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What do I do with this gem?
geminis tend to mirror,are u sure u didnt do something to offend or push him,for him to go to her?
as a taurus moon he craves for stability and avoids high maintenance women,but his venus look for fun,attention and passion
but the question is since he runs hot and cold what do u expect from him?
Posted by lilyofthevalley987
geminis tend to mirror,are u sure u didnt do something to offend or push him,for him to go to her?as a taurus moon he craves for stability and avoids high maintenance women,but his venus look for fun,attention and passion
but the question is since he runs hot and cold what do u expect from him?
Hmm, well as a Virgo, I've been very stable. I've also been pretty flirtatious but I'm not needy at all and he sees that. My moon sign shows him that not much bothers me and I'm very relaxed. Maybe I don't give enough attention?
When we started talking again, I wouldn't let him come over for a while but I told him why.
What I expect, which is what I told him, is that he's open and honest no matter what. Which he still won't be!!
Posted by sleepwalker
Where is his Mercury
Just checked. Mercury in Gemini
I know Gem Sun/Merc with Taurus Moon also but Taurus Venus. Not sure if it's Mercury retrograde, but he is pretty distant too, especially since eclipse :/
What's your advice in this case?
Posted by Mutabull
? He sounds like me.... Gemini sun, Taurus moon... my Venus in Gemini... I have acted exactly that same way... broken up and got back together with my libra 10 times in the last 14 months. Dated others in between for a brief stint...went back to my lil black book or online dating sometimes in between.IMO, if he is like me, unless and until he is really done with her, you will continue to be his go to rebound when he is pissed at her or *thinks* he is done..but the minute they rekindle you will get ghosted or the short end of the communication stick.. be given just enough that you are still an available option. Sorry, harsh but true. ? Especially if you aren't giving much attention and the ex seems like a better option. Taurus moon likes to stick to what they know and what's comfortable.
PS... I have a hard time with sag moons... they are (ironically) too distracted and don't give enough attention or affection (one reason I gave up on a scorp/sag I liked and went back to my libra). ?♀️
What's your advice in this case?
Posted by Koniuchaa
Stop answering
Tell him off? I enjoy telling people off these days ?
Posted by Koniuchaa
Stop answeringTell him off? I enjoy telling people off these days ?
No, I wouldn't do that. Just move on
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Umm not sure what her placements are but I know she's also a Gemini
Posted by Mutabull
? He sounds like me.... Gemini sun, Taurus moon... my Venus in Gemini... I have acted exactly that same way... broken up and got back together with my libra 10 times in the last 14 months. Dated others in between for a brief stint...went back to my lil black book or online dating sometimes in between.IMO, if he is like me, unless and until he is really done with her, you will continue to be his go to rebound when he is pissed at her or *thinks* he is done..but the minute they rekindle you will get ghosted or the short end of the communication stick.. be given just enough that you are still an available option. Sorry, harsh but true. ? Especially if you aren't giving much attention and the ex seems like a better option. Taurus moon likes to stick to what they know and what's comfortable.
PS... I have a hard time with sag moons... they are (ironically) too distracted and don't give enough attention or affection (one reason I gave up on a scorp/sag I liked and went back to my libra). ?♀️
What's your advice in this case?
I don't know him personally, so take it as an opinion only.. if he can't be honest with you then I would assume it's because he's not done with her. I tended to avoid taking directly about my libra when I dated others because I'm a horrible liar and it would have been easy to see I wasn't over him. If you can emotionally stay at arms length until he is for sure done with her, that's what I would do. Otherwise, just be well aware of what you are doing, which is taking the short end of the stick and know that there is a good chance they are still very much in discussions consistently..
What are her placements?
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Hmm to be honest, I feel like I'm kind of emotionally attached and it's a little hurtful when he ghosts like this. So I want to detach myself and forget it. But then, it also seems like he would like nothing more than to move forward with me but keeps getting pulled back into the situation (from what I've heard). Given this, I feel like I should probably remove myself and ignore any of his attempts to come back. Thoughts?
What should you do ?
Read this again ~
*Then I found out again that he was hanging around the ex again*
So you want to be with a man that is torn between two women and can't make his mind up?
Really? Is that what you want?
If he wanted you, he wouldn't behave this way, he would make his feelings clear
Move on
Posted by MyStarsShine
What should you do ?Read this again ~
*Then I found out again that he was hanging around the ex again*
So you want to be with a man that is torn between two women and can't make his mind up?
Really? Is that what you want?
If he wanted you, he wouldn't behave this way, he would make his feelings clear
Move on
I used to think like that. But it's never that black and white.
Remember, we're not exclusive and we're just getting to know each other. So what can I demand really over someone he's known for over 2 years really?
You are right about one thing though. I definitely deserve way more respect and consideration than he's tossing at me. And I'm about to let him know that ??.
Posted by MyStarsShine
What should you do ?Read this again ~
*Then I found out again that he was hanging around the ex again*
So you want to be with a man that is torn between two women and can't make his mind up?
Really? Is that what you want?
If he wanted you, he wouldn't behave this way, he would make his feelings clear
Move on
I used to think like that. But it's never that black and white.
Remember, we're not exclusive and we're just getting to know each other. So what can I demand really over someone he's known for over 2 years really?
You are right about one thing though. I definitely deserve way more respect and consideration than he's tossing at me. And I'm about to let him know that ??.
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If you were/are sleeping with him it's very black and white, you tell him if he wants to be with other women, he is not with you
That is how you gain respect. If you are not sleeping with him, then fair enough
It's up to you to put the boundary line in
Posted by MyStarsShine
What should you do ?Read this again ~
*Then I found out again that he was hanging around the ex again*
So you want to be with a man that is torn between two women and can't make his mind up?
Really? Is that what you want?
If he wanted you, he wouldn't behave this way, he would make his feelings clear
Move on
I used to think like that. But it's never that black and white.
Remember, we're not exclusive and we're just getting to know each other. So what can I demand really over someone he's known for over 2 years really?
You are right about one thing though. I definitely deserve way more respect and consideration than he's tossing at me. And I'm about to let him know that ??.
If you were/are sleeping with him it's very black and white, you tell him if he wants to be with other women, he is not with you
That is how you gain respect. If you are not sleeping with him, then fair enough
It's up to you to put the boundary line in
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I like you ??
Posted by MyStarsShine
What should you do ?Read this again ~
*Then I found out again that he was hanging around the ex again*
So you want to be with a man that is torn between two women and can't make his mind up?
Really? Is that what you want?
If he wanted you, he wouldn't behave this way, he would make his feelings clear
Move on
I used to think like that. But it's never that black and white.
Remember, we're not exclusive and we're just getting to know each other. So what can I demand really over someone he's known for over 2 years really?
You are right about one thing though. I definitely deserve way more respect and consideration than he's tossing at me. And I'm about to let him know that ??.
If you were/are sleeping with him it's very black and white, you tell him if he wants to be with other women, he is not with you
That is how you gain respect. If you are not sleeping with him, then fair enough
It's up to you to put the boundary line in
I like you ??
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I like to help...it's the only reason i come here and also to learn and share what i can
I will let you into a secret.....every man i was in a relationship with i set the boundary right from the start....i would tell them i don't share, if you want to play around, go do it, but not whilst you are with me.
It always worked
I never got cheated on
x
I don't know about Moon sign, Venus and Mars, but just ended things with a Gem.
Too many broken promises,
consistent inconsistency - you can't keep forgiving this forever,
Very good talkers,
Bad liars,
Okay actors - amusing, not convincing,
Will just not admit that they're wrong even when you shove evidence on their face - that's pathetic and annoying self-defense;
Will very easily apologize - don't think they're sweet, they just don't mean the "sorry" they say,
Enjoy confusing you - gives them some sense of control or power;
Will make you feel like you're the centre of their world in the wooing phase,
Once they're convinced that you've started falling for them, they'll begin wandering;
If they get the fear that you may leave - they'll be right there - begging and pleading,
Don't be fooled with any amount of apologies and self defense and silver tongue strategies - they are supposed to be mutable (easily changeable) but their mutability is Fixed (their ever changing nature will never change)
Will enjoy putting you down and say "I was just kidding" - do the same to them; now you can see them fume!
Trying to please one and all - family and friends - and end up disappointing just everyone they know,
No matter whether he's 26 or 36 or in his 40's or even more, don't expect him to take up responsibilities like an adult should,
Highly selfish - this side of them will come out only when they're tired of their own acting;
Will always turn the tables and convince themselves that you're at fault, not them - for how long can you put up with this?
Like in all other areas, even when it comes to self love, they'd keep swinging between thinking that they're the best and thinking that they're the worst;
Have strong emotions, but they think that acting cold is always better than being open with emotions;
Dreamers - can dream like most people can't - ask them how many of their dreams have they even worked towards making true,
The annoying hot & cold cycles and good twin - evil twin cycles will just not stop,
The worst part is - they'll do Nothing to correct themselves.
But really good as friends or for commitment-free, short-term relationships - have a good sense of humour, will help you and support you (if it makes them feel like heroes, but somehow you get the help and that's nice of them), will mimic you really well because they mimic all, can cheer you up and encourage you. Not a great match if you want a loyal, caring, deeply loving partner for a serious relationship.
Posted by InLoveWithLife
I don't know about Moon sign, Venus and Mars, but just ended things with a Gem.Too many broken promises,
consistent inconsistency - you can't keep forgiving this forever,
Very good talkers,
Bad liars,
Okay actors - amusing, not convincing,
Will just not admit that they're wrong even when you shove evidence on their face - that's pathetic and annoying self-defense;
Will very easily apologize - don't think they're sweet, they just don't mean the "sorry" they say,
Enjoy confusing you - gives them some sense of control or power;
Will make you feel like you're the centre of their world in the wooing phase,
Once they're convinced that you've started falling for them, they'll begin wandering;
If they get the fear that you may leave - they'll be right there - begging and pleading,
Don't be fooled with any amount of apologies and self defense and silver tongue strategies - they are supposed to be mutable (easily changeable) but their mutability is Fixed (their ever changing nature will never change)
Will enjoy putting you down and say "I was just kidding" - do the same to them; now you can see them fume!
Trying to please one and all - family and friends - and end up disappointing just everyone they know,
No matter whether he's 26 or 36 or in his 40's or even more, don't expect him to take up responsibilities like an adult should,
Highly selfish - this side of them will come out only when they're tired of their own acting;
Will always turn the tables and convince themselves that you're at fault, not them - for how long can you put up with this?
Like in all other areas, even when it comes to self love, they'd keep swinging between thinking that they're the best and thinking that they're the worst;
Have strong emotions, but they think that acting cold is always better than being open with emotions;
Dreamers - can dream like most people can't - ask them how many of their dreams have they even worked towards making true,
The annoying hot & cold cycles and good twin - evil twin cycles will just not stop,
The worst part is - they'll do Nothing to correct themselves.
But really good as friends or for commitment-free, short-term relationships - have a good sense of humour, will help you and support you (if it makes them feel like heroes, but somehow you get the help and that's nice of them), will mimic you really well because they mimic all, can cheer you up and encourage you. Not a great match if you want a loyal, caring, deeply loving partner for a serious relationship.
Depends on the Gemini... placements effect them greatly. Look for a lot of water. They are either players or very loyal to "the one" and most times it will depend where they are in life. Do they have their act together? Good stable job? Place of their own? Are they just hooking up with others? Did they deal with all their demons/ know who they are? Those are the answers you need to look for and know where they are at in life.
Posted by InLoveWithLife
I don't know about Moon sign, Venus and Mars, but just ended things with a Gem.Too many broken promises,
consistent inconsistency - you can't keep forgiving this forever,
Very good talkers,
Bad liars,
Okay actors - amusing, not convincing,
Will just not admit that they're wrong even when you shove evidence on their face - that's pathetic and annoying self-defense;
Will very easily apologize - don't think they're sweet, they just don't mean the "sorry" they say,
Enjoy confusing you - gives them some sense of control or power;
Will make you feel like you're the centre of their world in the wooing phase,
Once they're convinced that you've started falling for them, they'll begin wandering;
If they get the fear that you may leave - they'll be right there - begging and pleading,
Don't be fooled with any amount of apologies and self defense and silver tongue strategies - they are supposed to be mutable (easily changeable) but their mutability is Fixed (their ever changing nature will never change)
Will enjoy putting you down and say "I was just kidding" - do the same to them; now you can see them fume!
Trying to please one and all - family and friends - and end up disappointing just everyone they know,
No matter whether he's 26 or 36 or in his 40's or even more, don't expect him to take up responsibilities like an adult should,
Highly selfish - this side of them will come out only when they're tired of their own acting;
Will always turn the tables and convince themselves that you're at fault, not them - for how long can you put up with this?
Like in all other areas, even when it comes to self love, they'd keep swinging between thinking that they're the best and thinking that they're the worst;
Have strong emotions, but they think that acting cold is always better than being open with emotions;
Dreamers - can dream like most people can't - ask them how many of their dreams have they even worked towards making true,
The annoying hot & cold cycles and good twin - evil twin cycles will just not stop,
The worst part is - they'll do Nothing to correct themselves.
But really good as friends or for commitment-free, short-term relationships - have a good sense of humour, will help you and support you (if it makes them feel like heroes, but somehow you get the help and that's nice of them), will mimic you really well because they mimic all, can cheer you up and encourage you. Not a great match if you want a loyal, caring, deeply loving partner for a serious relationship.
Depends on the Gemini... placements effect them greatly. Look for a lot of water. They are either players or very loyal to "the one" and most times it will depend where they are in life. Do they have their act together? Good stable job? Place of their own? Are they just hooking up with others? Did they deal with all their demons/ know who they are? Those are the answers you need to look for and know where they are at in life.
It's not just about the placements. Fiery and earthy Geminis can be loyal as well. I have seen a couple of watery Gems, who cheated on their partners.
It is all about maturity.
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Yes, it depends what stage of life the Gem is in.
Movie on or you are rewarding another f boy for being just that. You are teaching him it is ok and exceptable to do what he is doing to woman. All he has to do is lie to you and you will eat it up... love is not a game and you are wasting your time on what is obviously a player.
Piscemoon
Oh it is Mercury retro time when x's come
Back this is just showing you your future with him and the warning of how he truly is...
Piscesmoon
Posted by InLoveWithLife
I don't know about Moon sign, Venus and Mars, but just ended things with a Gem.Too many broken promises,
consistent inconsistency - you can't keep forgiving this forever,
Very good talkers,
Bad liars,
Okay actors - amusing, not convincing,
Will just not admit that they're wrong even when you shove evidence on their face - that's pathetic and annoying self-defense;
Will very easily apologize - don't think they're sweet, they just don't mean the "sorry" they say,
Enjoy confusing you - gives them some sense of control or power;
Will make you feel like you're the centre of their world in the wooing phase,
Once they're convinced that you've started falling for them, they'll begin wandering;
If they get the fear that you may leave - they'll be right there - begging and pleading,
Don't be fooled with any amount of apologies and self defense and silver tongue strategies - they are supposed to be mutable (easily changeable) but their mutability is Fixed (their ever changing nature will never change)
Will enjoy putting you down and say "I was just kidding" - do the same to them; now you can see them fume!
Trying to please one and all - family and friends - and end up disappointing just everyone they know,
No matter whether he's 26 or 36 or in his 40's or even more, don't expect him to take up responsibilities like an adult should,
Highly selfish - this side of them will come out only when they're tired of their own acting;
Will always turn the tables and convince themselves that you're at fault, not them - for how long can you put up with this?
Like in all other areas, even when it comes to self love, they'd keep swinging between thinking that they're the best and thinking that they're the worst;
Have strong emotions, but they think that acting cold is always better than being open with emotions;
Dreamers - can dream like most people can't - ask them how many of their dreams have they even worked towards making true,
The annoying hot & cold cycles and good twin - evil twin cycles will just not stop,
The worst part is - they'll do Nothing to correct themselves.
But really good as friends or for commitment-free, short-term relationships - have a good sense of humour, will help you and support you (if it makes them feel like heroes, but somehow you get the help and that's nice of them), will mimic you really well because they mimic all, can cheer you up and encourage you. Not a great match if you want a loyal, caring, deeply loving partner for a serious relationship.
Depends on the Gemini... placements effect them greatly. Look for a lot of water. They are either players or very loyal to "the one" and most times it will depend where they are in life. Do they have their act together? Good stable job? Place of their own? Are they just hooking up with others? Did they deal with all their demons/ know who they are? Those are the answers you need to look for and know where they are at in life.
It's not just about the placements. Fiery and earthy Geminis can be loyal as well. I have seen a couple of watery Gems, who cheated on their partners.
It is all about maturity.
Yes, it depends what stage of life the Gem is in.
Right. That's what I'm saying. It doesn't have to be the watery Gems.
All Geminis, are capable of loving another human being and staying loyal. 😉
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Yes, but watery Venus and/ or moon is your best shot for a Gem being more sensitive ?
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Soo started seeing this Gemini who's been trying to talk to me for years but I gave him my fuck off vibe til I actually decided to give him a chance. I'm a Virgo, moon sign saggitarius and Venus in Leo and Chinese sign metal goat. He's a Gemini, moon sign taurus and Venus in Leo also a metal goat.
Anyways, long story short, everything was going great, until he ghosted. He seemed really sincere but his actions showed differently. Me, having a Venus in Leo, put my crown on and told him to fuck off. I later found out, he had gotten back with an ex. Obviously being a gem, he showed up a month later, when it was done. Again ?. He tried to overexplain and give excuses but I confronted him with what I knew. He apologized and told me his behaviour wasn't right. I told him I understood the situation and just wished he had been more considerate and honest.
Now, he started acting sketchy again :/. Then I found out again that he was hanging around the ex again. He again started giving me excuses about how he's busy and I replied "Lol". This was last night.
What do I do? I'm thinking of a few options
1) confront him again and let him know we should stop seeing each other so he can figure out his shit
2) stop answering
Advice gems? Especially those with a moon in Taurus