Gemini and Aries Splitting

my gem and I are on the verge of breaking up. Typical aries and gemini relationship. seems like they never last.

What the hell?


You two just got married, after a long ass time of being a couple .... it's jsut a fight, you two will soon be all mended and happy again.

Posted by P-Angel
What the hell?


You two just got married, after a long ass time of being a couple .... it's jsut a fight, you two will soon be all mended and happy again.

p...things were good at first but now they are bad turning to worse everyday....you have been with a gem before...they are the most selfish people on the planet...besides being wishy washy and fickled...I cant take it anymore.

Dward I'm sorry your marriage is breaking up. That does suck. What's going on? Are you sure it can't be saved?

Honestly, my mother, my brother and myself are all geminis. My mom and I aren't selfish in general, in fact we have been told we are too giving for our own good. My brother on the other hand, he is the most selfish individual I have ever come across, so much so that we haven't spoken in years.

Just trying to make some sense of this....if he displayed these qualities before marriage UH.....why marry him? Everyone has bad and good but it sounds like to you his selfish qualities are just unbearable? By the way calling all gems the most selfish people on the planet? childish and ignorant don't you think?? Maybe it's you as an Aries that doesn't know how to not leap head first into something then get bored with what you want now hating your old "toy" .......


p...things were good at first but now they are bad turning to worse everyday....you have been with a gem before...they are the most selfish people on the planet...besides being wishy washy and fickled...I cant take it anymore.

Posted by dward417

Posted by P-Angel
What the hell?


You two just got married, after a long ass time of being a couple .... it's jsut a fight, you two will soon be all mended and happy again.

p...things were good at first but now they are bad turning to worse everyday....you have been with a gem before...they are the most selfish people on the planet...besides being wishy washy and fickled...I cant take it anymore.

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Yeah, I know they are selfish .... and very trying to relate to when needing them to be mature ... maturity isn't their strong suit.

But, maybe things would look differently if you guys just took a little time away from each other to think about it all because you have a lot of time invested in this man. Maybe working at trying to find a stable board on the bridge would be better than collapsing the bridge altogether.

That's just mean-spirited and untrue. I have lots of experience with Aries women, and one thing that I've learned is that you guys are not going to listen to shit! A Gemini man with an Aries woman is fun in the hay for a while, but the reality is that Aries depend on luck. Gemini's make their own. Aries women are mannish in many ways, and want to take charge. Not going to happen with a Gemini, so you will bump heads, a lot! It's funny because I think that Aries woman are the essence of a "Real" woman. However, real women are attracted to real men. When you get one it's like have a Tiger by the tail, init? So, naturally that mars warrior in you comes out, and that Mercury warrior comes out in him. Hell ensues!

"The most selfish people on the planet." Uh.. no, you said that to a Pisces, I challenge you to go find a Pisces guy and come back here to tell that story. Hmph. If your Gemini was so selfish you wouldn't have gotten with him in the first place dward, and you know it. His generosity and his strength is like no other, again, or you wouldn't have gotten with him, because that's what you command. So, please don't give the "Rat" any food to feed her stupidity and ignorance. Pisces are the most selfish people on the planet, bar none. Since we're generalizing.

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Posted by dward417

Posted by P-Angel
What the hell?


You two just got married, after a long ass time of being a couple .... it's jsut a fight, you two will soon be all mended and happy again.

p...things were good at first but now they are bad turning to worse everyday....you have been with a gem before...they are the most selfish people on the planet...besides being wishy washy and fickled...I cant take it anymore.

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With the mother of my kids, we went through the same thing. It got nasty, like overnight. I clearly remember you saying in years past, dward, that a Gemini thinks he can teach you something and that you weren't going to listen. Yes, I remember that. So now, it's all come to a head. You don't trust him enough or believe in him enough to take what he says to heart, that's how he thinks and feels. Now you've created a monster. How? By not allowing him to flow with you, while you are an Aries you will always resist, that's cool. It's just your nature. What should've happened was you two being mature and flexible and come to a mutual respect. Instead, this. It's too bad because I remember back in the day you were saying the polar opposite about him. So, something changed. Was it you? Was it him? Doesn't matter at this point. He feels disrespected, I guarantee you. Not only that, Mercury is retrograde, so cut a bruddah some slack it'll pass. When you were in a pinch who was there? Yeah, I'd bet your Gemini. So, please, don't disrespect all Gemini's just because you can't handle yours. Remember, you commented to a Pisces who couldn't handle hers either. Be careful the company that you keep. Just sayin. You are an Aries so weakness is not in your nature. The "Rat" is a Pisces, she does not know strength, but she will enable you to weaken you, that's what emotional Vampires do, she's setting you up. Don't be no damn fool! C'mon.

@JuiCy*

YUP!

dward, this is so sad... whatever the outcome, i wish you the best and know things will work out the way they are supposed to. *hugs*

I'm a Pisces TRYING to deal with a Gemini man.For the most part we get along ok. My one complaint is he seems to think that what I have to say is not important.So...IS THAT NOT SELFISH —?? and he plays head games.I love him to death but,I can relate with your frustration.However,know this...if that Gemini married you he loves you so don't give up on him.

Well i was in a relationship with a pisces man......So my take on it (not saying all) He couldn't get his head of his ass if tried. Kinda like P - Angel. Anyway Great guy, Great heart........Just wish he lived in some sort of reality......Maybe i would be viewed as selfish because in all honesty HOW CAN ONE listen to someone who has no logic behind what they are saying? I mean IM A WOMAN & I made more sense then he did.....Gemini mind (they can't stand us, they just marry us) lmao? Really?? Didn't mean this to you neptune....Although this is.......If he's not listening to what your saying are you sure what your saying is making sense?

Juicy:He never shuts his mouth so what I meant is that when I try to say something he just keeps right on talking...RUDE HUH?

Neptune, that's a speed thing. He processes information per syllable, whereas other people need full sentences to process the same info. I know it sounds nuts to you , but it's true. He's not purposely being rude. He's just quicker in thought. What Juicy is saying is that you need to be sure that what you're saying to him is making sense, to him. That's the communication part that Gemini's are masters at. If you can't relay your message to where he can make sense of it, it's you that lack the ability to get him to understand. That's where you need to work on those skills, you'll get better at it, if you're patient, and not swim away when you get frustrated. He needs to understand that you can't do what he does and be patient and try to communicate what he doesn't understand coming from you. My Gemini bud has been married to his fish for 18 years now. It's pleasing to watch them go through that dance, but at the end of it all they have a mutual understanding. She doesn't swim away, she works hard at making sure she doesn't sound like an idiot to him. Guess what? She has an Aqua moon.

Bling, could it be that Pisces is a sign that the universe made up as astrological summer school? HaHa!

Thank you Gemini mind...Well Neptune it seems you have more then one complaint....now you believe him to be rude lol. I totally understand what you are saying as some gemini's never shut up & yes you're correct it's annoying. However what gemini mind said is true...Most of us process things quickly, Making us onto the next subject while your still on the same...Some would call it crazy maybe so but this is why it's important that he is being mentally stimulated. Something that stood out and caught my attentionn & once again just an observation. "You know a gemini man loves you if he will marry you" I understand as a woman where you are comming from but you NEED to make sure YOU love yourself first ... It just kinda came at me as well he can be whatever he is but if he choices to marry you he loves you and it's all okay. He might be picking up on the fact that you don't really value yourself in a high degree........I could be wrong though, prob am lmao

You'e right,sometimes all I do is just marvel at his ability to jump from one subject to another without a pause.He's never quiet.Not even when we're getting busy.And I kidd you not,he even talks in his sleep.Are Gem's brains ever at rest?

JUICY:What I meant is that if he married her he was ready to commit to her.In my mind that's love.I guess that is the Pisces in me.

NEP - Okay i got ya now......so tell him to shut up!!! LOL

Posted by neptune0313
You'e right,sometimes all I do is just marvel at his ability to jump from one subject to another without a pause.He's never quiet.Not even when we're getting busy.And I kidd you not,he even talks in his sleep.Are Gem's brains ever at rest?

NEVER turns off!! Much to our chagrin! I think someone started a thread about it. I never talk in my sleep though, or talk while I'm hittin it. Your dude may be nuts! 😛

Bling, you've been upgraded to 5* stunna status!! 😛

Posted by dward417
my gem and I are on the verge of breaking up. Typical aries and gemini relationship. seems like they never last.

I am very sorry to hear this D.
Hope he is just in idiot Gemboy mode and snaps out of it.

Silly Gemboy to let a good Aries chick slip through his fingers....I thought Geminis were smarter than that—?
hugs xxxx

We are, Mercury retrograde. But, I hold myself to a higher standard. 🙂

I hope it it just retrograde and everything works out...Dward is my postergirl for successful Aries/Gem romance.
It will be the end of my world as I know it* if they don't make it.

And not very nice for D either


*Lyrics courtesy of Michael Stipe

sorry - hope it IS just the mercury retrograde thing.


where the hell is that edit button?

He didn't deserve her anyway .. and probably never even knew what kind of woman he had with her. If it ends, I hope it doesn't .... certainly, there are good men, ready to show her.

P-"Angel" is such a fucking two-faced phony. *smh*

GM I don't think he's nuts but,he just likes to ask me questions like "who does this belong to" I think it's a ego thing but, it can be a little distracting.lol. What is stunna status?

Everevolving you crack me up...lol

dward:Hang in there.speaking from my own personal experience,Gems like all of us go off to the left every now and then but,they come back.If you love him you will have to learn to deal with the other side(twin)of his personality who will rear his head from time to time but, you know they(gems)can be the most loving,sexiest,interesting men of the zodiac.

"Neptune, that's a speed thing. He processes information per syllable, whereas other people need full sentences to process the same info. I know it sounds nuts to you , but it's true. He's not purposely being rude. He's just quicker in thought. "


Oh, thank you for saying this! I try to explain this to people! If you're talking to me, especially about a philosophical concept, I've usually already grasped what you're trying to get across long before you've finished speaking. After you get out a few syllables, there's a flash of understanding and I'm ready to move on to the next thought. I get really impatient with someone who speaks or processes slowly and really annoyed when someone throws out a concept and then feels he has to give a follow-up explaination (as if he can understand the concept, but I need more help). If I need clarification, I'll ask for it- otherwise, let's keep this conversation moving! Over the years, I've learned to tame myself and not speak over people or finish sentences, but internally I'm still impatient.

Whimsy: Thank you for helping me to understand the Gem thought process.It was helpful

dward, sorry to hear about this. I hope things work out, either way.

thanks guys for all your input...especially from you mr geminimind.

However my gem and I did patch things up a little. Hopefully he can see the error of his ways and try not to be so selfish. I mean I have issues too that I need to work on.

So hopefully it works itself out.

I'm happy to hear that things have turned around. Gems sometimes loose focus because they always have a "full plate" but,in general I think they take their committments seriously.

Posted by dward417
thanks guys for all your input...especially from you mr geminimind.

However my gem and I did patch things up a little. Hopefully he can see the error of his ways and try not to be so selfish. I mean I have issues too that I need to work on.

So hopefully it works itself out.

You know you've always been my girl, D! Which is why I come to you direct and correct. Wishing you and the dude the best. 🙂