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What is your love language
Physical touch, followed by quality time.
Basically sex and staying the night- forever 🥰😋
Posted by RollergirlOrc
They say there are 5 but feel free to add your own:Love language #1: Words of affirmation
Love language #2: Acts of service
Love language #3: Gifts
Love language #4: Quality time
Love language #5: Physical touch
Mine is a combination. Mostly acts of service and buying things into people's hearts 🥰
All of these. I'm trying to be creative in our relationship
acts of service and quality time
I don't know. I just want romance. But without sex involve anymore. I have these weird fantasies about balconies and moonlights with a potential someone. Maybe holding hands and having nice candlelight dinners with soft music playing in the background and kiss the night away. That's all I'm asking. So maybe 4 and 5 perhaps.
Yes, that Dr Gary Chapman's book was a true bestseller. They also made a test: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
Posted by Som
Yes, that Dr Gary Chapman's book was a true bestseller. They also made a test: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
According to that test I got acts of service followed by quality time. I wish we could have a neutral answer to respond to some of those questions though.
I see who quotes me! Unbelievable!
According to that test I got acts of service followed by quality time. I wish we could have a neutral answer to respond to some of those questions though.
But it seems that I still receive no notifications about it on my email.
I see who quotes me! Unbelievable!
Posted by Som
But it seems that I still receive no notifications about it on my email.I see who quotes me! Unbelievable!
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Email notifications never works for dxp. I turned that off long ago.
I took a quiz and I’m mostly acts of service, then time spent together, then touch tied with gifts.
Taking the quiz, it was interesting to find out that "your" love language was actually seen as the language your ideal partner should be speaking to you!
This may imply that what you "speak" is what you want to "hear". Is this always the case irl? Mainly the case...? Hmmm...
What if you two are speaking different love languages, but your partner is proficient in your love language, and you in theirs? Shouldn't this be the ideal situation? The quiz is therefore incomplete...
I once found myself speaking a love language I don't use too much, simply because I wanted my partner to use it on me 😉
Posted by Undine
Taking the quiz, it was interesting to find out that "your" love language was actually seen as the language your ideal partner should be speaking to you!This may imply that what you "speak" is what you want to "hear". Is this always the case irl? Mainly the case...? Hmmm...
What if you two are speaking different love languages, but your partner is proficient in your love language, and you in theirs? Shouldn't this be the ideal situation? The quiz is therefore incomplete...
I once found myself speaking a love language I don't use too much, simply because I wanted my partner to use it on me
Say if your love language is act of service - you bring him coffee - then his better be a gift - buying you a fur coat for it?
That is ideal ‘one speaking - another hearing’ combo.
Can also be affirmation/gift combo as you say I love you - he is buying you a car!
…etc.
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But according to the quiz mentioned in his thread, if your love language is acts of service, it means that you want HIM to bring YOU coffee, lol!
Posted by Undine
Taking the quiz, it was interesting to find out that "your" love language was actually seen as the language your ideal partner should be speaking to you!This may imply that what you "speak" is what you want to "hear". Is this always the case irl? Mainly the case...? Hmmm...
What if you two are speaking different love languages, but your partner is proficient in your love language, and you in theirs? Shouldn't this be the ideal situation? The quiz is therefore incomplete...
I once found myself speaking a love language I don't use too much, simply because I wanted my partner to use it on me
I think that is the whole reason for the quiz, basically what you like to have in a partnership.
Mine is touch and QT, but I know that I do acts of service and words of affirmation, followed by the occasional gift, if it's related to a service that is needed.
So I would need a partner who appreciates what I do and does the things that I need in return.
It almost seems like yin and yang/ balance with all five in a relationship split up among a couple.
Posted by Undine
Taking the quiz, it was interesting to find out that "your" love language was actually seen as the language your ideal partner should be speaking to you!This may imply that what you "speak" is what you want to "hear". Is this always the case irl? Mainly the case...? Hmmm...
What if you two are speaking different love languages, but your partner is proficient in your love language, and you in theirs? Shouldn't this be the ideal situation? The quiz is therefore incomplete...
I once found myself speaking a love language I don't use too much, simply because I wanted my partner to use it on me
I think that is the whole reason for the quiz, basically what you like to have in a partnership.
Mine is touch and QT, but I know that I do acts of service and words of affirmation, followed by the occasional gift, if it's related to a service that is needed.
So I would need a partner who appreciates what I do and does the things that I need in return.
It almost seems like yin and yang/ balance with all five in a relationship split up among a couple.
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Something like this, yeah! That's why I called the quizz incomplete, because it only gives one side of it (and not even the side one would expect)!
Mine are.
Words of affirmation and quality time.
How I show love Acts of service, quality time, physical touch.
attending funerals with me
attending doctors' appointments with me
driving to pick up our newly-laundered clothes
feeding our pets
staying home 90% of the time
whilst not grumbling throughout all these basic commonplace virgo/6th house activities and i'm pretty much gonna gush about you.
Posted by Prickly-Pear444
It was “act of service” then I read somewhere that your love language can be what you lacked as a child. I don’t know. I’m starting believe love language does not exist unless we all have a primary love language.
maybe this is true coz my parents couldn't attend any of my school-related events, even the ones where i get awards and they were barely home most of the time as well.
Touch, quality time,
affirmation, terms of service, gifts.
Affirmation moved up since last time.
Affirmation= communication for me.
Food
Quality time
Service 33%
Time/Touch 23%
Words 17%
Gifts 3%
Actions speak louder than words
and I’m not a gold digger 😄
28% Words of affirmation
26% Quality time
19% Physical touch
13% Acts of service
13% Receiving gifts
It makes sense, because words affect my feelings greatly no matter how much I try not to give them much importance.
I thought quality time would be the highest.
no idea, but kindness, smarts and a sense of adventure are hot
I haven't taken the quiz recently but I like when someone shows genuine care, thoughtfulness and that they're thinking about me. I'm not big on words of affirmation because actions mean more than words to me.
I feel receiving gifts is misunderstood. It's not about getting expensive gifts and spoiling someone but if they do buy something, putting effort into it and showing that what they've bought has meaning and that they've put care and thought into it rather than just some pricey item. I rather get something homemade than an expensive gift that has no meaning.
All except #1. Words just don’t come out right
Jerking off alone in the dark
Nah it's quality time
Posted by Walk_on_by
Jerking off alone in the darkYou understand me so well..
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They say there are 5 but feel free to add your own:
Love language #1: Words of affirmation
Love language #2: Acts of service
Love language #3: Gifts
Love language #4: Quality time
Love language #5: Physical touch
Mine is a combination. Mostly acts of service and buying things into people's hearts 🥰