talked to him they came back and told me he said he wasn’t interested.🤦♀️ Ohhhh the embarrassment I felt. It was hard facing him after that. I will never again take part in a potential workplace romance. It’s just too complicated….especially if things don’t work out. Luckily I got another job not too long after so I didn’t have to face him with embarrassment anymore. lol
Damn. I think you described my future 😂
Posted by Timone
Maybe wasn't the best way to show someone interest by asking why they're looking at you. It could come across as you think he's a creep that's staring at you. And he's denying it because he doesn't want to be that creep. 😅Too late, he's already the creep to the OP and other women at work. That's his fault for not knowing how they come across to other people.
How she responded could have been more gentle but she's not wrong for asking.
click to expandI don't think OP thinks he's a creep? Or maybe I missed where she said that. I think she's brave for making the first move but I also think maybe the staring comment didn't serve her agenda.
He could also be in a relationship already. Not sure if OP mentioned if she knew if he was or not.
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So I don't think he is a creep. He doesn't look at other women/girls atleast when Im around. I think he wasn't expecting me to ask him out so soon because then the ball is in his court and men don't like confrontation. Anyways, he is not coming to office since 3 days.
Posted by Classicdust9
Hi everyone. Hope u r all fine.So in my co-working office space we have multiple companies and work around each other in open space. Recently, while I was working my friend told me that there is this guy who keeps looking at me. Initially i never noticed but after my friend told me i started observing. He is quite charming and good looking. And yes he keeps staring at me. In the last 1.5 months we have looked at each other more than anything else. Gradually, I think i developed a crush on him. We kept sharing intense looks and maybe smiled once or twice. I was 100% that we both might have a crush on each other.
I somehow had to go on a work tour for long time and internally i was thinking that i would miss his presence around and all that jazz. So i gathered some guts and left a little note at his desk with my email id.
It was nothing crazy, i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
His reply was - who is this. And so i replied - i think u know who it is. And to that he replied - not sure, plz let me know who is this. So i shared my picture. To that he replied -- oohh its you, now i know
So i again politely asked him that im curious to know the reason behind him looking at me etc etc.
And he replied -- naah, you think i was looking.
Like i don't understand men for almost 5-6 weeks he kept looking at me, while working eyeing me and roaming around me. And when I asked him he blatantly denied and that i was delusional. (
Its just so difficult to work around him anymore and so awkward. Its not that im not attractive, infact i am but i was only interested in that man and idk wtf (
Sorry for venting out but im hurt and feeling stupid and embarrassed. Im not sad that he rejected or whatever but because he lied that he wasn't looking.
I like that you took the chance in stepping out of your comfort zone and not knowing what the outcome will be. 🙂
It's possible that he may be interested and could be very shy.
Quote: i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
Sometimes pointing something out to someone could make them feel embarrassed or awkward.
and....It's okay, it's a learning process.. just something to keep in mind. try something different
Rejection does hurt 😢
Look at it from a bigger picture and ask yourself
What have I gained from this experience?
What can I do different next time?
What is this preparing me for?
Don't give up, there will be plenty more obstacles before you meet the right one 😉
I remember when I was working at a Gas station in my younger years. I disliked the job but the assistant manager that was over me was really a wonderful person. My Aries Moon was blown away at how calm and sweet she was. She made the job so much better and I was around her age. I talked to her every day playing the friend angle to see what she was all about. After probably hours of conversation over the months she finally told me she had a boyfriend. I remember my heart sinking . I think I was 19.
Months later I started to casually talk to one of the tellers who worked in the bank when they use to have them in gas stations. I remember I was actually more relaxed around this girl and able to bring out my Cancer humor with her. I told her she looked like a young Doris Day and she would always come visit me when she got off work. Looking back she really dug me but I was so oblivious as I was too afraid of getting too friendly with a girl again and the heart sinking thing if she had a boyfriend. I laugh now as I know with age we could have dated. She gave me all the passes and I fumbled them. I started to assume if a girl liked me enough she would let me know.I now know with age at least 70 percent want you as the man to make the final move. I blame my Cancer Venus on this lol. Funny how rejection can cause you to sabotage yourself in the future
Basically what helps is to remember the missed connection when you get rejected. There are people out there that like you for everyone that failed Some people appreciate when you are brave with them as everyone carries some level of insecurity about themself.
I think he was trying to flirt and just sucked at it and you sorta panicd too
Posted by WoolyLabia
BrootalMaybe you had a clock above your head he was checking the time he could go home
🤣🤣 lmaooo clocks arent exactly eye-level, unless she got one tatted on her forehead
That can happen. I've rejected attractive women eventhough it looked like something was there. It's probably a heavy amount of Neptunian themes going on between you two where you are both delusional and sudden one of you wake up to the reality that things don't end up like you've perceived it to be. Best you can do is move on.
Posted by hydorah
maybe you should find more pleasant topics than "why you're looking at me like that".anybody would back off after that
Yeah maybe he thought she was gonna metoo his ass.
Way she phrased that question definitely sounded confrontational. Maybe he should file for sexual harrassment lol
Hey all, wanted to share an update. He did reach out to me after a month. He accepted that he was infact looking at me. We exchanged numbers. He turned out to be 10 years younger to me. And he was looking for hookup. I denied and moved on lol. I was disappointed but happy that I could delete his number and move on.
Posted by WarAngel79
Forget about what he says, concern yourself with what he does.Even in 2024, women can't handle rejection. 🤭
True, first you had actions and now you have actions with contradictory dialogue.
Posted by Classicdust9
Hey all, wanted to share an update. He did reach out to me after a month. He accepted that he was infact looking at me. We exchanged numbers. He turned out to be 10 years younger to me. And he was looking for hookup. I denied and moved on lol. I was disappointed but happy that I could delete his number and move on.
and .. contradictions often lead to disappointments.
Posted by hydorah
maybe you should find more pleasant topics than "why you're looking at me like that".anybody would back off after that
Same
Posted by Classicdust9
Hi everyone. Hope u r all fine.So in my co-working office space we have multiple companies and work around each other in open space. Recently, while I was working my friend told me that there is this guy who keeps looking at me. Initially i never noticed but after my friend told me i started observing. He is quite charming and good looking. And yes he keeps staring at me. In the last 1.5 months we have looked at each other more than anything else. Gradually, I think i developed a crush on him. We kept sharing intense looks and maybe smiled once or twice. I was 100% that we both might have a crush on each other.
I somehow had to go on a work tour for long time and internally i was thinking that i would miss his presence around and all that jazz. So i gathered some guts and left a little note at his desk with my email id.
It was nothing crazy, i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
His reply was - who is this. And so i replied - i think u know who it is. And to that he replied - not sure, plz let me know who is this. So i shared my picture. To that he replied -- oohh its you, now i know
So i again politely asked him that im curious to know the reason behind him looking at me etc etc.
And he replied -- naah, you think i was looking.
Like i don't understand men 😢 for almost 5-6 weeks he kept looking at me, while working eyeing me and roaming around me. And when I asked him he blatantly denied and that i was delusional. 😢(
Its just so difficult to work around him anymore and so awkward. Its not that im not attractive, infact i am but i was only interested in that man and idk wtf 😢(
Sorry for venting out but im hurt and feeling stupid and embarrassed. Im not sad that he rejected or whatever but because he lied that he wasn't looking.
He’s playing games . Ofcourse he is not going to admit. Specially if in his ego.
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Hi everyone. Hope u r all fine.
So in my co-working office space we have multiple companies and work around each other in open space. Recently, while I was working my friend told me that there is this guy who keeps looking at me. Initially i never noticed but after my friend told me i started observing. He is quite charming and good looking. And yes he keeps staring at me. In the last 1.5 months we have looked at each other more than anything else. Gradually, I think i developed a crush on him. We kept sharing intense looks and maybe smiled once or twice. I was 100% that we both might have a crush on each other.
I somehow had to go on a work tour for long time and internally i was thinking that i would miss his presence around and all that jazz. So i gathered some guts and left a little note at his desk with my email id.
It was nothing crazy, i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
His reply was - who is this. And so i replied - i think u know who it is. And to that he replied - not sure, plz let me know who is this. So i shared my picture. To that he replied -- oohh its you, now i know
So i again politely asked him that im curious to know the reason behind him looking at me etc etc.
And he replied -- naah, you think i was looking.
Like i don't understand men 😢 for almost 5-6 weeks he kept looking at me, while working eyeing me and roaming around me. And when I asked him he blatantly denied and that i was delusional. 😢(
Its just so difficult to work around him anymore and so awkward. Its not that im not attractive, infact i am but i was only interested in that man and idk wtf 😢(
Sorry for venting out but im hurt and feeling stupid and embarrassed. Im not sad that he rejected or whatever but because he lied that he wasn't looking.