Dear Leos do you have gone through similar situations with Scorpios?

So here is my story. I am a Leo. I've been together with my Scorpio man for more than 1 year. Everything was great between us: big love, great match, lots of fun, same hobbies, great passion and sex, same life vision, etc.

Suddenly 3 months ago he told me that he wants a break because he sees no evolution in our relationship. Upon this I tried to tell him several times that I want also evolution and that if we work together for this, we can make it work.

Then he said that he has problems with my roots because I am not Belgian (he is Belgian, I am Macedonian) and that he doesn't want to meet my parents because he is afraid he is not going to like them. He asked for more time and space in order to get his thoughts together untill he figures out what he wants.

We have had almost no contact ever since. And since last week we decided not to see eachother anymore, because after 3 and a half months he still doesn't know what he wants.

He says that he likes me a lot and still has feelings for me, that he is afraid that he might regret it badly if he lets me go and loses me, but besides all these he doesn't want to do anything but waiting for his thoughts to get clear. He wants to keep on seeing me as friends.

I told him that I love him deeply and that I don't want to lose him and that I want to invest in this relationship and work on it. He knows how much heartache he caused me and how much I am suffering.

I don't know anymore what to do. Should I give him all the space he wants and never contact him again, untill he contacts me back? Or should I stay friends with him and keep on hoping that this friendship would upgrade again to a relationship, like we used to have one (is that even possible)?

Have you guys been through such situations?

What did you do / what would you do? Any advices are welcome..

@belioness

So let me get this straight. He insults you and your heritage, and you're trying to keep this guy? You should be THOROUGHLY insulted by his words. Where's your self respect? How can you expect ANY man to love you if you're not willing to stand up for yourself and your family. This guy hasn't even met your parents and is already assuming that he won't like them. You should have dumped him on the spot.

Look, I could go on and on about the Leo/Scorpio dynamic, but this goes beyond sun signs. This is just disrespectful and you need to understand that. NEVER chase someone who pushes you away. You need to have more pride in yourself and see your value. You can't change the fact that you're Macedonian. It is what it is. If he doesn't like that, that's his problem. You need to go find a man who isn't a complete idiot. This guy should be happy to have you in his life.

That being said, this Scorpio is trying to manipulate you and possibly push you away. Some Scorpios can be secretive, manipulative, and incredibly insecure. Instead of just telling you what the issue is, they may become emotionally manipulative in order to distance themselves. He's obviously creating distance for some reason, though that reason is currently a mystery. It's possible he's no longer interested in you, which would be the safest best so you should act accordingly.

Otherwise he's acting out his insecurities because he thinks you're too good for him OR he's too afraid to open up to another person. If a Scorpio has a low self esteem or attachment/abandonment issues, they can be self destructive. Scorpios are known to hurt themselves before another person has the "pleasure" to do so. This makes them feel in control as they are secretly afraid of the pain they'd feel by another person's hand, especially if it's someone they care about deeply.

The problem is, you can't fix this guy's issues. You also can't validate is behavior. If he has insecurities, he needs to fix those himself. You've tried consoling him and voicing your honest emotions. Beyond that there's nothing you can do. If he's pushing you away, then you need to walk away. He won't respect you if you keep chasing him. He needs to know that you understand your own value. He needs to know that if he drops you, a better man will come by and sweep you off of your feet.

Likewise he may be testing you to see if you'll "fight" for his love. This is a juvenile mindset and should not be entertained. The only reason he would "test" you is because he has trust issues. A person with serious trust issues and passive aggressive tendencies like this can not be in a healthy relationship with another person. While you may be willing to "prove" yourself, you'll find that the tests may never end. It simply isn't worth it. Go for someone more confident.

The Leo woman/Scorpio man dynamic may be different, but I've responded a few times about the Leo man/Scorpio woman dynamic. It seems to be a popular topic as of late.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/leo-man-scorpio-woman-5564269/?p=3

and

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/leo-and-scorpio-is-it-ever-more-than-sex--9195512/?checkpg=1

and

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/can-anyone-shed-any-light-on-this-combination--9148082/

I was married to a Scorpio. He was the love of my life and the only one who broke my heart. He devastated me. Sex was awesome. Intense. Communication was good. We were very happy together.

Fights were intense as well.

Posted by Leo188881
Do you live in the same country?

Me? No. I'm in the U.S.