He's out with another girl

We ain't together but i thought we had a connection.

Posted by Harukka

Did you ever told him about it? About your feelings

He said verbatim that he thinks of me and wants to move closer to being apart of my life.

He can do what he wants.

But damn. Way to throw it all up in my face.

Posted by Damous

Always ask for exclusivity. CHECK if you’re on the same page. Y’dig? You can have a connection, but he could also have a connection with her. Always assume if you haven’t actually talked about being exclusive (to continue seeing if you wanna go for a relationship) that the other person will continue talking to other people.

He grown.

He can do what he wants.

I really need to use thing anger and figure out how do I capitalize on my shitty dating life..

🤔

You know what.

I did things differently this time.

Date #1 I verbally out my interest out there. I spelled it out. No debate on how I felt.

But people are free to do what they want.

I tell myself time and time again, no matter what you say, people can and will do them.

Like i said, we were still in the figuring out each other stage and hes free to do him.

Maybe I'd just appreciate a little discretion.

Still...hes a dickhead.

Posted by Muderface

Still...hes a dickhead.

Dont you know, we spoke at midnight just last night with him going on and on about how he thinks of me and how he feels were on the same wave length its scary.

I wish I could be as full of it as he is.

Thank you for seeing him as the jerk instead of me as the woman who doesnt speak up for herself. Cause I do.

The other gurl who he is out with should feel some sorta way 2. Considering how he was just speaking sweet nothings in my ear not even 24 hours earlier.

Posted by BlueMarshmallow

Posted by DMV

We ain't together but i thought we had a connection.

Did he tell you he is going out with another girl?

Or you found out he is out with another girl?

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Gurl. He posted it on social media.

Clear and to the point.

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Posted by Muderface

Still...hes a dickhead.

Dont you know, we spoke at midnight just last night with him going on and on about how he thinks of me and how he feels were on the same wave length its scary.

I wish I could be as full of it as he is.

Thank you for seeing him as the jerk instead of me as the woman who doesnt speak up for herself. Cause I do.

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He's just a user. Take this as a blessing that you dodged that mess.

Keep your head up girl!😘 Them hoes ain't loyal 😂😂

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Posted by Damous

Always ask for exclusivity. CHECK if you’re on the same page. Y’dig? You can have a connection, but he could also have a connection with her. Always assume if you haven’t actually talked about being exclusive (to continue seeing if you wanna go for a relationship) that the other person will continue talking to other people.

He grown.

He can do what he wants.

You obviously feel some type of way about it. You never know, he may have agreed to exclusivity and you could’ve had what you wanted.

Yes to this.

Geminis will test your boundaries and see how far we can push you.

But he is an asshole.

Only thing I can think of is, IF he himself told you he is going out with another girl, either he isn't happy with your relationship/relationship status or he wants to ghost you or he wants something from you but he is too much of a coward to ask you for it- does he have any reason to think he isn't good enough for you or to assume this can't go long term?

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Yes he has insecurities about being with me.

I'm black and he thinks I will leave him for a black guy one day. Told me that to my face.

He is half black and Spanish. Looks more Spanish than black.

I told him to chill with that talk.

Oh yes. Gems do push

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Posted by DMV

We ain't together but i thought we had a connection.

Did he tell you he is going out with another girl?

Or you found out he is out with another girl?

Gurl. He posted it on social media.

Clear and to the point.

Did he post about dating you when you guys went out? Are you sure you didn't make him jealous? I'm not blaming you but if someone were to make me jealous or try and make me insecure, I would retaliate once and if they continue I'm out.

His behavior doesn't seem normal to me. Is he the insecure type?

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Nope. He didnt. I wasnt concerned tho.

We were taking a class together and I told him I wanted to take things slow till class was ova. I told him. You never know how ppl react after feelings really get involved.

We both have scene studies with members of the opposite sex. So there could have been some hurt feelings on his end. I'm cool with him having scenes with other girls. I let them have their chemistry.

I have scenes with other guys. I build relationships with them to have a good scene. But I dont call them after class.

He was WHO I was going out with.

Is he young DMV?

Posted by tiziani

I don't get it. You both aren't together why?

We were taking an acting class together and I told him I wasn't prepared to get physical until after semester was over. Which is like a month. We still went out during the semester.

I guess maybe he thought I was too slow but my intentions were good.

I was trying to prevent the drama and ended up with drama anyway.

Posted by DefineTruth

If he did not agree to exclusivity, he can do as he pleases.

The decision is yours on how you'd like to proceed.

True that.

See what I did there 😉

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Posted by Arachnophobia

You were wrong.

how do i get a taurus moon to like me

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Same question

Posted by MyStarsShine

Is he young DMV?

Yes.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Is he young DMV?

Yes.

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Aaahh, thought so

Posted by mudra

Maybe there was never an exclusive talk but based on what he was telling you 24 hours before... I would be pretty fucking annoyed about it. I don't believe it's enough to write him off quite yet. Have you told him you know about it?

No

Yes. I am annoyed with the timing and lack of discretion.

He can date who he wants.

Posted by LethalFantasia

Wow what an asshole. Sorry but this is why the dating thing is hard. I don't care if we're "not official." If we're dating, WE'RE DATING EXCLUSIVELY. If you think you can date me and 1, 2 or 3 other people at the same time before picking the right one then GTFO.

I remember being on DXP and someone saying that its impossible to form connection with someone and give that someone a chance while you're dating other people.

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Posted by DMV

We ain't together but i thought we had a connection.

Did he tell you he is going out with another girl?

Or you found out he is out with another girl?

Gurl. He posted it on social media.

Clear and to the point.

Did he post about dating you when you guys went out? Are you sure you didn't make him jealous? I'm not blaming you but if someone were to make me jealous or try and make me insecure, I would retaliate once and if they continue I'm out.

His behavior doesn't seem normal to me. Is he the insecure type?

Nope. He didnt. I wasnt concerned tho.

We were taking a class together and I told him I wanted to take things slow till class was ova. I told him. You never know how ppl react after feelings really get involved.

We both have scene studies with members of the opposite sex. So there could have been some hurt feelings on his end. I'm cool with him having scenes with other girls. I let them have their chemistry.

I have scenes with other guys. I build relationships with them to have a good scene. But I dont call them after class.

He was WHO I was going out with.

He likes you and is out to make you jealous. Typical Gemini BS.

Dont get jealous when he comes back, define your relationship and while doing that if you can make him feel like a little boy, he will fall in line.

If you allow this, be ready for this behavior again and again.

He wants you to lead. Just kick his ass.

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You know what, I will take that advice

Cause we made plans for a date next Friday this morning.

Yes you read that right.

This morning.

7 hours later, hes on a date with another girl.

Posted by LethalFantasia

Wow what an asshole. Sorry but this is why the dating thing is hard. I don't care if we're "not official." If we're dating, WE'RE DATING EXCLUSIVELY. If you think you can date me and 1, 2 or 3 other people at the same time before picking the right one then GTFO.

Amen to that brother 👍

Here girl. Right now I'm dealing with a capricorn, we had a talk about relationship, he says we need to hang out a few more times. He moved closer to me, 1 hour between us right now. However he's still flaky, won't make plans to see me. I am the one doing all plannings and sorting things out. So 2 days ago I told him I'm going to his town on Saturday for a lantern festival and asked if we could "hang out", cause apparently "dates" doesn't work for him. Imagine him splitting a bill on our first dinner and mine was around 10 bucks. Anyways he said quote "let me check my schedule, then I'll let you know" I said okay good. Guess what? still waiting for him to confirm are we meeting tomorrow or not, plus I gave him couple of options to choose whatever is working better for him, plus he can come up with his own option and I'm willing to do my best to meet his needs. Guess what? nothing, I'm freaking hanging there not knowing anything, obviously I'm the last one on his list. We will see, I'm extremely pissed. why would someone treat you like a last minute girl, wtf . Anyways, sorry for venting, but call on his bs, you are worth more . way way more

Posted by pisceanloves

Here girl. Right now I'm dealing with a capricorn, we had a talk about relationship, he says we need to hang out a few more times. He moved closer to me, 1 hour between us right now. However he's still flaky, won't make plans to see me. I am the one doing all plannings and sorting things out. So 2 days ago I told him I'm going to his town on Saturday for a lantern festival and asked if we could "hang out", cause apparently "dates" doesn't work for him. Imagine him splitting a bill on our first dinner and mine was around 10 bucks. Anyways he said quote "let me check my schedule, then I'll let you know" I said okay good. Guess what? still waiting for him to confirm are we meeting tomorrow or not, plus I gave him couple of options to choose whatever is working better for him, plus he can come up with his own option and I'm willing to do my best to meet his needs. Guess what? nothing, I'm freaking hanging there not knowing anything, obviously I'm the last one on his list. We will see, I'm extremely pissed. why would someone treat you like a last minute girl, wtf . Anyways, sorry for venting, but call on his bs, you are worth more . way way more

Vent on!!!

I 2 planned the first dates and we split the bill. I died a little inside because he didnt pick up either check. It did immediately have me thinking I had been friendzoned, not worthy of his dollars. so maybe I wasnt as flirty or full throttle. But i was ok cause I didnt want feelings meddling with my class. Take it slow.

I really do try my best to learn from dxp and the stories and try different approaches. So I let him not paying not be a dealbreaker. I also wanted to try being a mans best friend first and then lover. Be friends first like people are always preaching.

Take it slow.

Dont be the crazed scorpio moon. Give people space. Dont stalk online. Dont be possessive. Dont stare. Let people have friends.

Enough with that.

I want to courted and I deserve to be courted.

I deserve some damn respect.

I am a catch dammit. Lol.

It seems like he does need more reassurance than I do, but when will the scale tip in my favor?

I feel like I am the man and I have to sweep him off his feet.

Um....

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Posted by DMV

i thought we had a connection.

That's the wine talking.

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Lol

Posted by Koni

If he is grown and can do what he wants, like you said, then what exactly is the issue here? Seems like that is what he is doing

Oh I'm sorry, I forgot your life was perfect and all your crushes bow at your feet.

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Posted by pisceanloves

Here girl. Right now I'm dealing with a capricorn, we had a talk about relationship, he says we need to hang out a few more times. He moved closer to me, 1 hour between us right now. However he's still flaky, won't make plans to see me. I am the one doing all plannings and sorting things out. So 2 days ago I told him I'm going to his town on Saturday for a lantern festival and asked if we could "hang out", cause apparently "dates" doesn't work for him. Imagine him splitting a bill on our first dinner and mine was around 10 bucks. Anyways he said quote "let me check my schedule, then I'll let you know" I said okay good. Guess what? still waiting for him to confirm are we meeting tomorrow or not, plus I gave him couple of options to choose whatever is working better for him, plus he can come up with his own option and I'm willing to do my best to meet his needs. Guess what? nothing, I'm freaking hanging there not knowing anything, obviously I'm the last one on his list. We will see, I'm extremely pissed. why would someone treat you like a last minute girl, wtf . Anyways, sorry for venting, but call on his bs, you are worth more . way way more

Vent on!!!

I 2 planned the first dates and we split the bill. I died a little inside because he didnt pick up either check. It did immediately have me thinking I had been friendzoned, not worthy of his dollars. so maybe I wasnt as flirty or full throttle. But i was ok cause I didnt want feelings meddling with my class. Take it slow.

I really do try my best to learn from dxp and the stories and try different approaches. So I let him not paying not be a dealbreaker. I also wanted to try being a mans best friend first and then lover. Be friends first like people are always preaching.

Take it slow.

Dont be the crazed scorpio moon. Give people space. Dont stalk online. Dont be possessive. Dont stare. Let people have friends.

Enough with that.

I want to courted and I deserve to be courted.

I deserve some damn respect.

I am a catch dammit. Lol.

It seems like he does need more reassurance than I do, but when will the scale tip in my favor?

I feel like I am the man and I have to sweep him off his feet.

Um....

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He's too young....

Posted by pisceanloves

Here girl. Right now I'm dealing with a capricorn, we had a talk about relationship, he says we need to hang out a few more times. He moved closer to me, 1 hour between us right now. However he's still flaky, won't make plans to see me. I am the one doing all plannings and sorting things out. So 2 days ago I told him I'm going to his town on Saturday for a lantern festival and asked if we could "hang out", cause apparently "dates" doesn't work for him. Imagine him splitting a bill on our first dinner and mine was around 10 bucks. Anyways he said quote "let me check my schedule, then I'll let you know" I said okay good. Guess what? still waiting for him to confirm are we meeting tomorrow or not, plus I gave him couple of options to choose whatever is working better for him, plus he can come up with his own option and I'm willing to do my best to meet his needs. Guess what? nothing, I'm freaking hanging there not knowing anything, obviously I'm the last one on his list. We will see, I'm extremely pissed. why would someone treat you like a last minute girl, wtf . Anyways, sorry for venting, but call on his bs, you are worth more . way way more

Curious what are your placements?

And his?

Posted by Koni

If he is grown and can do what he wants, like you said, then what exactly is the issue here? Seems like that is what he is doing

You never desired a man and never felt the gut punch of seeing him desire another person after he talks of desiring you?

I truly hope you never have to.

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Posted by pisceanloves

Here girl. Right now I'm dealing with a capricorn, we had a talk about relationship, he says we need to hang out a few more times. He moved closer to me, 1 hour between us right now. However he's still flaky, won't make plans to see me. I am the one doing all plannings and sorting things out. So 2 days ago I told him I'm going to his town on Saturday for a lantern festival and asked if we could "hang out", cause apparently "dates" doesn't work for him. Imagine him splitting a bill on our first dinner and mine was around 10 bucks. Anyways he said quote "let me check my schedule, then I'll let you know" I said okay good. Guess what? still waiting for him to confirm are we meeting tomorrow or not, plus I gave him couple of options to choose whatever is working better for him, plus he can come up with his own option and I'm willing to do my best to meet his needs. Guess what? nothing, I'm freaking hanging there not knowing anything, obviously I'm the last one on his list. We will see, I'm extremely pissed. why would someone treat you like a last minute girl, wtf . Anyways, sorry for venting, but call on his bs, you are worth more . way way more

Vent on!!!

I 2 planned the first dates and we split the bill. I died a little inside because he didnt pick up either check. It did immediately have me thinking I had been friendzoned, not worthy of his dollars. so maybe I wasnt as flirty or full throttle. But i was ok cause I didnt want feelings meddling with my class. Take it slow.

I really do try my best to learn from dxp and the stories and try different approaches. So I let him not paying not be a dealbreaker. I also wanted to try being a mans best friend first and then lover. Be friends first like people are always preaching.

Take it slow.

Dont be the crazed scorpio moon. Give people space. Dont stalk online. Dont be possessive. Dont stare. Let people have friends.

Enough with that.

I want to courted and I deserve to be courted.

I deserve some damn respect.

I am a catch dammit. Lol.

It seems like he does need more reassurance than I do, but when will the scale tip in my favor?

I feel like I am the man and I have to sweep him off his feet.

Um....

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Exactly the way I feel. He wants to be "taken care of" seems like it, and what about me. He hasn't done anything for me yet, literally nothing. Splitting bill is a huge red flag for me, I don't know. Afterwards he made a stop at subway drive thru and picked up a soda for himself. Didn't even ask if I wanted anything, ask me, died inside? I exploded inside, not worthy of anything, simple politeness and respect. Yes respect comes first, he likes to brag how "rich" he is. Like really? you treat me that way and what am I even doing here. We hardly speak at all, he never asks how am I doing or where am I at, how I'm feeling, basically he doesn't care, so probably it's time to let go of. I'm tired. My dating life is a complete mess, somehow I always end up attracting jerks. If he does not show basic respect don't deal with him please. Time to wake up for both of us, I get mad at myself all the time, how much I'm willing to do for others and they literally fail to do even half of it, it's sad, very sad

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Posted by pisceanloves

Here girl. Right now I'm dealing with a capricorn, we had a talk about relationship, he says we need to hang out a few more times. He moved closer to me, 1 hour between us right now. However he's still flaky, won't make plans to see me. I am the one doing all plannings and sorting things out. So 2 days ago I told him I'm going to his town on Saturday for a lantern festival and asked if we could "hang out", cause apparently "dates" doesn't work for him. Imagine him splitting a bill on our first dinner and mine was around 10 bucks. Anyways he said quote "let me check my schedule, then I'll let you know" I said okay good. Guess what? still waiting for him to confirm are we meeting tomorrow or not, plus I gave him couple of options to choose whatever is working better for him, plus he can come up with his own option and I'm willing to do my best to meet his needs. Guess what? nothing, I'm freaking hanging there not knowing anything, obviously I'm the last one on his list. We will see, I'm extremely pissed. why would someone treat you like a last minute girl, wtf . Anyways, sorry for venting, but call on his bs, you are worth more . way way more

Curious what are your placements?

And his?

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Mine : Sun/venus/mercury-pisces with virgo raising and gemini mars

His : sun - capricorn/ moon/mars- pisces and aqua venus

Posted by Damous

Personally, I think both of you are stupid, if it's any consolation. UNLESS, you specifically told him you'd like to see each other exclusively. Did you tell him if you are or aren't talking to others? If you didn't, assume he assumes you're seeing others as well. He's also insecure obviously. In which case, unless you can deal with that and he can work on improving himself, why bother anyway?

If you did indeed tell him you're not talking to others and you'd like exclusivity, he is entirely the asshole. If not, you'd better start doing that shit if you want things to work for you.

How did you react to his sweet nothings? Sorry if it's in the last few pages, rushing this and haven't back-read.

No worries 😀

Lol @calling me stupid

After he said that he thinks of me, I was very feely and felt a rush of desire.

I told him that we have a legit connection and I used a pet name,1st time ever.

On the very first date, I wanted him to know I wasnt here for the shyts.

I told him that I like him and felt deeplyfor him. Not your typical first date convo.

I talked about us creating together. Merging.

I even told him....I asked a pyshic about him.

I even let him listen to the recording of her talking about him and I and all the feelings going on. He heard in the tape, me telling a complete stranger how I think of him, how he makes me feel. The good qualities in him seen and unseen.

The psychic brought up me being drawn to him. She also said that the past was pulling at me.

Me and him talked about our past.

I told him.about a guy who had been in and out of my life but I wasnt interested in the past. I saw a future with him.

I told him that I wanted to grow with him.

I put so much of myself out there on the 1st date with no assurance that he would feel the same.

I sounded like a crazed person being so drawn to him.

Maybe he is drunk and addicted to my dramatic displays of assurance for him and how I feel about him.

So much so that he acts out because he wants to get his assurance fix.

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Posted by pisceanloves

Here girl. Right now I'm dealing with a capricorn, we had a talk about relationship, he says we need to hang out a few more times. He moved closer to me, 1 hour between us right now. However he's still flaky, won't make plans to see me. I am the one doing all plannings and sorting things out. So 2 days ago I told him I'm going to his town on Saturday for a lantern festival and asked if we could "hang out", cause apparently "dates" doesn't work for him. Imagine him splitting a bill on our first dinner and mine was around 10 bucks. Anyways he said quote "let me check my schedule, then I'll let you know" I said okay good. Guess what? still waiting for him to confirm are we meeting tomorrow or not, plus I gave him couple of options to choose whatever is working better for him, plus he can come up with his own option and I'm willing to do my best to meet his needs. Guess what? nothing, I'm freaking hanging there not knowing anything, obviously I'm the last one on his list. We will see, I'm extremely pissed. why would someone treat you like a last minute girl, wtf . Anyways, sorry for venting, but call on his bs, you are worth more . way way more

Vent on!!!

I 2 planned the first dates and we split the bill. I died a little inside because he didnt pick up either check. It did immediately have me thinking I had been friendzoned, not worthy of his dollars. so maybe I wasnt as flirty or full throttle. But i was ok cause I didnt want feelings meddling with my class. Take it slow.

I really do try my best to learn from dxp and the stories and try different approaches. So I let him not paying not be a dealbreaker. I also wanted to try being a mans best friend first and then lover. Be friends first like people are always preaching.

Take it slow.

Dont be the crazed scorpio moon. Give people space. Dont stalk online. Dont be possessive. Dont stare. Let people have friends.

Enough with that.

I want to courted and I deserve to be courted.

I deserve some damn respect.

I am a catch dammit. Lol.

It seems like he does need more reassurance than I do, but when will the scale tip in my favor?

I feel like I am the man and I have to sweep him off his feet.

Um....

Exactly the way I feel. He wants to be "taken care of" seems like it, and what about me. He hasn't done anything for me yet, literally nothing. Splitting bill is a huge red flag for me, I don't know. Afterwards he made a stop at subway drive thru and picked up a soda for himself. Didn't even ask if I wanted anything, ask me, died inside? I exploded inside, not worthy of anything, simple politeness and respect. Yes respect comes first, he likes to brag how "rich" he is. Like really? you treat me that way and what am I even doing here. We hardly speak at all, he never asks how am I doing or where am I at, how I'm feeling, basically he doesn't care, so probably it's time to let go of. I'm tired. My dating life is a complete mess, somehow I always end up attracting jerks. If he does not show basic respect don't deal with him please. Time to wake up for both of us, I get mad at myself all the time, how much I'm willing to do for others and they literally fail to do even half of it, it's sad, very sad

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It's so uneven it's not funny.

I purposely ended all my friendships in 2016 and spent time with only my family.

I purposely wanted to empty my plate of the inequity I was getting from the people in my life.

I did manage to befriend a great Taurus mentor who has really shown me what an equitable ship looks like. Even as a friend, he values me and is equitable.

I wanted to truly deeply sexually emotionally spiritually add this guy in question to my plate.

But like you said, he doesnt ask me what I'm up 2 or take a genuine interest in me.

And it's not cool that I even tolerated it this long



It makes me resentful.

I, we can do better.

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Posted by Koni

If he is grown and can do what he wants, like you said, then what exactly is the issue here? Seems like that is what he is doing

You never desired a man and never felt the gut punch of seeing him desire another person after he talks of desiring you?

I truly hope you never have to.

Girl? No man goes out and posts about "first date nights" on social media unless he wants a reaction out of someone. He's doing it to get you mad jealous!!!

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Hes succeeding

Posted by Arielle83

I casually saw a Gemini last yr.

He came on strong. Said he was falling in love.

Asked for exclusivity after two weeks.

But I said I’d like to take my time.

Because I didn’t know him.

But his love bombing made me not trust him cuz we don’t know each other.

Then a month later I saw him out and he was drunk and looking at me every time he made out with this other chick.

It was so weird.

He told our mutual friends that I was obsessed with him.

Apparently he was in a 2 year live in relationship when we started sleeping together, and he dumped his gf by saying he cheated on her with me.

He’s still with that chick I saw him making out with.

I feel like I dodged a bullet and my intuition was right not to be exclusive.

Maybe you’re lucky you didn’t sign up for exclusivity, because now you see how fickle he is.

How did you feel when he was kissing and then looking at you?

Yes, I know that I am right for taking my time.

I just want better for myself.

Posted by Damous

JUst take the exclusivity tip to the next dude you’re feelin

Sorry, but why would I ask him to be exclusive with me on the 1st date?

I dont know him

Also, we were taking a class together and i ddint want any drama to impede with my class. That wouldnt have been fair to me or to him.

I hear you, but I'm not owning that I am stupid because I didnt ask him to be exclusiv and that's one of the reasons why we are here.

Why would I want to.be exclusive with someone who I hardly know?

I truly believe that me wanting to adhere traditional gender roles and him wanting to be swept off his feet is causing anarchy.

Yall on dxp are always preaching that if a man truly wants you that he will make the effort.

Shocking, the status quo is now saying that women must make the 1st move and ask a man to be exclusive.

Had I done that, yall woulda said, oh you're a try hard, too soon, let him lead, too aggressive, dont be thirsty

Oy vey

Posted by DMV

I truly believe that me wanting to adhere traditional gender roles and him wanting to be swept off his feet is causing anarchy.

Yall on dxp are always preaching that if a man truly wants you that he will make the effort.

Shocking, the status quo is now saying that women must make the 1st move and ask a man to be exclusive.

Had I done that, yall woulda said, oh you're a try hard, too soon, let him lead, too aggressive, dont be thirsty

Oy vey

That isn't making the first move though, it's setting boundaries

Posted by DMV

I truly believe that me wanting to adhere traditional gender roles and him wanting to be swept off his feet is causing anarchy.

Yall on dxp are always preaching that if a man truly wants you that he will make the effort.

Shocking, the status quo is now saying that women must make the 1st move and ask a man to be exclusive.

Had I done that, yall woulda said, oh you're a try hard, too soon, let him lead, too aggressive, dont be thirsty

Oy vey

No matter how you handled this relation, if he was saying sweet nothings to you at midnight and was out on a date with someone esle and putting it on social media the other day, he is not shy. He is just a douchebag.

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Posted by DMV

I truly believe that me wanting to adhere traditional gender roles and him wanting to be swept off his feet is causing anarchy.

Yall on dxp are always preaching that if a man truly wants you that he will make the effort.

Shocking, the status quo is now saying that women must make the 1st move and ask a man to be exclusive.

Had I done that, yall woulda said, oh you're a try hard, too soon, let him lead, too aggressive, dont be thirsty

Oy vey

That isn't making the first move though, it's setting boundaries

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Would you set that boundary on the 1st date with someone?

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I truly believe that me wanting to adhere traditional gender roles and him wanting to be swept off his feet is causing anarchy.

Yall on dxp are always preaching that if a man truly wants you that he will make the effort.

Shocking, the status quo is now saying that women must make the 1st move and ask a man to be exclusive.

Had I done that, yall woulda said, oh you're a try hard, too soon, let him lead, too aggressive, dont be thirsty

Oy vey

No matter how you handled this relation, if he was saying sweet nothings to you at midnight and was out on a date with someone esle and putting it on social media the other day, he is not shy. He is just a douchebag.

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Thank you !!!

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by DMV

I truly believe that me wanting to adhere traditional gender roles and him wanting to be swept off his feet is causing anarchy.

Yall on dxp are always preaching that if a man truly wants you that he will make the effort.

Shocking, the status quo is now saying that women must make the 1st move and ask a man to be exclusive.

Had I done that, yall woulda said, oh you're a try hard, too soon, let him lead, too aggressive, dont be thirsty

Oy vey

That isn't making the first move though, it's setting boundaries

Would you set that boundary on the 1st date with someone?

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I'd always say I don't share....if they want to date other women, they ain't with me

Always worked..

I think it's about being clear in yourself DMV

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If he is grown and can do what he wants, like you said, then what exactly is the issue here? Seems like that is what he is doing

You never desired a man and never felt the gut punch of seeing him desire another person after he talks of desiring you?

I truly hope you never have to.

Girl? No man goes out and posts about "first date nights" on social media unless he wants a reaction out of someone. He's doing it to get you mad jealous!!!

Hes succeeding

Either rage rage rage and quit him. Or tell him what you want. Since you aren't seeing anyone else then tell him that. Maintain eye contacts. Use that Scorp moon eyes.

He is being annoyibg for sure. Be careful his insecurities don't pull you down... Also make this Friday date one on one... Secluded place where you guys can talk.

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Thanks Squishy.

I do worry that his insecurities might bring me down. I've thought about it at times.

I will take that advice and clear the air on Friday.

At this point, I have nothing to lose or be apprehensive about.

Our Class is over and I dont have to worry about bumping into him again.

Stay away from airheads they're bad for you

I would be turned off. His behavior is emotionally selfish and bitch-ass manipulative. After laying it on the line like you did, he'd have to completely fall on his sword to get me to notice him.

There's not even a benefit to casually date him. But, that's an alternative, casually date him until he bores you, or you're satisfied somehow. #1 it allows you to learn detachment even in intimacy. #2 you can backdoor investigate on a psychological level why he behaved so duplicitously. Once you have your answers, you can drop him like you don't know him or, if you find the source of his behavior excusable, you can grant him a reprieve... closure to the foibles of Chapter 1, titled, "Getting to Know Him."

So, his strike one is over. However, strike #1 should make you resistant to exclusivity. Or, you may consider him not paying strike #1?

My gut tells me something happened in class and he is misreading you which makes him jealous and dumb. Turn off numbers 1 and 2 for me.

So now, in Gemini fashion, the dumb ass thinks he's mirroring you. You need to playback the tape.

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Personally, I think both of you are stupid, if it's any consolation. UNLESS, you specifically told him you'd like to see each other exclusively. Did you tell him if you are or aren't talking to others? If you didn't, assume he assumes you're seeing others as well. He's also insecure obviously. In which case, unless you can deal with that and he can work on improving himself, why bother anyway?

If you did indeed tell him you're not talking to others and you'd like exclusivity, he is entirely the asshole. If not, you'd better start doing that shit if you want things to work for you.

How did you react to his sweet nothings? Sorry if it's in the last few pages, rushing this and haven't back-read.

No worries 😀

Lol @calling me stupid

After he said that he thinks of me, I was very feely and felt a rush of desire.

I told him that we have a legit connection and I used a pet name,1st time ever.

On the very first date, I wanted him to know I wasnt here for the shyts.

I told him that I like him and felt deeplyfor him. Not your typical first date convo.

I talked about us creating together. Merging.

I even told him....I asked a pyshic about him.

I even let him listen to the recording of her talking about him and I and all the feelings going on. He heard in the tape, me telling a complete stranger how I think of him, how he makes me feel. The good qualities in him seen and unseen.

The psychic brought up me being drawn to him. She also said that the past was pulling at me.

Me and him talked about our past.

I told him.about a guy who had been in and out of my life but I wasnt interested in the past. I saw a future with him.

I told him that I wanted to grow with him.

I put so much of myself out there on the 1st date with no assurance that he would feel the same.

I sounded like a crazed person being so drawn to him.

Maybe he is drunk and addicted to my dramatic displays of assurance for him and how I feel about him.

So much so that he acts out because he wants to get his assurance fix.

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DMV: "Sorry, but why would I ask him to be exclusive with me on the 1st date? "

DMV: "On the very first date, I wanted him to know I wasnt here for the shyts.

I told him that I like him and felt deeplyfor him. Not your typical first date convo.

I talked about us creating together. Merging.

I even told him....I asked a pyshic about him.

I even let him listen to the recording of her talking about him and I and all the feelings going on. He heard in the tape, me telling a complete stranger how I think of him, how he makes me feel. The good qualities in him seen and unseen."



I think that first date with you made him scared, everybody would be scared by that intensity, you know? (unless they have a water moon, which he doesnt have) I mean asking a physic??

the "first date picture" with the other girl is clearly a protest post

as somebody said, no one is posting a first date pic on social media unless is for somebody else to get the message

I would play it cool for now

let him get used to to your intensity... as he is a taurus moon, it will take some time (but scorp moon and taurus moon is compatible, just not with the same speed maybe 🙂 but fixed, so long haul... and the mutable sag and gemini suns are okey as well

still, the first date how you describe it would scare me away for a while (and I am a cancer moon!) so no, I am not surprised by the social media post with the other girl

its a message for you to slow down

but it doesnt mean the end

Edit: I think you asked for more (indirectly) than for exclusivity on your first day.... you asked him to be your soulmate, you asked for deep love (indirectly) you asked for.... everything

thats why he did the protest post, scared

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I would be turned off. His behavior is emotionally selfish and bitch-ass manipulative. After laying it on the line like you did, he'd have to completely fall on his sword to get me to notice him.

There's not even a benefit to casually date him. But, that's an alternative, casually date him until he bores you, or you're satisfied somehow. #1 it allows you to learn detachment even in intimacy. #2 you can backdoor investigate on a psychological level why he behaved so duplicitously. Once you have your answers, you can drop him like you don't know him or, if you find the source of his behavior excusable, you can grant him a reprieve... closure to the foibles of Chapter 1, titled, "Getting to Know Him."

So, his strike one is over. However, strike #1 should make you resistant to exclusivity. Or, you may consider him not paying strike #1?

My gut tells me something happened in class and he is misreading you which makes him jealous and dumb. Turn off numbers 1 and 2 for me.

So now, in Gemini fashion, the dumb ass thinks he's mirroring you. You need to playback the tape.

Thank you.

Unfortunately I am a bit jaded but still do carry some inkling of a torch or hope.

Yes, taking the time to scientific method all of this is alluring.

I have been thinking about what may have happened in class.

I didnt have any love scenes but he had several. I didn't trip.

I even acknowledged the good work he was doing his partners.

When he said he was fearful I would dump him for a black guy, I told him that we have to have each others backs in this acting world. Why would i want to be with someone who didnt know me through the struggle years. Why would I want to be with someone who only knows the poppin side of me. They weren't there for all the nos, rejection and heartbreak.

I told him that we have to be secure with each other and know that it's just a role. I told him that hes going to have hundreds of fans in love with him and they're all going to tell him all the reasons why he shouldn't be with me. But we both have to be stronger than that.

I told him look at Cardi.B, and the millions of people who tell her what to do with her relationship.

But we gotta keep it real with each other.

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Posted by Damous

Personally, I think both of you are stupid, if it's any consolation. UNLESS, you specifically told him you'd like to see each other exclusively. Did you tell him if you are or aren't talking to others? If you didn't, assume he assumes you're seeing others as well. He's also insecure obviously. In which case, unless you can deal with that and he can work on improving himself, why bother anyway?

If you did indeed tell him you're not talking to others and you'd like exclusivity, he is entirely the asshole. If not, you'd better start doing that shit if you want things to work for you.

How did you react to his sweet nothings? Sorry if it's in the last few pages, rushing this and haven't back-read.

No worries 😀

Lol @calling me stupid

After he said that he thinks of me, I was very feely and felt a rush of desire.

I told him that we have a legit connection and I used a pet name,1st time ever.

On the very first date, I wanted him to know I wasnt here for the shyts.

I told him that I like him and felt deeplyfor him. Not your typical first date convo.

I talked about us creating together. Merging.

I even told him....I asked a pyshic about him.

I even let him listen to the recording of her talking about him and I and all the feelings going on. He heard in the tape, me telling a complete stranger how I think of him, how he makes me feel. The good qualities in him seen and unseen.

The psychic brought up me being drawn to him. She also said that the past was pulling at me.

Me and him talked about our past.

I told him.about a guy who had been in and out of my life but I wasnt interested in the past. I saw a future with him.

I told him that I wanted to grow with him.

I put so much of myself out there on the 1st date with no assurance that he would feel the same.

I sounded like a crazed person being so drawn to him.

Maybe he is drunk and addicted to my dramatic displays of assurance for him and how I feel about him.

So much so that he acts out because he wants to get his assurance fix.

DMV: "Sorry, but why would I ask him to be exclusive with me on the 1st date? "

DMV: "On the very first date, I wanted him to know I wasnt here for the shyts.

I told him that I like him and felt deeplyfor him. Not your typical first date convo.

I talked about us creating together. Merging.

I even told him....I asked a pyshic about him.

I even let him listen to the recording of her talking about him and I and all the feelings going on. He heard in the tape, me telling a complete stranger how I think of him, how he makes me feel. The good qualities in him seen and unseen."



I think that first date with you made him scared, everybody would be scared by that intensity, you know? (unless they have a water moon, which he doesnt have) I mean asking a physic??

the "first date picture" with the other girl is clearly a protest post

as somebody said, no one is posting a first date pic on social media unless is for somebody else to get the message

I would play it cool for now

let him get used to to your intensity... as he is a taurus moon, it will take some time (but scorp moon and taurus moon is compatible, just not with the same speed maybe 🙂 but fixed, so long haul... and the mutable sag and gemini suns are okey as well

still, the first date how you describe it would scare me away for a while (and I am a cancer moon!) so no, I am not surprised by the social media post with the other girl

its a message for you to slow down

but it doesnt mean the end

Edit: I think you asked for more (indirectly) than for exclusivity on your first day.... you asked him to be your soulmate, you asked for deep love (indirectly) you asked for.... everything

thats why he did the protest post, scared

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Hes a virgo moon

Yeah. You are right...I did ask him to be my soulmate. Awww

Typical scorpio moon.

Lol. I knew a cancer moon and he was more intense than I was. I loved it.

I did lay alot on him but he said he agreed with the psychic. He said he wanted to get closer to me but something happened since then.

Which I get. People change their minds everyday.

Just don't appease me for the sake of doing so.

He sounds genuine and I felt his authenticity last night, so I was taken aback

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I casually saw a Gemini last yr.

He came on strong. Said he was falling in love.

Asked for exclusivity after two weeks.

But I said I’d like to take my time.

Because I didn’t know him.

But his love bombing made me not trust him cuz we don’t know each other.

Then a month later I saw him out and he was drunk and looking at me every time he made out with this other chick.

It was so weird.

He told our mutual friends that I was obsessed with him.

Apparently he was in a 2 year live in relationship when we started sleeping together, and he dumped his gf by saying he cheated on her with me.

He’s still with that chick I saw him making out with.

I feel like I dodged a bullet and my intuition was right not to be exclusive.

Maybe you’re lucky you didn’t sign up for exclusivity, because now you see how fickle he is.

How did you feel when he was kissing and then looking at you?

Yes, I know that I am right for taking my time.

I just want better for myself.

The weird thing is, one night I was in his bed and all night he was confessing his love, and I started thinking this is great.

Like everything is going smoothly and I should just go for the ride.

Then I woke up from a crazy vivid dream of seeing him make out with that exact girl. She’s the town bike. I felt so weird from that dream that right away I just felt like everything he was saying, wasn’t lasting.

So I went and saw a light reader/clairvoyant. She told me she doesn’t see anything good. There’s something scary in him. She saw me having his baby and that he would be out being irresponsible. Then she said I would leave him and have to keep the kid away from him.

She said he’s duplicitous and puts a mask on.

The fucjed thing was he told me he had dreams of me being pregnant.

The clairvoyant told me he’s a soulmate but he has a lot of things to learn.

So when I saw him making out with thatchick, I wasn’t even surprised. Just weirded out he wanted a reaction from me.

He’s insecure and has self loathing issues.

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Holy cow.

Wow.

I feel your story very much.

Did you ever carry any hope or feel conflicted like you could change things?

The psychic said that this guy was "honorable " which I carried with me when I went out with him and in class. I wanted to view him as an honorable man.

She did say he was blocked.

So maybe I am seeing the trauma that he has gone through in his past. And this is the Only way he knows how to react.

Maybe if he were more self aware.