@RioAbajo
9 Years
Fellow Gemini Suns and Moons... I need your advice
Did you start out as FWB? Or friends?
Friends.
Posted by Moonbutter
Did you start out as FWB? Or friends?
Wow... Ok that makes so much sense... Girl, Im torn.. this man would give me the world... but still wouldnt commit to just me... baffles me. He's a Virgo Fyi
Posted by Effervescent
End it. Remove him from your life.I'm sorry but how are you going to cheat on me, give me an STD, I end up taking you back, hate myself for it and THEN you tell me you love me but you're not IN LOVE with me?
What am I? Some kind of used up cum rag?
BITCH BYE!
He would be gone from my life!
Don't let him be reckless with your body like that... I understand that you love him but you don't have to be treated like this.. You can find someone that would love you back.
Posted by RioAbajo
Wow... Ok that makes so much sense... Girl, Im torn.. this man would give me the world... but still wouldnt commit to just me... baffles me. He's a Virgo FyiPosted by Effervescent
End it. Remove him from your life.I'm sorry but how are you going to cheat on me, give me an STD, I end up taking you back, hate myself for it and THEN you tell me you love me but you're not IN LOVE with me?
What am I? Some kind of used up cum rag?
BITCH BYE!
He would be gone from my life!
click to expand
You mean he will give you everything except what you truly want... then he is only willing to give you what he wants to. I've been in this before where the guy only did what he wanted to do for me and that what is it to maintain. Miserable.
Your angry with him when you should be angry with yourself.
Why would you have unprotected sex with some dude your only dating??! If there's no promise of exclusivity then you have to accept your risky choices are what got you here.
No but seriously... help me understand what's going through your head when you have unprotected sex with someone.
He slept with her and told himself that was ok bc we weren't really in a relationship. And slept with us both unprotected.. lmfao. What an idiot I am!
Classic Gemini trait...finding loopholes to get away with what he wants. I'm guilty of it, but honestly to give someone an STD... that's gross.
BTW you're not an idiot. ... he's the idiot for not wearing a condom.
-PS-
The relationship is tainted...so end it. Things will never be the same because he lied - broke your trust - passed on a disease - and is still unsure of what he wants from you.... so he's not in love with you.
Geminis , or at least the moons, are faithful when in love with their partners.......
click to expand
Takes 2 to tango.
His willingness to fuck raw should have been her red flag that he's done it before, ergo risk of disease is higher. She also is guilty of having unprotected sex. She could've easily been the one to pass it onto her next partner...
Posted by Cancan26
Don't be reckless with your body like that... I understand that you love him but you don't have to be treated like this.. You can find someone that would love you back.
Fixed it.
Posted by Cancan26
Don't be reckless with your body like that... I understand that you love him but you don't have to be treated like this.. You can find someone that would love you back.Fixed it.
click to expand
Yep.
He slept with her and told himself that was ok bc we weren't really in a relationship. And slept with us both unprotected.. lmfao. What an idiot I am!
Classic Gemini trait...finding loopholes to get away with what he wants. I'm guilty of it, but honestly to give someone an STD... that's gross.
BTW you're not an idiot. ... he's the idiot for not wearing a condom.
-PS-
The relationship is tainted...so end it. Things will never be the same because he lied - broke your trust - passed on a disease - and is still unsure of what he wants from you.... so he's not in love with you.
Geminis , or at least the moons, are faithful when in love with their partners.......
Takes 2 to tango.
His willingness to fuck raw should have been her red flag that he's done it before, ergo risk of disease is higher. She also is guilty of having unprotected sex. She could've easily been the one to pass it onto her next partner...
I know... I just didn't want to be rude to OP... I think she's suffered enough contracting the Clap
click to expand
It's not rude. It's the truth.
May be painful to face but hopefully she'll learn from this experience and never put her health at risk for a boy again.
Always assume he's dating (read fucking) other women unless terms of exclusivity are discussed.
Keep in mind words are free and freely used to pull the wool over your eyes. Actions matter more.
Never fuck a dude raw until you at least have an agreement of exclusivity.
To get what you want you need to make it known from the beginning. Your power lies in having the strength to walk away if he can't make it happen.
i. He's a Virgo. The girl he slept with was also a Gemini. And I ended it yesterday. Thanks for your input. Seriously.
He slept with her and told himself that was ok bc we weren't really in a relationship. And slept with us both unprotected.. lmfao. What an idiot I am!
Classic Gemini trait...finding loopholes to get away with what he wants. I'm guilty of it, but honestly to give someone an STD... that's gross.
BTW you're not an idiot. ... he's the idiot for not wearing a condom.
-PS-
The relationship is tainted...so end it. Things will never be the same because he lied - broke your trust - passed on a disease - and is still unsure of what he wants from you.... so he's not in love with you.
Geminis , or at least the moons, are faithful when in love with their partners.......
click to expand
We had an understand. He deceived me. and the other girl. We were basically in a realtionship without a title and that was my biggest mistake.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Always assume he's dating (read fucking) other women unless terms of exclusivity are discussed.Keep in mind words are free and freely used to pull the wool over your eyes. Actions matter more.
Never fuck a dude raw until you at least have an agreement of exclusivity.
To get what you want you need to make it known from the beginning. Your power lies in having the strength to walk away if he can't make it happen.
the clap you'll know before you sleep with the next person... IF you're not with another person too soon. As far as I knew I was with someone who was only with me. We'd been dealing with each other for almost 2 years so it just was what it was.
He slept with her and told himself that was ok bc we weren't really in a relationship. And slept with us both unprotected.. lmfao. What an idiot I am!
Classic Gemini trait...finding loopholes to get away with what he wants. I'm guilty of it, but honestly to give someone an STD... that's gross.
BTW you're not an idiot. ... he's the idiot for not wearing a condom.
-PS-
The relationship is tainted...so end it. Things will never be the same because he lied - broke your trust - passed on a disease - and is still unsure of what he wants from you.... so he's not in love with you.
Geminis , or at least the moons, are faithful when in love with their partners.......
Takes 2 to tango.
His willingness to fuck raw should have been her red flag that he's done it before, ergo risk of disease is higher. She also is guilty of having unprotected sex. She could've easily been the one to pass it onto her next partner...
click to expand
Clearly. Thanks.
Posted by Ellygant
If he'd give you the world, you'd have it. Not the clap.
Words from the wise. thanks
Posted by LadyNeptune
Always assume he's dating (read fucking) other women unless terms of exclusivity are discussed.Keep in mind words are free and freely used to pull the wool over your eyes. Actions matter more.
Never fuck a dude raw until you at least have an agreement of exclusivity.
To get what you want you need to make it known from the beginning. Your power lies in having the strength to walk away if he can't make it happen.
Did this help you understand what to do next?
dxpnet has hosted real conversations like this since 2000. If you value independent communities, you can support the site below.
Every contribution helps keep dxpnet independent and ad-light.
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →
Was seeing a guy and he wanted to take it slow. Which is hard for me Im also an Aries Moon and a Pisces rising so jumping to the point and falling in love is just my stupid thing. HE professed his love for me and asked me to just be patient while he got his life on track. So, we did our thing and he treated me great. He genuinely likes me and I feel the same!
Fast forward a month. He calls to tell me I need to get checked bc he's got the Clap. He slept with someone else and got it. A coworker... I made him pay for my treatment and I ended it. He cried and pleaded with me to forgive him and take him back. He'd do anything.
I took some time alone. Then I forgave him and out more boundaries in place. He abided. And things were damn near perfect.
But as time went by I started to resent the fact that I forgave him.. Bc I felt so tricked. He slept with her and told himself that was ok bc we weren't really in a relationship. And slept with us both unprotected.. lmfao. What an idiot I am!
And after all that he still wasnt sure if I was the one he wanted to be with. He says he loves me but he's not sure if he's in love and needs more time to figure it out. I told him I needed some space and time. We still talk almost daily but no where near as much....
I dont know how to fit him into my life. He was a fucking GREAT friend. Now, not so much. We're both lost I think. I do love him and I'd like to forgive him but I think Im wasting my time... How do I end it? Should I be patient? What would you do. Cuss me out whatever. Lol
Thanks
Rio