Do I say adios and walk away?

Hi all!

I’m SO sorry this is so long. Please bare with me!

I’m having a little trouble with a Leo. I’m a cancer sun with a Libra moon and Leo Venus. It’s my first time ever even really being interested in a Leo sun (also a Gemini moon and Leo Venus). We actually met 2.5 years ago while he was in town for one night only. We only ever kissed that night and when he left, we texted back and forth about how we really felt a connection with each other.

We kept in contact since that day. We’d usually message back and forth through Instagram dms a few times a month and texts every now and then. I was in a serious relationship and I recently came to find out he was in one for a little as well. No biggie. We weren’t in relationships when we met/kissed. Fast forward to this past November. We’re both single and he wants to come visit from California after Christmas to see if we’d work. I told him he could come visit. I didn’t think he’d actually come. But he did. And I was nervous af.

He flew in New Years Eve and it wasn’t weird like I feared it may be. We had amazing sexual chemistry and he honestly couldn’t get over how good the sex was between us. I was excited about it as well. We spent a week together. He’s in the entertainment biz, so he’d go to coffee shops during the day to work and I would do my own thing. I was always excited to see him when it was time for us to see each other after working. All I knew was that I really did like him. I knew that he really did like me. My friends all kept saying how obvious it is that he’s into me and likes me. He and I talked about him even moving down here. We both want kids and what not, and with him in his mid-30’s and me in my late 20’s, it’s something we both want sooner than later. He kept feeling as if he was overstaying his welcome and I think it’s because I can be a bit shy and get in my own head, so every now and then I can come off a bit aloof. I apologized to him for it and he said it was okay. His last night here, he told me would love to see me again and that he was worried that I would fall in love with someone else in the next two months. Two months because he would be busy with work, and wasn’t sure when would be the next time he could come due to the work.

Well. Things were good after he left. We both knew we missed each other and wanted to see each other. He would send me pictures he took of the two of us. He asked me to come visit him two weeks ago and I told him I could come any time. He asked me to come 2/11-2/14 which I then realized I had something to do for work on the 13th but I could come a few days after the given dates or the second week in March after some city events that would be going on. He then said he would like to come for the events. I told him I would love for him to come and that my friend and boyfriend would be visiting as well and that it’d be a good time. He told me the dates might work and that he’d get back to me.

Last week he messaged me “love you” at 130 am his time and I thought that was kind of weird. He doesn’t really drink at all, but I thought maybe he did that night which is why he sent me that. I told him that I missed him and that I must see him soon. He didn’t reply. Well on Sunday I texted him good luck since he was up for an award at work, but a few hours later he texted me letting me know he didn’t get it. I comforted him and he texted me once again with “love you.” Followed by “I’m sorry I wasted my time working while I was there clearly it was a waste of time” and this time, I said it back. Because I do care about him and love him. I told him he worked hard and that’s all that matters.

But the weird thing is, he hasn’t brought up coming to visit me or me visiting him again (since the last time, which was two weeks ago). He didn’t bother telling me happy Valentine’s Day either. Am I being a psycho who’s overthinking everything? I’m just confused. Is this grown ass man playing games with me and should I move the fuck on? Is this typical Leo behavior? I even told him while he was here that I was an extremely monogamous person and that I wasn’t looking to waste my time. What should I do?

You should talk to him about your relationship and see how he feels about everything including the possibility of a future.

I guess I’m just insecure over the fact that we don’t text often and I, unfortunately, need constant reassurance. I have to remind myself that he’s a grown ass man. I’m just paranoid. And the valentine’s day thing made it worse.

Posted by Mariposa_

Everything seems pretty clear to me, I don’t know where’s the games.

He told you he loved you twice and you disregarded it? Correct me if I’m not reading this right.

I did tell him I loved him the second time. He did not reply to me.

You could have said happy Valentine’s Day first. Maybe he was waiting for you.

I ended up texting him and asking him if he’s coming for the events he said he’d try to come for. He texted me two and a half hours later with “Hey sorry I forgot what dates we were saying”. Idk it came off pretty aloof and I’m being super insecure about it. LDR is hard enough, maybe I’m just not equipped for this haha.

Leos, do y’all act aloof when not interested? Wouldn’t you just want to tell the person you’re not interested?

Posted by cancergirrrl

I ended up texting him and asking him if he’s coming for the events he said he’d try to come for. He texted me two and a half hours later with “Hey sorry I forgot what dates we were saying”. Idk it came off pretty aloof and I’m being super insecure about it. LDR is hard enough, maybe I’m just not equipped for this haha.

Leos, do y’all act aloof when not interested? Wouldn’t you just want to tell the person you’re not interested?

Yes sometimes we can be aloof when the situation isn't concrete. It's a misconception that Leos immediately charge forward when we're interested. A Leo can definitely take their time and observe when necessary. This is especially true in less than ideal scenarios, like long distance relationships. Leos are also busy people. If we seem aloof, it's probably because we have a lot going on at at moment. We will move forward quickly when we are sure of the situation.

Posted by cancergirrrl

Hi all!

I’m SO sorry this is so long. Please bare with me!

I’m having a little trouble with a Leo. I’m a cancer sun with a Libra moon and Leo Venus. It’s my first time ever even really being interested in a Leo sun (also a Gemini moon and Leo Venus). We actually met 2.5 years ago while he was in town for one night only. We only ever kissed that night and when he left, we texted back and forth about how we really felt a connection with each other.

We kept in contact since that day. We’d usually message back and forth through Instagram dms a few times a month and texts every now and then. I was in a serious relationship and I recently came to find out he was in one for a little as well. No biggie. We weren’t in relationships when we met/kissed. Fast forward to this past November. We’re both single and he wants to come visit from California after Christmas to see if we’d work. I told him he could come visit. I didn’t think he’d actually come. But he did. And I was nervous af.

He flew in New Years Eve and it wasn’t weird like I feared it may be. We had amazing sexual chemistry and he honestly couldn’t get over how good the sex was between us. I was excited about it as well. We spent a week together. He’s in the entertainment biz, so he’d go to coffee shops during the day to work and I would do my own thing. I was always excited to see him when it was time for us to see each other after working. All I knew was that I really did like him. I knew that he really did like me. My friends all kept saying how obvious it is that he’s into me and likes me. He and I talked about him even moving down here. We both want kids and what not, and with him in his mid-30’s and me in my late 20’s, it’s something we both want sooner than later. He kept feeling as if he was overstaying his welcome and I think it’s because I can be a bit shy and get in my own head, so every now and then I can come off a bit aloof. I apologized to him for it and he said it was okay. His last night here, he told me would love to see me again and that he was worried that I would fall in love with someone else in the next two months. Two months because he would be busy with work, and wasn’t sure when would be the next time he could come due to the work.

Well. Things were good after he left. We both knew we missed each other and wanted to see each other. He would send me pictures he took of the two of us. He asked me to come visit him two weeks ago and I told him I could come any time. He asked me to come 2/11-2/14 which I then realized I had something to do for work on the 13th but I could come a few days after the given dates or the second week in March after some city events that would be going on. He then said he would like to come for the events. I told him I would love for him to come and that my friend and boyfriend would be visiting as well and that it’d be a good time. He told me the dates might work and that he’d get back to me.

Last week he messaged me “love you” at 130 am his time and I thought that was kind of weird. He doesn’t really drink at all, but I thought maybe he did that night which is why he sent me that. I told him that I missed him and that I must see him soon. He didn’t reply. Well on Sunday I texted him good luck since he was up for an award at work, but a few hours later he texted me letting me know he didn’t get it. I comforted him and he texted me once again with “love you.” Followed by “I’m sorry I wasted my time working while I was there clearly it was a waste of time” and this time, I said it back. Because I do care about him and love him. I told him he worked hard and that’s all that matters.

But the weird thing is, he hasn’t brought up coming to visit me or me visiting him again (since the last time, which was two weeks ago). He didn’t bother telling me happy Valentine’s Day either. Am I being a psycho who’s overthinking everything? I’m just confused. Is this grown ass man playing games with me and should I move the fuck on? Is this typical Leo behavior? I even told him while he was here that I was an extremely monogamous person and that I wasn’t looking to waste my time. What should I do?

Talking about where the relationship is going is the job of the chick, not the guy.

If you want something serious with him, then you need to make it clear.

When I am with a woman, I refuse to talk about relationship status unless she brings it up.

...And only when she brings it up, will I ask if she wants me all to herself.

In that case, it's clearly a mutual feeling and pursuit of monogamy (which is what I want from a woman).

The trick is getting a woman to bring it up.

If she doesn't bring it up eventually, I will give her the boot.

So, bring it up, talk about what you want from him as an adult seeking monogamy, or risk being booted.

Posted by cancergirrrl

I told him I would love for him to come and that my friend and boyfriend would be visiting as well and that it’d be a good time.

I even told him while he was here that I was an extremely monogamous person and that I wasn’t looking to waste my time.

Oxymoron.

Aren't cancers great at leaving people? All the ones I know are