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How Geminis Can Manage Deep Feelings
Geminis often detach from intense emotions by focusing on rational thinking and physical activities. Practicing mindfulness, setting healthy boundaries, and communicating openly can help control feelings around someone you like. Recognizing emotional triggers and giving yourself space to process emotions also aids in maintaining balance.
Thing that scares me is I havent been in a relationship in so long. My last was 2 years ago with a pisces and he completely fkd me up (emotionally) and I promised myself id NEVER let someone get a hold of me emotionally again and Ive been fine these past 2 years until I met this girl (this is my first female relationship.. but id consider myself bi sexual I guess..) anyway yea and things have happened so quick. She chased me and wanted to be in a relationship and I agreed and about 2 weeks ago I think she was close to telling me she was in love with me but held back... now she is just closing up more than usual (she also recently had a death her aunty died) and I dont know how to deal with her closing up and kind of pushing me away because now that she is doing it its making me want her more and its making me seek her and her attention more lets say im starting to feel a little neglected and my feelings for her are becoming a lot more stronger and intense and I dont know how to handle them and deal with them and I think im starting to fall in lov with her and its only been 3weeks!!!! Or maybe ahhh i dont know.
This post was kind of pointless as its just me rambling on.. and I STILL dont feel better! 😢
I really hate my venus in cancer i HATE IT!!!! Makes me such a sensitive, needy pussy!
I think venus in cancer is TOO loving. i FKN HATE having this placement and being a gemini sun. Its too intense and confusing!!!!
my problem is the other way around... i do just fine controlling them when i'm around my SO... but when i'm not, that's a different story.
Posted by nats
Thing that scares me is I havent been in a relationship in so long. My last was 2 years ago with a pisces and he completely fkd me up (emotionally) and I promised myself id NEVER let someone get a hold of me emotionally again and Ive been fine these past 2 years until I met this girl (this is my first female relationship.. but id consider myself bi sexual I guess..) anyway yea and things have happened so quick. She chased me and wanted to be in a relationship and I agreed and about 2 weeks ago I think she was close to telling me she was in love with me but held back... now she is just closing up more than usual (she also recently had a death her aunty died) and I dont know how to deal with her closing up and kind of pushing me away because now that she is doing it its making me want her more and its making me seek her and her attention more lets say im starting to feel a little neglected and my feelings for her are becoming a lot more stronger and intense and I dont know how to handle them and deal with them and I think im starting to fall in lov with her and its only been 3weeks!!!! Or maybe ahhh i dont know.This post was kind of pointless as its just me rambling on.. and I STILL dont feel better! 😢
I really hate my venus in cancer i HATE IT!!!! Makes me such a sensitive, needy pussy!
^^ that right there is something i'm dealing with now... i have 3 cancer placements (moon, merc, mars). i am trying my best to be able to detach alil bit. it seems to get better as the days go by and has definitely been a challenging lesson. i haven't seen my aqua in two weeks and haven't talked in a week. it's not like i didn't know about this going into this relationship, i did, we talked about it. and him being an aqua, well... i thought at first, no big deal i can handle this... haha! but like i said, i'm doing much better now. what's even crazier is i've never felt this much/deep for anyone.
Posted by grinch33344
Oh no... you are falling in love with her and it's only been 3 weeks... I'm not a Gem but I have Venus in Cancer too so I hope you could use my suggestion...So here's the deal, when you start to feel 'clingy' and want to see your gf but you can't, think about this time as an opportunity to do your little guilty pleasures and all that sort of stuff. You know, that stuff that you like to do yourself without your gf knowing or be involved in it. It could be like, I don't know, catching up on those soap operas or reading celebrity gossip or anything that your gf dreads upon (for me, it's dxpnet lol 😛). It usually helps me because it distracts me from all the feelings and soon enough I got into whatever I was doing and didn't think much about the bf anymore.
Or, why don't you go out and have fun with your friends as well? Go out and have a drink with them, have a wild girls night out, all those fun things. For me either one of those usually works (the first one works almost all the time like magic lol). If not, then the last resort will be, working. Doing sth productive, or working out.
I understand what you are saying etc but sometimes I can be so stubbron that if i get into my head that I want to see her/talk to her then I will do everything possible and go out of my way to do so. I cant take no for an answer somtimes and I become obsessive until i get what it is I want to happen. I live with one of my best friends and a few of our friends are always over our house etc so its not like im alone but I dont WANT to see/talk to anyone BUT her!!!! I've just been having mood swings since saturday.. MAJOR mood swings. Guaranteed by the end of the day when I finished work i'll be over it and back to normal..
Posted by misslissa
my problem is the other way around... i do just fine controlling them when i'm around my SO... but when i'm not, that's a different story.Posted by nats
Thing that scares me is I havent been in a relationship in so long. My last was 2 years ago with a pisces and he completely fkd me up (emotionally) and I promised myself id NEVER let someone get a hold of me emotionally again and Ive been fine these past 2 years until I met this girl (this is my first female relationship.. but id consider myself bi sexual I guess..) anyway yea and things have happened so quick. She chased me and wanted to be in a relationship and I agreed and about 2 weeks ago I think she was close to telling me she was in love with me but held back... now she is just closing up more than usual (she also recently had a death her aunty died) and I dont know how to deal with her closing up and kind of pushing me away because now that she is doing it its making me want her more and its making me seek her and her attention more lets say im starting to feel a little neglected and my feelings for her are becoming a lot more stronger and intense and I dont know how to handle them and deal with them and I think im starting to fall in lov with her and its only been 3weeks!!!! Or maybe ahhh i dont know.This post was kind of pointless as its just me rambling on.. and I STILL dont feel better! 😢
I really hate my venus in cancer i HATE IT!!!! Makes me such a sensitive, needy pussy!
^^ that right there is something i'm dealing with now... i have 3 cancer placements (moon, merc, mars). i am trying my best to be able to detach alil bit. it seems to get better as the days go by and has definitely been a challenging lesson. i haven't seen my aqua in two weeks and haven't talked in a week. it's not like i didn't know about this going into this relationship, i did, we talked about it. and him being an aqua, well... i thought at first, no big deal i can handle this... haha! but like i said, i'm doing much better now. what's even crazier is i've never felt this much/deep for anyone.
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So your in a relationship with him and u havent seen him in two weeks? or spoken to him in a week?? HELL NO!!! I dont know how your handling it id be like WTF!?!?!?!. What is it he said when you talked about it?
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my cap has her stupid venus in bloody aquarius and she is starting to act like one!!!
yea, i'm learning that this is what aqua's do... it's needed. the whole alone time thing. he just warned me that sometimes he'll get caught up with things or other friends that he's been neglecting... (we have been constant for 3 months straight) reassured me that it won't be becuz of me or anything i've done wrong, NOR will i be forgotten. well, he and i were talking about having alone time... cuz being a gem... i need at least 2 or 3 hours of alone time a day. sometimes more. i didn't realize his alone time was longer... lol!
Posted by nats
my cap has her stupid venus in bloody aquarius and she is starting to act like one!!!
yea, makes sense... they say venus is how we love. so she will love like an aqua.
They say aquas go well with us geminis but they can seriously be SO fkn detached soemtimes its hard to understand
i was reading about that too... it's cuz as just a gem... we can be detached too. but, having cancer placements, imo, kinda effects that... :/
Yes the cancer planets fk us up otherwise we'd be detached and wouldnt care.
STUPID CANCER PLACEMENTS!!! You are filled with them too! I have mars and venus in cancer. and trust me it SUCKS.
Posted by nats
I think venus in cancer is TOO loving. i FKN HATE having this placement and being a gemini sun. Its too intense and confusing!!!!
TOO loving— You cannot be serious.
Would all the people who have been loved TOO much please raise their hands. Hmm yes, thought so...
Flick the Aqua chick (no good can come of this) and get you some Aries action.
Posted by nats
I think venus in cancer is TOO loving. i FKN HATE having this placement and being a gemini sun. Its too intense and confusing!!!!
yeah...me too.... it's major suckage!
@Nats I was too involved with a gemini with a moon in cancer & venus. Sometimes he was clingy & sometimes he was detached though (a little obsessive too when I didn't respond to him right away, lol). IDK maybe it was me as well because I'm a virgo & sometimes I can be really aloof. Don't mean to be, just apart of my nature. I believe she really likes spending time with you but she's a free spirit. She'll come around...😉
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Posted by nats
I think venus in cancer is TOO loving. i FKN HATE having this placement and being a gemini sun. Its too intense and confusing!!!!TOO loving— You cannot be serious.
Would all the people who have been loved TOO much please raise their hands. Hmm yes, thought so...Flick the Aqua chick (no good can come of this) and get you some Aries action.
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YES way too loving and emotional!!
Lol she has an aries moon. I've already had an aries male before... 2 of them. Too clingy and posssive but we did have some really good times. Definately better as friends than in a relationship. Both were gentleman though!
Posted by RealTalk
@Nats I was too involved with a gemini with a moon in cancer & venus. Sometimes he was clingy & sometimes he was detached though (a little obsessive too when I didn't respond to him right away, lol). IDK maybe it was me as well because I'm a virgo & sometimes I can be really aloof. Don't mean to be, just apart of my nature. I believe she really likes spending time with you but she's a free spirit. She'll come around...😉
She is a free spirit 150% . Moon in aries, venus in aqua and mars in sag.
Doesnt go well with my libra moon, venus and mars in cancer. But I feel as though this relationship will be a test for me.. and I will learn from it. A test to detach myself and learn not to be so clingy/needy sometimes when in a relationship. Its hard though!
Posted by RealTalk
@Nats I was too involved with a gemini with a moon in cancer & venus. Sometimes he was clingy & sometimes he was detached though (a little obsessive too when I didn't respond to him right away, lol). IDK maybe it was me as well because I'm a virgo & sometimes I can be really aloof. Don't mean to be, just apart of my nature. I believe she really likes spending time with you but she's a free spirit. She'll come around...😉She is a free spirit 150% . Moon in aries, venus in aqua and mars in sag.
Doesnt go well with my libra moon, venus and mars in cancer. But I feel as though this relationship will be a test for me.. and I will learn from it. A test to detach myself and learn not to be so clingy/needy sometimes when in a relationship. Its hard though!
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True dat'. It's like a horse, the more you try to cling to them & hold them back, the more they want to break free. You have to learn how to be independent in love & have a full life of your own (not saying you don't). But when you're enjoying activities within your life, working, family, friends, you won't even realize the other person is not there as much. Missing someone is great because when you two see each other, that's all she wrote ya digg!!! 😉
my venus is in aries, and i still can relate to what you are going through. i think the fact we are gems is why we dislike having the "feelings" does that make sense?
^^ agreed. 🙂
Posted by taurusgeminicusp
my venus is in aries, and i still can relate to what you are going through. i think the fact we are gems is why we dislike having the "feelings" does that make sense?
probably
ahh but did it not captivate your attention— 🙂
i can consciously say that i don't want games, or the chase, or the mystery, and even if i complain about it..but at the end...it works with my nature!
Posted by candi3bb
ahh but did it not captivate your attention— 🙂
for me... indeed it did. 🙂
Putting her friends before you is pretty typical venus in aqua they value that more sometimes
Posted by nats
my cap has her stupid venus in bloody aquarius and she is starting to act like one!!!yea, makes sense... they say venus is how we love. so she will love like an aqua.
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Wait, what? Aquas can love? Who knew?
My Venus is in Taurus, what the hell does that make me? :\
Have to wander over to the Bull boards for that one. But, I think that's why I attract a lot of Water signs. :\
Posted by GeminiMind
Have to wander over to the Bull boards for that one. But, I think that's why I attract a lot of Water signs. :\
I have Venus in Taurus. It means you are more loyal, sensuous and hedonistic with the senses. Food, drink, music, pillows. Good at cuddling and very huggable. A natural grace that is attractive to those of the opposite sex. Swag with a natural ease. Relaxed and passionate. A great eye at creative pursuits and stylish dress. You value quality over quantity. 😉
Posted by GeminiMind
Have to wander over to the Bull boards for that one. But, I think that's why I attract a lot of Water signs. :\I have Venus in Taurus. It means you are more loyal, sensuous and hedonistic with the senses. Food, drink, music, pillows. Good at cuddling and very huggable. A natural grace that is attractive to those of the opposite sex. Swag with a natural ease. Relaxed and passionate. A great eye at creative pursuits and stylish dress. You value quality over quantity. 😉
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KLEO!!! I've missed ya baby!
That description of Venus in Taurus sums me up to a Tee. Like I've always said, why make love with a hundred different women when you can make love to one woman a hundred different ways?
Yeah, I've got this thing for lots of pillows on my bed. What's that all about? :\
Like I've always said, why make love with a hundred different women when you can make love to one woman a hundred different ways?
Ahhh, now that is music to my ears. 🙂
Yeah, I've got this thing for lots of pillows on my bed. What's that all about? :\
click to expandThat's your venus in taurus talkin'!
Much love to ya. Mwah!
Posted by nats
my cap has her stupid venus in bloody aquarius and she is starting to act like one!!!yea, makes sense... they say venus is how we love. so she will love like an aqua.
Wait, what? Aquas can love? Who knew?
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haha! sure they can... it's just shown in different ways. 🙂
And what would those ways be??
with my agua, btw his venus is in aqua too, it's the little things that count.
like, if i'm making dinner or doing the dishes... he will always make a point to come in the kitchen to hug me and show me appreciation for what i do. if i need help with anything... he's normally there with a helping hand. if i need to talk things out due to stress, he's normally there to lend his ear and advice for as long as i need it. and these are just a few examples...
from what i see, he loves deep, but is detached from it, and shows it with the little things. 🙂
Set up a date, dinner at your place or something. And tell her how u feel. Cap women= secretly want someone who wants them close by all the time, who cant stop thinking about them, and who are crazy about them. Don't be afraid to take the leap. Just dont come on too strong. Tell her how u feel. I don't understand why you're trying so hard to control your feelings, when they are there for a reason. If you don't tell her how u feel, someone else will.
But. wait. If you've been dating for less than a month, you'll freak her out. Cap likes things slow. and u developing feelings for her so fast will get her thinking you're emotionally needy. Take it slow...relax...u sound like you're in a rush Gem!!! Make a deal with her. tell her you enjoy spending time with her, and that u cant wait to see her again. Then take her out...for drinks. just you and her. unwind, talk and get comfortable...she seems like she's holding back becasue she isn't that comfortable with u yet. Think quality,not quantity. Make her laugh, be yourself...then see how you feel after a couple more weeks.
Posted by GeminiMind
Yeah, I've got this thing for lots of pillows on my bed. What's that all about? :\
LOL. It's usually the ladies who inundate the bed with pillows. I'm down to 9 right now.
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How do you fellow geminis detach yourselves once you have caught feelings? DEEP feelings?. I HATE HATE HATE HATE feelings and emotions specially when its ME thats feeling them.
To cut a long story short.. ive been in a relationship for 3weeks. This past week or so my feelings have been way more intense and deep and all I can think of is this fool who is making me feel like this. Its another female, cap sun, aqua venus and im a cancer venus and I can already see the issues. She is detached, likes her space etc and so far i've been fine with that, she goes out and about drinking etc with her mates.. is ALWAYS with her mates and I dont have a problem with it but I havent really seen her properly all weekend (since thursday) and from thursday until today we havent really spoken (we both lost our fones and are using the house fone to contact each other) and so ive just kind of been down in the dumps because i WANT to see her and speak to her etc have her near me but I dont want to seem clingy/needy etc. Well i saw her yesturday and not for long and I couldnt help how I was feeling and I kind of started a fight because I wanted to see her for longer but she had already made plans with her friends to hang out that night (she was with them ALL wknd) and so I lost it and guess my evil twin came out because I started saying mean things, raising my voice and just acting out. So we argued but eventually she agreed to see me later on again but now I felt as though she was only doing it to please me, make me happy but felt like she was being forced into it and I didnt want that so when she rang me an hour later so I could pick her up from hers again.. I told her not to worry about it and to hang out with her friends.. that I had though about how I was acting out and I was being stupid. and then we had another little argument because she was like "your crazy.. u say one thing, change ur mind, etc etc u fuck with my head so much etc etc".
Thing is when im not around her I can control how I feel and i think logically. when im near her I cant control how I feel and I act based on my FEELINGS at the time etc and I dont THINK. This isnt good because when I act on how im feeling I tend to act out and I can be very intense/passionate etc but its hard to control my feelings around her!
Ahhh this is so frustrating!! Guess im just ranting on... Geminis.. how do you control your feelings?? Specially when its around someone you really like?