Shold I tell her?

This topic was created in the Dating forum by HappyCapper on Tuesday, April 4, 2023 and has 22 replies.

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A girl at work asked me to check her new BF's chart. They've known each other two months and just moved in together. According to what I can find in his chart, he's gonna crush her. His ego is huuuge and he seems flirty and entitled. Cheater!

However, I'm not a 100% believer in astrology and I'm not an astrologer either and I feel like if I'm wrong, the mere info I would bring her might in itself crush the relationship whether my analysis is correct or incorrect. Should I tell her? What do you think? I should probably tell you that i have already made my decision not to tell her, so the reason why I'm posing this question is out of pure curiosity. So, what do you think?

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Lol Astrology crushing someone 🤣

We do that to ourselves, astrology doesn’t. No need to cause drama when they live together. She’s a coworker, you still have to work with her.

You’re way too involved in her personal life to not be an astrologist and deliver this kind of news 😅

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Posted by HappyCapper
A girl at work asked me to check her new BF's chart. They've known each other two months and just moved in together. According to what I can find in his chart, he's gonna crush her. His ego is huuuge and he seems flirty and entitled. Cheater!

However, I'm not a 100% believer in astrology and I'm not an astrologer either and I feel like if I'm wrong, the mere info I would bring her might in itself crush the relationship whether my analysis is correct or incorrect. Should I tell her? What do you think? I should probably tell you that i have already made my decision not to tell her, so the reason why I'm posing this question is out of pure curiosity. So, what do you think?

I've run into this same situation many many times.

When I first started doing astrology, I would run people's synasty. Make my general predictions and see what happens. Lab rats? After a while, I got a good feel for what to look at and watch for. Context matters a lot.

Thier kind of attraction and reason for being together is what you always check on first.

I can tell you 100% , some people come together to teach each other something about themselves more often then not. Especially if there is a strong attraction on either end.

I mostly focused on relationship synastry.

Could you also describe her feelings for him, why she is into him, what she sees with him?

Depending on her reasons you can know exactly where to look and see how things could play out. There are very few real red flag aspects in synastry.

I'm getting back into charts reading. Mind sharing the synasty and the things that caught your attention? Things that stood out to you?

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Maybe talk about problematic traits that you see in him and then seek a solution.

If you do give a bit of dark, share some light to balance the reading, please.

There is always light. Nothing is ever just doom and gloom as it may seem.

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Thanks for all your answers! Interesting to read your views on it!

As for clarification, I didn't offer to do it and as I also stated in the OP, I had already decided not to do it before posting this. She just saw me with a chart (probably first time anyne has ever seen me with a chart at a workplace, so it's a bit weird. I don't even like telling people that I nerd in on astrology at all) and asked me to take a look at hers and her boyfriend's charts. I never promised anything. I also informed her that I'm not an astrologer.

Sooo, I pretty much agree with most of you...and hope that I'm wrong about him.🙂

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Posted by HappyCapper
A girl at work asked me to check her new BF's chart. They've known each other two months and just moved in together. According to what I can find in his chart, he's gonna crush her. His ego is huuuge and he seems flirty and entitled. Cheater!

However, I'm not a 100% believer in astrology and I'm not an astrologer either and I feel like if I'm wrong, the mere info I would bring her might in itself crush the relationship whether my analysis is correct or incorrect. Should I tell her? What do you think? I should probably tell you that i have already made my decision not to tell her, so the reason why I'm posing this question is out of pure curiosity. So, what do you think?

No do t tell her

Don to relate negative Information when you truly won’t ever know if it’s true. You can impact heavily in a negative way

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Posted by MyStarsShine
As this is an Astro forum, it’d be good to share his placements and get others opinions? I’m intrigued to see how you came to that conclusion?

As always, it's about the whole chart. But I'm not gonna share the chart, since she gave it to me in confidence and I am very particular about that, so I'll just tell you some very general things that individually would not mean what I wrote in the OP, but together with the entire chart and her personality and with some info about him that she has given me and that I feel are consistent with his chart, that's the conclusion I made.

Let me just also repeat that I'm not an astrologer.

Virgo Sun conj Jupiter anaretic degree (From her description of him: veeery critical and seems to truly have an inflated ego)

Leo Moon (From her descriptins of him: Very validation seeking.)

Libra venus in the 12th house square Uranus (From her description of him: Very flirty and is delutional about it. Expects her to always dress and look nice and do lip fillers. Impulsive.)

These are just a few of the signs that together with each other, the rest of the chart and some things she has told me about him, scream red flag to me. And, like we all know, there are good and bad things about each placement and individually, these placements are of course all okay. (and I don't know how I express myself, right now, since I just got home from a late night out.🙂)

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Posted by HappyCapper

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As this is an Astro forum, it’d be good to share his placements and get others opinions? I’m intrigued to see how you came to that conclusion?

As always, it's about the whole chart. But I'm not gonna share the chart, since she gave it to me in confidence and I am very particular about that, so I'll just tell you some very general things that individually would not mean what I wrote in the OP, but together with the entire chart and her personality and with some info about him that she has given me and that I feel are consistent with his chart, that's the conclusion I made.

Let me just also repeat that I'm not an astrologer.

Virgo Sun conj Jupiter anaretic degree (From her description of him: veeery critical and seems to truly have an inflated ego)

Leo Moon (From her descriptins of him: Very validation seeking.)

Libra venus in the 12th house square Uranus (From her description of him: Very flirty and is delutional about it. Expects her to always dress and look nice and do lip fillers. Impulsive.)

These are just a few of the signs that together with each other, the rest of the chart and some things she has told me about him, scream red flag to me. And, like we all know, there are good and bad things about each placement and individually, these placements are of course all okay. (and I don't know how I express myself, right now, since I just got home from a late night out.)

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Sun Jupiter is a very positive aspect - lucky and expansive

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Posted by MyStarsShine
As this is an Astro forum, it’d be good to share his placements and get others opinions? I’m intrigued to see how you came to that conclusion?

As always, it's about the whole chart. But I'm not gonna share the chart, since she gave it to me in confidence and I am very particular about that, so I'll just tell you some very general things that individually would not mean what I wrote in the OP, but together with the entire chart and her personality and with some info about him that she has given me and that I feel are consistent with his chart, that's the conclusion I made.

Let me just also repeat that I'm not an astrologer.

Virgo Sun conj Jupiter anaretic degree (From her description of him: veeery critical and seems to truly have an inflated ego)

Leo Moon (From her descriptins of him: Very validation seeking.)

Libra venus in the 12th house square Uranus (From her description of him: Very flirty and is delutional about it. Expects her to always dress and look nice and do lip fillers. Impulsive.)

These are just a few of the signs that together with each other, the rest of the chart and some things she has told me about him, scream red flag to me. And, like we all know, there are good and bad things about each placement and individually, these placements are of course all okay. (and I don't know how I express myself, right now, since I just got home from a late night out.)
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Sun Jupiter is a very positive aspect - lucky and expansive

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Yes, that's the positive side of it. The negative is that it can mean that he has an inflated ego...which he seems to have, unfortunately.

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Posted by Timone
Expect her to do lip fillers?😳 I don't even need his chart. Tell her to dump him. 😁

...among other things. It's baaad, and the things she tells me is red flag upon red flag (in my book) but she tells it to me in a way that she somehow makes them into positives.

Like with the fillers, she was so grateful that he had taken her to a place where they do that, as a surprise, and he even offered to pay!!! And she hadn't even thought of her lips as needing that, but he had seen it, so she was sooo grateful.😳

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Expect her to do lip fillers?😳 I don't even need his chart. Tell her to dump him. 😁

...among other things. It's baaad, and the things she tells me is red flag upon red flag (in my book) but she tells it to me in a way that she somehow makes them into positives.

Like with the fillers, she was so grateful that he had taken her to a place where they do that, as a surprise, and he even offered to pay!!! And she hadn't even thought of her lips as needing that, but he had seen it, so she was sooo grateful.😳

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Wow sad that she got it when she didn't even think about it before. Hope she doesn't keep changing herself for him.

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Expect her to do lip fillers?😳 I don't even need his chart. Tell her to dump him. 😁

...among other things. It's baaad, and the things she tells me is red flag upon red flag (in my book) but she tells it to me in a way that she somehow makes them into positives.

Like with the fillers, she was so grateful that he had taken her to a place where they do that, as a surprise, and he even offered to pay!!! And she hadn't even thought of her lips as needing that, but he had seen it, so she was sooo grateful.😳
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Wow sad that she got it when she didn't even think about it before. Hope she doesn't keep changing herself for him.

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Yup. Think she will, though. Before she met him, she was pretty desperate and she seems to fall for just anything. It's weird, because she's not dumb - very good at her job. Smart. But relationships? Omg! Hope she figures him out soon and start to value herself higher.