Leo male in love with a Libra male and he is definitely a player

I’m a leo who’s aries friend introduced me to their libra friend back in late June and at first I didnt think much of him at our first meeting because we were with mutual friends, drinking, and having fun. I remember making some self deprecating jokes saying, “Anyone have trash to throw away?” As i hold the bag around as to not litter and i would continue with ,”Hold on, let me take myself too while im at it.” He would retaliate with “Nah, dont say that. You’re not trash at all.” Id blush and, “shut up” and throughout that meeting we’d always eye each other. As he was headed to use the bathroom he slipped a comment saying, “You’re really cute.” Winks at me and leaves. Thats where the attraction started. We had exchanged socials and he had forgotten something to which i found it necessary to contact him saying i had handed it over to our mutual friend.

Fast forward to early august. I had just gotten off work and my aries friend that had introduced us was saying how she was sleeping over his place with our other friend and that libra guy wanted me to come over. I did and we ended up having sex. I stayed over with our friends for the next two days. Having no other interaction than just hanging out and chilling with out friends. It was weird because I felt that same sexual tension there as we would catch each other staring at each other. He’d stick his tongue out and wink at me. And id just do the same back. It was only the first night i had slept with him and the following days i wouldnt even sleep with him in his bed. My aries friend saw this as rude and we ended up leaving in the middle of the night where i would sleep at her place. As i left though he placed his hand in my shoulder and gave me one last wink and i would just respond with a nod and walk out.

I kept my distance after that as to keep my mind off things so i could focus on my work and school. My aries friend hung out with him around September and he was asking about me saying i havent messaged him or anything. She said he wants me to annoy him and message him when he can. The thing about me is that i dont message guys im interested in first, maybe its a leo thing, but i just feel that i wouldnt know what to say or to think if they would even wanna talk to me.

We only talked for a few short messages and he is a pretty occupied man with his friends and what not. He was flirting with other guys but i see that as typical libra behavior, for some reason it didnt phase me really but what i did like was his attention. He would flirt with me on my photos and i would always comment back.

Early this October we would see each other again to hang with our aries gal pal once again. When he picked us up from her house i mustered up the courage to kiss him hi. He tried to discreetly say he wanted our friend to sit in the back saying, “Shorties in the back.” As he wanted me up front. It was a nice trip to the beach and then he had invited his friend whom we were meeting after we were done at the beach. Once she had arrived, he started to kiss on my neck and hold my hand. It was so random it caught me off guard. He would introduce her to our aries friend as his close friend but would give me no title and just said, “And this is (insert my name here)”. It gave me the connotation that i was maybe some sort of romantic interest in him. We went to his place and he ended up playing video games while we all chilled in the couch doing our thing. This is something he does most of the day. Aries gal pal and i left and i went home with even more confusion in my head rather than concrete evidence but i felt more fulfilled than our last endeavor.

Not even two days later. He invites me over and its just him and i at his place with the preconceived notion that we were going to have sex again. After that happened he let me stay the night and we’d cuddle. We had chatted and opened up about our lives as gay men. Turns out we were pretty similar. I told him he could honestly kick me out whenever he needed me out of his place but he said, “That wont be for a while.” He would proceed to tell me how he liked guys who were into cars which i was not one of those car fanatics. I left his place again as he was about to go out too. I embraced him and gave him a kiss through our face masks. The way he held me... i never wanted him to let go.

I decided to tell him how i felt when i got home. Saying that i was pretty invested in him and would want to see him more and potentially start dating. He shot me down saying, “I’m flattered you like me and I think you’re really sweet and cute, but I’ve got a few other guys I’ve known for ages that I’m interested in. I’m sorry not to reaffirm your feelings.” And that honestly crushed me. I replied saying that it was alright and that maybe in the next life we could be together. He would like the message but not say anything after. Whats strange is that two days later he would sent a heart and i didnt even talk to him for him to even provoke it. I decided to take my angst from the rejection and i posted a video of me singing my heartaches without him realizing it was about him. He had even commented how he liked my singing and i replied under his comment that he sings very well too.

Ever since then i hadnt went out my way to contact him yet he still likes my posts. Sometimes twice or three times as he has three accounts and follows me with all three.

I know the answer is probably obvious that he was a player and he played me. Im just thinking if he would ever realize that he has feelings for me too. I know its not healthy to really hold on and ponder about it for that long. But maybe i could find my answer here.

He doesn’t, he has feelings for himself and loves the attention of you and every other guy pining for him. I know this because one of my closest is exactly like this, he comes in to guys, gets with them once or twice. Pays for everything when they join us when we are out and plays with them, the next night some other guy shows up where we are and it all happens again. At first I use to chat to them but then I realised 2 things, first, they would try befriending me to get close to him and second I wouldn’t see them around again so I gave up on it unless I could see where he really liked someone and they were different. Btw, he’s still single, had a guy for 6 months but couldn’t help himself!

Posted by Arinoaqua

Ew this pissed me off. “I’ve got a few other guys I’m interested in.”

I am newly single and back in the dating game and you just have to use your intuition to feel out when you’re someone’s backup plan and when they’re only giving you attention when their main interest isn’t available.

I’m annoyed at the Aries too for meddling and encouraging you to keep reaching out to this loser. Was he lying to her about his intentions too?

It would seem so. He would tell her that he missed me and all that. I honestly should have listened to her in the first place though if im being honest. She did warn me about him and initially i had no intention in falling for him. The attraction at first was physical. I should have realized it was physical attraction for him from beginning to now.

Posted by Arinoaqua

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Posted by Arinoaqua

Ew this pissed me off. “I’ve got a few other guys I’m interested in.”

I am newly single and back in the dating game and you just have to use your intuition to feel out when you’re someone’s backup plan and when they’re only giving you attention when their main interest isn’t available.

I’m annoyed at the Aries too for meddling and encouraging you to keep reaching out to this loser. Was he lying to her about his intentions too?

It would seem so. He would tell her that he missed me and all that. I honestly should have listened to her in the first place though if im being honest. She did warn me about him and initially i had no intention in falling for him. The attraction at first was physical. I should have realized it was physical attraction for him from beginning to now.

Don’t blame yourself. He was being way too intimate if all he wanted was a casual sexual relationship. Holding hands!?? That’s crazy intimate to me. If someone holds my hand I’m falling in love.

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Thanks Arinoaqua :3 its really nice to get an outside perspective on this. honestly he was crazy intimate when we would be in a social setting. I guess thats the Libra charm that got to me 😅. Im probably looking in the wrong places for an actual relationship but my hopes are high and my optimism is higher :3. Good luck to you and your dating journey as well. We both deserve partners that are ideal and dont play unnecessary mind games.

Posted by _mudra_

Libra guys are meh

And leo/libra combo is... amazing until... it's not 🤣🤣

You definitely hit the nail on that 😂 they say the pairing is really compatible but probably for short flings 😂