rejection catalogue

This topic was created in the Dating forum by paranoidandroid on Sunday, April 16, 2023 and has 8 replies.

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@paranoidandroid
3 Years

soooo

how do you reject someone you are not interested in?

does it make a difference if you already know them or not?

...if you would like to keep a friendship with them?

state your moon and venus

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@TxOgal
12 Years1,000+ PostsTaurus

It depends, if they were straight forward, I'll be straight forward too and tell them I'm not feeling it the same way or I'm not interested in a relationship, whether we are friends or not. If we are friends, I'll add that I don't want to lose our friendship.

If they were not straight forward, it may take me so long to realize, if ever lol.. but if I realized it, I will gradually distance myself.

Scorpio moon, Aries venus

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@RollergirlOrc
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Hm. I'd probably be immature and be "nice" about things until they ask me for something serious and then I'd say, sorry, Im seeing other people. But I try not to put myself in that situation in the first place by being unavailable to everyone.

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@FValentina
3 Years

I don't do giving hints or beating around the bush. I say it directly: not compatible,or two different worlds that don't match.

If they wish to know more details I'll be honest and say it,because this is how I'd like to be treated too. Some folks enjoy slowing others down or giving someone a fairytale or let them figure it out by themselves. That's cruel. For example...creating such a weird atmosphere until they get the hint and leave by themselves. The indifference 😩

Leo Moon Aries Venus Gemini Mars

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@Soul
11 Years10,000+ Posts

I keep a distance from all people until I feel they should be in my life. Because of that I never have to really reject people. It's more like they were never in my life to begin with, and will continue being just that. I guess some people are more quick to jump into things. I like to keep all people at a distance. At the same time I can still be polite and kind to them. Growing up my parents always thought I had some weird talent with getting out of conversations. For example, they would find themselves in conversations with neighbors that went on 5+ minutes. For me I'm good at throwing in small talk while walking away. Like the second someone tries to have a conversation about something I don't care about like the weather for example, I'm likely to say "It really is nice. I think the next few days are going to be nice too. Well, take care and enjoy the nice weather!" All while still walking away. It doesn't make it obvious I absolutely hate the idea of standing around and having a conversation with them, while still getting to avoid conversations altogether. I use the same strategy with people I don't truly want to date. I always say there is a tactful way to get out of any situation or conversation without hurting feelings or looking like the bad guy. Step one is never letting people get that close to you in the first place.

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@aquasnoz
14 Years10,000+ Posts

how do you reject someone you are not interested in?

This has always been hard for me, especially if they've been part of my circle for a long time. Can't explain it but I have a problem with differentiating love between friends vs love between individuals.

does it make a difference if you already know them or not?

I don't really let people I don't know into my circle but if it's just some random, I'd probably feel flattered and ask them out on a date or something.

...if you would like to keep a friendship with them?

Yeah, friendships are important to me but I realise it's not always possible.

state your moon and venus

Pisces, Pisces

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@black773
7 Years1,000+ Posts

“I’m not interested in you in a romantic sense or “you’re not my type.”

Most people just ignore you if you are not their type.

No you cannot be friends with me if I know you have different feelings.