I hate my best-friend

My best friend beyrayed me by sleeping in the same bed as my boyfriend. They didn't have sex.. they just slept in the same bed. When my friend told me I was shocked and mad at my boyfriend.. but turns out he was trashed and my friend... was drunk but not trashed.

My friend doesn't think it bothers me and that I'm over it but I'm not.

I'm mad that she thought it'd be okay to sleep in my boyfriend's bed... especially after we'd had a fight the same night.

Should I keep the silence and wait for my friend to ask why we're not talking or should I just tell her I'm still mad at her after 2 months of festering and dwelling on it?

Why was she there? In the first place?

How do you know they didn't have sex, cus she said so? If she went as far as sleeping in the same bed as him, with no regard towards you, then whos to say what really happened....

Us Gemini's, we forgive to quickly. I have done that many times, only to ponder over it afterwards and say WTF!

Let it out and tell her and him how you really feel.

What was wrong with the couch? And where were you in the equation? I would definitely let her go, the boyfriend, I would have a word with him also. In my mind, the fact that they were both drunk makes it worse, not better. So inappropriate.
You won't be able to trust her again. I had a friend betray me in highschool with my boyfriends, I gave her a second chance last year at friendship, and she did it again. People don't change my dear.

That's my opinion, and I would tell her already.

It was a party and I didn't go cause I was sick or something, I forget. I know for a fact that my friend did not have sex with my boyfriend because... she's a virgin. She get's uncomfortable whenever anyone talks about sex. She's not the most attractive girl out there. I know she didn't do anything. And when I say my boyfriend was trashed I mean he passed out as soon as his head hit the pillow. (this coming from his brother.)


This might be random but I'm convinced my friend is jealous that I have someone and she's afraid I won't be her friend.

At a different party my boyfriend and did it... on the couch in the family room. My friend said she fell asleep but then said we woke her up being loud. But we weren't. She was in the living room/dining room and she listened to us having sex.
She still brings up what my boyfriend and I sounded like and said when we were finishing.

I think she's nuts.

Well, if you truly feel that in your gut, and you don't get that funny feeling in your stomach... then go with it. Your friend being jealous or afraid she may lose you to your boyfriend can happen. Has she given you any other signs about this?

In regards to the sex incident, she could just be curious, especially if she is a virgin. Talk to her, about everything. How you didn't like what she did and why. Touch on the subject of how she feels about your friendship...

When you said you think she is nuts... do you mean in a "Single White Female" kind of way?

One thing she said that I won't forget is when we were talking about the boyfriend bed sleeping thing, she said, "If I didn't care about our friendship, I would have done something with him."

After saying that and seeing the look on my face she said it came out wrong and didn't mean it like that.

Well, you can't crucify her for that. I've said some pretty retar stuff myself... I'll think one thing, and it just comes out completely wrong because I'm nervous or in the heat of an argument.

How long have you both been close and has she ever tested your trust before with other boyfriends?

Your best friend could also be your boyfriends best friend. You should tell her how you feel and to not do it again same with your boyfriend. Love is unconditional and if you love these people you dont have to let them go because some dumb people online tell you to ditch them when they cant even ditch their people and got there own problems. You should speak up and just handle how you would. In jamaica everyone sleeps in the same bed, its not a sexual thing its a comfort caring thing. I blame you for thinking so sexual and they didnt do anything, they couldve been just talking. Next time ask more question if you wanna know why that happened im sure theres an understanding lying beneath it.

You have a best friend you don't trust. You have a boy friend you don't trust. You must not pick your friends and boyfriends very well. You said you believe her, but you don't. If you believe her, then what's the problem?

Basically, though, it comes down to trust. If you don't trust them, get rid of both of them.

For what it's worth, I think you're over reacting.

literally you shouldnt be stressing over it life is too short. address the issue or sdfu.
Not to be rude but we cant physically solve your problem, we can only give you options you probably already knew you had. I suggest you give it to them raw. The raw truth the raw emotions the raw energy.
Let it all out, even break some shit while your at it. Let them know you are no doormat you are no fool and you shouldnt be taken lightly because clearly you dont take things lightly.

You need to cut that girl outta your life or you will regret it.

Posted by truecap
For what it's worth, I think you're over reacting.

+100

When an individual is intoxicated, a coherent crash (lets do the 'sober' thing and let me take the couch instead) is NOT an option.

I doubt that either party is guilty.

Just need to control their alcohol consumption.

I thought this post would be juicy, and it was! Lol. What tha hell!?
I'm sorry but I'm surprised to see so many gems trying to get you to calm down and act like this is not a problem. You are feeling the way you feel because you are a WOMAN, and everyone knows women read OTHER women VERY well. Whether she has had sex before does not make her innocent. When someone does something foolish like..oh I don't know??_sleep with your best friends man, chances are she's fantasized on what it may be like before. And if you are smart you will nip that in the bud, and fast.

Not saying anything happened between them, but I would not put it past her that she entertains the thought of what he's like in the bedroom JUST because she's a virgin. If she's around 25-26 and she's a virgin I can probably bet my last she's probably feeling borderline nympho horney right now, not to mention she heard the two of you.


I understand you holding it in, at first. Most likely because you were probably confused on whether you should even be upset in the first place. That's something I do often if the situation is complicated. But you need to tell her how you feel and be straight up. Tell her everything you??ve told us, about her little comments about listening to the two of you, all of that. Holding it in will only make things worse. I would tell my boyfriend how I feel too. Just to let him know to be on gaurd, because men are dumb in these situations. Sorry but they are. He most likely hasn't given it two thoughts especially if she's not even appealing on the eyes as you say. I'm not a gem, but I know lots of them, you are cool about a lot of things, but having thoughts that ya best friend might have the hots for your man (because that's really what all this boils down to) is NOT something to be cool about. If you don't say something, the two of you will be friend-enemies in no time. Watch.