@mslayde
13 Years
I think this Gemini man has me on tap....
Hmmmmm..sounds like he wants it both ways...personally, I think it's a convenient thing for him. If he can man up and move into your home to help you out financially, then why can't he man up and just move in as your man and still help you out financially—IJS
That's plausible but where I live and where he works is not convenient and that was his original reason for having reservations. My best friends says he being territorial
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Summary:
-Known each other for two years; in the last 6mos we've became closer and yes sex has come into play
- he has some financial stuff he trying to take care
-says he's not ready NOW for a relationship; on the flip side I told him I'm not either b/c 6 mos ago I got a job 180mi away although I'm still a resident (my house) of the same state as he thus I come home on every other wknd or so.
- during the convo where we discussed our not being ready for a relationship, he states, "I adore you".
- I gave him the key to my home when I got the job so he'd keep an eye on it ( he checks it once a week- shoveled snow, checks w/ neighbors, and etc).
- Recently I told him I was gonna get some one to rent a room in my house particularly a male b/c women haven't been working out for me. He told me a month aho he might consider it and it he's hesitant b/c its a little out his way when heading to work.
- A week ago on the night we had the "relationship talk" he say he gonna move in around June to help me out ( I have a mortgage and I'm renting in the state that I work; he works crazy hours so his family stays at his house so he's gonna let them "have it" n stay at my place b/c it will be peaceful). He's in his early 40s and I'm a mid 30s Sag.
there's no doubt there's feeling from both our ends, no games have been played to date, he's respectful, honest (admits he not ready b/c he will not able to do what he's should do as a man in a relationship), trusting ( hell I gave him my key) and so on...my question is, Why is he doing all of this...is this a game or does he really want me? and is trying to keep me close until he taken care of his business so we could. enter a relationship? I'm going to keep my options open but I just don't know where to put him, so to speak.