Gemini guy is making me jealous?

This gem guy and I have known each other for a year and we have been developing feelings for each other. I invited him to an event at my previous school and he accepted. But since he lives miles away, we thought of spending the night at my place instead so we could be there early. He agreed. But during the night, he was a bit drunk so, something has happened. The next day, we enjoyed ourselves during the event, talking and flirting and such. After the event we had our lunch and as strange as it may sound, he apologized for what had happened the night before. He said he feels guilty about it. I told him it was fine, it was unexpected but then it's now a thing of the past so we just need to get over it and if he really feels guilty about it, he could plan something for the both of us if he wants a formal make up.

After that, I introduced him to my friend who's a libra. And I noticed that he looks at her in a strange way. He called her and said, "Hey. Sarah, right? I kinda like you. I wanna hang out with you some time." And I was like "what a flirt"
My friend declined since she knows how much I like the guy. Lol. So yeah. He kept on flirting with her and such.

He actually took a leave for this event so he was off to work afterwards. My friend and I led him to the terminal and before he was about to go, he looked at me and said "Wouldn't I be having any goodbye kisses?" I said no and then he turned away but i continued and said, "I could give you a hug if you want" then he turned back and hugged me and I gave him a peck on the lips. And when he pulled away he winked at my friend and said " bye sarah, nice meeting you"

What do you think?

I'm feeling kinda the opposite from what Norcalman67 said, but he's a guy and I'm not, so he would know more about the motivations of guys. Here's what I think anyhow, and hopefully some of it will be useful:

I've never felt guilty after sleeping with someone I was into, only after sleeping with someone when it was just sex. I felt guilty that I might be leading them on by knowing that it wouldn't happen again, even though they were hopeful it would, and anxiety about how to handle an awkward situation and still remain friends ("friends" being the operative word).

In any event, I think it's not a good thing that he's flirting right in front of you. A little flirting is built into our DNA and is often subconscious, but this seems to go beyond that. Flirting right in front of you shows that he's not serious about having an exclusive relationship with you at this point. It could be to make you jealous, yes, but that would just signal that he's immature, and who needs that? It is most likely because he would like to do you both, and preferably at the same time. Until there's some sort of commitment, no one can blame the guy for trying, I suppose.

First, I want to address both Norcal and Whimsy .... this woman never said they had sex, both of you commented on guilt of having sex. The man was drunk, and because of his drunknesses somethign happened ... so, it would be a logical assumption to say the guilt was due to not being able to have sex.


sydney ... you need to read the Gemini board and I think you will have your answer.

One of Gemini's driving forces is to relish in the delight that people are jealous of them. They will even create this energy in others in order to get people to be jealous of them. This is the main reason for thier flirty nature = to draw attention upon themselves from multiple people in hopes of these people envying each other when attention is then given by the Gemini.

The Gem cannot survive without a jealous partner because they have a dependency on this kind of attention for self fulfillment .... sorry to say, but, if you want to have a partnership with this man, then you will have to find a way to be content with playing your part of being jealous of him, so he can be happy with himself.


Good luck

The Gem/Sag combo is very difficult in this respect ... because Sags, for the most part, are self confident enough with their own sense of worth and value, that they usually recoil away from jealous behaviour.

So, I'm not sure how you will be able to find the place in you to participate in this ... that is, if you are the typical Sagittarius.

Posted by P-Angel
First, I want to address both Norcal and Whimsy .... this woman never said they had sex, both of you commented on guilt of having sex. The man was drunk, and because of his drunknesses somethign happened ... so, it would be a logical assumption to say the guilt was due to not being able to have sex.

Yes, I see now how you're reading that. It would be helpful to know exactly what the "something" was, since it can be taken both ways.

"I told him it was fine, it was unexpected but then it's now a thing of the past so we just need to get over it and if he really feels guilty about it, he could plan something for the both of us if he wants a formal make up."



That is very odd, though, to say that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ get over it? a thing of the past?


doesn't sound like consentual sex ... sounds like a limp dick

Which if he does have a limp dick .. then the picture becomes clearer as to why he would openly hit on another woman ....

I'm not the type that needs someone to be jealous of me, and it drives me completely nuts if my partner is jealous. I'm not confirming or denying whether other Gems are the same, just talking about myself.

And, sydneyhughes27, more info about the limp dick issue, please!

Thanks for the replies. I appreciate it. 🙂
BTW that 'something' was yeah, sex. Lol. He did apologize for it and told me it won't happen again. Maybe that 'it won't happen again' was pertaining to how it started. It was kinda rough and aggressive. That's how I knew he was drunk. It should've been sensual and passionate. Hahaha

Posted by P-Angel
"I told him it was fine, it was unexpected but then it's now a thing of the past so we just need to get over it and if he really feels guilty about it, he could plan something for the both of us if he wants a formal make up."



That is very odd, though, to say that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ get over it? a thing of the past?


doesn't sound like consentual sex ... sounds like a limp dick

p you are too funny and always dead on the money...LOl

Play it right back to them and pretend that you don't care. That's how I dealt with this one Gemini guy. I didn't even particularly like him, it was I felt that vibe from him; that he was trying to be the carefree flirt making all the girls hang off his every word/move. Did not fall for it! Nothing drove him crazier than me treating him like any other average guy.