Aries woman and Gem man. 7 years gap

I'm seeing this gemini man, he's 7 years older than me and really indecisive.

We've been friends for 5 months and just recently started dating. 

He's really an honest person (i think) and tells me about his past relationships and how messy its been. He's my first, but im definitely not his. He honestly told me that he doesn't want commitment yet. We see each other once a week because he's really busy and im still in college. He flies back to his province once a week and returns to the city within the week. 1hour flight. But he chats me a lot even if he's away. When im sad he's there and vice versa. 

He's honest to a point where he also told me he recently used tinder a month before we started seeing each other. And also told me he had a fun time with the girl. Because i still wont fullfill his needs.

But there's also this instance where he'd say that nothing is really permanent and he wouldnt want to commit because of work, school and time. 

What do you think about my gem? Im really confuse if i should risk him. Or if he would commit in the long run. 

Btw he's 27 anf im 21.

What do u mean by just started dating? Like kissing, going on dates?

Yes both.

Posted by Moonbutter
What do u mean by just started dating? Like kissing, going on dates?

Thank you for this.. still thinking through.... it's hard to let go. 😢

Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
If a guy says he can't commit, I would respect his word and walk away. I'm assuming here based on your OP, you are looking forward to a committed relationship.

Idk a single guy who refuses to commit when they meet the girl they want to have a long term relationship with.

Thank you for this

Don’t think that he’s is dragging his feet cause he’s a gem. They will lock you down in a relationship right away if they are interested.

I’d tell him a relationship is a priority for you and since he’s not ready for that you can’t continue seeing him romantically. At best it’ll light a fire under his ass. At worst he’ll go his separate way. But at least you’ll have his respect for knowing what you want and sticking to it.

Posted by ysa098
Thank you for this.. still thinking through.... it's hard to let go.

Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
If a guy says he can't commit, I would respect his word and walk away. I'm assuming here based on your OP, you are looking forward to a committed relationship.

Idk a single guy who refuses to commit when they meet the girl they want to have a long term relationship with.

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I understand... but ask yourself this: if you stopped being intimate with him, would he still “act” like a boyfriend or do u think he would bail?