Are Leos kinda lazy in relationships?

I love my Leo a lot, not here to drag him AT ALL... but he was so expressive in the beginning. We took a little break over Thanksgiving, because I felt I had to do all the work in our relationship and he felt that maybe he couldnt meet my needs. It was an amicable "week off".

He promises to be better and was very upset that I felt the way I did. I think he was mostly bothered that I was upset at all.

I know he loves me and he cares. Definitely loyal and I don't think he means any harm, but damn..... he has even said "Time is the most valuable thing to me, I give you more time than I give anyone. I dont see the issue." We see each other usually 3 times a week, sometimes 4 (but not usually). He is very busy and career focused. I totally respect that. Thats a great amount of time to have together.... Time isnt the issue I have.

He really feels like I should feel honored by his mere presence. That its enough to sustain a relationship. Its the most textbook Leo shit ive ever seen! haha

I have more free time than he does, so I dont really mind..... but sometimes it makes me feel a little weird. Especially because ive read that Leo's like to lead and are romantics.

He will sometimes go ALL day and not text me, he's cut back on his romantic gestures, not as affectionate with me, says that I should just know how he feels, and I have to plan all our dates.... we've almost hit a year, so alot of that is normal.

In his defense- if I ask him to be somewhere, no questions asked, he will be. I really appreciate that.

It's not that crazy of an issue, I'm by no means saying im mistreated or anything. But are your Leo men a little lazy in love? Do they like you to plan most things and just have them show up?

Posted by Mesquite

I'll answer your question with another question: who basically hunts and maintains the hierarchy in a pride of real lions?

When Leo's get comfortable, they can get lazy. Same goes for the women as well.

Very solid point! haha

I could totally see his ass laying under a tree waiting for me to bring him the kill.

Leos are lazier than Taurus IMO haha

I think he's gotten a bit too comfortable with you planning all dates, after all, that means more time for him, which is his priority as you mentioned. He's very comfortable in the idea that you're the eternal romantic, which to him it means he can just lay back and let it all come to him.

Make him work a bit harder for your time, simple as that

Did you experience this kind of issue in previous relationships?

He's busy... Perhaps you should keep yourself busy too?

Posted by Basorexia

Did you experience this kind of issue in previous relationships?

He's busy... Perhaps you should keep yourself busy too?

The busy isnt really the issue, (and yes he def is busy). It's him seeming to want me to do everything to sustain it, and just show up when I make the plan. It's not the end of the world. He is a great man. I was just curious if its common Leo behavior after awhile.

No, never experienced this type of dynamic before.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom

I think he's gotten a bit too comfortable with you planning all dates, after all, that means more time for him, which is his priority as you mentioned. He's very comfortable in the idea that you're the eternal romantic, which to him it means he can just lay back and let it all come to him.

Make him work a bit harder for your time, simple as that

Agree with making him work or move on. OP you seem kind and need to know your worth.

If it's this way now I don't see it getting any better for the future.

I didn’t mind doing stuff like...everything...lol

Is Leo provider? Is he paying for all of your plannings and whatever is that you are doing?

If he is busy amazing man and he is showing up at your request and all you want is for him to be more attentive - purr!

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Did you experience this kind of issue in previous relationships?

He's busy... Perhaps you should keep yourself busy too?

The busy isnt really the issue, (and yes he def is busy). It's him seeming to want me to do everything to sustain it, and just show up when I make the plan. It's not the end of the world. He is a great man. I was just curious if its common Leo behavior after awhile.

No, never experienced this type of dynamic before.

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I'm asking because sometimes our issues with other people are really just *our issues* or something we drag on from relationship to relationship..

I think you did great by telling him how you feel that's always important.

I can't speak for all Leo's but I can say being Leo and having dated Leo's in the past its never been an issue.

I have to say that I'm busy af myself and the day can easily go by before I'll notice if he's texted or not. Perhaps I'm not in the position to give you advice.

Learn to compromise/pick your battles and that you can't have your way in every aspect of the relationship. You said yourself you have more free time than him, seeing eachother 3-4 times is plenty if you're not living together. Being a Leo I imagine he'd need to get some time for himself too but is making your relationship the priority instead.

What do you have in common? What keeps you together? Surely romantic gestures ultimately don't mean a lot (actions speak louder) and get kinda overrated after u been together for a while? Do stuff together instead, travel, take little trips.. etc. He shows up for your plans, doesn't he? Without a pouty face, i assume? Sometimes that's all u can ask from a person with a life and it's plenty. You said yourself you have more free time than him..

It's like women don't want a slob who has a lot of time on his hands sitting around the house with them, at the same time y'all can't handle a guy who does his own thing but MAKES time for you.

Texting? Texting what? You've been together for over a year. Save it for when you meet .

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Did you experience this kind of issue in previous relationships?

He's busy... Perhaps you should keep yourself busy too?

The busy isnt really the issue, (and yes he def is busy). It's him seeming to want me to do everything to sustain it, and just show up when I make the plan. It's not the end of the world. He is a great man. I was just curious if its common Leo behavior after awhile.

No, never experienced this type of dynamic before.

I'm asking because sometimes our issues with other people are really just *our issues* or something we drag on from relationship to relationship..

I think you did great by telling him how you feel that's always important.

I can't speak for all Leo's but I can say being Leo and having dated Leo's in the past its never been an issue.

I have to say that I'm busy af myself and the day can easily go by before I'll notice if he's texted or not. Perhaps I'm not in the position to give you advice.

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No, that's perfect advice.

I like the Leo perspective.

I think sometimes based on my past I feel like its an issue (I make jokes to my BFF that I heard from my ex more daily when he was in Afghanistan, than I do the Leo).... It makes me think maybe I should take it personal, that it isnt normal... I'm secure that my Leo means no harm, but I cant help but sometimes think its reflecting how he feels...he says absolutely not and was genuinely taken back I even felt that way... haha

I dont want to end the relationship or anything...and he has absolutely taken steps to address all my concerns. I was just curious if its common place. He is incredibly sweet and gentle....just a bit aloof when not in each others company, and very comfortable with me doing everything.

Oh you're a stuck up Libra with head in clouds I see. You need to be surrounded by ppl and empty gestures and activities all the time, or else how will you know you exist? lol

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CAN WE ASK WTF LEOS ARE BUSY DOING?

I SWEAR TO GOD, WHEN PEOPLE SAY IM BUSY, IM LIKE DOING WHAT?

I NEED DETAILS CAUSE THIS IS SOME BS...

Can we ask wtf ppl are doing having others constantly up their ass 24/7?

I don't need to explain myself for wanting to be alone.

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Posted by enfant_terribleHe shows up for your plans, doesn't he? Without a pouty face, i assume? Sometimes that's all u can ask from a person with a life and it's plenty. You said yourself you have more free time than him..

This sounds depressing as hell

this is why i am not in a relationship

just sounds morbid and sad

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99% of the time I'm the one making (romantic) plans in my relationship, I don't feel sad about it. Ultimately it's about how open and receptive the other person is . I enjoy seeing how happy it makes her and frankly it comes natural for me.

I mean she'll express what she'd like to do occassionally, but I just accept that despite her being a chick it's not her strenght making shit happen even though she's romantic at heart and appreciates what I call 'empty gestures'.

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CAN WE ASK WTF LEOS ARE BUSY DOING?

I SWEAR TO GOD, WHEN PEOPLE SAY IM BUSY, IM LIKE DOING WHAT?

I NEED DETAILS CAUSE THIS IS SOME BS...

Can we ask wtf ppl are doing having others constantly up their ass 24/7?

I don't need to explain myself for wanting to be alone.

Then say that. Saying I am busy is just a bald-faced lie.

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I am busy with my own shit. That's by definition being busy. If I weren't, I'd be open for making plans. Duh

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Posted by enfant_terribleHe shows up for your plans, doesn't he? Without a pouty face, i assume? Sometimes that's all u can ask from a person with a life and it's plenty. You said yourself you have more free time than him..

This sounds depressing as hell

this is why i am not in a relationship

just sounds morbid and sad

99% of the time I'm the one making (romantic) plans in my relationship, I don't feel sad about it. Ultimately it's about how open and receptive the other person is . I enjoy seeing how happy it makes her and frankly it comes natural for me.

I mean she'll express what she'd like to do occassionally, but I just accept that despite her being a chick it's not her strenght making shit happen even though she's romantic at heart and appreciates what I call 'empty gestures'.

I need you in my life! What were your placements again?

Leo moons believe in reciprocity. This shit won't flow with us for too long!

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Leo sun & mars

Great for partners who appreciate romantic gestures and all things larger than life

Cancer moon & venus

Great for partners who appreciate action & genuine meaning behind the gestures

Taurus rising

Requires peace of mind & heart, give the same in return

Yeah Im pretty much the shit and I don't even feel like I'm putting in any effort

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Posted by Mesquite

I'll answer your question with another question: who basically hunts and maintains the hierarchy in a pride of real lions?

When Leo's get comfortable, they can get lazy. Same goes for the women as well.

Very solid point! haha

I could totally see his ass laying under a tree waiting for me to bring him the kill.

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Invite him to a sparring session, and then proceed to legit beat the crap out of him. In other words, beat some sense into him when you realize words no longer have an effect because his skull is too thick.



Trust me, it works.

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CAN WE ASK WTF LEOS ARE BUSY DOING?

I SWEAR TO GOD, WHEN PEOPLE SAY IM BUSY, IM LIKE DOING WHAT?

I NEED DETAILS CAUSE THIS IS SOME BS...

Can we ask wtf ppl are doing having others constantly up their ass 24/7?

I don't need to explain myself for wanting to be alone.

Then say that. Saying I am busy is just a bald-faced lie.

I am busy with my own shit. That's by definition being busy. If I weren't, I'd be open for making plans. Duh

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But...do you come up with plans as soon as it's you who is not busy or do you also actually care to check if your woman isn't busy either before suggesting your plans to her?

From how I've experienced Leos, it's not always as fair to the other person as it seems. This is where Libras can teach Leos a thing or two.

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Oh you're a stuck up Libra with head in clouds I see. You need to be surrounded by ppl and empty gestures and activities all the time, or else how will you know you exist? lol

Is it an empty gesture to spend time with someone you like?

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No, but then time is not a romantic gesture per se, nor what the OP's main issue was

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom

But...do you come up with plans as soon as it's you who is not busy or do you also actually care to check if your woman isn't busy either before suggesting your plans to her?

From how I've experienced Leos, it's not always as fair to the other person as it seems. This is where Libras can teach Leos a thing or two.

I make sure to make plans when we're both free and don't have other distractions. Also, I always ask first of course.. along the lines "I thought this Thursday we could..."

What would possess someone to make plans with a person if that person is not really up to it for whatever reason? Seems pointless anf counterproductive

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Did you experience this kind of issue in previous relationships?

He's busy... Perhaps you should keep yourself busy too?

The busy isnt really the issue, (and yes he def is busy). It's him seeming to want me to do everything to sustain it, and just show up when I make the plan. It's not the end of the world. He is a great man. I was just curious if its common Leo behavior after awhile.

No, never experienced this type of dynamic before.

I'm asking because sometimes our issues with other people are really just *our issues* or something we drag on from relationship to relationship..

I think you did great by telling him how you feel that's always important.

I can't speak for all Leo's but I can say being Leo and having dated Leo's in the past its never been an issue.

I have to say that I'm busy af myself and the day can easily go by before I'll notice if he's texted or not. Perhaps I'm not in the position to give you advice.

No, that's perfect advice.

I like the Leo perspective.

I think sometimes based on my past I feel like its an issue (I make jokes to my BFF that I heard from my ex more daily when he was in Afghanistan, than I do the Leo).... It makes me think maybe I should take it personal, that it isnt normal... I'm secure that my Leo means no harm, but I cant help but sometimes think its reflecting how he feels...he says absolutely not and was genuinely taken back I even felt that way... haha

I dont want to end the relationship or anything...and he has absolutely taken steps to address all my concerns. I was just curious if its common place. He is incredibly sweet and gentle....just a bit aloof when not in each others company, and very comfortable with me doing everything.

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I honestly recognize myself in your description of your bf. I get him. I have tons on my plate.. Some by obligation and others by choice (& yes I gotta have me time, even if it's just staying home by myself)... You best believe the time that's left is dedicated to things & people that are important to me because time itself is precious. Not just my time but in general.

... If I'm not mistaken we have similar placements I remember replying to your posts before.

Perhaps you shook him up by telling him you want more effort on his part 👍and maybe you can work trusting his love for you.

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But...do you come up with plans as soon as it's you who is not busy or do you also actually care to check if your woman isn't busy either before suggesting your plans to her?

From how I've experienced Leos, it's not always as fair to the other person as it seems. This is where Libras can teach Leos a thing or two.

What would possess someone to make plans with a person if that person is not really up to it for whatever reason? Seems pointless anf counterproductive

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You would be surprised at how controlling/domineering some people can try to act sometimes. To get the other person to agree becomes the sole purpose.

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CAN WE ASK WTF LEOS ARE BUSY DOING?

I SWEAR TO GOD, WHEN PEOPLE SAY IM BUSY, IM LIKE DOING WHAT?

I NEED DETAILS CAUSE THIS IS SOME BS...

Creating a business, hiring employees, running that business, having a fulfilling social life with family/friends, staying physically active, probably starting a secondary side business, enjoying hobbies, and that's not including the essentials like eating, sleeping, etc. Of course that's just me and practically every other Leo I know.

So really there's no issue. Since you've already stated that you're not trying to bash the Leo, I'll just say that the easiest thing to do is make your concern known to the Leo in the even that he needs to adjust how he is acting/spending his time. That being said, also understand that the Leo will make time when he can, but Leos are genuinely busy people. That's not something we just say to sound important (well some might), it is part of being Leo.

The Leo was more expressive in the beginning because he could afford to spend more time focused you. Leos know how to turn up the heat when it comes to romance. However by doing so, he has clearly set an impossible standard. He has since switched gears and his time has since been reallocated to his career and other facets of his life. This is only a bad thing if he suddenly can't make time for you anymore. However if you want to be with someone who is driven and/or successful, this is comes with the territory.

Also constant texting is seriously unnecessary. If the Leo is loyal, why does he need to check in with you? Texting has made people far more insecure/needy for absolutely no reason. Take solace in that fact that you have a man who is loyal and also pursuing his dreams.

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Posted by enfant_terribleHe shows up for your plans, doesn't he? Without a pouty face, i assume? Sometimes that's all u can ask from a person with a life and it's plenty. You said yourself you have more free time than him..

This sounds depressing as hell

this is why i am not in a relationship

just sounds morbid and sad

99% of the time I'm the one making (romantic) plans in my relationship, I don't feel sad about it. Ultimately it's about how open and receptive the other person is . I enjoy seeing how happy it makes her and frankly it comes natural for me.

I mean she'll express what she'd like to do occassionally, but I just accept that despite her being a chick it's not her strenght making shit happen even though she's romantic at heart and appreciates what I call 'empty gestures'.

I need you in my life! What were your placements again?

Leo moons believe in reciprocity. This shit won't flow with us for too long!

Leo sun & mars

Great for partners who appreciate romantic gestures and all things larger than life

Cancer moon & venus

Great for partners who appreciate action & genuine meaning behind the gestures

Taurus rising

Requires peace of mind & heart, give the same in return

Yeah Im pretty much the shit and I don't even feel like I'm putting in any effort

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You seem like a very well multitasking individual!

Being busy and making love life happening giving it 90% AND being here in forum all the time...you are a Superman aren’t you?

You said all the right things in this thread but HOW do you manage all this unless you posting here while on a date with ‘her’? 👍

I’m not a lazy person. If anything, I’m pretty much always on the move and I have to turn down plans in order to ensure I’ve got sanity at home. As an Aries I appreciate Leo’s ability to be very selfish with plans, they’ve perfected the art of turning down boring plans.

They are the more socially stunning of the fire signs and I have a lot of respect for their strong side.

The Leo’s I know are socially very outgoing but are lazy at home. They don’t feel the need to keep things tidy or appealing past a base layer of upkeep. It’s just not where they shine but beware when they’re on a cleaning spree.

They love food and the preparation of food, cooking, eating and anything food related that’s gourmet. Leo’s are not into making things into a cozy nest even though they appreciate someone doing it. They seem to cherish anything family related and fragile and thoughtful. In turn they express love in ways that are tangible. They make food and buy food, think of thoughtful dates and places to go, they arrange social activities and love to have drinks and food with friends. How they show love to friends and loved ones is by entertaining them socially.

They also show love through loyalty to you and your family or friendship and put people they adore at the top. It’s a very special place to be when a Leo is shining their love on you ❤️ and I absolutely bask in it when it’s beam is on me, not gonna lie. It’s reciprocated fully- Aries and Leo just understand the love that you should give special people.

They are lazy when it comes to keeping up appearances and ensuring things are tidy and in order but that’s not what everyone should be good at. They’re masters of the kitchen, laundry masters, clothing in general is their strong suite and they also keep the bathroom well stocked and tidy. They’re really good at making sure the car has gas and isn’t dirty.

Some people can assume they’re lazy but they do things that are time consuming and require skill. This is something I appreciate in Leo’s. You can always be sure the Leo has the right wine picked out, a well stocked bar, great food, lovely candles, fresh sheets, a quick stylish outfit ready to throw on when plans arise, a clean car and a party that is sure to be fun.....



The best skill Leo’s have, is they’re always in the know with peoples gossip and tell you low key stories when you’re at parties and tell you all the juicy stuff in a corner while people watching. 😂

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CAN WE ASK WTF LEOS ARE BUSY DOING?

I SWEAR TO GOD, WHEN PEOPLE SAY IM BUSY, IM LIKE DOING WHAT?

I NEED DETAILS CAUSE THIS IS SOME BS...

I’ve always said that being busy is a lame excuse however...unless you ARE busy you won’t understand other busy person.

Like some days when I am dealing with customers all day and bosses and researching shit online for business - I am literally catching myself not texting or haven’t answered his texts and I am very surprised at myself because those days are rare BUT happens! And THEN I SEE that some people ARE busy all day every day due to a work load and for some it’s constant.

I also understand that everyone is communicating according to whether they fine a fuck about you or not...

Texting something like ‘hope your day if fine my love. Busy with work. Let’s talk later...’ and shit like that doesn’t take more than a few seconds and totally CANT be an excuse. Everyone’s effort is exactly how much they care about another. No ifs no buts no shit!

And don’t let this preventing you from dating!

You have to exercise ‘dating’ muscle! Lol

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You seem like a very well multitasking individual!

Being busy and making love life happening giving it 90% AND being here in forum all the time...you are a Superman aren’t you?

You said all the right things in this thread but HOW do you manage all this unless you posting here while on a date with ‘her’? 👍

... don't forget; while at the same time working the opposite shift of my gf. So yeah I get shit done! High five!

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Texting something like ‘hope your day if fine my love. Busy with work. Let’s talk later...’ and shit like that doesn’t take more than a few seconds and totally CANT be an excuse. Everyone’s effort is exactly how much they care about another. No ifs no buts no shit!

And don’t let this preventing you from dating!

You have to exercise ‘dating’ muscle! Lol

That is so lame, who texts shit like that to someone they spend most of their free time with?

Do we constantly have to be interactive up eachothers butts all day long? That's not caring, that's a sickly need to keep the phoneline busy like those 1950's housewives who spent all day on the phone with eachother , yaping away.

If my gf needed me to send her pointless texts every second Im not busy with my life I'd tell her to call some of her girlfriends instead and that I'll see her when im off work.

Stop doing all that. Let him. If he doesn’t then the relationship won’t survive and you have your answer. The one Leo I dated he always called and texted. Even though this dude is your man you can still make him work. If you want him to change his behavior, change yours first. Don’t talk, act.

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Stop doing all that. Let him. If he doesn’t then the relationship won’t survive and you have your answer. The one Leo I dated he always called and texted. Even though this dude is your man you can still make him work. If you want him to change his behavior, change yours first. Don’t talk, act.

But why should he have to change to being the one who initiates plans or whatever, if it doesn't come natural for him?

She's already got that covered, being the initiator because it matters to her, so why can't she keep making that part work instead of putting the task on him.. since it clearly doesn't matter as much to him if they do this or that?

I couldn't force or even want my partner to take charge of some aspect of the relationship that's clearly not her thing. If it matters to me, I'll make it happen as long as she shows up in a good mood.

yes

Yes to some extent they are lazy.

Thinking about my boss/business owner as I write this.

He has great ideas and initiative but sucks at follow through. Thats why he gave me a piece of his business to come in and build it/run it.

He was meant to go after his license this year in order to facilitate my ability to go after it next. I did everything shy of signing his name on the papers to set it up for him. But again, zero follow-through. There is always an excuse. I moved, busy with my daughter, my ex wife is causing issues, etc etc.

So I am bypassing him and went directly to a Landscape Architect I work with to sign me off so I can get started on the licensing process. No time like the present.

Anyways as far as your relationship just give him one (1) thing he can focus on to improve. And start and followup that request with praise for what he is already doing well. If I'm you I'd ask him to plan one outing/date a month so that you feel his investment and effort and your lady boner doesn't do a full wilt from having to plan everything.

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CAN WE ASK WTF LEOS ARE BUSY DOING?

I SWEAR TO GOD, WHEN PEOPLE SAY IM BUSY, IM LIKE DOING WHAT?

I NEED DETAILS CAUSE THIS IS SOME BS...

Creating a business, hiring employees, running that business, having a fulfilling social life with family/friends, staying physically active, probably starting a secondary side business, enjoying hobbies, and that's not including the essentials like eating, sleeping, etc. Of course that's just me and practically every other Leo I know.

Shutup showoff

What kind of hobbies you got

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Drawing, cooking, reading (though I listen to audio books so I can double task that with work), gaming whenever I have enough down time to do it. I'm starting to get back into writing too.