Onimusha01
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Does Leos tend to go back to the exes.
Posted by BathHouseCulture
4 years is a long time to familiarise with another person so I’m hedging bets he’s still attached to her and you hanging around to see how the human car accident pans out is a drain and sends the wrong message.
Im not hanging around, this just happened out of the blues, he is the one telling me he does not wants to stop seeing me and talking to me... Im more than willing to walk away, cuz I think exactly what you just said. he is the one who doesnt want me to.
Posted by BathHouseCulturePosted by Onimusha01Posted by BathHouseCulture
4 years is a long time to familiarise with another person so I’m hedging bets he’s still attached to her and you hanging around to see how the human car accident pans out is a drain and sends the wrong message.
Im not hanging around, this just happened out of the blues, he is the one telling me he does not wants to stop seeing me and talking to me... Im more than willing to walk away, cuz I think exactly what you just said. he is the one who doesnt want me to.
I can detect he’s sincere about wanting you around.
Who wouldn’t want a girl who listens and down for what ever with just one guy.
He knows you’re not that girl to trip and fall on a guys dick at the drop of a hat.
However
He’s got shit to figure out and you being around in any capacity won’t help him figure it out. It’s a solo job.click to expand
I completely agree.
Posted by Onimusha01
So, this Leo I just started dating, after 2 days being very quiet i asked him if he been seeing someone else, he said no, but that his ex girlfriend who he was for 4 years on/off before just came back to town after she was engaged w someone else and the engagement didn't work out. And just popped up at his parents house for thanksgiving... And he is unsure and dont know what to do.
When I told him that if he didn't have feelings for her he wouldn't be unsure, to go with her, he said he is not going to beg her to be with him and that he is not looking to rush anything with her or with me. but that he does not wants to stop talking to me or being w me bc he likes what we have.
Im really planning to step aside and give him time to think, I told him I wasn't going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation or be hanging around him while he thinking about someone else. He keeps saying he does not wants me and him to stop talking and seeing each other.
Now I really dont know what to do, I really like him. But I think he needs space now to think about his situation. What ya'll think?
Let it play out. It can go a lot of different ways. You guys continue doing your thing together. You need boundaries though. If he starts talking to her put down rules. No hanging out late night solo, no sex, and no intentionally hiding things from you. This way it will make it harder to slip into the old pattern with her unconciously out of habit. If he chooses to try again with her it will be because of choosing to not a accident.
It's ok to feel jealousy it's natural but how you Express it is all on you. Resist the urge to blow things up to end your relationship prematurely.
To all you haters.
Less talk more understanding and compassion. If you were in his shoes you would want the opportunity to sort out your shit and decide if need be.
You girls do it all the time just better at hiding these situations from others.
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by Onimusha01
So, this Leo I just started dating, after 2 days being very quiet i asked him if he been seeing someone else, he said no, but that his ex girlfriend who he was for 4 years on/off before just came back to town after she was engaged w someone else and the engagement didn't work out. And just popped up at his parents house for thanksgiving... And he is unsure and dont know what to do.
When I told him that if he didn't have feelings for her he wouldn't be unsure, to go with her, he said he is not going to beg her to be with him and that he is not looking to rush anything with her or with me. but that he does not wants to stop talking to me or being w me bc he likes what we have.
Im really planning to step aside and give him time to think, I told him I wasn't going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation or be hanging around him while he thinking about someone else. He keeps saying he does not wants me and him to stop talking and seeing each other.
Now I really dont know what to do, I really like him. But I think he needs space now to think about his situation. What ya'll think?
Let it play out. It can go a lot of different ways. You guys continue doing your thing together. You need boundaries though. If he starts talking to her put down rules. No hanging out late night solo, no sex, and no intentionally hiding things from you. This way it will make it harder to slip into the old pattern with her unconciously out of habit. If he chooses to try again with her it will be because of choosing to not a accident.
It's ok to feel jealousy it's natural but how you Express it is all on you. Resist the urge to blow things up to end your relationship prematurely.
To all you haters.
Less talk more understanding and compassion. If you were in his shoes you would want the opportunity to sort out your shit and decide if need be.
You girls do it all the time just better at hiding these situations from others.click to expand
Yeah, well, he actually said he is not really planning anything w her, just that by her popping up makes him feel some type of way. And what makes him feel more awkward is that his family wants them to get back together. But that he loves to be with me. I'm not jealous at all. we are in the early stages of dating, we just seen each other like 3-4 times. Im aqua, it takes a long time for me to develop feelings, im still good if I decide to walk away tho. It will be harder for me if I get invested and that's my issue here. I also told him, he obviously has feelings for her and if he is admitting he was the one who called it quits and he was the one who didnt do the right thing. maybe he is considering things could work out w her now. Thus, I know his confusion is bc he also likes me a lot. and thats why he dont know what to do.
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by BathHouseCulture
4 years is a long time to familiarise with another person so I’m hedging bets he’s still attached to her and you hanging around to see how the human car accident pans out is a drain and sends the wrong message.
Im not hanging around, this just happened out of the blues, he is the one telling me he does not wants to stop seeing me and talking to me... Im more than willing to walk away, cuz I think exactly what you just said. he is the one who doesnt want me to.click to expand
Of course he doesn’t want you to because he doesn’t know if she wants him but why ta fuck is she at his parents house?
Walk please. Unless you are willing to wait to be chosen. Yuck! Really.
End it now so he has something to think about...
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by Onimusha01
So, this Leo I just started dating, after 2 days being very quiet i asked him if he been seeing someone else, he said no, but that his ex girlfriend who he was for 4 years on/off before just came back to town after she was engaged w someone else and the engagement didn't work out. And just popped up at his parents house for thanksgiving... And he is unsure and dont know what to do.
When I told him that if he didn't have feelings for her he wouldn't be unsure, to go with her, he said he is not going to beg her to be with him and that he is not looking to rush anything with her or with me. but that he does not wants to stop talking to me or being w me bc he likes what we have.
Im really planning to step aside and give him time to think, I told him I wasn't going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation or be hanging around him while he thinking about someone else. He keeps saying he does not wants me and him to stop talking and seeing each other.
Now I really dont know what to do, I really like him. But I think he needs space now to think about his situation. What ya'll think?
Let it play out. It can go a lot of different ways. You guys continue doing your thing together. You need boundaries though. If he starts talking to her put down rules. No hanging out late night solo, no sex, and no intentionally hiding things from you. This way it will make it harder to slip into the old pattern with her unconciously out of habit. If he chooses to try again with her it will be because of choosing to not a accident.
It's ok to feel jealousy it's natural but how you Express it is all on you. Resist the urge to blow things up to end your relationship prematurely.
To all you haters.
Less talk more understanding and compassion. If you were in his shoes you would want the opportunity to sort out your shit and decide if need be.
You girls do it all the time just better at hiding these situations from others.
Yeah, well, he actually said he is not really planning anything w her, just that by her popping up makes him feel some type of way. And what makes him feel more awkward is that his family wants them to get back together. But that he loves to be with me. I'm not jealous at all. we are in the early stages of dating, we just seen each other like 3-4 times. Im aqua, it takes a long time for me to develop feelings, im still good if I decide to walk away tho. It will be harder for me if I get invested and that's my issue here. I also told him, he obviously has feelings for her and if he is admitting he was the one who called it quits and he was the one who didnt do the right thing. maybe he is considering things could work out w her now. Thus, I know his confusion is bc he also likes me a lot. and thats why he dont know what to do.click to expand
Just follow my advice, If he starts talking to her again. Falling into the pattern/habit is a common trap with former long term relationships. He needs to be aware of this. The outcome could rather from closure to marriage. Let him figure it out with boundries set in place. It will eliminate most bullshit.
If you care for someone they mean something to you. That is something to be cherished even if only for time. Nothing to be afraid of not taken for granted :-)
Why does caring cause problems for you?
leos do like to to keep reminders of former lovers, and do love for a long time..so i'm not surprised that he was with her for 4 years and he still thinks of her
if you like him then give him some time to decide what he wants, but it would be wise to not take things too seriously or rush things
if you like him then give him some time to decide what he wants, but it would be wise to not take things too seriously or rush things
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
Haha...............ya
Posted by Chuckcem
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
The situation with him I think is that he is having regrets, bc he told me that their relationship didn’t work bc of him and he was the one who dumped her. He also asked me what would I do if it was me. I told him that wouldn’t happen to me bc I do not take ppl from my past , specially if they got engaged w someone else and I’m already with someone that I feel good with. I would not even consider the possibility of going back. That a person who really loves you will always stick to you.
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
The situation with him I think is that he is having regrets, bc he told me that their relationship didn’t work bc of him and he was the one who dumped her. He also asked me what would I do if it was me. I told him that wouldn’t happen to me bc I do not take ppl from my past , specially if they got engaged w someone else and I’m already with someone that I feel good with. I would not even consider the possibility of going back. That a person who really loves you will always stick to you.click to expand
These are all red flags. It's best to pull back on this one. If he's asking what YOU would do, that means he doesn't know his own mind/feelings regarding this matter. Also it's one thing to have unresolved feelings if he was dumped by his ex. The Leo having regrets about dumping his ex isn't a good sign. He should already be clear whether or not he wants to be with her.
He still cares about his ex and she’s jealous of you. Trying to ruin it for him. He needs to make a decision. You or her. If he doesn’t make one, leave. Don’t put up with the bs. He’s not being respectful of his relationship with you and neither is his ex.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
The situation with him I think is that he is having regrets, bc he told me that their relationship didn’t work bc of him and he was the one who dumped her. He also asked me what would I do if it was me. I told him that wouldn’t happen to me bc I do not take ppl from my past , specially if they got engaged w someone else and I’m already with someone that I feel good with. I would not even consider the possibility of going back. That a person who really loves you will always stick to you.
These are all red flags. It's best to pull back on this one. If he's asking what YOU would do, that means he doesn't know his own mind/feelings regarding this matter. Also it's one thing to have unresolved feelings if he was dumped by his ex. The Leo having regrets about dumping his ex isn't a good sign. He should already be clear whether or not he wants to be with her.click to expand
Exactly...
Posted by pinkbird03
He still cares about his ex and she’s jealous of you. Trying to ruin it for him. He needs to make a decision. You or her. If he doesn’t make one, leave. Don’t put up with the bs. He’s not being respectful of his relationship with you and neither is his ex.
We don't have a relationship yet, we just started dating. And she just reappeared on thanksgiving day.
Posted by BathHouseCulturePosted by Onimusha01Posted by BathHouseCulture
4 years is a long time to familiarise with another person so I’m hedging bets he’s still attached to her and you hanging around to see how the human car accident pans out is a drain and sends the wrong message.
Im not hanging around, this just happened out of the blues, he is the one telling me he does not wants to stop seeing me and talking to me... Im more than willing to walk away, cuz I think exactly what you just said. he is the one who doesnt want me to.
I can detect he’s sincere about wanting you around.
Who wouldn’t want a girl who listens and down for what ever with just one guy.
He knows you’re not that girl to trip and fall on a guys dick at the drop of a hat.
However
He’s got shit to figure out and you being around in any capacity won’t help him figure it out. It’s a solo job.click to expand
Bingo!
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by pinkbird03
He still cares about his ex and she’s jealous of you. Trying to ruin it for him. He needs to make a decision. You or her. If he doesn’t make one, leave. Don’t put up with the bs. He’s not being respectful of his relationship with you and neither is his ex.
We don't have a relationship yet, we just started dating. And she just reappeared on thanksgiving day.click to expand
"We don't have a relationship yet". Good! End it before it begins.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
The situation with him I think is that he is having regrets, bc he told me that their relationship didn’t work bc of him and he was the one who dumped her. He also asked me what would I do if it was me. I told him that wouldn’t happen to me bc I do not take ppl from my past , specially if they got engaged w someone else and I’m already with someone that I feel good with. I would not even consider the possibility of going back. That a person who really loves you will always stick to you.
These are all red flags. It's best to pull back on this one. If he's asking what YOU would do, that means he doesn't know his own mind/feelings regarding this matter. Also it's one thing to have unresolved feelings if he was dumped by his ex. The Leo having regrets about dumping his ex isn't a good sign. He should already be clear whether or not he wants to be with her.click to expand
Here's My conclusion. He has regrets about their relationship and He likes me , I think he wants to play both fields. Which I already said if that what he plans to do, I walk out. He says he still not aware of what she wants, obviously bc they havent really talk. But just for the fact that he is having the thought of it is what makes me thinks he still cares and He can end up going back to her. I already told him Im looking to walk away and he doesnt want me to. He says whatever happens he does not wants to stop seeing me or talking to me. He says he doesnt know where things are going w me or with her and that he feels its too early for him to make a decision. I told him, That we both know as soon as they start talking and hanging out things are going to happen (like making out and having sex) . he says that he really cant think about whats going to happen cuz right now it is uncertain.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
The situation with him I think is that he is having regrets, bc he told me that their relationship didn’t work bc of him and he was the one who dumped her. He also asked me what would I do if it was me. I told him that wouldn’t happen to me bc I do not take ppl from my past , specially if they got engaged w someone else and I’m already with someone that I feel good with. I would not even consider the possibility of going back. That a person who really loves you will always stick to you.
These are all red flags. It's best to pull back on this one. If he's asking what YOU would do, that means he doesn't know his own mind/feelings regarding this matter. Also it's one thing to have unresolved feelings if he was dumped by his ex. The Leo having regrets about dumping his ex isn't a good sign. He should already be clear whether or not he wants to be with her.click to expand
This is where the situation gets uncomfortable for him, Last night we talked about it again, he asked me what could happen if he decides to explore things w her... I told him. I'd walk away. And told him exactly what you said above, " A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. " He also told me that she knows he just started dating someone. But I think she knows she got the upper hand.
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by pinkbird03
He still cares about his ex and she’s jealous of you. Trying to ruin it for him. He needs to make a decision. You or her. If he doesn’t make one, leave. Don’t put up with the bs. He’s not being respectful of his relationship with you and neither is his ex.
We don't have a relationship yet, we just started dating. And she just reappeared on thanksgiving day.click to expand
Yea, but did he ever tell her about you? If so, when did he tell her. Those are important questions.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Onimusha01Posted by pinkbird03
He still cares about his ex and she’s jealous of you. Trying to ruin it for him. He needs to make a decision. You or her. If he doesn’t make one, leave. Don’t put up with the bs. He’s not being respectful of his relationship with you and neither is his ex.
We don't have a relationship yet, we just started dating. And she just reappeared on thanksgiving day.
Yea, but did he ever tell her about you? If so, when did he tell her. Those are important questions.click to expand
Yup! he told me about her and supposedly told her about me too.
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Onimusha01Posted by pinkbird03
He still cares about his ex and she’s jealous of you. Trying to ruin it for him. He needs to make a decision. You or her. If he doesn’t make one, leave. Don’t put up with the bs. He’s not being respectful of his relationship with you and neither is his ex.
We don't have a relationship yet, we just started dating. And she just reappeared on thanksgiving day.
Yea, but did he ever tell her about you? If so, when did he tell her. Those are important questions.
Yup! he told me about her and supposedly told her about me too.click to expand
Before or after she came over?
In my experiences with Leo's..... if there is still communication, there is still heart in it. A Leo will stay in an on-off relationship for YEARS! But, if they've committed to ACTUALLY being done, they aren't coming back in any form.
I wouldn't mess with this. Leo's are loyal, and I don't think the loyalty is to you. If it were they wouldn't even entertain the ex. Just my two cents. When a Leo is riding FOR you, no questions. Its their best quality actually.
However, a Leo who is hurting will entertain other women while licking their wounds. They are not going to shy away from attention. But that loyalty is to one.
I wouldn't mess with this. Leo's are loyal, and I don't think the loyalty is to you. If it were they wouldn't even entertain the ex. Just my two cents. When a Leo is riding FOR you, no questions. Its their best quality actually.
However, a Leo who is hurting will entertain other women while licking their wounds. They are not going to shy away from attention. But that loyalty is to one.
Posted by slug
you're basically just waiting around to see if she takes him back....that's no fun.
leo will have his cake if he can 🍰 🍰
Im not waiting, All this butter happened 3 days ago. I'm trying to get a sense of what could happen. As long as I know they haven't talk again after the day she popped up at his parents house. he doesn't know what she is up to and he says he is not pushing to anything. that is just a thought. But just a thought for me means a lot of butter. lol
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
The situation with him I think is that he is having regrets, bc he told me that their relationship didn’t work bc of him and he was the one who dumped her. He also asked me what would I do if it was me. I told him that wouldn’t happen to me bc I do not take ppl from my past , specially if they got engaged w someone else and I’m already with someone that I feel good with. I would not even consider the possibility of going back. That a person who really loves you will always stick to you.
These are all red flags. It's best to pull back on this one. If he's asking what YOU would do, that means he doesn't know his own mind/feelings regarding this matter. Also it's one thing to have unresolved feelings if he was dumped by his ex. The Leo having regrets about dumping his ex isn't a good sign. He should already be clear whether or not he wants to be with her.
Here's My conclusion. He has regrets about their relationship and He likes me , I think he wants to play both fields. Which I already said if that what he plans to do, I walk out. He says he still not aware of what she wants, obviously bc they havent really talk. But just for the fact that he is having the thought of it is what makes me thinks he still cares and He can end up going back to her. I already told him Im looking to walk away and he doesnt want me to. He says whatever happens he does not wants to stop seeing me or talking to me. He says he doesnt know where things are going w me or with her and that he feels its too early for him to make a decision. I told him, That we both know as soon as they start talking and hanging out things are going to happen (like making out and having sex) . he says that he really cant think about whats going to happen cuz right now it is uncertain.click to expand
It's time to bail out. He's not approaching the situation responsibly, which means you'll be the one getting hurt in the end.
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Personally, once I'm done with someone, that's it. Many Leos will cut ties with exes once we've moved on, but that is the question. Has this Leo truly moved on or does he still harbor feelings for his ex? If the Leo has moved on, allow the Leo a moment to show that. Until you know his mindset, it's best to not push anything forward.
My guess is that the Leo likes you, but has been thrown an emotional curve ball. This other woman clearly has a longer emotional bond with the the Leo, so she probably has a stronger hold on his heart than you do. He probably has some unanswered questions from the untimely end of his relationship. If he had an on and off four year relationship with his ex, only for her to get engaged to someone else, this is CLEARLY not a relationship he needs to reignite. If he's smart, he won't seek to reopen old wounds by entertaining his ex's attempt to return.
The best thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself. Let the Leo know that if he wants to explore something new with you, his ex simply can't be in the picture. A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. The Leo should also let his parents know that he can't be around his ex. Let him know that you won't rush him, but that you also can't wait for this situation to sort itself out. He'll need to be proactive if he wants the situation between you two to evolve.
The situation with him I think is that he is having regrets, bc he told me that their relationship didn’t work bc of him and he was the one who dumped her. He also asked me what would I do if it was me. I told him that wouldn’t happen to me bc I do not take ppl from my past , specially if they got engaged w someone else and I’m already with someone that I feel good with. I would not even consider the possibility of going back. That a person who really loves you will always stick to you.
These are all red flags. It's best to pull back on this one. If he's asking what YOU would do, that means he doesn't know his own mind/feelings regarding this matter. Also it's one thing to have unresolved feelings if he was dumped by his ex. The Leo having regrets about dumping his ex isn't a good sign. He should already be clear whether or not he wants to be with her.
This is where the situation gets uncomfortable for him, Last night we talked about it again, he asked me what could happen if he decides to explore things w her... I told him. I'd walk away. And told him exactly what you said above, " A person can't truly focus on someone new when an old lover is still in the background. " He also told me that she knows he just started dating someone. But I think she knows she got the upper hand.click to expand
He's trying to keep his options open in case this doesn't work out again. He knows this could all fail again and he doesn't want to cut ties with you as a result. He's also not sure how he feels about cutting off his ex entirely. This is unfair to you. I wouldn't spend too much time going back and forth with him on this. Make your point known, then step back.
90% of Leo's will go to someone who just gives them a ton of attention in general. It doesn't matter if they are an ex or not.
I'm a Leo, already disowned by the dxpnet Leos, so can and will 100% admit this.
I'm a Leo, already disowned by the dxpnet Leos, so can and will 100% admit this.
Posted by Soul
90% of Leo's will go to someone who just gives them a ton of attention in general. It doesn't matter if they are an ex or not.
I'm a Leo, already disowned by the dxpnet Leos, so can and will 100% admit this.
You mean if she will be up his ass all the time she wins? 🤷♀️
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Soul
90% of Leo's will go to someone who just gives them a ton of attention in general. It doesn't matter if they are an ex or not.
I'm a Leo, already disowned by the dxpnet Leos, so can and will 100% admit this.
You mean if she will be up his ass all the time she wins? 🤷♀️click to expand
More like the ex is willing to go full psycho and show up at the Leo's parent's house on Thanksgiving unbeknownst to the Leo who dumped her. I'm not going to lie, if a person wants to win back a Leo, a bold move is usually the way to go. Leos respond to courage. Most people don't have the courage (or insanity) to do something THAT crazy. That move definitely got his attention. That being said, if the Leo was truly over his ex, this move would have only angered him. No amount of attention could win over a Leo whose heart is truly shut off.
The best move for OP is to maintain her self-respect. Leos respond to that as well. She needs to know and maintain her value by not accepting anything less from the Leo.
Update:
Dating the Leo Ended. for those interested, take notes! lol
He talk to me today and told me that he wanted to be honest with me cuz he likes me a lot and he doesnt want to hurt me, that he is not ready for a committed relationship and he dont think he can make me happy. And he did not wanted to lead me on. That right now I was like his best friend.
He also said that if he didnt like me he would just stop texting me and talking to me until i see he is ignoring me and I eventually give up like he has done to a bunch of other ppl he had dated, that he is just an asshole.. But that it was completely different with me bc he doesnt want to stop talking to me and that he hopes we can still do things together. But that he would like for me to be happy. Even if It sound fuckedup to meet someone who can make me happy and give me what im looking for ,... that he cant offer me right now.
That he is a very complicated person and that most of the times he just think of himself and what he wants even tho it sounds kind of selfish ( LEO traits lol) and that I told him something that made him think a lot. And he been thinking about me for the last 2 days and what I told him, and that he really never thought that far ahead. So i made him realize that he has to figure out his life. (he has a mild Addition) And that what I toldl him made him realized how fucked up he is bc most of the ppl our age are married w kids and the further he can think about of his future is traveling.
What I told him in a previous phone call a few days before (that he cant just be thinking about someone to have fun and travel...that he has to think about a future and to have a partner, bc meanwhile he has fun and travel with someone a relationship and feelings will be growing in the back ground, and that at some point that person will be more than a traveling partner only)
FOR THOSE WONDERING: I asked him if this was the real reason or if the reason was that he was going back to his ex. He said No. If that would of been the situation it would of been a more normal reason to break up w me and that he swears God on his life it has nothing to do with her and that she has texted him a couple of times and he also told her that he is not looking to be with anyone now bc he has some personal things to work on before he decides to commit in a serious relationship. That he doesn't plan on going back to her.
Thats just part of the conversation, I will keep updating as I keep remembering... After then He called me to make sure I was fine, and we alsto spoke over the phone, he told me I might not understand now. but I will later. That he just made me a favor.
He asked me if we could keep talking? I told him I didn't know, that I appreciated that he was so honest, that I liked him a lot too. But that he did make me happy at times, and that the choice of staying or leaving him should have been mine. But I also understand and makes me proud to hear that he will take the time to organize his personal llife. And that if thats what he wanted, I completely respect his decision.. So in regards to keep talking to him i told him lets play it by ear. cuz I really dont know how to feel right now.
Dating the Leo Ended. for those interested, take notes! lol
He talk to me today and told me that he wanted to be honest with me cuz he likes me a lot and he doesnt want to hurt me, that he is not ready for a committed relationship and he dont think he can make me happy. And he did not wanted to lead me on. That right now I was like his best friend.
He also said that if he didnt like me he would just stop texting me and talking to me until i see he is ignoring me and I eventually give up like he has done to a bunch of other ppl he had dated, that he is just an asshole.. But that it was completely different with me bc he doesnt want to stop talking to me and that he hopes we can still do things together. But that he would like for me to be happy. Even if It sound fuckedup to meet someone who can make me happy and give me what im looking for ,... that he cant offer me right now.
That he is a very complicated person and that most of the times he just think of himself and what he wants even tho it sounds kind of selfish ( LEO traits lol) and that I told him something that made him think a lot. And he been thinking about me for the last 2 days and what I told him, and that he really never thought that far ahead. So i made him realize that he has to figure out his life. (he has a mild Addition) And that what I toldl him made him realized how fucked up he is bc most of the ppl our age are married w kids and the further he can think about of his future is traveling.
What I told him in a previous phone call a few days before (that he cant just be thinking about someone to have fun and travel...that he has to think about a future and to have a partner, bc meanwhile he has fun and travel with someone a relationship and feelings will be growing in the back ground, and that at some point that person will be more than a traveling partner only)
FOR THOSE WONDERING: I asked him if this was the real reason or if the reason was that he was going back to his ex. He said No. If that would of been the situation it would of been a more normal reason to break up w me and that he swears God on his life it has nothing to do with her and that she has texted him a couple of times and he also told her that he is not looking to be with anyone now bc he has some personal things to work on before he decides to commit in a serious relationship. That he doesn't plan on going back to her.
Thats just part of the conversation, I will keep updating as I keep remembering... After then He called me to make sure I was fine, and we alsto spoke over the phone, he told me I might not understand now. but I will later. That he just made me a favor.
He asked me if we could keep talking? I told him I didn't know, that I appreciated that he was so honest, that I liked him a lot too. But that he did make me happy at times, and that the choice of staying or leaving him should have been mine. But I also understand and makes me proud to hear that he will take the time to organize his personal llife. And that if thats what he wanted, I completely respect his decision.. So in regards to keep talking to him i told him lets play it by ear. cuz I really dont know how to feel right now.
Well that's nice that the Leo ended things, but now he needs to do the work and figure his life out. To be honest, I still think this is about the ex. The timing of his sudden moment of clarity is far too convenient. I think that's just his way of lessening the blow so that he can "spare your feelings" without looking like the bad guy. Don't be shocked if he winds up going back to the ex. I believe that he's telling the truth when he states that you made him reevaluate his life. I also believe that he honestly likes talking to you. Regardless you can move on without any doubts.
Posted by Chuckcem
Well that's nice that the Leo ended things, but now he needs to do the work and figure his life out. To be honest, I still think this is about the ex. The timing of his sudden moment of clarity is far too convenient. I think that's just his way of lessening the blow so that he can "spare your feelings" without looking like the bad guy. Don't be shocked if he winds up going back to the ex. I believe that he's telling the truth when he states that you made him reevaluate his life. I also believe that he honestly likes talking to you. Regardless you can move on without any doubts.
I thought and still think its about the ex too. Even tho I asked him a couple of times And I also told him that ever since his ex popped up I knew this could happened. and I was going to be the one who takes the bait. He denied it had something to do w it... Anyways I cant force things .... me asking him over and over or trying to find out if that's the real reason will just look desperate.
Im feel bad it ended, but I feel good he didnt lead me on ....
Posted by Chuckcem
Well that's nice that the Leo ended things, but now he needs to do the work and figure his life out. To be honest, I still think this is about the ex. The timing of his sudden moment of clarity is far too convenient. I think that's just his way of lessening the blow so that he can "spare your feelings" without looking like the bad guy. Don't be shocked if he winds up going back to the ex. I believe that he's telling the truth when he states that you made him reevaluate his life. I also believe that he honestly likes talking to you. Regardless you can move on without any doubts.
So now that this happened, Do I have any possibilities that he can bail out on her too.? like what could happen, considering that he hasn't stop contacting me everyday or telling me about his whereabouts. I mean, Im really not waiting on him, he already made his decision and I respect it. But Does he keeps talking to me to boost his Ego? For the attention he gets? What if I ask him , now that he feels he is not the man for me... What could happen if I ask him we should take a break from the communication while I deal w the fact that he "literally" put me on the friend zone. And it would be better for him to figure out his life without me in the picture.
I feel like he is holding on to something... But Im done asking him what is going on... plus, we dont have anything right now so whatever it is shouldnt be my biz. But it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable to talk to him and not be able to express to him how much I still like him, bc there's not point right now. And I dont want him to feel like i want him to change his mind.
Posted by Black-Mamba
Leos are never honest with their emotions, they just waffle.
so it means he might say what he thinks he feels but really dont feel and maybe he could feel something he doesnt feel... like that hahahahahahahah.
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Well that's nice that the Leo ended things, but now he needs to do the work and figure his life out. To be honest, I still think this is about the ex. The timing of his sudden moment of clarity is far too convenient. I think that's just his way of lessening the blow so that he can "spare your feelings" without looking like the bad guy. Don't be shocked if he winds up going back to the ex. I believe that he's telling the truth when he states that you made him reevaluate his life. I also believe that he honestly likes talking to you. Regardless you can move on without any doubts.
So now that this happened, Do I have any possibilities that he can bail out on her too.? like what could happen, considering that he hasn't stop contacting me everyday or telling me about his whereabouts. I mean, Im really not waiting on him, he already made his decision and I respect it. But Does he keeps talking to me to boost his Ego? For the attention he gets? What if I ask him , now that he feels he is not the man for me... What could happen if I ask him we should take a break from the communication while I deal w the fact that he "literally" put me on the friend zone. And it would be better for him to figure out his life without me in the picture.
I feel like he is holding on to something... But Im done asking him what is going on... plus, we dont have anything right now so whatever it is shouldnt be my biz. But it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable to talk to him and not be able to express to him how much I still like him, bc there's not point right now. And I dont want him to feel like i want him to change his mind.click to expand
There's nothing more you can do. You can continue to keep in contact if you want. However it's usually best to cut ties in this situation so that you can heal yourself. Keeping the lines of communication at this point may only serve to make the situation more frustrating for you.
Posted by poeticseraphimPosted by Onimusha01
So, this Leo I just started dating, after 2 days being very quiet i asked him if he been seeing someone else, he said no, but that his ex girlfriend who he was for 4 years on/off before just came back to town after she was engaged w someone else and the engagement didn't work out. And just popped up at his parents house for thanksgiving... And he is unsure and dont know what to do.
When I told him that if he didn't have feelings for her he wouldn't be unsure, to go with her, he said he is not going to beg her to be with him and that he is not looking to rush anything with her or with me. but that he does not wants to stop talking to me or being w me bc he likes what we have.
Im really planning to step aside and give him time to think, I told him I wasn't going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation or be hanging around him while he thinking about someone else. He keeps saying he does not wants me and him to stop talking and seeing each other.
Now I really dont know what to do, I really like him. But I think he needs space now to think about his situation. What ya'll think?
I'm not certain because so far all the leos i have known had heavy water placements. So it could be that.
But yes so far they do if they have water. I am starting to realize how much other parts of the chart matter in people.
What else do you know about his chart?
Sun Leo
Moon Gemini
Venus Cancer ( I guess this explain it all lol)
He seems very emotional and someone who thinks about things a lot.
It seems like he allows other people to dictate to him how he feels and acts. As in she turned up ..he just reacted.
Does he have a lot of direction in life or is it lacking?
He dont have a lot of directions in life, he says he is selfish and he just thinks about himself before other people and what he wants. ( i know this is one of the biggest leo traits)
He doesn't seem to have a naturally decisive emotional instinct if that makes sense?
If i am correct ....he will just continue to react to situations as they come without being able to plan etc. People don't realize you have to make emotional plans for life too or at least make decisions.
He doesn't make or have plans for his future, at all. He says he has never thought of his future. That the further he can think about his future is that he wants to have someone to travel with. ( that's when I came out w my visionary Aquarius speech and scare him away lol ... )
You have to decide to say goodbye to people particularly if they are making you confused etc.click to expand
Its not really confuse, just a little... if he decided he not longer wants to date me, why does he keeps constant communication.?
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Well that's nice that the Leo ended things, but now he needs to do the work and figure his life out. To be honest, I still think this is about the ex. The timing of his sudden moment of clarity is far too convenient. I think that's just his way of lessening the blow so that he can "spare your feelings" without looking like the bad guy. Don't be shocked if he winds up going back to the ex. I believe that he's telling the truth when he states that you made him reevaluate his life. I also believe that he honestly likes talking to you. Regardless you can move on without any doubts.
So now that this happened, Do I have any possibilities that he can bail out on her too.? like what could happen, considering that he hasn't stop contacting me everyday or telling me about his whereabouts. I mean, Im really not waiting on him, he already made his decision and I respect it. But Does he keeps talking to me to boost his Ego? For the attention he gets? What if I ask him , now that he feels he is not the man for me... What could happen if I ask him we should take a break from the communication while I deal w the fact that he "literally" put me on the friend zone. And it would be better for him to figure out his life without me in the picture.
I feel like he is holding on to something... But Im done asking him what is going on... plus, we dont have anything right now so whatever it is shouldnt be my biz. But it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable to talk to him and not be able to express to him how much I still like him, bc there's not point right now. And I dont want him to feel like i want him to change his mind.
There's nothing more you can do. You can continue to keep in contact if you want. However it's usually best to cut ties in this situation so that you can heal yourself. Keeping the lines of communication at this point may only serve to make the situation more frustrating for you.click to expand
Or... Bc this is what happened, during one of our conversations... he kinda said that he didn't have plans to go back to his ex but that if the situation arises he would probably want to test the waters with her too. That's when I told him, if that would of happened, I was going to step away. Bc at some point his attentions was going to turn to one way and one of the 2 was going to be left out ( and we all know who that was going to be, me ). So, Now that I'm not on the way... His ex has green light to step in if she wants to... he is not going to push it as he said nor plan on it... . but he is just making the way easier for her. that's how I see it.
Now I heard that when Leo likes you they are constantly communicating with you, and our communication haven't really change that much. He text me since he gets up in the morning till he is falling asleep on his couch at night. I know it says leos tend to build up emotions as time goes... but I also heard once they make a decision they stick to it.
Posted by poeticseraphimPosted by Onimusha01Posted by poeticseraphimPosted by Onimusha01
So, this Leo I just started dating, after 2 days being very quiet i asked him if he been seeing someone else, he said no, but that his ex girlfriend who he was for 4 years on/off before just came back to town after she was engaged w someone else and the engagement didn't work out. And just popped up at his parents house for thanksgiving... And he is unsure and dont know what to do.
When I told him that if he didn't have feelings for her he wouldn't be unsure, to go with her, he said he is not going to beg her to be with him and that he is not looking to rush anything with her or with me. but that he does not wants to stop talking to me or being w me bc he likes what we have.
Im really planning to step aside and give him time to think, I told him I wasn't going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation or be hanging around him while he thinking about someone else. He keeps saying he does not wants me and him to stop talking and seeing each other.
Now I really dont know what to do, I really like him. But I think he needs space now to think about his situation. What ya'll think?
I'm not certain because so far all the leos i have known had heavy water placements. So it could be that.
But yes so far they do if they have water. I am starting to realize how much other parts of the chart matter in people.
What else do you know about his chart?
Sun Leo
Moon Gemini
Venus Cancer ( I guess this explain it all lol)
He seems very emotional and someone who thinks about things a lot.
It seems like he allows other people to dictate to him how he feels and acts. As in she turned up ..he just reacted.
Does he have a lot of direction in life or is it lacking?
He dont have a lot of directions in life, he says he is selfish and he just thinks about himself before other people and what he wants. ( i know this is one of the biggest leo traits)
He doesn't seem to have a naturally decisive emotional instinct if that makes sense?
If i am correct ....he will just continue to react to situations as they come without being able to plan etc. People don't realize you have to make emotional plans for life too or at least make decisions.
He doesn't make or have plans for his future, at all. He says he has never thought of his future. That the further he can think about his future is that he wants to have someone to travel with. ( that's when I came out w my visionary Aquarius speech and scare him away lol ... )
You have to decide to say goodbye to people particularly if they are making you confused etc.
Its not really confuse, just a little... if he decided he not longer wants to date me, why does he keeps constant communication.?
What do you mean by communication?
Are you guys spending serious time together? or is it just mostly texts etc? He texts me every day since early in the morning, lunch break, commute, when he gets home until he falls asleep. al our conversations since we met are over 2 hours. ant this was every night.
We went on 3 dates in less than a month. And we were both feeling very good about it. Until his ex gf from years ago. reappeared after breaking up her engagement with somebody else.
Also you said he was very quiet for 2 days. So please forgive my bluntness i don't mean to hurt your feelings ...but he wasn't really communicating all that much was he?click to expand
He was still, not as much for those 2 days so I knew something was OFF. I knew he wasn't being himself. That's when I approach him and asked him and he said he was just thinking about me for 2 days. And what's been going on in his life at the moment.
Posted by poeticseraphimPosted by Onimusha01Posted by poeticseraphimPosted by Onimusha01Posted by poeticseraphimPosted by Onimusha01
So, this Leo I just started dating, after 2 days being very quiet i asked him if he been seeing someone else, he said no, but that his ex girlfriend who he was for 4 years on/off before just came back to town after she was engaged w someone else and the engagement didn't work out. And just popped up at his parents house for thanksgiving... And he is unsure and dont know what to do.
When I told him that if he didn't have feelings for her he wouldn't be unsure, to go with her, he said he is not going to beg her to be with him and that he is not looking to rush anything with her or with me. but that he does not wants to stop talking to me or being w me bc he likes what we have.
Im really planning to step aside and give him time to think, I told him I wasn't going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation or be hanging around him while he thinking about someone else. He keeps saying he does not wants me and him to stop talking and seeing each other.
Now I really dont know what to do, I really like him. But I think he needs space now to think about his situation. What ya'll think?
I'm not certain because so far all the leos i have known had heavy water placements. So it could be that.
But yes so far they do if they have water. I am starting to realize how much other parts of the chart matter in people.
What else do you know about his chart?
Sun Leo
Moon Gemini
Venus Cancer ( I guess this explain it all lol)
He seems very emotional and someone who thinks about things a lot.
It seems like he allows other people to dictate to him how he feels and acts. As in she turned up ..he just reacted.
Does he have a lot of direction in life or is it lacking?
He dont have a lot of directions in life, he says he is selfish and he just thinks about himself before other people and what he wants. ( i know this is one of the biggest leo traits)
He doesn't seem to have a naturally decisive emotional instinct if that makes sense?
If i am correct ....he will just continue to react to situations as they come without being able to plan etc. People don't realize you have to make emotional plans for life too or at least make decisions.
He doesn't make or have plans for his future, at all. He says he has never thought of his future. That the further he can think about his future is that he wants to have someone to travel with. ( that's when I came out w my visionary Aquarius speech and scare him away lol ... )
You have to decide to say goodbye to people particularly if they are making you confused etc.
Its not really confuse, just a little... if he decided he not longer wants to date me, why does he keeps constant communication.?
What do you mean by communication?
Are you guys spending serious time together? or is it just mostly texts etc? He texts me every day since early in the morning, lunch break, commute, when he gets home until he falls asleep. al our conversations since we met are over 2 hours. ant this was every night.
We went on 3 dates in less than a month. And we were both feeling very good about it. Until his ex gf from years ago. reappeared after breaking up her engagement with somebody else.
Also you said he was very quiet for 2 days. So please forgive my bluntness i don't mean to hurt your feelings ...but he wasn't really communicating all that much was he?
He was still, not as much for those 2 days so I knew something was OFF. I knew he wasn't being himself. That's when I approach him and asked him and he said he was just thinking about me for 2 days. And what's been going on in his life at the moment.
You approached him. And you asked him.
Don't approach him ...see what happens. If he falls away from your life you know. If he stays of his own initiative great.
** I approached him and asked him why he wasn't being himself **
He isn't being as communicative as you think. He is being responsive to you. Which is sometimes just being a decent person.
**Responsive would of been if i'm the one who text him ** He is the one who initiates conversation every single day since we met ** I dont even have time cuz I just look at my phone and he is texting already lol...
You haven't been dating long.
** Nope. But as we spoke all day long since we met it felt like a really long time lol. (his words )
Have you been spending serious amounts of time together? Yes, our dates were past dinner and drinks and we always had a good time.
It could be he is just confused. I don't know. ** your missing a big part of what happened"
But he is obviously voicing the fact that his feelings are all over the place.
He has also said he isn't looking to rush anything with you. *** I said that to him when we met. **
So it kind of seems he might think you are just a nice person to spend time with sometimes ..does that make sense?click to expand
@poeticseraphim
You approached him. And you asked him. ** I asked him why he wasnt being himself during those 2 days ***
Don't approach him ...see what happens. If he falls away from your life you know. If he stays of his own initiative great.
*** He is the one who always text me first, i look at my phone and he is there already **
He isn't being as communicative as you think. He is being responsive to you. Which is sometimes just being a decent person.
** He is the one who always communicates first and last since he gets to work till he falls asleep on his couch late at night **
You haven't been dating long. ** No, but as we talked all day and night , it felt like a very long time ** ( his own words )
Have you been spending serious amounts of time together? Yes, during dates. **
It could be he is just confused. I don't know. *** yes, he got confuse, since his ex came to the picture **
But he is obviously voicing the fact that his feelings are all over the place.
He has also said he isn't looking to rush anything with you. *** I told him .. I didnt want to rush anything **
So it kind of seems he might think you are just a nice person to spend time with sometimes ..does that make sense?
** We both said to each other we like spending time together.**
You approached him. And you asked him. ** I asked him why he wasnt being himself during those 2 days ***
Don't approach him ...see what happens. If he falls away from your life you know. If he stays of his own initiative great.
*** He is the one who always text me first, i look at my phone and he is there already **
He isn't being as communicative as you think. He is being responsive to you. Which is sometimes just being a decent person.
** He is the one who always communicates first and last since he gets to work till he falls asleep on his couch late at night **
You haven't been dating long. ** No, but as we talked all day and night , it felt like a very long time ** ( his own words )
Have you been spending serious amounts of time together? Yes, during dates. **
It could be he is just confused. I don't know. *** yes, he got confuse, since his ex came to the picture **
But he is obviously voicing the fact that his feelings are all over the place.
He has also said he isn't looking to rush anything with you. *** I told him .. I didnt want to rush anything **
So it kind of seems he might think you are just a nice person to spend time with sometimes ..does that make sense?
** We both said to each other we like spending time together.**
Posted by Onimusha01Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Onimusha01Posted by Chuckcem
Well that's nice that the Leo ended things, but now he needs to do the work and figure his life out. To be honest, I still think this is about the ex. The timing of his sudden moment of clarity is far too convenient. I think that's just his way of lessening the blow so that he can "spare your feelings" without looking like the bad guy. Don't be shocked if he winds up going back to the ex. I believe that he's telling the truth when he states that you made him reevaluate his life. I also believe that he honestly likes talking to you. Regardless you can move on without any doubts.
So now that this happened, Do I have any possibilities that he can bail out on her too.? like what could happen, considering that he hasn't stop contacting me everyday or telling me about his whereabouts. I mean, Im really not waiting on him, he already made his decision and I respect it. But Does he keeps talking to me to boost his Ego? For the attention he gets? What if I ask him , now that he feels he is not the man for me... What could happen if I ask him we should take a break from the communication while I deal w the fact that he "literally" put me on the friend zone. And it would be better for him to figure out his life without me in the picture.
I feel like he is holding on to something... But Im done asking him what is going on... plus, we dont have anything right now so whatever it is shouldnt be my biz. But it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable to talk to him and not be able to express to him how much I still like him, bc there's not point right now. And I dont want him to feel like i want him to change his mind.
There's nothing more you can do. You can continue to keep in contact if you want. However it's usually best to cut ties in this situation so that you can heal yourself. Keeping the lines of communication at this point may only serve to make the situation more frustrating for you.
Or... Bc this is what happened, during one of our conversations... he kinda said that he didn't have plans to go back to his ex but that if the situation arises he would probably want to test the waters with her too. That's when I told him, if that would of happened, I was going to step away. Bc at some point his attentions was going to turn to one way and one of the 2 was going to be left out ( and we all know who that was going to be, me ). So, Now that I'm not on the way... His ex has green light to step in if she wants to... he is not going to push it as he said nor plan on it... . but he is just making the way easier for her. that's how I see it.
Now I heard that when Leo likes you they are constantly communicating with you, and our communication haven't really change that much. He text me since he gets up in the morning till he is falling asleep on his couch at night. I know it says leos tend to build up emotions as time goes... but I also heard once they make a decision they stick to it.click to expand
So yeah that's a pretty solid red flag. When a Leo likes you, there is NO question about it (unless you're extremely insecure and refuse to see it, which is beside the point). A Leo isn't going to break up with someone they truly like for no reason. Period. Leos are like Tauruses and Scorpios, we don't let go easily.
The fact is, this Leo doesn't know what he wants. That may be ok for some signs, but not a Leo. That's basically the Leo saying that he doesn't want the responsibility of having to make a clear decision right now. He wants to keep his options open since he knows the situation with his ex could go south again. The Leo simply has more of an emotional tie to his ex due to unresolved feelings.
More than likely after the Leo broke up with his ex, she probably moved on unexpectedly, much to the surprise of the Leo. Remember a breakup can be much harder for the person who initiated it when the other person moves on with their life without conflict. So the Leo's pride was wounded when the ex got engaged. She suddenly became "the one who got away". This caused the Leo to doubt himself. Now that she's back, he's not sure if he made the right decision or not.
The Leo will need to figure this out for himself. He doesn't want to let you go for fear that he may not make the right decision. However that is unfair to you since you can't change his feelings for his ex.
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