What to do with this Gem ?

Gemini and I have been getting to know each other over the past couple of weeks, every time we hangout we seem to get closer to each other. He is a great person but he doesn't have his priorities straight, I am a sag and even though I do like me freedom I do like attention.

He gets to caught up into smoking and hanging out with his friends that he puts me last sometimes,he calls more than texts now but its only to set up when to hangout, and then when we made plans to hangout things got messed up and he called me and we stayed on the phone till about 2":30 so I know he tries sometimes.

When he introduces me to his guys he says I'm his girl but he doesn't treat me like his girl like I would want him to. He hasn't had a relationship in long time so I'm trying to follow his lead and take it slow since its only been a couple of weeks but I hope things get better.

I asked him how serious he was about me and he said serious enough to bring you to my house so idk what do you think I should do? Hes those type of dudes that doesn't like to show affection verbally, but he does it physically by rubbing my arms softly or putting his head on my shoulder...

He seems pretty sound to me. Geminis like their freedom as well & limiting that is a no-no. It's only been a couple of weeks & he's already introduced you to his friends & called you his girl. Him hanging out with his friends is not a big deal at all. You should be glad that he has a life & is not up yours all the time. Fun loving sag like yourself? Come on...

Ik, I do respect that he has his freedom and I have mine thats why I dont complain or anything to HIM lol, but I guess I dont like how he wont even contact me the whole day. I dont mind it if it little convo back and forth we dont have to hold a conversation ever single sec of the day but just not even talking at all seems weird to me, shouldn't he want to do that if he likes me?

Hey, I've had a Gem in my life on and off from when I was 14 and he's still around.

From my experience if he doesn't holla at you in the day, he's probably too busy and stressed at work to think of anything else. So you've met his friends and hung out at his house, sounds like he's really into you! Gems can be weird sometimes, it's like they want you to read in between the lines but will never be totally direct in what they actually want to say. We're not mind readers!

Anyway have fun with him. What is his moon in btw? 🙂

Thanks for the advice and idk what his moon is and everything but his birthday is June 11, and do Gems like strong opinionated women ? He says he likes arguing and I think I won and arguemnt between him and I, I stand up in what I believe in. Also he says that he has me figured out and wont tell me what it is, I asked him if it was good and he said its not bad trying to be secretive, he also says I'm shy but I was a lot shyer than I was before and he noticed that I progressed.

From my experience no, they don't really, but my Gem could just be a one off! lol! Whats the year he was born?

So you're a shy Sag..hmmmm never known any Sagis to be shy....interesting 🙂

WOW Im having the same problem with my gem he says he wants a commitment i have been knowing him for three years and he says one thing then he gets distant on me I have been single for a while now and Im finally ready to be with him but i feel he doesnt knock me off my feet with his sctions i like to be chased persued and caught then but in submission he just doesnt assert hisself enough for me I saw him sunday when i took my kids and neice out to dinner he was on a date we havent been speaking for two months I told him I was done with him well at the restaurant he broke his neck to speak to me he was on a date he came to my table played with my neice spoke to the kids and rubbed my arm and back when he was leaving the restaurant his date was pissed that night i dropped my kids off and came home two hours after he left the restaurant he appeared on my block as soon as i stepped out my car there he was to help me and the babay in the house he came in and we talked he ended up telling me how he felt about me and said he wants to be with me we need to work on us he Swears he just So happened to be riding down my block on his way to his mothers he spent the night and Im confused as to whatto do when we talked and i over question him he gets frustrated but I have a problem trusting due to me coming from a abusive relationship I really dont understand men that well but i know i like him and im ready to commit I have liked hom for three years now but i can finally deal due ti the fact that im no longer entangled with my ex.

He was born in 1993, still no response from him today ughhh, but hes the type of man that wants the wife to stay at home and clean and he takes care of the bills maybe he just wants me to follow his lead but I never have been the one to be controlled all the way. Like he offered to give me his jacket when it was cold but I denied it and he offered to carry me so I didn't have to walk very far but I denied it. Maybe I'm to strong willed for him ? =/

DannyTheScorp, it seems like he wants to date me but things are just progressing really slow and I don't know if he knows how to be in a relationship anymore since he told me about his past girl he dated, I'm just hanging in there to see what his next move is.

Are we all mad. I mean if you read all the posts on here from all of us confused women with these gems—? Plus obviously it dosnt change with age and maturity cos we have a wide age range here from 23 to 45, and they are all doing our heads in. Damn those gems and their charm. Lol

Danny, you know he would have wanted you soooo bad when you were unattainable but now he can have you his little brain will be reeling in overtime. OMG hes going to have to put all that fantasy into reality.
Badsag, from what im learning and i have to admit im very new at this gem thing. They do like a women that can look after herself, intelligent, funny. The less interest you give the better the response you will get, thats if you wanna play that game. Ignore him abit go off do things with your friends, Be happy but casual, you will have him licking your feet. Actually this works with most guys.:-)

I texted him saying "heyy" lastnight but whenever he does respond back I'm going to ignore him, let the games begin I guess.

Posted by BadSag12
Ik, I do respect that he has his freedom and I have mine thats why I dont complain or anything to HIM lol, but I guess I dont like how he wont even contact me the whole day. I dont mind it if it little convo back and forth we dont have to hold a conversation ever single sec of the day but just not even talking at all seems weird to me, shouldn't he want to do that if he likes me?

One day is nothing. He can like you & not contact you for even longer. I do that. I can LOVE someone & can go without speaking to them for a while. It's not that I don't care. I enjoy space & can't communicate too much or I'll become bored. It just has to be balanced. Stop freaking out. Let him have his fun. He's young & so are you. Just have fun.

*sigh* ok I'll see how things go I'm just not use to it.

i say he is interested and enjoys your company. He only knows how to have fun and be cordial and socially correct...hence the above statements "my girl" "enough to bring you to my house" whether or not he is ready to be real with you will depend on how much he can trust you with his emotions.Which takes time. TIME. Whaat does being someone's "girl" entail to you?

dating a gemini needs to have lots of wits and perception. learning to resolve and discover absolutes in a person with none whatsoever. Dating a gemini would entail knowing how to read between the lines OF THE LINES . understand duality and word play. ALSO main important part..being secure with yourself.

if you yourself dont' think he has the type of boy toy material ...then just leave him.

if you enjoy his time then take it for what it is. just a good time spent when it is ever spent.

if you want him to treat you better...then you better start learning how to condition him and strategize to get what you want. Dont be so blunt and direct...gemini's dont respond well to that....it could be taken as too much pressure or come across as judging them. Really use your intelligence and word play to sort through all his "truths"

to survive you will be tested...the one that lasts is one that can outwit him.

games? necessary. not to hurt or manipulate but to achieve a common goal together where to people can be satisfied.

So weird, I was just reading the new posts and I had a deja vu, feels so strange, it's like I've dreamnt about this or something!!! Can't shake this feeling. *daydreams*

My Gem got in touch with me earlier, saying he was going rock climbing with work (yawn) He hasn't bothered to reply back to my message, Ah well! Just so annoying as I have known him since early teens and nothing has ever progressed as he's has doubts about me. He thinks I'm nuts!!

@BadSag; Where was your Gem born, need it for the chart.

Posted by BadSag12
Like he offered to give me his jacket when it was cold but I denied it and he offered to carry me so I didn't have to walk very far but I denied it. Maybe I'm to strong willed for him ? =/

Awwww that is too sweet!! He sounds like a gent! x

Posted by candi3bb
i say he is interested and enjoys your company. He only knows how to have fun and be cordial and socially correct...hence the above statements "my girl" "enough to bring you to my house" whether or not he is ready to be real with you will depend on how much he can trust you with his emotions.Which takes time. TIME. Whaat does being someone's "girl" entail to you?

dating a gemini needs to have lots of wits and perception. learning to resolve and discover absolutes in a person with none whatsoever. Dating a gemini would entail knowing how to read between the lines OF THE LINES . understand duality and word play. ALSO main important part..being secure with yourself.

if you yourself dont' think he has the type of boy toy material ...then just leave him.

if you enjoy his time then take it for what it is. just a good time spent when it is ever spent.

if you want him to treat you better...then you better start learning how to condition him and strategize to get what you want. Dont be so blunt and direct...gemini's dont respond well to that....it could be taken as too much pressure or come across as judging them. Really use your intelligence and word play to sort through all his "truths"

to survive you will be tested...the one that lasts is one that can outwit him.

games? necessary. not to hurt or manipulate but to achieve a common goal together where to people can be satisfied.

Candi I must say, you're very knowledgeable when it comes to Gems. I am blunt & direct with certain things. I can't beat around the bush, it either is or it isn't. No sugar coating, but what you said explains alot. I NEVER viewed it from that perspective, sheesh.

I'm usually good at reading between the lines, but THE LINES can be confusing as all hell, lol. Does that entail repeating himself about things about us? That's something he does. He usually repeats himself about a particular subject regarding us, on different occasions. IDK if it's just him forgetting we've discussed that before, or if he's saying it over again because he's trying to tell me something else but he is not as forthcoming, but is trying to get me to eventually "get it". That's so effing weird, but interesting.

I think he was born in Memphis, not sure what time though... seems like if you want to be with a Gemini you have to be a physiologist lol, I hope I haven't messed things up already. I try to be myself with him and hope he sees something special in me but I don't want to put pressure on him so that's why I'm staying my distance until he contacts me and I will just act like everything's normal and fine. Gosh he's more complicated than a Libra, Libras never know what they want but he does know what he wants and he's still analyzing the situation.

It's hard to differentiate if what they say is their actual feeling versus simple subjective ideas. In most cases I found that Gemini male,argument is passive aggressive..hints and sarcasm. Never saying the same thing twice because what matters us understanding their intention prior before speaking. If they are upset they use sarcasm to defend themselves..or sharp joking ways to push buttons then to later say it was,a joke making the other party feel stupid which is their intent all along. Or if they want to pursue a girl...they will convince her with flowerly romantic words. Not that its how he actually feels but rather he intends to achieve her so he'll choose certain words with certain degrees to create a simple yet powerful sentence. Girls who only let the Gemini string them with words are doomed.

How annoying your Gemini is...but I'm here to tell you Gemini men act tough and superior and unaffected by anything..really he is over analyzing you...probably analyzed you under false pretenses...e.g. rejection if the jacket meant perhaps let's say...your too blocked or too a,b,c,d..whatever the reason...your Gemini then will readapt so that he doesn't make you feel uncomfortable. When he is distancing himself...you'll think its cause he doesn't like you but really maybe the other possibility is that he feels sad..wondering how he can be more intimate with you without being rejected.I guess what I'm getting at is....play your cards right ans you'll have him stringing along to every strum of your heart. knowing what your gem feels and feeding the solution to him indirectly is key.

Ask yourself what he is questioning about you...maybe he needs one to be more emotionally opened?

I try to be emotionally open, we didn't talk that much for 4 days or so and I didn't see him so when he did call me I was at dinner and I went out of my way to answer his call at my moms birthday dinner, he told me that it was messed up in what I did and told me to call him later. Then he texted me and asked why I said it was ok to call me when I was at a restaurant and I said it was because I missed him then he said I was "forcing it" -______- .... or when he was playing a game and I decided to get on him and put my head on him he said you like being all over people huh? I said yes and then I said your very sensual also and he said yea I guess so, and then when I was leaving I almost forgot to give him a hug and he said yea I was wondering why you were just gonna dip without giving me one.

HAHAh badsag12!!!!! oh my god...lol he would drive me insane to a point i wouldn't even respond ever. i have a gemini friend like that..that i think has a crush on me..hot and cold..when im hot he is cold and when hes hot im cold. O_o.??

how did you guys meet anyways?

Hes liked me ever since last school year, but I never gave him the time of day he wasn't in my agenda back then I guess I played hard to get without even trying, I wasn't interested then. FINALLY I give him a chance and he tries to act like hes a tough cookie but when he does try to be a gentlemen like ask me to wear his jacket when its about 0 degrees and I say no what do you expect? CHEESY CHEESY CHEESY LOL. I know I have qualities he looks for in a girl he pointed them out and I know he knows I'm dating material but what is stopping him? Grrr >=/ ... and I don't think he wants me to talk to any other guys on a dating level so I'm trying to figure out what am I committing too when he acts like our relationship isn't important.

OOOooo how about you go date another guy to rub in his face..(not trying to make him jealous) for yourself...then when the time comes..you can say "i just didnt want to be neither here or there with you. nor did i want to pressure you to become anything. I just dont wanna deal with your bullshit." PERIOD no explaining. just call him on his bullshit. haha i feel men need a girl to put their foot down...men test women to see how much they will bend for them..if your nice to him either way..douche or nice...he'll do anything he wants.

this way you come across 1) confident 2) not desparate or "all over people" like he confuses. 3) it would enforce some absolutes in your situation either he likes you and he'll come clean or he wont and you got your answer.

Posted by candi3bb
It's hard to differentiate if what they say is their actual feeling versus simple subjective ideas. In most cases I found that Gemini male,argument is passive aggressive..hints and sarcasm. Never saying the same thing twice because what matters us understanding their intention prior before speaking. If they are upset they use sarcasm to defend themselves..or sharp joking ways to push buttons then to later say it was,a joke making the other party feel stupid which is their intent all along. Or if they want to pursue a girl...they will convince her with flowerly romantic words. Not that its how he actually feels but rather he intends to achieve her so he'll choose certain words with certain degrees to create a simple yet powerful sentence. Girls who only let the Gemini string them with words are doomed.

Not so sure about that one. Sometimes you can differentiate the two. It depends on what is being discussed, & if the subject keeps coming up, it's actual feeling, Gemini or not. Most people don't repeat themselves just for GP, unless there is something behind it that they mean & want you to get. That's my experience anyway with dealing with anyone.

I don't see any passive-aggressive behavior from him. He can be straight up & that's the way I am, but probably can't take it when I do it. Flowery romantic words? Oh hell no. I don't buy that from any man, regardless of zodiac sign. I don't fall for that mushy shit. I always feel like it's game, lol. Just be real with me.

HAHAHAHA RealTalk you live up to your name! are you dating a gemini? or are you a gemini yourself??

my gemini never brings anything up till AFTER the fact and months have gone by

As much as I wanted to pull the jealous card I couldn't it wouldn't feel right to me or be fair for the other person lol, I just don't want to look clingy which I can be and I don't want to do anything drastic till he contacts me... we hung out 3 days ago and this is the second day he hasn't said anything. He did text everyone in his phone today saying it was back on but he can't text me individually? I could be over thinking things but I know for sure I am not satisfied with our communication towards eachother.

Posted by candi3bb
HAHAHAHA RealTalk you live up to your name! are you dating a gemini? or are you a gemini yourself??

my gemini never brings anything up till AFTER the fact and months have gone by

Lol, I don't know if you remember but we were discussing this in another thread where I was telling you I met the gem on Halloween...we've been dating for over a year until recently. 😢 Soooooooo not talking to him!

Posted by BadSag12
As much as I wanted to pull the jealous card I couldn't it wouldn't feel right to me or be fair for the other person lol, I just don't want to look clingy which I can be and I don't want to do anything drastic till he contacts me... we hung out 3 days ago and this is the second day he hasn't said anything. He did text everyone in his phone today saying it was back on but he can't text me individually? I could be over thinking things but I know for sure I am not satisfied with our communication towards eachother.

Awwwwww hun, you ARE over thinking things!!!! I believe that everything is fine. Just because you don't hear from him, doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand that. I think you guys are getting along great. Stop thinking so much!!!! It's detrimental because you start to create stories in your head that are soooooo not true!!!!

Lol I laugh at myself, sometimes I need someone to give me a good slap across the face to stop!

Oooohhhhhhhh yeeeaaaa!! It was s "spooky" relationship from what I recall lol

^^^Hahahaha...hell yeah it was spooky as all get out!!! I'm still freaked out!!!! 😛

..hahahah i'll probably be ghastly white and drained...not a fun roller coaster too many loops too many loops god daggnabit!

Lol, seriously...sheesh!

As a Gem, I'm finding it surreal to be reading the three threads about people who aren't Gems discussing Gems on the Gem board!

Never said it was bad. Said it was surreal. It's like being in a group and everyone's discussing you while you're sitting right there.

I don't really mean anything...just observing "out loud".

I'm wondering, though, if anyone's finding it odd that no Gems are responding to these threads.

Day 3: STILL NOTHING SO FAR -____-

No gems responding because they dont know what to say. And sorry from all the non gems to the gems for talking about ya all but we are all in a state of confusion

Well im gemini moon?? lol not sure if that even really counts in the books.

DAY 3: typical! for a gem whose unsure of his feelings for a person...my gem has never been THIS weird. that pretty much states everything right there.

Posted by Whimsy
As a Gem, I'm finding it surreal to be reading the three threads about people who aren't Gems discussing Gems on the Gem board!

and..what do you personally think? 🙂 yay or nay for the most part?

Well, it was just sort of a head-scratcher, because a couple of Gems did respond at first (in one of the related threads). I asked for some clarification, so that I could give the proper advice, but no one responded. Westside (a real, live, Gemini male 🙂) gave advice, but was disregarded (a mistake- he may be young, but he's very smart). Sort of seemed like you ladies just wanted to figure it out for yourselves.

Candi- you always do an excellent job! You're very observant.

Here's my Gemini 2 cents(and maybe other Gems will say if they agree or not): when a Gem isn't sure that you are the one, he does as he pleases, and you might end up getting strung along while he makes up his mind. He does what he wants, but wants you to be sitting there waiting in case his choice is you. Westside is correct- don't put up with this.

On the other hand, when a Gem decides for sure that he wants you, you won't be able to fend him off with a sharp stick until he gets you. That's been my experience.

the wind shook the kiss from your mouth
before i could learn whose twin i was
your face familiar like a light in the water
just your touch could cure my lonesome blood
you let go of everything you had
and everything got left here waiting for what comes next
the state of things is tied to me
and i've been careless i think too much
i want to lie still near you i want to
the wind shook the kiss from your mouth
before i could learn whose twin i was

i figure these sort of topics bore them to death HAHAHA

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Hows that a bad thing if they know the ins and outs of them through experience ?

Agreed...durrrr—?

*Bump*

I want to text him and say maybe we should be friends.

Posted by candi3bb
i figure these sort of topics bore them to death HAHAHA

Yeah, it's kinda true. But the worst thing is giving advice and having no one listen. That happens A LOT on this forum. I keep trying, but wiser Gems that I have gone ahead and given up.

I said, "Maybe we should be friends because you don't seem interested anymore, and I'm ok with that."