That fine line between friendly/flirty...

Ive been friends with this gemini man for more than a year now. We don't see each other often, in fact we live in different states but we keep in touch everyday.
We have a good laugh and a joke in our messages and I have always thought it to be friendly. A few months back he was having a hard time at work, I could tell he was a bit down so I asked him if he wanted to talk about it and he really opened up to me and told me the whole story. I gave him my advice and he eventually sorted it out. He then told me that I was the only person who knew about his troubles and that he doesn't trust many people but feels like he can trust me.
His messages to me (I always try not to initiate too much) have become more frequent - generally he always wants to know what im doing, where im going, I always get a good morning and a goodnight message, we share playlists with each other, he tells me about his family problems...he doesn't seem to ask too much about my personal life though, well apart from the above.
He always seems to be fishing for compliments from me, like he'll send me a photo if he got a haircut or new suit and Ill tell him he looks good or handsome or something. I recently started doing the same back and he told me I looked 'fancy'...not the word choice I was expecting...lol.
Other little things that have happened are that he wants me to visit him so he can show me round his area and I invited him to mine so I could do the same...but there are no definate plans in place for these things to happen. He asked if he could get something delivered to my home as he was away for a while and when it came it was his name on my address...I joked it was like he was moving in and he replied that that was his plan all long, haha.
As we have got further along the line, I can see myself maybe falling for him if we spend more time together but Im really holding back at the moment because I can't see if he's just being a good friend or if he's looking for something more. I have been wrong about other guys in the past so I thought asking all you lovely Gems opinions might help me see where this is going. 🙂

Posted by daisymoo

I can't see if he's just being a good friend or if he's looking for something more.

... might help me see where this is going.

A person cannot help you in your mental processing. They cannot judge whether a guy is really into you, or not, according to what you say because every situation is one-sided, if only ONE person is talking.

If you are incapable of reading signs and signals from another person .. then this is your only true issue to work through in a scenario such as this ... let me put that into a perspective you might be able to recognize.


If other people can decipher his intentions, according to what you wrote .. then why can't you? If people are capable of figuring out an intent with only what you have presented .. then if you are of sound mind and judgment, with critical thought .. then you should also be able to figure it out.

If you cannot, then it means that nobody in here can ... because we don't know anything about the dynamics and nuances of this relating ..... we only know what you have chosen to say, which is severely slanted for purposes of making the viewing audience have certain perceptions of your choice.