VirgoSvengali
@VirgoSvengali
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Blood is thicker than water
We don't hold grudges. We can't no matter how hard we try. The Sun must shine.
She does not trust you anymore. It takes time to rebuild trust.
My Vigo BFF and I had a falling out a year ago. It was awful. We did not speak for 6 months and we talked everyday for hours. We talk now but it's not the same. I just listen. I don't trust her.
If you hurt us we are not going to give you the opportunity to do it again. Sister or not.
She does not trust you anymore. It takes time to rebuild trust.
My Vigo BFF and I had a falling out a year ago. It was awful. We did not speak for 6 months and we talked everyday for hours. We talk now but it's not the same. I just listen. I don't trust her.
If you hurt us we are not going to give you the opportunity to do it again. Sister or not.
Posted by Nala13
If you hurt us we are not going to give you the opportunity to do it again. Sister or not.
I don't know what your BFF did to you, and I am sorry for that, but the hell you are saying !
Family is for life, friends .. Not really the same
Posted by VirgoSvengaliPosted by Nala13
If you hurt us we are not going to give you the opportunity to do it again. Sister or not.
I don't know what your BFF did to you, and I am sorry for that, but the hell you are saying !
Family is for life, friends .. Not really the same
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You can think this DNA sharing overrides all else if you want to but...
Who told you family is for life. There are countless people on this site alone who don't talk to their parents, sisters or brothers.
Because you want it to be for life does not make it so. There are also friends who will treat you better than family members.
Look you asked, I told you your sister is hurt that is why she is distant. Read the following or DON'T.
Although appearing strong on the outside, most Leos are inwardly sensitive and their feelings are easily hurt. When this occurs, they can turn on the object of their affection, when their pride is hurt.
While Leo does have an ego, she's not like Aries demanding she is always number one. She may expect it, but she's never going to say it. Leo's ego is tender, and she wears her heart on her sleeve so be careful with her. She does bruise easily and rarely forgets who hurt her feelings.
Posted by Nala13Posted by VirgoSvengaliPosted by Nala13
If you hurt us we are not going to give you the opportunity to do it again. Sister or not.
I don't know what your BFF did to you, and I am sorry for that, but the hell you are saying !
Family is for life, friends .. Not really the same
You can think this DNA sharing overrides all else if you want to but...
Who told you family is for life. There are countless people on this site alone who don't talk to their parents, sisters or brothers.
Because you want it to be for life does not make it so. There are also friends who will treat you better than family members.
Look you asked, I told you your sister is hurt that is why she is distant. Read the following or DON'T.
Although appearing strong on the outside, most Leos are inwardly sensitive and their feelings are easily hurt. When this occurs, they can turn on the object of their affection, when their pride is hurt.
While Leo does have an ego, she's not like Aries demanding she is always number one. She may expect it, but she's never going to say it. Leo's ego is tender, and she wears her heart on her sleeve so be careful with her. She does bruise easily and rarely forgets who hurt her feelings.
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Lol, I understand when you say some friends are better than family, BUT in general some people have a better tolerance with siblings than with friends, with your brothers and sisters you have fights, calling names games, but you also shre your life with them, they are your CLAN. Who told me family is for life ? My leo Dad,, my principes, my morals. Sorry, everybody is different, everybody has it's own experience and i understand that, i know that, and that's the way life is but to ME family is no 1 because the day you'll die, your family will die of sadness, but some of what we call our friends will just get over it.
I asked, mostly a way to have my friendship back with her, because I love her more than anything else, and she is Worth fighting for.
So, yes I'm asking for some advices and thank you for taking the time to respond but shall we keep things in their context if possible
"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" is the full quote of your title. It doesn't mean family is more important at all, but the opposite.
I agree with Nala, though. She probably doesn't trust you, anymore. And, even if you want to reconcile, she may not want to. If you cared about your sister on a deep level, then you wouldn't care about appearing weak. Keeping your thoughts and emotions to yourself is not how you attempt to reconcile. If you want her to talk to you about her personal life and feelings again, then it doesn't make any sense that you go about that by seemingly not caring and being unemotional, yeah? At this rate, nothing will change.
I agree with Nala, though. She probably doesn't trust you, anymore. And, even if you want to reconcile, she may not want to. If you cared about your sister on a deep level, then you wouldn't care about appearing weak. Keeping your thoughts and emotions to yourself is not how you attempt to reconcile. If you want her to talk to you about her personal life and feelings again, then it doesn't make any sense that you go about that by seemingly not caring and being unemotional, yeah? At this rate, nothing will change.
Ok, thanks for the quote, by the way i'm not talking with my first language so please accpet my apologizes, I misunderstood that.
I am actually trying to talk to her sometimes and she seems so distant that I don't want to make things worsts between us, so I keep it shut. But sometimes I just want to scream and telling her to stop all this sit.. My family is composed of fire signs, she and my dad are the leos, but any of my sisters are like her, and we had nastier arguments betweeen us. It was actually the first time I had a "fight" with her, and I am shocked that she is still like that (regardless of what i did to make peace with her : a trip to Paris for her birthday, and giving my help for whatever the occasion I had to.. )
And when I see some of your statements, I just can't get away with this
I am actually trying to talk to her sometimes and she seems so distant that I don't want to make things worsts between us, so I keep it shut. But sometimes I just want to scream and telling her to stop all this sit.. My family is composed of fire signs, she and my dad are the leos, but any of my sisters are like her, and we had nastier arguments betweeen us. It was actually the first time I had a "fight" with her, and I am shocked that she is still like that (regardless of what i did to make peace with her : a trip to Paris for her birthday, and giving my help for whatever the occasion I had to.. )
And when I see some of your statements, I just can't get away with this
Waow a lot of typos ^^^
Sorry LOL
Sorry LOL
Plenty of native English speakers don't know the full quote, either.
I've known leos who would be more willing to reconcile with expensive gifts (I'm not sure how much a trip to Paris costs for you, but this may count as an expensive gift). But, I've also known leos who are much more likely to forgive and forget after having an emotional conversation where both people involved talk their emotions out. Maybe such an honest and genuine expression of yourself is what is needed to reconcile with her. Especially since you separate you and her from the rest of your family who seem unlikely to be so honest after an argument.
That's just an idea. It may work or it may not. Perhaps, like Nala said, she won't give you the chance to hurt her again. But, you never know until you try.
I've known leos who would be more willing to reconcile with expensive gifts (I'm not sure how much a trip to Paris costs for you, but this may count as an expensive gift). But, I've also known leos who are much more likely to forgive and forget after having an emotional conversation where both people involved talk their emotions out. Maybe such an honest and genuine expression of yourself is what is needed to reconcile with her. Especially since you separate you and her from the rest of your family who seem unlikely to be so honest after an argument.
That's just an idea. It may work or it may not. Perhaps, like Nala said, she won't give you the chance to hurt her again. But, you never know until you try.
I guess, I will try the emotionnal converation but as I said she doesn't looks like she would talk to me either, and I know I kinda messed up with her on that day but making me pay this long.. To me, it's really ridiculous, looks like I made some bid deal.. Anyways thanks for the tips, I'll try them.
What Nala said said is valid but the ego thing.. have a pride is healthy but in some cases not much !It is making me losing my mind ! Thank you again x
What Nala said said is valid but the ego thing.. have a pride is healthy but in some cases not much !It is making me losing my mind ! Thank you again x
Posted by Nala13
We don't hold grudges. We can't no matter how hard we try. The Sun must shine.
She does not trust you anymore. It takes time to rebuild trust.
I agree with this.
Leos don't like to hold grudges. It's not good for our hearts.
On the other hand, our hurt runs deep and it takes time for us to come around again.
We can forgive, but we never forget so you have to accept this.
Also, I suggest you tell your sister that you really DO love her a lot and that you hope that in time all will be as before.
Good luck!
Posted by VirgoSvengali
Hey lionesses,
My little sister is a leo ( obviously the reason i'm making a post here).
We had an argument this summer and we SORT OF reconciliate, but since that day, I feel like i've lost my little sister, I don't know, she's different.
I know that leos are proud and sensitive, but holding on a grudge against a family member is kind of insane to me.. It's like she's really really distant now,
We used to be really close, sharing private secrets, she always opened up about her feelings, her issues at school. But now it's like i was a stranger to her. It hurts me so much because she is my blood, my everything.
I don't know how to have our friendship back, i have to say by the way that i didn't show my emotions to her because, she doesn't seems to be affected. So I don't want to appear like the weak one. I'm just sitting here with the chill face but interiorizing all that stuff
(sorry for the English)
You say this:
"because she is my blood, my everything"
Yet you do this:
"So I don't want to appear like the weak one. I'm just sitting here with the chill face but interiorizing all that stuff"
and say she is the proud and sensitive one?
It takes a lot for a Leo to hold a grudge if trust has been broken and it takes a lot to win back that trust, sitting with a po face won't help.
"I feel like i've lost my little sister"
For sure you have not lost your sister.
She may only be trying to teach you to be respectful to her.
I have always had arguments with my virgo sister. We have always survived them. But currently (it's been a few months) I keep distance with her. Because I want her to be more respectful to me.
Later when I see more coolness and respect, I'll be more lighthearted with her.
Upsetting a fire sign means cutting off the branch you are sitting on for a while. Later you can fetch them again. But you need to show that you are not addicted to cheap fights. We hate routines. We love goals, achievements, life purposes and so on.
For sure you have not lost your sister.
She may only be trying to teach you to be respectful to her.
I have always had arguments with my virgo sister. We have always survived them. But currently (it's been a few months) I keep distance with her. Because I want her to be more respectful to me.
Later when I see more coolness and respect, I'll be more lighthearted with her.
Upsetting a fire sign means cutting off the branch you are sitting on for a while. Later you can fetch them again. But you need to show that you are not addicted to cheap fights. We hate routines. We love goals, achievements, life purposes and so on.
Yes, Celticlioness but as I already said, I made other actions to make it work ( expensives attention for her birthday and gifts, gifts, gifts ! It's just that she is no sooo open like she used to be, I'm talking to a stranger and it hurts me because I miss her really much. We always argue with people we care, I'm just a little sad that she couldn't swallow it yet ( question of pride ?)
Thanks Dwelling, this is what i hope, I don't want she and I to be siblingss that don't look or act like siblings, i know that some people have to deal with it (heartbreaking situation) but I DON'T WANT THIS WITH MY SISTER, because I want to protect her, love her, and to be her friend adding to be her sister like we used to be.
My other sisters are 1 Aries (my bestie) and 2 Saggitarius, and usually, I don't argue with any of them (besides the Aries because, she is soo annoying sometimes so we blunlty call names (that's a love/hate Relationship lmao) but Lol that is the way we are 😉 and the saggs and I are always cool, we get along really well.
THEY fight between fire signs, they are a little savage, but it adds some action and I must confess that it craacks me up all the time ! When I "fight" (no big deal generally), it's over I mean really OVEER in some hours, and then we are back to laughters, and dancing and all the sister-like relationship
THAT's what I want back with my Leo baby sister ( she's 18 LOL) and that why I am helpless because I didn't understand why at this time, she was like this but : she is hurt. I recongnize I messed up with her, but hey nobody's perfect..
Anyways, thanks for the help, I will try to make it work the best as I can, but with words because now, I AM BROKE ! Lol xx
Thanks Dwelling, this is what i hope, I don't want she and I to be siblingss that don't look or act like siblings, i know that some people have to deal with it (heartbreaking situation) but I DON'T WANT THIS WITH MY SISTER, because I want to protect her, love her, and to be her friend adding to be her sister like we used to be.
My other sisters are 1 Aries (my bestie) and 2 Saggitarius, and usually, I don't argue with any of them (besides the Aries because, she is soo annoying sometimes so we blunlty call names (that's a love/hate Relationship lmao) but Lol that is the way we are 😉 and the saggs and I are always cool, we get along really well.
THEY fight between fire signs, they are a little savage, but it adds some action and I must confess that it craacks me up all the time ! When I "fight" (no big deal generally), it's over I mean really OVEER in some hours, and then we are back to laughters, and dancing and all the sister-like relationship
THAT's what I want back with my Leo baby sister ( she's 18 LOL) and that why I am helpless because I didn't understand why at this time, she was like this but : she is hurt. I recongnize I messed up with her, but hey nobody's perfect..
Anyways, thanks for the help, I will try to make it work the best as I can, but with words because now, I AM BROKE ! Lol xx
thanks for considering my comment.
maybe your Leo sister is secretly and sadly in love with someone?
maybe your Leo sister is secretly and sadly in love with someone?
OH. MY. GOD. YES
I can hold a grudge... and it sounds
like you're still being punished.
You don't want to appear the weak one, but she
isn't going to take that role.
Pick your battles.
like you're still being punished.
You don't want to appear the weak one, but she
isn't going to take that role.
Pick your battles.
Posted by Montgomery
I can hold a grudge... and it sounds
like you're still being punished.
You don't want to appear the weak one, but she
isn't going to take that role.
Pick your battles.
Yes, and she definitely knows how to do it
She is a Leo with a Libra ascendant maybe I should look at it
Both of my sisters are Leos and we get along great and people have even envied our closeness. That being said, last year I really did upset my youngest sister by going to someone for some type of job that she usually does. Even though she said she was fine I can tell that she wasn't and even though she would talk to me (we all live together) something just seemed different. It just wasn't the same.
I did have a good heart to heart with her and she expressed just how upset she was over that and to just give her time because she felt as though I didn't think she was good enough to do the job and that really hurt, but that she just needs to get through it.
I did explain to her it wasn't that it was just I needed something ASAP and she was way too booked but I did give her the space she asked. After about a month we were back to being the way we were. Sometimes people need space and time but when you have a closeness and love each other very much things will get back eventually. Also it didn't hurt that I would treat her to dinner. I love my younger sisters so I want to make sure they're happy and know I love and care about them no matter what. 😄
I did have a good heart to heart with her and she expressed just how upset she was over that and to just give her time because she felt as though I didn't think she was good enough to do the job and that really hurt, but that she just needs to get through it.
I did explain to her it wasn't that it was just I needed something ASAP and she was way too booked but I did give her the space she asked. After about a month we were back to being the way we were. Sometimes people need space and time but when you have a closeness and love each other very much things will get back eventually. Also it didn't hurt that I would treat her to dinner. I love my younger sisters so I want to make sure they're happy and know I love and care about them no matter what. 😄
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My little sister is a leo ( obviously the reason i'm making a post here).
We had an argument this summer and we SORT OF reconciliate, but since that day, I feel like i've lost my little sister, I don't know, she's different.
I know that leos are proud and sensitive, but holding on a grudge against a family member is kind of insane to me.. It's like she's really really distant now,
We used to be really close, sharing private secrets, she always opened up about her feelings, her issues at school. But now it's like i was a stranger to her. It hurts me so much because she is my blood, my everything.
I don't know how to have our friendship back, i have to say by the way that i didn't show my emotions to her because, she doesn't seems to be affected. So I don't want to appear like the weak one. I'm just sitting here with the chill face but interiorizing all that stuff
(sorry for the English)