Hotgal78
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Gem Men?
Do you ever really know what anyone says is truely what they mean? You would have to know him. The Gem males i know... are as you discribe, but i haven't seen them lie like that. Most don't want to be pinned down, unless it's someone that for some reason, they truely think is their match. Then, they go above and beyond to let you know that. Most don't say much on feelings and relationships until they want to be in it. They will talk your ear off, but usually nothing very deep about their feelings. Just my experience with them.
Thanks BaBy GrL.
I have known him for 12 years. I was 17 when I met him and for the first 3 years we were dating. I stopped seeing him and the next 9 years I was in two different serious committed long term relationships. Over the years I would see him in passing and he would always speak to me. We would talk and a few times, even though he knew I was in a relationship, he would basically propose an ultimatum for me to be with him. (He has a big ego)
It is not until recently we have met up again and this time I am not seeing anyone seriously, so we have been hanging out. He recently started saying things like, "I think we should try to work on being in a relationship.....I have always cared about you.....If you said yes I would marry you tomorrow.....and LASTLY he said those 3 words I LOVE YOU."
In all the years that I have known him he has never said these things before or even remotely expressed these feelings. We like in the same city and know some of the same people so we would pass each other occassionally in pubic. I am now wondering whether he is just talking because he knows that I am not seeing anyone. We have had several conversations about us (basically him telling me how he feels). When he first brought it up I thought he was joking but the more time I spend with him, he seems to keep referring to us being together. I have not responded to his question about working on being in a relationship so he told me that he is not going to put pressure on me, but one day is just going to ask me one more time and I will have to give him astraight forward answer.
Maybe he is really ready to settle down. He is 35 now.
I have known him for 12 years. I was 17 when I met him and for the first 3 years we were dating. I stopped seeing him and the next 9 years I was in two different serious committed long term relationships. Over the years I would see him in passing and he would always speak to me. We would talk and a few times, even though he knew I was in a relationship, he would basically propose an ultimatum for me to be with him. (He has a big ego)
It is not until recently we have met up again and this time I am not seeing anyone seriously, so we have been hanging out. He recently started saying things like, "I think we should try to work on being in a relationship.....I have always cared about you.....If you said yes I would marry you tomorrow.....and LASTLY he said those 3 words I LOVE YOU."
In all the years that I have known him he has never said these things before or even remotely expressed these feelings. We like in the same city and know some of the same people so we would pass each other occassionally in pubic. I am now wondering whether he is just talking because he knows that I am not seeing anyone. We have had several conversations about us (basically him telling me how he feels). When he first brought it up I thought he was joking but the more time I spend with him, he seems to keep referring to us being together. I have not responded to his question about working on being in a relationship so he told me that he is not going to put pressure on me, but one day is just going to ask me one more time and I will have to give him astraight forward answer.
Maybe he is really ready to settle down. He is 35 now.
It sounds like it to me. I have a Gem male friend (37).. and he is so similar to me, and we would hang out and had a great time with him. He had always made it crystal clear that he wanted to be with me. But, there were no feelings on my end. This happened about 3 years ago, that i did make an attempt to date him and i just didn't have feelings. To this day, when we talk, he will still leave hanging out there... i'm here.. all you gotta do is ask. so i don't know if that's all gem males that maybe they can get hung up on someone, or maybe the IDEA of someone. But it seems once someone gets in their brain, that's it. *shrug* wish i could help more.
Run!..hah just kidding...
But I was with a gem man for a while. Once they are committed..they are committed.....until you stop paying them attention for the tiniest bit of time...then they stray...and oh boy will they stray.
Sigh. They are good people. Just when they are wrong, they dont see it as wrong. They try to make the wrong into a right with excuses and circumstances. Such as my ex gem man explaining he cheated on me because I was busy (with work and school mind you) and not showing him attention...and then jealous of my time with my friends...so since I was not there for him all the time like I usually was he went to seek comfort in the arms of someone else. To this day he does not think of it as cheating though. He thought the circumstances made it perfectly fine for him to commit adultery. Men...ugh.
Tread carefully. Watch for female friends that are from the past! They pose a threat just as much as female strangers! ....pretty much he is a threat...lol
So Yes...they are two timers..."in certain cirumstances"...
But I was with a gem man for a while. Once they are committed..they are committed.....until you stop paying them attention for the tiniest bit of time...then they stray...and oh boy will they stray.
Sigh. They are good people. Just when they are wrong, they dont see it as wrong. They try to make the wrong into a right with excuses and circumstances. Such as my ex gem man explaining he cheated on me because I was busy (with work and school mind you) and not showing him attention...and then jealous of my time with my friends...so since I was not there for him all the time like I usually was he went to seek comfort in the arms of someone else. To this day he does not think of it as cheating though. He thought the circumstances made it perfectly fine for him to commit adultery. Men...ugh.
Tread carefully. Watch for female friends that are from the past! They pose a threat just as much as female strangers! ....pretty much he is a threat...lol
So Yes...they are two timers..."in certain cirumstances"...
"I have heard that Gem men, are flirtatious, friendly, charming, etc."
I only flirt with the braum's dude for more nuts & fudge on my sundae. But it not THAT kind of flirt. It's more of "Hey, dude, I am going to kill for those shoes. Are those the new Jordans?" & I know in my mind his shoes are busted up. I'm friendly when I wanna be. The only "charm" is Charmins toilet paper. My charm flew of the window with little wings his feet on my wedding night. (Hahaha, I'm teasing).
"However I've also been told that they can be two-timers, liars and manipulative."
Yup, when I need to be.
I only flirt with the braum's dude for more nuts & fudge on my sundae. But it not THAT kind of flirt. It's more of "Hey, dude, I am going to kill for those shoes. Are those the new Jordans?" & I know in my mind his shoes are busted up. I'm friendly when I wanna be. The only "charm" is Charmins toilet paper. My charm flew of the window with little wings his feet on my wedding night. (Hahaha, I'm teasing).
"However I've also been told that they can be two-timers, liars and manipulative."
Yup, when I need to be.
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