He has a 4 year old child (which he adores) i have no problem with that. She likes me alot. She has even gone home and mentioned me to the mom and grandparents on numerous occasions. So we go on a trip for the weekend. He tells the ex wife that he is going with friends from work. She called and texted all day and night. When he didnt respond she texted saying that the daughter was in the er. Then didnt answer his calls for hours. So when the the daughter mentioned me a few weeks later he tells the ex wife "oh she is a friend of mine. We are cool" he tells me he doesnt want her in his business. But on the same note this woman lives with a man!!!! And they are DIVORCED!!!! So whats wrong with her knowing that you are in a relationship? He is a leo man and i am an aquarius female.
Child, ex wife, me...in that order

Posted by baby76
So when the the daughter mentioned me a few weeks later he tells the ex wife "oh she is a friend of mine.
So whats wrong with her knowing that you are in a relationship?
He is not in a relationship with you. You might be in a relationship with him.
That bites. I guess i already knew that deep down. Oh well wasted years. Live and learn.

Posted by baby76
That bites. I guess i already knew that deep down. Oh well wasted years. Live and learn.
Years?

Posted by MontgomeryPosted by baby76
That bites. I guess i already knew that deep down. Oh well wasted years. Live and learn.
Years?click to expand
Doubt it. If the child is 4. Maybe as the side piece or something.
Not a side piece. We have been together for 2 years. The baby will be 5.he got divorced when she was 2.

Posted by baby76
Not a side piece. We have been together for 2 years. The baby will be 5.he got divorced when she was 2.
You have been together for 2 years and the ex wife does not know you or has never met you? That is very strange.
Before you walk away..tell him how you feel. Since you are prepared to leave. You have nothing to lose.

Posted by Nala13Posted by baby76
Not a side piece. We have been together for 2 years. The baby will be 5.he got divorced when she was 2.
You have been together for 2 years and the ex wife does not know you or has never met you? That is very strange.
Before you walk away..tell him how you feel. Since you are prepared to leave. You have nothing to lose.click to expand
Agreed.
The ex is *dangerously* manipulative and has ZERO scruples (as we can see her crying wolf with the safety of her own child, in order to get his attention-- that is FUCKED UP).
BUT that's going to have to be dealt with sooner or later.
I don't think "reasoning" is the way to go, so much as a very clear "I deserve better"-- and you do.
I doubt he would argue with that.
🙂

Thats why I dont date man with kids

Yes i am prepared. She knew i was around 2 years ago but i guess she figured i would be gone by now. And when i wasnt then all this baby leverage began. Messing up plans, trips etc.. But i do deserve better. I guess i should have walked when it 1st started. Too much to deal with anymore. I told him they should remarry (each other). He got pissed. Thanks again. I know deep down its time to move on.
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