@GeminiMind
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What would hurt a woman more?
Impact of Emotional Versus Physical Cheating on Women
Both emotional and physical infidelity can deeply hurt women, but emotional betrayal often causes more lasting pain because it breaches trust and intimacy on a deeper level. Understanding the emotional connection involved can help clarify why one might feel more hurt by one type of cheating than the other.
Posted by GeminiMind
If her guy had a meaningless one night stand with another woman? Or, if he was in love with a woman that he never met in the physical? Are both cheating? If so, how would you feel about either? Curious.~GM
Well, they would both hurt & are both considered cheating. Physically cheating & emotionally cheating.
I would be more hurt by the woman dude's in love with.
I would feel like shit for a minute about both of these. Grr!
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Hi GM 🙂
I can't speak for all women, but if I was in love with the guy then both of those scenarios would devastate me. I would consider both scenarios as cheating, just in different ways. Being cheated on can lead to actual physical feelings of sickness, often in the stomach area & nausea.
Forced to pick one of those, I'd rather he have the one-night stand as long as he's still in love with me.
I agree with the others, the emotional aspect would be worse for me.
Posted by Whimsy
Forced to pick one of those, I'd rather he have the one-night stand as long as he's still in love with me.
See, that's why you're worthy of an average mans queen, and not a kings whore. That's the way I see it. 🙂
Posted by GeminiMind
If her guy had a meaningless one night stand with another woman? Or, if he was in love with a woman that he never met in the physical? Are both cheating? If so, how would you feel about either? Curious.~GM
the emotion counts more for me. cheating physically doesnt mean u dont love her. that would hurt me. i feel somethings wrong. its like living with a vegetable. i mean the guy shows u he doesnt love u, but is still with u... he is like an emotional weight. my dad never cheated my mom physically but i think he is doing it emotionally. thank fuck he loves me more than his new emotion and he never listened to his emotions cos i was there telling him what to do. now that am gone, i just hope he doesnt fuck the relationship up with my mom.
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My mother says that she divorced my father emotionally years before the paperwork was even filed. HaHa!
Damn, Zups! 😛
Posted by Whimsy
Forced to pick one of those, I'd rather he have the one-night stand as long as he's still in love with me.See, that's why you're worthy of an average mans queen, and not a kings whore. That's the way I see it. 🙂
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Huh? I don't get what you mean, but I've been drinking.
Me too! Ha! But here goes:
Which would you rather be, a kings whore? Or, and average mans Queen? Ponder....
Posted by woundedbird
WHATS WITH THE POSSESSION QUESTIONS!?
Can you give an honest answer to any of them, without the Biblical rhetoric, or the insults, woundedbird?
Posted by GeminiMind
Me too! Ha! But here goes:Which would you rather be, a kings whore? Or, and average mans Queen? Ponder....
You know that for each option there's a side of me that's into it. I'm a Gemini!
As a gemini this is hard to answer...a one night stand would hurt, but then again it is what it is, a one night stand. Being in love with her without the physical would probably get to me the most.
These message boards are full of folks agonizing over online romances and even contemplating divorce over someone they've never physically laid eyes on.
At the end of the day if you're in a marriage or a relationship you still have to put yourself out there, emotionally and/or physically. Either way, somethings not right.
@whimsy I can dig it!
Posted by CappyyLuv30
I asked one of my friends this and they said "how can he be in love with someone he's never met physically?"Hmmm...
The answer is simple. It's Energy, and Love is infallible. People marry all the time for money, for sex, for convenience, for spite, but not for Love, don't they? But, there aren't many people left that even know what "Love" is. To them Love is a manifestation of what magazines, t.v. shows, and the opinions of "others" say what love is. It's bullshit. There's no such thing as "True" Love, there's just Love and all of its splendor.
"If we were spirits just floating without faces, without bodies, without looks, would you still be beautiful to me?"
~GM
but that sounds so sad to me... i mean. u seem pessimistic about that! arent you? yeah people are arseholes at times, but it shouldnt stop as from believing there are a few good ones out there...
It is sad, but I'll always be a cheerleader for #teamlove😛
I wouldn't stay in the relationship though, that's just crazy. Physical cheating I will never understtand or put up with, that is so disrespectful. Honestly I'd rather someone reject my heart than my body.
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Not to offend but, coming from a Pisces I find this fascinating and unbelievable. If true, it would make sense as to why all of the Pisces in my family go through so many relationships and marriages. This includes the Pisceans that I've been with in the past. You guys' view on "Love" is quite frankly.... strange and inconsistent. Seems backwards, to me. :\ But I'm sure Gemini's would be included in that discussion from some people.
I mean, I would never condone cheating on any level. But, the way that the powers that be has structured what the thought process of the human population is, has thrown the Chakras off balance. Thus, making all of the vibrations centered around the heart, and not the mind. In other words, the "physical" is so not important, babes. I think a lot of this has to do with why water signs live in constant emotional pain. It's not your fault, since Pisces are the "conduits" of the zodiac. This world is truly fucked up! It affects you guys more than any other. Which is why I think that is why Pisces try to find the "Meaning" of "Love" through connections with people.
Lena, do you have a diary? Just curious.
Way ahead of you kiddo. Already accepted that analogy of Pisces years ago.
However, Pisces are emotionally selfish by nature, which drains relationships dry. Once dried up, you guys move onto another one, or stay single for a WHILE. I'll be direct with you Lena. Pisces have absolutely not a clue as to what "Love" is. Zero. Even (dare I say it)....... P-"Angel" agrees with me on this. *Runs to take a quick shower to wash the dirt off of me*
To a Pisces "Love" is a feeling or an emotion. Which is total bullshit. Pisces fall in "Love" based on how that person in the relationship makes them "FEEL" about "THEMSELVES". It is the epitome of absolute hyper-selfishness, absolutely. Which leads to the most energetically draining relationships that you can wrap your head around, if you're the other person. Every Pisces that I've been with I can say after it was over, I realized that it was nothing more than an unnecessary illusion. Them on the other hand have been changed for the better forever. Gemini's are the messengers of the divine, and should never be around people who won't listen to truth. Pisces and Cancers have colossal problems with truth. They want all of the good, but fear the bad. Pisces tend to surround themselves with people who "Enable" them to stay away from the bad truths. Which a many a Pisces will say: "This person makes me FEEL...SAFE." See where I'm going with this?
My late Grandmother (Pisces)sucked the life out of our entire family. We have a big ass family! It was always about her, yet she loved us all, but drained the life out of us all at the same time. :/ I love her with all of my heart. But, I'd be lying if I didn't say that the moment she died the family started to breathe.
One thing that all water signs have in common is emotion. Pisces on the other hand use emotion as bait, then proceed to feed on their prey after they catch them. Sorry, it's the truth. Scorpio and Cancer do not do this. Cancer after a while with a Pisces tend to figure this out too late, then they'll become arch enemies with the Pisces. I've seen this happen so many times that I could almost tell you dates and times of certain occurrences before they happen. I know, right?
For the Crab it realizes it's being fed on kind of like what happens when you put a frog in a pot of cold water and slowly raise the temperature. The frog never realizes what hit it, or in this case the Crab.
But, you're young and vibrant, Lena. I hope that you develop to be the opposite of those things that I've observed with the fish. The key is accepting the truth about yourself, face your fear, and PROGRESS FORWARD. I still love my Pisces peeps, so much so that I won't lie or bullshit you. But, like I told someone on another thread: "Still waters run deep. But, still waters cannot sustain life without air." 😄
I wouldn't say that they are "Bad". It's just that some things are just associated with their Planet. Jupiter and Neptune take a long type to move around the Sun, which makes you guys slow at times. Not a bad thing, but it is what it is. But, I have met, known, loved, and been related to more than just a "few". The word few is like a grain of sand on a beach compared to how many I know. Pisces have zero impression on me. I'm a Gemini, once I figure someone out, they have no effect. But, I will have no problem with telling them about themselves. Pisces never could understand this "Speed" thing about Gems. "Realities" is also something that Pisces peeps have a hard time with. Also the rigidity and the emotional blackmail is just boring to a point of physical tiresome (draining). You started a thread that gives my observations some validation. Yes, Pisceans are emotional vampires. I couldn't have said it any better myself. 😛
Posted by THEKingofLibra
Do you Aquariuses ever say anything new or creative? You are like a Pez Platitude dispenser. No original thought.
Dude, you have me rollin!!
Posted by GeminiMind
I wouldn't say that they are "Bad". It's just that some things are just associated with their Planet. Jupiter and Neptune take a long type to move around the Sun, which makes you guys slow at times. Not a bad thing, but it is what it is. But, I have met, known, loved, and been related to more than just a "few". The word few is like a grain of sand on a beach compared to how many I know. Pisces have zero impression on me. I'm a Gemini, once I figure someone out, they have no effect. But, I will have no problem with telling them about themselves. Pisces never could understand this "Speed" thing about Gems. "Realities" is also something that Pisces peeps have a hard time with. Also the rigidity and the emotional blackmail is just boring to a point of physical tiresome (draining). You started a thread that gives my observations some validation. Yes, Pisceans are emotional vampires. I couldn't have said it any better myself. 😛But don't you see? You're using Gemini analytical skills to understand Pisces...do you see the problem here? You're using Gemini rules and applying it to a sign which doesn't follow any.
If these fish are emotional vampires why do you allow them to remain in your life? I don't understand.
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No! Gemini's don't have "Gemini" rules. There are just rules, period! THIS Gemini is using experience. It just so happens that THIS Gemini is paying attention.
Those fish that you speak of are not in my life, at all. Not even the "fish" that share the same blood with me. I would not allow vampires into my life. Not even if they are blood. No pun intended. They serve no purpose other than themselves.
Posted by GeminiMind
However, Pisces are emotionally selfish by nature, which drains relationships dry. Once dried up, you guys move onto another one, or stay single for a WHILE.Pisces have absolutely not a clue as to what "Love" is. Zero.
To a Pisces "Love" is a feeling or an emotion. Which is total bullshit. Pisces fall in "Love" based on how that person in the relationship makes them "FEEL" about "THEMSELVES". It is the epitome of absolute hyper-selfishness, absolutely. Which leads to the most energetically draining relationships that you can wrap your head around, if you're the other person. Every Pisces that I've been with I can say after it was over, I realized that it was nothing more than an unnecessary illusion. Them on the other hand have been changed for the better forever. Gemini's are the messengers of the divine, and should never be around people who won't listen to truth. Pisces and Cancers have colossal problems with truth. They want all of the good, but fear the bad. Pisces tend to surround themselves with people who "Enable" them to stay away from the bad truths. Which a many a Pisces will say: "This person makes me FEEL...SAFE." See where I'm going with this?One thing that all water signs have in common is emotion. Pisces on the other hand use emotion as bait, then proceed to feed on their prey after they catch them. Sorry, it's the truth. Scorpio and Cancer do not do this.
I completely agree with this, and it took me a while to realize that I depend on ppl to make me happy now that I know I am working on it.
Like I said, Pisces can't deal with the truth. So you made up a fantasy that's only true to you. I understand water signs better than water signs do. Do you think a fish in the ocean knows that it's in an ocean? No, it does not. Just like Pisces, Cancer, and Scorpio don't understand their element. So stop fronting like you do, you do not. Thus the anguish of all water signs. I'm a Gemini, remember? I can channel all of the water in my chart and can become anything that I want, except a Capricorn. But, hey, you just made up a totally incorrect assessment of me, and as usual a Pisces doesn't get "IT". Gemini's know Pisceans better than they know themselves, period. They just hate that what takes them a lifetime to understand, takes mere glances for a Gem. What you have to go to school to learn comes to us naturally. It frustrates the fish to no end. But, you can't hurt my feelings sweets. You have to be able to speak a bit of truth to do that. It is me that's not trying to hurt your feelings. But, again, like I said, the truth hurts. By the way, there is no reason behind what you do. Why? Because you are conduits, right? You don't even know why you do what you do. We absolutely know why, or at least I do because I'm paying attention. If you want to know the truth or any type of information ask a Gemini. If we don't know we'll go get the info that you need. That's what we do. I'm being nice, trust me. The other Gem dudes here wouldn't be. HaHa! You know who you are brothers!
You're right. Some people do obsess over Pisces. If you were paying attention to what I posted, you'd know that I'm not one of them. Don't confuse curt, tough love for obsession, sweets. I just know that "fear" is what rules you. Ignore it all you want, it's not going to go away until you face head on. Oh but the Piscean rigidity will surely keep you in that state for a lifetime if you let it. It's not logical that Gems get so many things right, yet we can be so wrong about you. C'mon, stop fronting. You just practice escapism. That's what Pisces do. That's where time is truly wasted, Milady.
What you mean to say is that when we get it right, you tend to do the infamous Pisces escape trick. We get it right every step of the way, while the fish is trying escape........their truth; their fear. Again, not trying to offend or hurt your feelings. But, I never assume, I just tell it like it is, and apologize to no one for it. It doesn't mean that I don't love you. 🙂
~GM
Posted by GeminiMind
However, Pisces are emotionally selfish by nature, which drains relationships dry. Once dried up, you guys move onto another one, or stay single for a WHILE.Pisces have absolutely not a clue as to what "Love" is. Zero.
To a Pisces "Love" is a feeling or an emotion. Which is total bullshit. Pisces fall in "Love" based on how that person in the relationship makes them "FEEL" about "THEMSELVES". It is the epitome of absolute hyper-selfishness, absolutely. Which leads to the most energetically draining relationships that you can wrap your head around, if you're the other person. Every Pisces that I've been with I can say after it was over, I realized that it was nothing more than an unnecessary illusion. Them on the other hand have been changed for the better forever. Gemini's are the messengers of the divine, and should never be around people who won't listen to truth. Pisces and Cancers have colossal problems with truth. They want all of the good, but fear the bad. Pisces tend to surround themselves with people who "Enable" them to stay away from the bad truths. Which a many a Pisces will say: "This person makes me FEEL...SAFE." See where I'm going with this?One thing that all water signs have in common is emotion. Pisces on the other hand use emotion as bait, then proceed to feed on their prey after they catch them. Sorry, it's the truth. Scorpio and Cancer do not do this.
I completely agree with this, and it took me a while to realize that I depend on ppl to make me happy now that I know I am working on it.
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BINGO BABY!! See, because of people like you I'll never give up trying to help the fish. You are an inspiration, truly!
I completely agree with this, and it took me a while to realize that I depend on ppl to make me happy now that I know I am working on it.
BINGO BABY!! See, because of people like you I'll never give up trying to help the fish. You are an inspiration, truly!
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Like I said, Pisces can't deal with the truth. So you made up a fantasy that's only true to you. I understand water signs better than water signs do.
~GMI stopped reading there. A Gemini will never get water signs, that's crazy talk😛
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Liar. 😛
first, i wouldn't tolerate either. if i did, it would be giving them permissiom to do it again... so, both would absolutely crush me... but, i'd bounce back!!
GM.... i miss you!! hope life is treating you absolutely wonderful! 🙂
Posted by misslissa
first, i wouldn't tolerate either. if i did, it would be giving them permissiom to do it again... so, both would absolutely crush me... but, i'd bounce back!!GM.... i miss you!! hope life is treating you absolutely wonderful! 🙂
Agreed.
both would hurt equally,emotional detachment happens right away not 4 shure i would say something if i found out something like that,maybe i would just play the same game back crush hes heart and then leave 4 good.
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If her guy had a meaningless one night stand with another woman? Or, if he was in love with a woman that he never met in the physical? Are both cheating? If so, how would you feel about either? Curious.
~GM