Gemini man confusing .. by this text message ?

Gemini man I’ve been dealing with for months now, all we’ve basically done is have sex I guess he claims he likes me etc but idk last night I told him to come over he was texting me the whole time even saying he loves “ me about 4 Times and asks why I haven’t said it back i said because you don’t mean it. He said tbh I do. That I didn’t pay to much time to because he talks a lot. He comes spends the night we have sex when he leaves he kisses me on my forehead a couple times says I love you again and leaves. I said text me when u get home he didn’t do I texted him he claimed he forget w.e . I said just to let you know I do like you and I’m not using u for sex I want to be more than talking to you or your sex buddy whatever. If your cool with it great if not there cool too. He replies and says “ lol your sure your not” .. I say that’s what I said. I don’t just say things like this ( which I’ve been telling him I like him ) but like I said if you don’t that’s cool just forget I even bought this up.. he replies “ I mean we could try that one day “ .. what is that supposed to mean? And how should I respond I’m a Aries btw

Soo you are cool with him just using you for sex? 🤨

Kinda weird he won't take you out for meal. Next time he says this I love you bs (a few months in is kinda alarming) tell him your hungry and whats up?

OP, you have to be honest with your self, because only then will you get what you really want. You are hiding behind a facade of smoke and mirrors on this... you say you don’t care when you really do. Be honest with your self, that’s the first step.

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Posted by wiseblood

Posted by Senorita_LL

Posted by wiseblood
How are all of you coming to this conclusion? :/

If anything, he is the one thinking he is being used for sex.. He tells her he loves her, she never says it back.. no wonder he didn't msg her when he got home :/ (maybe is too soon to be saying that.. idk, we don't have much of a story to go off here) And when she finally out right tells him that she isn't using him for sex, his response doesn't even sound like he is so sure of that.. Why does everyone think he is playing her? We haven't been told much to suspect him of that.. A guy who was playing her wouldn't care or ask why she isn't saying I love you back I wouldn't think.. :/

And it's not up to men to plan dates.. she could easily ask him to go out and do something if that's what she wanted.. If I want more than sex with a guy I am gonna try to engage with him in other ways.. not sit around and wait for him to plan something or just text him and ask him to come over when I want some? It's a two way street and it sounds like he is the only one laying cards on the table in regard to feelings, so... ?

I agree with you on this.

I think basically he was just mirroring what she did. I would have react the same way too.

That's the vibe I got from it..

Yep, I read what she wrote, twice, and try to understand the situation but that's how I feel too. I believe he was feeling skeptical especially when she said she's cool about it, if he doesn't want more either.

Personally, if someone were to tell me that, I would have just treated it, like he were playing. It's either you're in or out, no in between. Fuck that shit man! Omg, why am I so emotional right now?? Lol

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... or it could be a polite way of giving people an option, without forcing them into one particular decision.

Gemini men are interesting creatures but your in a situation where its not deep enough with him to the point where his love is genuine. Depending on his personality as a whole he is either playing you or serious. From what you have said it sound like he is just playing. Gemini men love control. And an ego boost. It might simply be bothering his ego that you dont say i love you back. Gemini men are highly intelligent and go for what they want ALWAYS. So if his " i love you" isn't being backed up by actions that show it. He is playing. My advice to you (being a Gemini who has been in not one but 2 long term relationships with Gemini men) dont take him seriously. And act really nonchalantly. He will chase you.