Need some Gem advice on dating and commitment

So I've been dating a Gem guy for almost 4 months now, part of which he was gone over seas for work. Everything's been pretty good with us, we communicate well and enjoy each others company.

We talked once before he left about commitment and had decided to wait and see how we did with him being gone for long periods of time. We talked or text everyday so that went fine. Neither of us has been with anyone else, we've both been loyal to each other... but since he's been home there's been zero talk about the future or commitment.

He used to talk about it all the time, especially when he was away. Now it's like his lips are completely sealed. I also realize that our time spent together with him working away has been short in of itself.

He will be leaving for work again soon and as much as I like him I don't want to wait another two months for him casually speaking. I'm not sure if I should keep letting things flow and evolve naturally or if I should speak up and ask where we are going.

I know Gem's aren't one to commit so I'm a bit shy about speaking up... any advice?

Posted by nanobot

Well there is really only one gemini man here anymore, and he is kind of a troll @xkraft

I have been with 2 gemini men (over 8 years of my life so far), both of whom proposed to me within the relationships so I think that I have some insight into this. I actually don't at all agree with the statement that gems aren't one to commit, gemini guys commit FAST if they are into you. My first cancer moon gem, was insulted that I even had to ask what we were, a few weeks after hanging out. He was like.... you are my girlfriend, duh. I didn't know that. My second gem, the one I am with currently, is a scorp moon and he constantly was asking me, when are you gonna be my girl, I want you to commit to me, etc etc.

In my opinion, what you described either means that 1) he already thinks you are together, or 2) that it does not sound good and is nothing like my own experiences. Gemini men are quick to commit and want to make women "theirs" and can be very possessive. I can't think of a placement within our charts that would not behave this way.

I think that after investing 4 months into him, you have a right to know where you stand in his life. That to me, is a very long time to not what you are to him. And since you said that you don't really want to wait, I absolutely think that you should assert yourself, and ask him. You always risk not getting the answer you want, but isn't that better than waiting in limbo for another 2 months or more?

Yeah I think it’s #1

He said let’s see how it goes when I’m outta town. It went great. In his head you guys are prolly already an item.

But it doesn’t hurt to ask again.

Posted by nanobot

Well there is really only one gemini man here anymore, and he is kind of a troll @xkraft

I have been with 2 gemini men (over 8 years of my life so far), both of whom proposed to me within the relationships so I think that I have some insight into this. I actually don't at all agree with the statement that gems aren't one to commit, gemini guys commit FAST if they are into you. My first cancer moon gem, was insulted that I even had to ask what we were, a few weeks after hanging out. He was like.... you are my girlfriend, duh. I didn't know that. My second gem, the one I am with currently, is a scorp moon and he constantly was asking me, when are you gonna be my girl, I want you to commit to me, etc etc.

In my opinion, what you described either means that 1) he already thinks you are together, or 2) that it does not sound good and is nothing like my own experiences. Gemini men are quick to commit and want to make women "theirs" and can be very possessive. I can't think of a placement within our charts that would not behave this way.

I think that after investing 4 months into him, you have a right to know where you stand in his life. That to me, is a very long time to not what you are to him. And since you said that you don't really want to wait, I absolutely think that you should assert yourself, and ask him. You always risk not getting the answer you want, but isn't that better than waiting in limbo for another 2 months or more?

He's a moon in Aries Venus Gemini mars Scorpio. I was basing the statement on what I've read mostly as I have never dated a Gemini only been friends with them.

I know within the first two weeks of us dating he said he really really liked me and didn't want to screw things up.

He's been very moody lately due to work stuff and hasn't been himself. I guess it would be best to just ask instead of waiting on him. He did say that when he's exclusive he's all in but he's only done that once before. It lasted 5 years and she left him completely heartbroken. I feel like it's made him gun shy now so to speak.