The Gemini Switch-off

I dunno if there's already been a post about this but there is something about geminis that I really need to understand.

Can someone please explain this gemini ability to "switch off"?

I have been told by several gemini men that they will analyze a relationship to death and if they decide that there is no way it could work, they can switch their feelings off, just like that! Or atleast it's easy for their heads to rule over their hearts. One gemini even told me that he can talk himself out of liking a girl. He didn't tell me why he'd want to do that, just that he COULD do it. He also said that he wondered if he could ever successfully be in a relationship because work is so important to him, he could literally hang out with a girl, then get back to work and completely forget about her for days. What on earth??

I'm confused because this doesn't seem to be the case for gemini women. I have a few close gemini girl friends. They don't make a big show of their emotions but they do get depressed and cry when relationships don't work out and they don't appear to have that switch. One of my gem friends is still in a funk and boohooing in her room 2 months after her ex-bf dumped her.

Please help me understand this!

explain ? well...hmmm..no..i guess it's just a thing some people do .. like.. i would want someone , but not..then i'd go over it in my mind..why i do..and why i don't ..and depending on what seems more important i'd decide yes , or no ... (but being a gem girl that sounds a bit more simple then is ends up being =)

this is pretty scary that u've used the words ''switch off'' cuz those were my exact words yesterday to a friend...

Im a gem girl...and Yes I can switch off my emotions really easily, and it sometimes confuses me...
For example, there was this guy I really liked for about 6 months(I even thought i was in love couldnt eat/sleep etc. he was on my mind all the time), but I was going back and forth, one day I was in love the next day I didnt liek him at all( this goes every relationship) but then, I noticed every month i fell in love deeper I was questioning less... but then the 6th month out of the blue, I was completely over him, I switchd off my emotions in a way, that every single trait I fell in love with or made me like him, was suddenly a HUGE turn off for me, I just didnt have any feeling for him anymore, and everything he said and did basically disgusted me, SO I switched off my emotions. and I cant switch them back on, once ur in the '' its over list'' ur out fo real...whenever I see him again, I look at him as just a friend...I cant even understand why I liked him that much, its crazy...

About talking myself out of liking a guy...most definitely, I cant easily do this its basically a process of switching off my emotions.

Forgetting about a guy a few days... not really..when I like a guy he's definitely on my mind, UNLESS im realllyy busy, and not that in love with him...

I defnitely think I fall in love with my MIND first...so thats why I cant switch of emotiones esaily and talk myself out of liking someone...

I remember I talked on the phone with my cap and leo bestfriends about it...
and they were both suprised and shocked that I was over this guy after 6 months and suddnely lost all interest in him, especially because the day before, I was still talkin on the phone hrs about him, and the next dat I was like.. "I dont feel like talking about him, I just dont like him anymore'' ...

I was even supprised shocked and confused how this happend...
but Im cool with it, atleast I dont get my heart broken easily..

@ combating... thanks! 🙂 it was either gonna be Pesca or Geminibait but the latter would've been too confusing.

I understand switching off to some extent. For me (and maybe pisces in general?) I can easily switch off on a guy that I have a crush on if he doesn't appear to be interested or if a guy takes me out on a date and I don't feel a connection with him. I've also switched off on ex boyfriends if they start becoming too controlling and smothering. But in a case where I am switching off on someone I have a relationship with, I have to practically be mentally beaten into doing so and even then, I feel some pain over it. I wish I had the power to turn off my emotions 😢

I am on a Gemini cusp with gem in venus and moon.
I can't switch off just like that. i love the emotions too mcuh. once I'm in I'm all in.
However, in pressured cases I just go completely logical. I can still see and understand emotions but I don't feel them. i work well under pressure cause my Gemini logic just kicks into gear.

I have also been madly in love and thought I would never get over it but I can recover.I can't just switch my feelings off but I can regroup.

Saying that I'm not managing it right now though I should.

" I can still see and understand emotions but I don't feel them."

As a water sign I just can't fathom that but I need to understand because I keep ending up with geminis. I just ended a relationship with a gemini that I like very much and i'm sad about it but it was something that needed to be done. Almost immediately after that, a gemini ex popped back into my life and I just met two nice guys, both of them GEMINIS. The universe keeps throwing geminis my way so I might as well try to understand them.

LOL! I do appreciate geminis for that as well. I usually have the energy to keep up with them and I enjoy conversations with geminis. A good night for me and my gemini sweetheart was endless hours of conversation about a broad range of topics, only interrupted every hour or so with hot sex. I miss my gem already and I have to keep reminding myself that breaking up with him was for the best. I wish I had that switch 😢

Can someone remind me how to switch the switch? I use to be able to do that, but not for sometime, I use to say "i lost my give a shit" and now, I cant get back there!

The switch is iffy for me. Sometimes it's easy to switch off and on, and sometimes it's out of my control.

I've recently turned the switch on for this guy that I didn't really give a chance in the beginning, now I'm soaking him up and enjoying it! And for the guy that had me head over heels, I'm now repulsed (although I'll always love him, I don't really care for being WITH him anymore).

I think it is Gemini's lack of attachment. I can easily detach from someone if I get to a point where I WANT to. If I don't want to detach, however, nothing the other person does will make me. But when I'm ready, I'm gone like the wind. It usually confuses the hell out of men.

I gotta agree with Gemini's being detached...
for me sometimes I come off as cold but I cant help it, not trying to sound like B*tch or anything..
but when I see a girl crying ove rher boyfriend, I feel but, but in my mind im just like, 'why the hell u crying over some dude I would neva do that'' and because of that I come off as insensitive smetimes, but Im not ... for example when im wit my dude.. and some random chick would text him ''hey whats up sexy long time no talk u wanna hang out sometime soon?'' I wouldnt trip over that...Im just like he can hang with her...but if u start opening up your thoughts to her thats where I would get mad..but other than that just dont cheat but I just dont CARE... while other chicks go crazy over stuff like that...
and I never knew WHY I couldnt care less.. but know I think its ebcause Im so detached, if a guy hasn't reached to my THAT deep, Im just no attached..and when im not attached I couldnt care less..

another reason why I think alot of gems come off als cold hearted... is because of us being detached BUT ALSO because we DO have a dual nature...
one minute we want a certain man and the next day we forgot about him...

me for example one minute I want smart conservative guys the next week I want, excentric bad boys...

I can switch off so easily that even IM surprised sometimes how easily I can let go, but it saves alotta tears, I think attaching to another person easily is what causing heartbreak, we are guarding ourselfed because of natural insticts..

Im still confused how Im able to let a guy go who I liked for soooooo long, and talked about for HOURS, and suddenly I woke up and the next day, he didnt seem attractive to me, and I couldnt stand his behaviour anymore... its just strange...

ANOTHER THING...WHEN IM DONE WITH A GUY IM DONE FOR GOOD....NO MORE TURNIN BACK...N MY AUNT IS A GEM TOO AND SHE SAID THE SAME THING!! CREEPY

Oh I read alot that gems are hardly jealous!
which I can definitely idenitify with in relationships!
Im really not a jealous gf, and now I finally know why

detached+duality=not easily jealous=not liking a guy that much,,,

attached=jealousy+liking him everyday without changing ur mind every 2 days..

Yeah, jealousy is pretty foreign to me. It's so foreign, whenever I feel it just a little bit I'll say it, and it's never been over a guy. Maybe my friend got to go on a trip somewhere and I wanted to go, I'll say, "Aww, I'm jealous!" Lol. And that's about how long the jealousy lives, however long it took me to say I was jealous.

All of my relationships have been hilarious because of my detachment. My exes all asked me at one point if I really even liked them because I didn't act like it. Mainly because I never argued and never cared too much about anything to ask any questions. Just a carefree type. Ehh well. Someone will appreciate it one day.

LOL, ladies, Jealousy is not foreign to me, but they dont know it.........one guy said, i had too much pride, well, i am not gonna act like some stupid needy girl......but to detach, i was so much better at it when i was younger, i need the switch back.......i need it now, it sure would be handy........😉

I'm a gemini girl.
I can just "switch off" my relationships if I feel that they aren't going to work.

I am a gemini girl and this switching-off thing is true.In my case I had a crush over a boy since grade 3 and it stayed until class 11 when it suddenly switched off and I was like "I don't like this boy anymore" idk how ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Being aqua sun, gemini moon, libra rising, being all air. I also don't like that air signs have this ability. Its not a bad thing in some situations, but most situations require that one understands their emotions first to be able to guide them in life. What they value, what they're triggers are. I've been working on being at home more and just "feeling" emotions.

The best way I can verbalize this inner world...here I go

When I feel things (moon based) -disappointment, sadness, anxiety, shame, guilt, pain of any kind, joy. Immediately after, my mind comes in, it'll rationalize those things away. Its not just that it switches off. There is contemplation:

1. What triggered these things?

2. What was the situation (what I did, he , she, we did objectively outside my feelings)

3. What are the philosophy of life, my beliefs, the other person?

4. What is the core of it all?

Once all these are answered, It goes back to playing this balancing act of finding the best middle solution for ourselves. Water signs for instance deal with the emotions without having to question or explore mental attitudes. My scorpio bestie for instance, tells me when she feels bad, she'll physically release, she'll stare at walls with no distraction (same goes for my virgo guy friend) they'll sit there and nuture whatever they feel. My taurus friend says she just feels it and "RIDES IT OUT" which leads to the mind.

Air signs, particulary my gemini moon, I feel them but because its not my nature at all to feel things first. Rather using physical, sensual side to sort through feelings, I use my mind. That is the difference. Its naturally dettached because the mind and emotions are separate to me. To water signs, your emotions create your thoughts. Which is very very true. I've learned to incorporate what best works to balance my placements out. Its important to know how to dettach like an air sign, its also important to know WHEN to use your emotions..or bring awareness to the emotions that create the thought like water/earth signs.

As with lovers, I'll have both a balance mix of mind and emotions together.

Mental method in dating: i'll think of all the observations and find patterns. Test the patterns (just like scientific method) to create judgement.

Emotions: The intuition will kick in, and i'll have to use my mind to identify it as its not my nature to instinctually know. I can have a judgement from patterns, but how the other guy makes me feel HEAVILY impacts those judgements.

For example

date 1 with a cap, emotional processing: it was a great night, but during the night in conversations, he would structure his sentences in a way that comes across as "condescending" little actions made me feel that he was a bit too dominant and controlling. MY MIND kicks in between the emotions like a pulse, and says "however, you don't know him, so there by you cant truly know how he uses his words. " BUt i walk away still feeling a bit controlled and restrictive. This is a small example of our ability to feel and dettach.

We got into a fight but granted he reacted much more, he created more problems then there had to be, I walked away making with both my emotions and mind my judgement "he has control issues, he expects me to be a certain way that is not me, im not comfortable"

Date 2: Thanksgiving, nothing great happened. We tried to become physical but then suddenly he would pull away then say "someone has to be in control", I feel played with, I feel confused, unsafe.manipulated.

By now, I've taken date 1's judgement and added this into the mix. "HE MOST DEFINITELY isn't a good choice for me, however, let me make sure i'm not be paranoid."

Date 3: Before I even got to the door he gotten frustrated with me and said "WHY CAN"T YOU BE NORMAL?" I cried for days.

Our quick minds can predict the highest possible outcome, from there when something does happen, are not necessarily surprised and we are ready with our solutions.

Where an water/earth sign follows the very same intuition an air sign has, their emotional mangement is to mentally block that person from affecting them. Air signs will take it further and process everything with philosophy, ethics, semantics, questioning if their thought processing is critically correct. Emotional management is finding solutions. If person a is __,___,___ I must prepare myself to be, say, think like this ___,___,___.

By the time the rest of the world notices, they notice the solution in play:

-hot and cold

-Dettached

-Distant

-Unavailable

haha OH but it was just "last week" we were great, It was jsut a night a go. WRONG its wasn't just a day ago, or a night a go, its been a series of patterns and feelings and endless nights of shifting through.

I only switch off when I’m really not invested. If it’s mild curiosity then sure, it’s easily just switched off, however If I fancy someone it takes me a couple of months to fully switch off, until then I’m all butterflies and then the next day I’m “ugh” as I can’t understand why I liked them.

Aww....a 10 yrs old thread....

Everybody can switch off for good if they were not in love with someone. The first 6 months is infatuation stage, that could even extent to 48 months! This is not real love, but a dopamine based reaction to a novel relationship.

Usually, the process to let down a willing partner takes some time of intense reflection. The fact that one could switch off overnight means that 1) has very little self awareness to how her/his mind responded to the other person and the relationship; 2) has a lack of maturity, which in the extreme case of a narcissist means a lack of empathy, ability to connect, and the emotional intelligence of a 3 yrs old.

If you become connected at an emotional, physical and mental level (during 1-2 years or so), then you will find extremely difficult to just get over someone on a whim.

Air signs: please stop pretending that you are quasi autists, narcissists, robots, aliens....

These are serious handicaps to have if you want a long lasting and happy relationship with a human being.

Grow up and wake up!

I think a Gemini would do that if they don't see themselves being interested in a person that much longer. They are not going to trick themselves into thinking they are in love or more interested than they really are, like most would. Most relationships don't tend to be that remarkable or worth sacrificing anything, so I suppose it would be easy. It's one of the things that makes them interesting, you shouldn't prod at it too much.

I’m a Gemini woman. I love to analyze my relationship with men. Men are sneaky and they lie all the time. They hide the truth and if you allow them, they disappoint you right away but then try to apologize for it. Then they do the same thing again. If a Gemini woman cries that’s because she is inexperienced with men. She liked someone and he disappointed her. Then she learns her lesson and switches of her feelings just like that. Yes, Gemini women can switch their emotions just like that because they are able to rationalize the situation and find a solution to a problem. And move on.