ack! someone pick up apart please

Hi Everyone,
I was wondering if someone can pick us - my partner and I apart. We are in a LDR for 4 months, we met, he came here to visit me, things were going great with a couple bumps and now lately he is withdrawing. Namely: the emails are not coming, we talk basically 2 times a day, which is great, but lately it's once a day pretty much, he works on computer all the time, so not like he doesn't have access. He still sends me some one line messages saying he misses me, I'm all that to him, etc. I love it. but...the actions always speak more than just words to me...sooo...this Libra man of mine is starting to drive me bonkers with his aloofness; I have been steady on my side, no changes in attention and such. So the question is should I wait it out, or should I become cold as he is and just let this "puppy" go? I could so see myself with this guy for the rest of my life and I think most of the alignments are in agreement - so really what gives? unless...there is someone else? 😢...which, really idk and I hate to go into that trap of insecurities. For v-day I sent him a hand written letter, card and stuff and he told me he didn't even open it until I mentioned it - he said that he will when he gets back to his quarters - well, I have not heard about it since, and I will not mention it, even if I don't know if he opened it or not. Also, we hardly really talk about anything - seems like he is going cheap on the investment into us - I mentioned that we still have so much to learn about each other and in response he sends me a link to some movie forum he goes on and I'm interested and polite about it, but in my mind I think: wth? you send me a link to a forum where you have 10 comments on? Also he is deployed in Iraq and he will be redeployed in a few weeks. For months he was all about us, and he is getting transferred to a base closer to me which would make it a driving distance - and now I don't know why he is just basically pulling the plug on this slooowly or is he just mulling things over? Idk and part of me wants to stay and wait it out and the other part of me wants to walk away and tell him: call me when you know what you really want.
I will appreciate any input on this please.
this is me: Gemini, Asc. Scorpio, Moon Virgo, Mercury Cancer, Venus Cancer, Mars Pisces
this is him: Libra with Asc Virgo, Moon in Capricorn, Mercury Scorpio, Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Virgo

Thank you very much.
I will cross post to Libra forum - this is bugging my p

I ended a LDR with a Libra a short while ago. The difference in our stories is that the Libra and I had a past together 22 years ago. He popped back into my life last summer. We tried the LDR but he wanted/needed more and I couldn't give it to him. But he was the same way, came on strong and constant and then just let things fizzle because I couldn't move to be with him. I think you need to do what I did which is decide for yourself if LDR is working for you and then base your decision on that. He may never move near you. Whatever you do, I would caution you about mirroring him too closely. I did that and it ended up in a downward spiral of us each mirroring each other and growing further apart. Be yourself. Don't get sucked into playing head games. Libra is like Gemini in that they need their space too and don't like clinginess in their mate, so dont take his distancing himself personally. Dont let him be the center of your life or he will take you for granted. Do your own things and dont always be avalaible for him, even on text/email/phone. Hone up on your Gemini ability to shut off your emotions and walk away if need be.

yeah...well the LDR is just for a time - he is deployed in Iraq right now, after that he is transfered on orders closer to me and so him and I already talked that I would move to him and things will pick up - we don't want LDR, we want a normal live relationship and the works - we talked about that. But, I find it hard for me to even think of putting my efforts into this if I don't see sold ground for me to land on. The mirroring thing...I have not changed my attention to him, and I believe (still, lol) that kind will be repaid in kind...I am growing inpatient though on puttin efforts in and getting less...I'm not clingy, and it's not all mush...I'm cool with things and I go with the flow...but really, honestly...I feel like I should just dump his a** and tell him to call me when he is good and ready to stay not do this touch and go thing...that's my domain 😉...but seriously now...
I think you are right, I should probably make myself scarce because if a man wants a woman he will make it happen, I just don't think he is in this to make it happen. Things feel half-hearted. It's like my damn intuition tells me that he is off to other pastures, but is waiting for me to go away first.
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Just wait and see what happens. Don't try and analyze him or his reasons every time he goes silent. Do your own thing by yourself or with your girlfriends. When he moves closer then you will be able to determine if it will work out or not.