dont you hate when you get in that mood?

That comes when you feel like all you do for someone is not reciprocated...not that they don't appreciate it but it would be nice if I felt like they would do anything for me as I would for them. Why can't I only do things for others when it benefits me....just like all these assholes

Posted by auriqa
It doesn't bother me because I only do things for people out of love, not because I expect anything in return. 🙂

+1!

Posted by AbstractRay
That comes when you feel like all you do for someone is not reciprocated...not that they don't appreciate it but it would be nice if I felt like they would do anything for me as I would for them. Why can't I only do things for others when it benefits me....just like all these assholes

I rarely care if my actions are reciprocated, but not appreciating my efforts and sincerity gets to me after time. It's exactly what has happened to me most of my life. My parents taught me to be very giving. It's something they instilled in me and I love to make people happy. It's just that when you don't see any genuine appreciation, you start believing your giving has become meaningless to some.

A perfect example of this is my In-Laws. My husband and I have included them in 10+ years of Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners. We have given them things they could use and enjoy. And to help them get out of financial debt, we wrote them a check over 10 years ago; enough that you could buy a decent car with it. And to this day, they've never demonstrated any appreciation or asked if we needed help in any way. They always find time and energy to help my younger brother in law who has been nothing but a leech and total drunk; but when it comes to their eldest son, my husband, they don't even bother to call or lift a finger.

It angers me to a point, but then I think, why waste my energy and happiness on two people who don't have a clue as to how to be respectful; especially when involving family members.