
Tymbathelion
@Tymbathelion
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Posted by Gemitati
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.

Posted by TymbathelionYou didn't find out what until later?Posted by Gemitati
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
I didnt find out y till after , thats why i had depression docs couldn't figure it outclick to expand



Posted by blackphaseI had severe depression and crippling anxiety, everything she said would hurt me, i felt disgusting, I started sleeping on the couch, I barely went to work, we had little fights, she would lock herself in our bedroom and cry super loud, I didn't know how to console her and I was partially mad that she would never try and console me or even asked me if I was ok, so she moved out, but I was super devastated and she was sad and her mom didn't like her apartment so she moved back in, but nothing really changed rinse and repeat the second time she got an apartment in the same place as one of her work friends *who absolutely hated me* but she would call me a loser and be mad we nvr had sex,she would tell me how she's seeing someone else, then when I would say oh well should get mad and say she wasn't, she wanted me to chase her and I just couldn't do it, I could tell you a million stories one time we were talking and I asked her if she thought would do "things"with me again, she said no, 10 kept talking about me showing her I love her and I was sitting in the chair and she jumped up and said what do I have to do to take my clothes off and I said if you want, she grabbed her things and left and I said why are you upset and she said I'm not I'm just disappointed. Another time she asked if she could go to Canada to be with a friend whose dad*her dad died recently too* she asked if I would be mad if she went well we weren't technically together at the time and I felt that if I told her I would she would just get mad at me and I said no that would be fine later on she came back and told me remember that guy I told you you had nothing to worry about he's the one you always had to worry about, she would turn ice cold sometimes tell me she's talking to a guy from work 3 days later be nice again.
From what I gather due to your response on the other thread... You were unable to partake in sports anymore and it caused you to sink into depression? You went right from that to her being cruel when fighting.. which caused you tremendous damage then she moved out? So what actually happened during that time?

Posted by GemitatiThat it was caused by my heart, MRI scan scans all came up negative try to bunch of different asthma etc etcPosted by TymbathelionYou didn't find out what until later?Posted by Gemitati
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
I didnt find out y till after , thats why i had depression docs couldn't figure it outclick to expand

Posted by blackphaseShe didn't know that I was sick at the time I just kept basically failing at practices until I couldn't do them, it wasn't diagnosed until after we stopped talkingPosted by misslissaYes, that is what I am not understanding.. after receiving devastating news like that about your health and how it effects your life and what makes you happy, Someone that loved you would be supportive and trying to make you feel better. OP makes it sound as though she was harsh with him (not sure exactly what the arguments were about.. there was a huge gap of information left out there) Says she did tremendous damage.. If things are as you say OP, I have no sweet clue why you are still hung up 2 years later.
After reading your other post on the Leo board... it doesn't sound like an illness I couldn't handle. I can and have had handled many different ones, including seizures.
No offence to you but, she seems alil shallow. Like she was hoping to have the trophy boyfriend who is the all-star quarterback ...click to expand

Posted by misslissaI was that too lol
After reading your other post on the Leo board... it doesn't sound like an illness I couldn't handle. I can and have had handled many different ones, including seizures.
No offence to you but, she seems alil shallow. Like she was hoping to have the trophy boyfriend who is the all-star quarterback ...

Posted by TymbathelionSo when the actual drama of the end of her love started?Posted by GemitatiThat it was caused by my heart, MRI scan scans all came up negative try to bunch of different asthma etc etcPosted by TymbathelionYou didn't find out what until later?Posted by Gemitati
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
I didnt find out y till after , thats why i had depression docs couldn't figure it outclick to expand

Posted by Gemitatii dont understand the questionPosted by TymbathelionSo when the actual drama of the end of her love started?Posted by GemitatiThat it was caused by my heart, MRI scan scans all came up negative try to bunch of different asthma etc etcPosted by TymbathelionYou didn't find out what until later?Posted by Gemitati
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
I didnt find out y till after , thats why i had depression docs couldn't figure it outclick to expand


Posted by blackphasei also want to add that she would call and say things like can we do this can we do that will you take me to every continentPosted by TymbathelionShe sounds like a headache. But I get it. I clung to a shit relationship for way too long due to those moments of fire. I do understand. It's not easy.. 😢Posted by blackphaseI had severe depression and crippling anxiety, everything she said would hurt me, i felt disgusting, I started sleeping on the couch, I barely went to work, we had little fights, she would lock herself in our bedroom and cry super loud, I didn't know how to console her and I was partially mad that she would never try and console me or even asked me if I was ok, so she moved out, but I was super devastated and she was sad and her mom didn't like her apartment so she moved back in, but nothing really changed rinse and repeat the second time she got an apartment in the same place as one of her work friends *who absolutely hated me* but she would call me a loser and be mad we nvr had sex,she would tell me how she's seeing someone else, then when I would say oh well should get mad and say she wasn't, she wanted me to chase her and I just couldn't do it, I could tell you a million stories one time we were talking and I asked her if she thought would do "things"with me again, she said no, 10 kept talking about me showing her I love her and I was sitting in the chair and she jumped up and said what do I have to do to take my clothes off and I said if you want, she grabbed her things and left and I said why are you upset and she said I'm not I'm just disappointed. Another time she asked if she could go to Canada to be with a friend whose dad*her dad died recently too* she asked if I would be mad if she went well we weren't technically together at the time and I felt that if I told her I would she would just get mad at me and I said no that would be fine later on she came back and told me remember that guy I told you you had nothing to worry about he's the one you always had to worry about, she would turn ice cold sometimes tell me she's talking to a guy from work 3 days later be nice again.
From what I gather due to your response on the other thread... You were unable to partake in sports anymore and it caused you to sink into depression? You went right from that to her being cruel when fighting.. which caused you tremendous damage then she moved out? So what actually happened during that time?
she would do do hysterical things as well she made fun of me and when I went to leave locked herself in my car, she got drunk one time and kept driving around town telling me to come find her at places we dated and then when I would get there she would drive away, or just be really mean to me and a few hours later at Super adorable and cute and then when I would try to bring it up "should be like I'm being cute don't ruin it" so I just had to take it. Theres so much more lol
but I have to be fair it was not all her, I did not take it all lying down, i would fight back and some
But when we were good in that moment it was *fire*click to expand

Posted by misslissa
Seems like she felt you have up on her.... and bluntly.... you did. A relationship is built on trust and give and take.... you stopped giving. So in turn... so did she.
Granted she could have handled that alil all better than she did but, when angry and have had enough... she reacted instead. I'm sure there were hints. Like asking you what it would take for her clothes to come off. Your cue to strip her and take her right there.
We need excitement, or we will create it. You should have sought out help for your depression and anxiety.

Posted by blackphasePosted by TymbathelionShe asked you to take her to every continent? LOLPosted by blackphasei also want to add that she would call and say things like can we do this can we do that will you take me to every continentPosted by TymbathelionShe sounds like a headache. But I get it. I clung to a shit relationship for way too long due to those moments of fire. I do understand. It's not easy.. 😢Posted by blackphaseI had severe depression and crippling anxiety, everything she said would hurt me, i felt disgusting, I started sleeping on the couch, I barely went to work, we had little fights, she would lock herself in our bedroom and cry super loud, I didn't know how to console her and I was partially mad that she would never try and console me or even asked me if I was ok, so she moved out, but I was super devastated and she was sad and her mom didn't like her apartment so she moved back in, but nothing really changed rinse and repeat the second time she got an apartment in the same place as one of her work friends *who absolutely hated me* but she would call me a loser and be mad we nvr had sex,she would tell me how she's seeing someone else, then when I would say oh well should get mad and say she wasn't, she wanted me to chase her and I just couldn't do it, I could tell you a million stories one time we were talking and I asked her if she thought would do "things"with me again, she said no, 10 kept talking about me showing her I love her and I was sitting in the chair and she jumped up and said what do I have to do to take my clothes off and I said if you want, she grabbed her things and left and I said why are you upset and she said I'm not I'm just disappointed. Another time she asked if she could go to Canada to be with a friend whose dad*her dad died recently too* she asked if I would be mad if she went well we weren't technically together at the time and I felt that if I told her I would she would just get mad at me and I said no that would be fine later on she came back and told me remember that guy I told you you had nothing to worry about he's the one you always had to worry about, she would turn ice cold sometimes tell me she's talking to a guy from work 3 days later be nice again.
From what I gather due to your response on the other thread... You were unable to partake in sports anymore and it caused you to sink into depression? You went right from that to her being cruel when fighting.. which caused you tremendous damage then she moved out? So what actually happened during that time?
she would do do hysterical things as well she made fun of me and when I went to leave locked herself in my car, she got drunk one time and kept driving around town telling me to come find her at places we dated and then when I would get there she would drive away, or just be really mean to me and a few hours later at Super adorable and cute and then when I would try to bring it up "should be like I'm being cute don't ruin it" so I just had to take it. Theres so much more lol
but I have to be fair it was not all her, I did not take it all lying down, i would fight back and some
But when we were good in that moment it was *fire*
but i couldnt even take her to the movies was so not myself
there was a time when her name would light up my phone and my heart then it gave me instant anxiety attacks i had to change it to DO NOT ANSWER TYM because i couldn't trust myself i needed to remind myself
WOW!
Toxic crazy relationships like that seem to get the best of us. It's actually sort of disappointing to see how long the effects of that linger.. Guess I'm not in for an easy time ahead. Sorry that this still impacts you 😢click to expand



Posted by TymbathelionIt doesn't. Age does not show maturity and vice versa.
how much do youv guys think age has to do with it? she was 22-24 during i was 26-28

Posted by littlenanobyte
It is a shitty situation all around, in which I think you both contributed to the relationship ending, but it has been two years since you've last spoke.
It's not healthy to not get over someone after two years with no contact. I know everyone has their own grieving timelines, but got damn, that just seems like way too long for me.
With her being a Gemini, even if she has a water moon, I would assume that she too has moved on, probably long ago. 2 years dude.
Fortunately for you though, geminis aren't so fixed in nature so it's not totally out of the realm for her to consider rekindling if she sees that you are better and have changed your ways, if she is able to remember the good and happy times. I can't say that she herself will have changed by now, but who knows. I'm sure you're both different people now than you were two years ago.
If you really really still want her back, then I guess there's no reason not to reach out to her and see what happens.

Posted by TymbathelionAfter 2 years.... Why doesn't matter anymore.Posted by misslissa
Seems like she felt you have up on her.... and bluntly.... you did. A relationship is built on trust and give and take.... you stopped giving. So in turn... so did she.
Granted she could have handled that alil all better than she did but, when angry and have had enough... she reacted instead. I'm sure there were hints. Like asking you what it would take for her clothes to come off. Your cue to strip her and take her right there.
We need excitement, or we will create it. You should have sought out help for your depression and anxiety.
i knew exactly what she meant
but not 5 minutes prior sitting in the same chair she told me she hadnt planned on having sex with me again
i refuse to play that "dont call me" *he better call me* game
but otherwise i completely agree thats what happened but in a way she made it so irreversible, she was always telling ppl what a pos i was she got all her friends to hate me then her mom but still kept at me, like why? you tell everyone what a loser i am why do u come here?
how could i have really fixed that ya know?
there was a lot of respect issues from the start that i believe played a role in this
also the dynamic of the relationship changed dramatically twice during our time together i wonder if that is part of my issueclick to expand


Posted by TymbathelionYou have to occupy yourself with other activities you like. Stop focusing on her. She is no longer in your life and hasn't been for 2 years. Not to mention, with someone else!!
i agree hence my title "im having trouble letting go of my gemini" lolol
you've been through this? it did not end in your favor i take it? 😢 im sorry

Posted by TymbathelionPersonality and morals are more important to a Gemini than looks. Trust.Posted by misslissaI was that too lol
After reading your other post on the Leo board... it doesn't sound like an illness I couldn't handle. I can and have had handled many different ones, including seizures.
No offence to you but, she seems alil shallow. Like she was hoping to have the trophy boyfriend who is the all-star quarterback ...
And she may be the most beautiful girl in the world to me but she is not to the majority if u get my meaning
I was above her league
Her mom even said so lolclick to expand

Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrustthat cant all be true? she told me if i hit 200# shed leave me, when she saw old pics of me she said why couldnt i have had this version and laughed, morales meant nothing to her as it was most of what we fought about and she didnt get rid of me, i stopped talking to herPosted by TymbathelionPersonality and morals are more important to a Gemini than looks. Trust.Posted by misslissaI was that too lol
After reading your other post on the Leo board... it doesn't sound like an illness I couldn't handle. I can and have had handled many different ones, including seizures.
No offence to you but, she seems alil shallow. Like she was hoping to have the trophy boyfriend who is the all-star quarterback ...
And she may be the most beautiful girl in the world to me but she is not to the majority if u get my meaning
I was above her league
Her mom even said so lol
Ew no wonder she got rid of you.
Get over yourself.
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Posted by misslissaPosted by TymbathelionYou have to occupy yourself with other activities you like. Stop focusing on her. She is no longer in your life and hasn't been for 2 years. Not to mention, with someone else!!
i agree hence my title "im having trouble letting go of my gemini" lolol
you've been through this? it did not end in your favor i take it? 😢 im sorry
It's a natural trait of cancer placements. I have moon/merc/mars there. Plus it creates a stellum so it's a double whammy, so to speak. I had fought with this for most of my life. Now, I don't anymore. My favor? Yes, it did. I don't want a toxic relationship. And, that's something you need to realize, unless you do want a toxic relationship.
And, stop being sorry...
I lived.
I'm good.
I'm happily married to an aqua. 🙂click to expand

Posted by TymbathelionTherapy is good. 🙂Posted by misslissaPosted by TymbathelionYou have to occupy yourself with other activities you like. Stop focusing on her. She is no longer in your life and hasn't been for 2 years. Not to mention, with someone else!!
i agree hence my title "im having trouble letting go of my gemini" lolol
you've been through this? it did not end in your favor i take it? 😢 im sorry
It's a natural trait of cancer placements. I have moon/merc/mars there. Plus it creates a stellum so it's a double whammy, so to speak. I had fought with this for most of my life. Now, I don't anymore. My favor? Yes, it did. I don't want a toxic relationship. And, that's something you need to realize, unless you do want a toxic relationship.
And, stop being sorry...
I lived.
I'm good.
I'm happily married to an aqua. 🙂
i am trying i have been trying i go to therapy i go to the gym i play with my dog and go out with freinds
and now im on here, *ironically i tried joining this site 3 years ago while i was with her lol*click to expand

Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.

Posted by LadyNeptuneI still love my husband otherwise I would leave him. It's just like a love and care and partnership.Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
Or did you never love your husband to begin with?click to expand

Posted by GemitatiHave you told your husband about the passion you've found with the Scorpio?Posted by LadyNeptuneI still love my husband otherwise I would leave him. It's just like a love and care and partnership.Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
Or did you never love your husband to begin with?
Scorp makes my heart stop. It's passion and care. And many other things. 🙂click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah I told him 8 years ago when I first saw Scorp! LolPosted by GemitatiHave you told your husband about the passion you've found with the Scorpio?Posted by LadyNeptuneI still love my husband otherwise I would leave him. It's just like a love and care and partnership.Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
Or did you never love your husband to begin with?
Scorp makes my heart stop. It's passion and care. And many other things. 🙂
Most would agree the foundation of partnership is mutual trust and transparency.click to expand

Posted by GemitatiSo what your saying is you have an open marriage?Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah I told him 8 years ago when I first saw Scorp! LolPosted by GemitatiHave you told your husband about the passion you've found with the Scorpio?Posted by LadyNeptuneI still love my husband otherwise I would leave him. It's just like a love and care and partnership.Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
Or did you never love your husband to begin with?
Scorp makes my heart stop. It's passion and care. And many other things. 🙂
Most would agree the foundation of partnership is mutual trust and transparency.
Our partnership is me taking care of him and being a good friend.
BTW he just called me and for that he had to travel for about an hour. Just because he told me he will. So...shouldn't I love him?
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Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't ask him lolPosted by GemitatiSo what your saying is you have an open marriage?Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah I told him 8 years ago when I first saw Scorp! LolPosted by GemitatiHave you told your husband about the passion you've found with the Scorpio?Posted by LadyNeptuneI still love my husband otherwise I would leave him. It's just like a love and care and partnership.Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
Or did you never love your husband to begin with?
Scorp makes my heart stop. It's passion and care. And many other things. 🙂
Most would agree the foundation of partnership is mutual trust and transparency.
Our partnership is me taking care of him and being a good friend.
BTW he just called me and for that he had to travel for about an hour. Just because he told me he will. So...shouldn't I love him?
Your husband knows you have a side peice in the Scorpio.
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Posted by GemitatiBut does he know?!Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't ask him lolPosted by GemitatiSo what your saying is you have an open marriage?Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah I told him 8 years ago when I first saw Scorp! LolPosted by GemitatiHave you told your husband about the passion you've found with the Scorpio?Posted by LadyNeptuneI still love my husband otherwise I would leave him. It's just like a love and care and partnership.Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
Or did you never love your husband to begin with?
Scorp makes my heart stop. It's passion and care. And many other things. 🙂
Most would agree the foundation of partnership is mutual trust and transparency.
Our partnership is me taking care of him and being a good friend.
BTW he just called me and for that he had to travel for about an hour. Just because he told me he will. So...shouldn't I love him?
Your husband knows you have a side peice in the Scorpio.
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Posted by Solitude
It sounds like a case of fatal attraction


Posted by LadyNeptuneYou acting like I must! LolPosted by GemitatiBut does he know?!Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't ask him lolPosted by GemitatiSo what your saying is you have an open marriage?Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah I told him 8 years ago when I first saw Scorp! LolPosted by GemitatiHave you told your husband about the passion you've found with the Scorpio?Posted by LadyNeptuneI still love my husband otherwise I would leave him. It's just like a love and care and partnership.Posted by GemitatiSo what was it that had you lose love for your husband and start fucking the Scorpio on the side...?
I am sorry but being Gemini I can tell if I am gone I am gone.
If I love you no illness would matter.
That's why've am asking what it was because I can't think of any that would make me to stop loving a person.
Or did you never love your husband to begin with?
Scorp makes my heart stop. It's passion and care. And many other things. 🙂
Most would agree the foundation of partnership is mutual trust and transparency.
Our partnership is me taking care of him and being a good friend.
BTW he just called me and for that he had to travel for about an hour. Just because he told me he will. So...shouldn't I love him?
Your husband knows you have a side peice in the Scorpio.
...you still haven't given me a direct answer.click to expand


Posted by blackphasePosted by TymbathelionWhat does the rest of your chart look like?
and do you think my other signs could have something to do with this?click to expand

Posted by blackphasePosted by TymbathelionWhat do ya mean?
Did my thread get hijacked?click to expand

Posted by blackphasePosted by Tymbathelionastro.comPosted by blackphasePosted by TymbathelionWhat does the rest of your chart look like?
and do you think my other signs could have something to do with this?
I used to know it, wheres a good place to have it re checked?
What is your dob and time / location? I can find it for you if you like. Or PM me if you don't want to make that info public 🙂click to expand

Posted by blackphaseOaklandPosted by TymbathelionOakland or Newaygo county? Assuming those are the Michigan ones..Posted by blackphasePosted by Tymbathelionastro.comPosted by blackphasePosted by TymbathelionWhat does the rest of your chart look like?
and do you think my other signs could have something to do with this?
I used to know it, wheres a good place to have it re checked?
What is your dob and time / location? I can find it for you if you like. Or PM me if you don't want to make that info public 🙂
4:14 pm friday aug 15 1986 in troy michigan
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Posted by blackphaseAspects?Posted by TymbathelionLeo Sun - 8thPosted by blackphaseOaklandPosted by TymbathelionOakland or Newaygo county? Assuming those are the Michigan ones..Posted by blackphasePosted by Tymbathelionastro.comPosted by blackphasePosted by TymbathelionWhat does the rest of your chart look like?
and do you think my other signs could have something to do with this?
I used to know it, wheres a good place to have it re checked?
What is your dob and time / location? I can find it for you if you like. Or PM me if you don't want to make that info public 🙂
4:14 pm friday aug 15 1986 in troy michigan
Sag Moon - 1st
Leo Mercury - 8th
Libra Venus - 10th
Cap Mars - 1st
Pisces Jupiter - 3rd
Sag Saturn - 12th
Sag Uranus - 1st
Cap Neptune - 1st
Scorpio Pluto - 11th
Aspects would have an impact as well. I can't really pin point what has you so hung up here. Likely a combination of things. These type of relationships are never easy 😢click to expand



Posted by blackphaseThey both are.... I'm from michigan too. 🙂Posted by TymbathelionOakland or Newaygo county? Assuming those are the Michigan ones..Posted by blackphasePosted by Tymbathelionastro.comPosted by blackphasePosted by TymbathelionWhat does the rest of your chart look like?
and do you think my other signs could have something to do with this?
I used to know it, wheres a good place to have it re checked?
What is your dob and time / location? I can find it for you if you like. Or PM me if you don't want to make that info public 🙂
4:14 pm friday aug 15 1986 in troy michigan
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And while my charm and looks get me more attention then i can handle, i alway turn to her. Shes all i think about when im alone, and i feel so robbed that its all because i was sick.
I wish i mattered, i wish i was missed, or even thought about, i wish I didn't feel like this anymore
Please if you have any advice please share
Thank you