How to hurt a gemini

I know two wrongs don't make a right and its not right to hurt people. But it's not right for people to play with your heart and mind. This gemini needs to be taught a lesson. He thinks its okay to just spring people along and talk to 2 girls at once. You know, just when you become vulnerable something that you never do, just when you trust someone all those habits and routines that come with stupid love. I swear I just don't like love. Thats why i just choose to have men as friends and nothing more. Theres some really good men out there that have respect for females like me, who allow us not to be scared when we open up our hearts for the first time and give love a chance. Men who will always treat us good and respect us. But it really sucks and hurts when you come across a scumbag who can't see your worth and respect you like the people who matter do. All he does is lie, lie about good things, lie about bad things. And everytime i find out the truth it hurts sooooo much. I'm really not a person to cry. But i finally understand why i cry and i have become okay with that. I cry because i finally let a man get close and really deep with me. I gave him a lot of things that i believed had so much value to me. And after seeing he's still trying to hook up with his ex that left him and cheated on him. It only makes me feel so hurt that i know i wont be able to give anyone the same love i gave to him. I'm not confused at all, i don't want a relationship with him because of these actions he does. And im not able to handle it. I hate the feeling of being weak and love seems to make me weak. My mind keeps battling with my heart and it keeps making me cry. I just can't seem to let everything go. The anger, the pain, the distrust everything. I dont want this to turn me bitter and problematic in future with men especially. You know Ive been through love over and over again but not like this were you let someone know damn near everything about you. I usually am able to protect my heart but there was so much trust i let my guard down over and over again. This really makes me hate having such a big heart. The pain is intangible beyond believe. A hug can not fix this. It makes me feel all the negative feelings inside. Im expressing my hurt and pain right now and i cry as i do this. it hurts even more knowing that in the end im going to have to let him go completely. There will be no friendship. I offered him one 2 days ago and he fed me all this bullshit.

He plays the victim. When i am the victim. The first time in life i sacrificed oh so much for this guy. just to not lose him. i sacfriced one of my best friends i cut off all my male friends. Now when im at home more times im lonely. I cant even date anymore because it hurts so much. i dont want to hurt anyone the way he hurt me so i dont even lead people on in the slightest way. I dont even flirt anymore i totally just brush men off. I have no one to express my pain to. I dont even want to express it to my friends because its too painful and embarrassing. I dislike showing my family and friends my tears. I dont want them to always think of me as weak. But now since i released so many people i am very vulnerable, upset mad, weak,lonely. At a time i need them the most i have nobody. Nobody around me understands me. I cant even express to people close to me how i feel. Im just going to get a talking to. Honestly i really do think i need a hug. I dont even have a shoulder to cry on. Except the shoulders of my ex boyfriends and people who want to date me but i dont want to fall weak in their arms. I feel trapped inside myself. And all that my body is filled with all emotions. I cant go home yet because i really dont want my sister or mother to see my cry. Everyone guy who trys to date me right now i feel the need to express my pain so they understand, i take myself seriously and i dont want to fall into something like this again. Since Aries are so emotional and passionate this has taken a toll on my life. Anger makes me hate the world a long with people and many things. I hate being anything but happy. When will this asshole learn? =[

Posted by bubblyaquarius
I felt the same way about my Gemini. Sorry, I didn't read the whole thing, but I've been through it. You shouldn't take revenge, you should just move on. Taking vengeance will still make him feel on top. Don't feed into his need for attention. I find gemini men very narcy. So moving on is the best revenge. Being better in life and at life than him will prob do it, or he still doesn't care enough to give a rats a $ $ . I don't know what to tell you. Time helps heal the pain..

Their very stupid when it comes to love. Since their so logical i dont think they understand love and its so sad. I dont need him as a lover i will continue to do better without him. I'm an Aries all we want to be is successful and keep accomplishing new horizons independently. It just sucks because i could've been a really good friend to him. I feel like the only way for me to move on and break this emotionally attachment is to start another one but i'll just feel so guilty.

MOVE ON.
he plays you because the reaction he gets from you.

you make a victim of yourself. not he makes a victim of you.

Posted by roamingfree
you make a victim of yourself. not he makes a victim of you.

I will. From what iv'e seen he plays everyone.

Posted by capricornmoon
Time does heal all wounds. If he's a narcissist, revenge will only be another attention seeking fullfillment for him. Leave the hatred, be free from it, I know its raw, I know the pain. And it hurts bad, its depressing, but this too shall pass. Take a long deep breath, hold it for a few seconds, then exhale, tell yourself that this too shall pass, because it will.

I can not release the hate and anger right now. lol If i do that then my heart will just be filled with love again which will make do want to love him again. I just have to hate him and be angry when i think about him until he is forgotten. and surely enough if i hate him enough it will pass and he will be forgotten. That just sucks i tried to make a friend out of him because of how great a person i thought he was. or still is. His mother and me are on common grounds. were even both aries so to think he gets us. Something so perfect i have to let go. It could just be the biochemicals making me believe it was so perfect. Its my own fault, i did this to myself. These are the consequences. I am too strong. Its the only motha faken option 🙂

if you were my ex i wouldnt be suprised to hear it, though i didnt quite do the things that you mentioned. the best thing that you can do is to do YOU through it all, and indeed like you said, break the emotional atatchment you have, and only by giving it time and dwelling on your thoughts and experiences can you allow yourself to do this. you cannot see it now but the situation is best for you and will help you in ways that you cannot imagine, one i know being that you are too good for a person like that.

as far as trying to hurt him, it would be best to move on completely so your thoughts arent dwelling on negative emotions like that, or on him at all.

Never try and hurt anyone purposely.. karma always bites you in the ass.

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Plus, he'll probably just feed off of your attention and desire to hurt him.
That's how I would feel at least if it was obvious that they were trying very hard to hurt me.
I'd just chuckle cynically and not respond.

I think it's pretty hard to hurt a Gemini(usually) unless they really take you seriously and make themselves vulnerable to you and REALLY want you. Most people could get hurt with that one certain thing said to them. But I really can't think of ANYTHING someone could do/say to me that would hurt me otherwise.

If you did anything to him now, it would just make you look weak.
Just stop contact and ignore him if he ever tries to talk to you again.

Posted by Geminems



I think it's pretty hard to hurt a Gemini(usually)

Are you joking? Hard to hurt a Gemini usually? Lol, I find them to hurt easily.

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I think it's pretty hard to hurt a Gemini(usually)

Are you joking? Hard to hurt a Gemini usually? Lol, I find them to hurt easily.

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Geminis are usually over it within 20 minutes tho. Lol

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I think it's pretty hard to hurt a Gemini(usually)

Are you joking? Hard to hurt a Gemini usually? Lol, I find them to hurt easily.

Geminis are usually over it within 20 minutes tho. Lol

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Um ok, sure they are...only to refer to it AGAIN 20 minutes later.

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I think it's pretty hard to hurt a Gemini(usually)

Are you joking? Hard to hurt a Gemini usually? Lol, I find them to hurt easily.

Geminis are usually over it within 20 minutes tho. Lol

Um ok, sure they are...only to refer to it AGAIN 20 minutes later.

Thinking about this again, they do remember hurtful and hateful things done to them, and they do feel pain and hurt. I told my ex gem to go to hell, I thought it was nothing compared to all the other nasty things I'd told him and more personal things I'd said, but apparently that stood out in his mind, that phrase, more than any other hateful much more personal and deep imo thing I had told him, and he brought that up months later, with some coaxing. I felt soo bad, because he seemed so unaffected and strong, and I felt so stupid and weak, but they just mask it well.

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That's the trick. They try to act so blase about things knowing damn well it's eating them alive. I know a few geminis like that including my ex. He'd be so quick to say "I don't care", only to bring it up again. And again. And again.

Posted by DeeGee
^^^Of coure it does.."TO air is human" haha....Pun intended....its our defense mechanism....we don't like to feel the hurt for too long, we like to make sense of it and move on quickly...not always a good thing...we care more than you know.

YUP! 🙂

Posted by RealTalk


That's the trick. They try to act so blase about things knowing damn well it's eating them alive. I know a few geminis like that including my ex. He'd be so quick to say "I don't care", only to bring it up again. And again. And again.

We only bring things up because we're dramatic. Just because we talk about it doesn't mean we aren't over it and are still hurting because of it.. It just means we like to stir the pot and use examples of things that were said in the past to make our case better in the present and gain as much of an upper hand as possible.

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That's the trick. They try to act so blase about things knowing damn well it's eating them alive. I know a few geminis like that including my ex. He'd be so quick to say "I don't care", only to bring it up again. And again. And again.

We only bring things up because we're dramatic. Just because we talk about it doesn't mean we aren't over it and are still hurting because of it.. It just means we like to stir the pot and use examples of things that were said in the past to make our case better in the present and gain as much of an upper hand as possible.

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Um...ok. Whatevs. When someone is REALLY over something & doesn't care, they won't bring it up again no matter how dramatic someone is. If you're still stirring the pot you obviously don't want it to scorch.

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I think it's pretty hard to hurt a Gemini(usually)

Are you joking? Hard to hurt a Gemini usually? Lol, I find them to hurt easily.

Geminis are usually over it within 20 minutes tho. Lol

Um ok, sure they are...only to refer to it AGAIN 20 minutes later.

LMAO!!....we get over it and under it...stick it into one of our many compartments. The best way to get back at someone who has hurt you, is to not show that they have hurt you....

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Please. I see right through that shit. You guys always do something to give it away. HA!!

The biggest thing that hurts me is dishonesty, I cant stand it, there is no reason to lie to me what so ever even if its something really awful I would rather know about it, now if someone lies to me then its a whole massive ball game because i see it on lots of different levels, lack of respect, no apreciation for my feelings, blocking my choice and growth, being fake, no real love or care, really sends me out of sorts, oh loads of things it goes on, thats the thing that really breaks me down, I can never trust that person again, it takes years if it ever comes back, its tainted from then on.

I wont show that Im bothered as much as I am, I have to be alone to deal with it and make sense of it, I dont get why people want to be dishonest, for me i find it very unintelligent, why act that way and create your own jail? insecure people do that, they block their own growth and others who they lie to.

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Um...ok. Whatevs. When someone is REALLY over something & doesn't care, they won't bring it up again no matter how dramatic someone is. If you're still stirring the pot you obviously don't want it to scorch.

That's not true, lol. I've brought up things that I honestly have no cares about, just for a reaction. It's probably true that when a person in general brings a topic up they're placing an importance on it. And I'm sure I do do that from time to time with little things. For the most part though, the shit I bring up has no effect on me. A Gemini can "play" interested in any topic. And a lot of times, our words do not match up with our actions. We can and will say anything for any reason. A better way of knowing if we're still hurt from something is by our actions, not our words or how often we talk about something. I'm the type of person that will store things in my memory JUST so I can use it to my advantage down the road. I even get a little excited sometimes when someone does something to me, because I know I will be able to use it against them later. It doesn't bring up bad memories when I repeat something that happened years ago. It's in the past, and unimportant. I'm not saying I'm impossible to hurt. But the few people that I allow close enough to hurt me probably wouldn't do that. I've only been hurt once in my life, and I got bored of that topic really quick. I wore it out for a good two days and haven't brought it up since.