Ex leo man

Im 34 he is 39

One week ago i found out that my leo was lying to me over 3 months about where he was at only one night every week but the rest of the week he was with me...he told me a lot of lies like he was with his family and other lies

I found out he was out partying with groups of men and women

He got anger cause i found out in a tricky way

Cause i let my friend call him and there was his voice talking with music men and girls and after the call i went to his place to see if theres any thing going on there and he also got mad and he brokeup with me and said a very bad things to me

And make it clear theres no back and he will punish me for what i did

I try to get him back so hard for 2 days he didn’t respond

So i cut off all the communication off since then because his punishment is stupid and i dont want him to think that he did a great job with it

In our 4 years what ever happened i always try to hold things together and running after him to make it work

This time i made my mind that he did a mistake and i shouldnt run after him

Is leo to stubborn to retouch with their girl or what?!

Any feed back 🤔

So basically this guy was lying to you and then got upset when you caught him. That's not the type of person you want to be with in a relationship. He sounds like he's a narcissist since he is trying to punish you for his own indiscretions. Narcissists rarely apologize and often seek to punish their partners as a means to control them. I recommend not trying to rationalize an irrational person. If you've been trying to hold things together for the last 4 years, that should be a clear sign that this is not working. Time to cut this guy loose and replace him.

He should have been honest about where he was and he probably wasn't because he knew you would get mad or not let him based on something that happened previously. But if you look at it from a different perspective (his), I dont think he was angry and broke up because you caught him in a lie. I think it's because you deceptively used your friend to check up on him, instead of calling him and asking him yourself. There's no point being with someone you don't trust and constantly need to keep tabs on. If he sees you 6 days out of 7, he probably thought he was entitled to 1 day of his own to do what he wants and he got mad that he wasn't even allowed to do that. You can't strip someone of all of their independence and freedom without some rebellion

Posted by Elissar18

He should have been honest about where he was and he probably wasn't because he knew you would get mad or not let him based on something that happened previously. But if you look at it from a different perspective (his), I dont think he was angry and broke up because you caught him in a lie. I think it's because you deceptively used your friend to check up on him, instead of calling him and asking him yourself. There's no point being with someone you don't trust and constantly need to keep tabs on. If he sees you 6 days out of 7, he probably thought he was entitled to 1 day of his own to do what he wants and he got mad that he wasn't even allowed to do that. You can't strip someone of all of their independence and freedom without some rebellion

No, he had all his freedom time to go out and have fun even to parties with out me as long as he is tell me and not lie

But he did because there’s something more he wants to hide i guess ather girl or something like that

Posted by Sagicorn

Wait what...he got mas cause you caught him in a lie in tricky way...and his lying part is nothing? Why do you want a guy like that back in the firat place? As long as you plead to him whatever he does he will have ko respect for you. He has to man up and make up for what he did if he ever thought anything serious with you. If not well you didn't lose much anyway

When he did something wrong I always ending up talking to him about the problem and we get agree about things

But this time action can speak not me

Because enough is enough

Posted by Chuckcem

So basically this guy was lying to you and then got upset when you caught him. That's not the type of person you want to be with in a relationship. He sounds like he's a narcissist since he is trying to punish you for his own indiscretions. Narcissists rarely apologize and often seek to punish their partners as a means to control them. I recommend not trying to rationalize an irrational person. If you've been trying to hold things together for the last 4 years, that should be a clear sign that this is not working. Time to cut this guy loose and replace him.

Im done with him emotionally and I felt nothing after the break

Update

I ask my friend to get my things from him “ Mac laptop, 4000 $ , golds, clothes” and i told her i didnt want to go by my self because i dont want to contact him any more and he kicked me out of his place and i have value to no go there again

Early morning he texted me

I shouldn’t sent someone

And he did nothing to me and he wont did any thing bad to me

And I shouldn’t delete him from my Snapchat

And im the only one that he will give my things to

Whats that mean?!

And I still dont want to see him or contact him or going over his place to get my stuff cause he kicked me so badly

Posted by Soma892356

Update

I ask my friend to get my things from him “ Mac laptop, 4000 $ , golds, clothes” and i told her i didnt want to go by my self because i dont want to contact him any more and he kicked me out of his place and i have value to no go there again

Early morning he texted me

I shouldn’t sent someone

And he did nothing to me and he wont did any thing bad to me

And I shouldn’t delete him from my Snapchat

And im the only one that he will give my things to

Whats that mean?!

And I still dont want to see him or contact him or going over his place to get my stuff cause he kicked me so badly

It means that he's a narcissist. Get your stuff when you can and stop wondering about him.

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by Soma892356

Update

I ask my friend to get my things from him “ Mac laptop, 4000 $ , golds, clothes” and i told her i didnt want to go by my self because i dont want to contact him any more and he kicked me out of his place and i have value to no go there again

Early morning he texted me

I shouldn’t sent someone

And he did nothing to me and he wont did any thing bad to me

And I shouldn’t delete him from my Snapchat

And im the only one that he will give my things to

Whats that mean?!

And I still dont want to see him or contact him or going over his place to get my stuff cause he kicked me so badly

It means that he's a narcissist. Get your stuff when you can and stop wondering about him.

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Yes he is

I will tonight but im afraid he will not going to give me my things because he is an ***hole

Ok

I told him that i will come tonight to get my stuff. That were my words

He said ok ...then out of nowhere he kept texting via what’s app that I shouldn’t be mean and after a 4 years its ok to talk to each other and he knows that i went out with my friends and partying and he said a lot and lot of things and as usual it was my fault and what make it worse I didn’t wait for him

He is stupid selfish because my friend saw him with his new girlfriend

But not that my problem

At the end he ask me to pick up my stuff later

If he the one who asked about the break up and has a new girlfriend

Why he won’t give me my stuff