Is my Gemini man really done with me? HELP!!!!!

I've been "dating" this Gemini man for about a year now. I am a Cancer female so I know we have extreme differences. But I appreciate our similarities while respecting those differences. We have never been exclusive. He's hooking up with other girls. I know this. But he's been lying to another girl and she has the delusion that they are exclusive. Somehow, word got to her that he and I are still together. He sent me a text message saying "I don't think I know of anyone with a bigger mouth than you. I told you to shut the f**k up and not tell the whole world a bunch of bulls**t about you and me. Now I'm going to ask you not to bother me anymore." And we haven't spoken since. I fell in love with him and it's really unfortunate. I haven't tried talking to him. I'm just giving him his space right now. But I just want to know if he really is done with me or if he was speaking out of anger. Any thoughts and any advice would be much appreciated!!!

What the fuck is it with Cancer females?

There's one on the Pisces board, asking how to game a Fish. And it's not the question, really ... it's that she thinks it's perfectly normal to play games and sees nothing wrong with it.

And here you are, having no clue that you're suppose to have some integrity.

I have a Cancer moon, and thank the stars I don't identify with it ...

Posted by KellBells
I've been "dating" this Gemini man for about a year now. I am a Cancer female so I know we have extreme differences. But I appreciate our similarities while respecting those differences. We have never been exclusive. He's hooking up with other girls. I know this. But he's been lying to another girl and she has the delusion that they are exclusive. Somehow, word got to her that he and I are still together. He sent me a text message saying "I don't think I know of anyone with a bigger mouth than you. I told you to shut the f**k up and not tell the whole world a bunch of bulls**t about you and me. Now I'm going to ask you not to bother me anymore." And we haven't spoken since. I fell in love with him and it's really unfortunate. I haven't tried talking to him. I'm just giving him his space right now. But I just want to know if he really is done with me or if he was speaking out of anger. Any thoughts and any advice would be much appreciated!!!

Please, LOVE yourself to see how he wasn't what you wanted. That isn't love, he just dumped you like trash. Your post really upsets me that you don't see how he treated you like you aren't worthy of more respect. Your answer is he was never invested, he was hooking up with you, he is done.

I am so sorry!! 😭 I hope you reread this post a few months from now and see how he treated you. No one is perfect, I have tolerated a lot of treated that I shouldn't for too long. This though... this makes me sad for you.

He will come back around to sleep with you when he is done with the other girl. Do you feel he is that much of a prize to really want someone like that?

*treatment not treated.

Ok people, I get it. But really? Like none of you have ever let someone treat you awfully before in the past? Throw the first stone...

Waterygem, I appreciate your post. I do love myself. I know he's disrespectful. I just want to know how to cope with him being gone. Not all moments we shared were rotten. He was actually really sweet and a perfect gentleman when we were alone together. Just when we are in a crowd he's a complete jerk. I don't like it. But I also trusted him. That's my fault. I knew what he was about from day 1 and all he did was lie, lie, lie.

I mean, he's told me in the past that I'm the only one he wants and he just wants to be with me blah blah blah. I'm not stupid, though. Well, the only reason I fall into the stupid category is because I fell in love with him.

I have to work with him and her. I just want advice to get through this pain. What would you do in my situation at work? I keep things very professional. But do I continue to ignore them?

Your initial question was, if he's really done with you...do you really want to stay involved or in contact with someone who treats you so awful— People only treat you the way you allow them to. If you continue to talk to him you're basically telling him that it's ok for him talk to and treat you like trash. That text message alone would have been enough to erase him from my memory. Keep it professional, otherwise ignore him.

And as someone who has dated someone I have worked with in the past, never mix business with pleasure.

In time, it will get better.

Let it be done, whether or not he has a change of heart.

Yes, I have fallen in love with men who disrespected me and who I allowed to treat me like crap. It happens. But, I fell in love again, and you will, too. Next time, just make sure it's with someone who has given you his heart and a real commitment.

I would treat the two of them as if nothing has happened. I would hold my head up, and confidently project that I know that I am meant for better in life and that he's the one who lost out.

@Kellbells

I am sorry you are hurting but I have never had a man speak to me so disrespectfully. Even if they were mad at me or cared about me on any level, they have never said anything that harsh. I know you don't want to hear this but this guy doesn't deserve you or any woman.

Posted by Geminihope
@Kellbells

I am sorry you are hurting but I have never had a man speak to me so disrespectfully. Even if they were mad at me or cared about me on any level, they have never said anything that harsh. I know you don't want to hear this but this guy doesn't deserve you or any woman.

So, are you the one who let it slip that you and he were still together? If so, you are reaping the wrath for what he considers a misdeed. If not, I would be pissed.

A lot of geminis (not all) make assumptions they believe to be the truth. My ex would make accusations of something I didn't and it would pisses me off. Then when he wouldn't hear or listen to my version or explanation I would even get more pissed off.

Once he moves on to some other type of drama, he will forget about this and be caught up in that.

Girl, consider this a blessing!!! Find a guy who treats you with respect and one you can have a real relationship with.

seriously you need to dead him lol not trying to be insensitive to your situation but I feel like you're kinda not aware of reality lmaooo i'm a Cancer too and I would never let anyone talk to me like that or give anyone a reason to